Is it possible that it's my fault he cheated?
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AnonymousGirl
ANSWERS: 41
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NEVER. NEVER. NEVER. Deciding to cheat is a CHOICE an individual makes. Period.
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Doesn't matter what you do or don't do, the actual act of cheating is his own lack of character.
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NO! And don't let him try to make you believe that!
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Did you cheat first?
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No. If he was/is unhappy with the relationship or with you then its up to him to either leave or discuss it with you. If you did something specific that upset him and this was his release/revenge then it is still not your fault. He felt wronged and so his response is to wrong you back in one of the most personal and, in my experience, painful ways possible. Regardless of everything else cheating is wrong and knowing that he chose to cheat. There were other options but he chose that one. And if you let him away with it this time rest assured he'll cheat on you again.
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absolutely not!there is not one single valid reason for cheating. none! if thats what they want they should divorce or break up first.
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No. Never. I should know. My wife has practically no interest in sex. She has NEVER initiated intimacy. It's just her nature. Yet, I've never cheated on her because I made certain promises to God regarding her. If it ever really got that bad, I could divorce her. I may yet. But I *will* never cheat on her. That is a personal decision, and one that NO ONE else could have made for me, or made me do. Cheating is NEVER 'inevitable'. The choice, and fault, is entirely his.
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It is arguable that some things one individual does can make another feel it's ok to cheat For example, it is widely documented that women who feel neglected in their relationship sometimes feel justified in finding a relationship in which they will be appreciated. And they do not feel this is wrong. However, cheating is always an individual choice and is generally and rightly accepted as wrong. and "S/he mad me do it" is never valid. Oh.. if you arranged for a vacation for him and his fantasy woman for 2 weeks in Acapulco, you might have to accept some responsibility.
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No. Unless you told him it was ok for him to..... but even then he shouldn't have..... He's weak - and that's not your fault!
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Yes and No. If you have reason to believe it may be your fault then it probably is. If you think hes a cheating bastard, Im going to burn all of his clothes, then its probably not.
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Of course not! You can't make someone cheat. If your s/o is at the point where he is ready to hook up with another girl, then he should have split up with you first. The only way that I can see it being your fault, is if you knew he was a cheater from the start. i can't stand those girls who hook up with a guy that isn't "on the market", and then cry and complain that he cheated on them. Hello! If he cheats once, he will cheat again. I read an article once that said some men get their thrills and pleasure from the sneaking and lying, the risk, rather than the actual "other woman". Don't know if that is true or not, but it does sound plausible.
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Does he have a high sex drive and do you turn him down all the time?
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Don't worry its not your fault its mine I'm the one told him to go to that stupid house that had a big party full od hot chicks
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It's not your fault, because it was his choice to do so. It's always a CHOICE. Perhaps, certain things you did made him angry or whatever enough, to choose to do so.
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Not unless you have a remote control for him.
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no way. never
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He should have broken up with you first.
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don't even entertain such a ridiculous idea! you do not control his actions any more than he controls yours! if he is blaming you, you need to get away. people who can't or won't take responsibility for their own actions are very bad news. he is a loser, you are better off giving yourself some time to focus on you, and when you're ready, start dating again. don't waste another precious second contemplating why this fool is such an ass. he will do it to the next girl, too. wash your hands of him, and know that you are stronger and smarter now.
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Only if he cheated more than once...and he's still your "he"!
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of course it isnt your fault, he's a dog..get rid of him immediatley, your worth more :O)
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No, it's NEVER your fault they cheat!
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I don't think it's anyone but the perpetrator's fault for cheating... However, I do think the other party can play a part in driving their partner away.
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No.
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Yes But it usually is both people's fault. Then no matter what some people are cheaters and some men are just like that.
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BS! No, that was a choice he and only he made. We don't know all of the circumstances surrounding your particular situation, but if there was in your relationship--perhaps something you were doing or not doing that upset him/her--he/she should have discussed with you. Or if he/she was completely disatisfied with the way things were going, he/she had the option to leave.
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No. People don't "ceat" by accident or because someone else "made me do it."
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He may try to use that as an excuse....but he is only fooling himself....don't let him fool you.....
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no never think its your fault he cheated . he was one unfaithful
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It might be your fault. You'd have to go to therapy together to find out. But remember. Fidelity isn't the most important thing in a relationship. There's lovingness, compassion, companionship, family...you get the idea...
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Hell NO, never blame yourself. It does not matter what the reasons were, we re not mind readers, if something went wrong in the relationship then he should have told you instead of hopping in bed with a slut!
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nope. cheating is about their weak character, not yurs. If the wanted someone else, they need only have been honest. Cheating is the sign of a coward, nothing more nothing less.
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The Law of attraction would say you played a part in it. That does not dismiss his actions as acceptable.
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Good decisions and bad decisions have one thing in common: we make out own and no one else can force us to make them. Therefore, we are responsible.
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no he could have said you were somehow doing something wrong but he chose not to
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Wow, I'm amazed on how many people answered this question with such little information about your ordeal (amateurs). I can't answer this question and walk away feeling that I gave you the best advice with the little information you just gave me. Sorry. Girl, if you really want a good advice from an ex-player himself, you would need to get a little more detailed. How do I know? www.Monsterette.com - Women's training camp.
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never blame urself reguardless of the answer itll only bring u down
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anything is possible but it is not very likely
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didn't u watch oprah "why he cheats" episode?...
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People cheat men and woman for many different reasons, its not your fault. I believe they loose something in the relationship and think by have sex with someone else makes it better. I know men that cheated cause they weren't happy with their sex lives with the wife. She could satisfy him so he cheated at lunch with another woman and she never knew. That woman was giving him the sex he needed. There are so many reasons WHY....
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Never blame yourself
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Yes, that's possible. IF - for example - you brought a hot girl to his home and told her to get naked and wait for your boyfriend - THEN it's your fault he cheated. If you didn't do something like that, then it's probably not in any way, shape or form your fault that he cheated.
Mrs. C 
Veronica 
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