How can I deal with my thoughts of my fiance's past? When I think about all the girls, especially a few in particular it makes me sick. Every time the subject comes up I just want to puke. Is it extremely irrational or are there others who feel that way?
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If you want to be with him, then you need to come to terms with his past. I can't tell you it's irrational to feel the way you do. I don;t know what he's done. But the two of you need to come to terms with it or split now before the pain includes divorce and child custody and such things that are truly devastating to not only the two of you, but even more to your children.
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Trust me, everyone feels that way a little. You might be just a little irrational as far as puking goes, but we all get jealous over a loved ones past. That part is normal. But unfortunately, the only answer that seems to be most accepted is to just accept that they are with you now. I find it kind of hard to accept also, but the way I look at it, you can't blame someone for how they lived their life when you weren't even in it.
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Just be happy he's with you.....it's called trust. You weren't in the picture back then.
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He might have gotten together with the,...but he also broke up with them...and now he's marrying you....which means you are better than those girls....consider yourself(and him for being with you) lucky
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i read your comment, i have to admit thats a lot to take in! well how long have you been together? has he shown at all he has changed? as your are engaged i would assume its been a while since you met? has he only just told youall this?
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I really don't feel that way with my spouse, he don't talk about it and I don't ask. But you have to remember he is with you and not them, you're gonna be walking down the isle, not them, you are gonna sleep with him not not them. Who's lucky, you are...who's not... they are
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Someones past can have a big impact on you. It shows their character and decision making. Either you forget his past and move on or find someone you'll respect more..................
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