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  • Um.... Seriously, what would you have him do, go through his home and scour away all evidence that he ever loved anyone but you? Try to chill out a bit. My husband and I have been married several years. His wedding band from his first marriage is in the drawer beside our bed. He hates his ex and wishes she would burn in hell. But...what does owning a piece of gold have to do with that? Perhaps he could have sold it, or given it away. But why do so?
  • Believe him. That ring don't mean a thing.
  • I dont feel it has anything to do with an attachment at all. Possibly he does leave it there in case he ever really needs to pawn it. If it makes "you" uncomfortable or insecure, why not just express you feelings to him, and I am sure he will do the right thing, once he truly knows how it bothers you.
  • i'm the second wife for my husband. he had his wedding ring from his first wife, and he didn't wear it after they broke up. it got stolen when he was robbed at home and never replaced it. if he still had it, it wouldn't matter at all. if he is not wearing it, i wouldn't make an issue out of him having it.
  • Maybe he's just trying to figure out which way to sell it to get the most $$ for it. It can be very difficult to sell a piece of jewelry at a good price for the seller.
  • This is a mountain being made out of a molehill. I'm sorry, but you need to relax about this. My ex-wife asked for my wedding ring when we separated, so the two bands would be together for our sons/daughter (whoever gets wed first). They are kept in her house and her now husband has no problem with them being there. The band doesn't magically have part of my spirit in it. My now wife actually asked me what had happened to my first ring, as she thought I should have kept it, but agreed when I told her the resoning. If you are insecure about this I reckon it points to a larger insecurity in your relationship, and you should maybe lok deeper and try t figure out what the real root cause is.
  • you should relax a little bit :o) my older sister, still have her wedding ring from her first marriage, she is planning on giving the ring to one of her kids when they grow up, i think it is awesome she wants to pass it down to them, I would do teh same thing for my kids if I ever break up or divorce my fiance.
  • Not to be taken offensive, but why would it matter if he still had his old ring? He doesn't wear it, does he? I think you are reading into this a little too much. Having the ring, doesn't mean he is still interested in a relationship with his ex wife, it just means he still has the ring. If you had been previously married and it ended in divorce, what would you do with the ring? I think he just has it, who cares. If he wants to pawn it, he probably just hasn't gotten around to it yet. If he starts coming home late, then maybe you have something to worry about. Until then, just leave it.

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