My mother and I are supposed to visit my grandmother in the hospital over the Christmas holiday because the doctors informed us that she's not expected to make it through. As much as I really want to see her, I can't help wanting to stay here and spend Christmas with my boyfriend in our house (He can't come with us). I feel guilty about being torn this way; what should I do?

See your family that might NEVER see you again. And make the boyfriend happy when you get back.

its only natural to feel like this, but face up to your resonsibilities and visit your poor gradmother, youve the rest of your life to spend with your boyfriend, your grandmother, and your mother need you a great deal, to support them!!

Take care of family first. My 2 cents.

you'll regret it ! imagine if your their laying, dying, wouldn't you want to see everyone before you go! stop being so selfish, he's still going to be there afterwards, she won't be!

Go see Grandma. Family first.

I have been through a lot of bereavement recently and it is entirely an individual thing about what you should do. People are saying you need to support your mum and also say goodbye yourself, but i can also understand not wanting to go on Christmas day and wanting to spend it with your boyfriend. There is no right or wrong answer here. It really depends on what you would feel happier doing and what you think your grandmother would want. My grandmother died last yr (whom i was very close to).I didn't go and say goodbye as I had long since said my goodbyes and I don't now regret doing so (did so at the time) but on reflection my grandmother knew how badly it hurt me to see her in that state. I have this yr lost my great aunt - I did go to say goodbye, but I went to support my father as at the time we were dealing with my mothers terminal cancer and it was all too much. 6 months ago I lost my mother. I was with my mum every waking moment for the last few weeks of her life and nothing and noone would have budged me from her side. Like i said, grief and saying goodbye is all very individual and noone has the right to tell you what to do. Only you know what is best at the time. Whatever decision you make and the reasons for it I'm sure your loved ones will understand.