I've been w/ this guy 4 almost 4 mths, I love him. Even though we r getting closer he still has not said he loves me. He does say stuff like he never wants to lose me & be w/ me forever but never say I love you. Does any1 know what the problem could b?
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Doesn't sound like there is a problem to me. I think it's a good thing when people don't rush into the "I love you"s. It's only been four months - give it some time! If it is the true, forever type love, there will be plenty of time for that phrase to be used over and over again. Don't rush a good thing. ^_^
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he probably loves you too but is unsure if you love him. I bet if you said you loved him, he'd say it back.
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It's a hard thing to say sometimes, especially if it's true. Don't pressure him, and if he means what he says it'll show and he'll come around.
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sometimes it take people longer to say those words...I don't think there is any problem. He may just want to be sure before he says words that he isn't positive are true it has only been four months. Love you is only a saying if he doesn't mean it....give him time and let him truely mean it when he says it....it is so much better that way.
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I have issues with speaking the phrase, due to its grand significance. Perhaps he is similar.
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The answer is simple. He doesn't want to make a commitment. He is waiting for someone better to come along. You,ll do nicely in the meantime
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It was 8 months into the relationship before I said I love you to my wife(this was before the marriage btw :P). I'd rather know that I meant what I said, then to say something just because I know its expected. Some people take the L word pretty seriously and don't just equate strong feelings with it, but a strong commitment as well. Another thing it could be is that he's been hurt in the past and doesn't want to throw the L word around until he feels more confident about how long term your relationship is going to be. just my two cents.
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It took my s/o over a year to say he loved me. I was in the hospital after I was attacked on my way home from work. He was there the entire time I was in surgery crying with my mother. And after my mum stopped hugging me when I saw them, she went to buy me some juice and then he told me he loved me. And I know he does, most of his family advised him to leave me when they found out I was pregnant, he stayed with me. Nearly severed all ties with his family. They've come around though. And he considers my baby who is the product of the attack as his own daughter. I've been with him almost 3 years, friends since we were 8.
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