Do you HATE it if someone gently tells you that you are wrong? Is it unacceptable to you to be told you are wrong?
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Salty Light
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I'm often wrong, and appreciate knowing so. That way I have a better chance of being right the next time.
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No I don't. Its better that its pointed out to me and I stop doing whatever is wrong instead of just adding to my mistakes.
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I try not to hold grudges.
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I do not mind it at all, if they can explain my error in an intelligent way that shows me to be wrong, then I accept the correction. However if they say I am wrong and provide no proof then it is unacceptable. I am accepting of others thoughts and ideas, I learn from correct input and discard the incorrect input.
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No, I welcome the random occasion... I'd have a better chance of seeing a falling star, than being wrong :) Jokin, kind of
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It depends how it is said to me, and whether the person can show me proof I am wrong. In general if someone points out I'm wrong and I am, then I will accept it. I realise I'm not perfect and I am always learning.
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If it's a matter of facts I welcome it. However, I don't take kindly to being told that my opinion is wrong just because it isn't the same as the person disagreeing with me.
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Nope, no one can ever ALWAYS be right you know. I am human and I accept my faults as so. :)
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In so many words, no.
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i think your defintion of "gently" may differ from others.
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No one likes to be told they are wrong, but I learned a long time ago that "wrong" is more often than not, a very relative experience. So it doesn't bother me to BE told I am wrong, but it bothers me more the WAY people tell you you are wrong. Some people feel that its okay to be snide and rude using intelligence as a shield of sorts and syntax as a weapon they use to ameliorate themselves and make themselves look superior. They are not! Like I said, Truth and right and wrong is more often than not completely relative.
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I hate to BE wrong worse than I hate to be told I'm wrong. I don't ever like to do anything that hurts others. I'd rather take a beating. Now, if its a difference of opinion, that's another matter. You have a right to yours, and I have a right to mine.
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IF they tell me gently, I don't mind because I know I'm wrong all the time anyway.
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I will take it from someone I think I can learn from but not from some twit who also wants to impose their stupid views on me.
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I don't hate it, but there are better ways to say it. Like "that's not right". I would rather have someone come out and just say that, then assume I need to be let down gently.
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It's more difficult for some than others. I've been told I'm wrong so many times that it doesn't really bother me all that much. Some personality types, however, find it intolerable. You need to know the individual you are dealing with.
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Not at all. If someone can show me that I'm wrong, I am almost always very grateful. By doing so, they enable me to avoid related problems in the future and to learn something new.
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If it is someone that knows me well, then I do not mind it, in fact I appreciate their honesty. If it is someone that does not know me personally, then, depending on how they tell me, it can REALLY p*ss me off.
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No I have no trouble hearing and accepting it. But it sure helps if it is said in a loving kind way and not as just straight out criticism. It is harder to understand and take into the heart and mind if it is delivered that way.
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Only if it is in fact gently.
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Well, sometimes if you don't realize it, someone else will,
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If they express my wrongs in a logical way then I will listen, if however they state no argument then I won't listen to a word they say.
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not when I'm really wrong.
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It's perfectly acceptable to be told your wrong. As in you're wrong for thinking that it's unacceptable.
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i dont want to go around being an idiot. i want somebody to tell me the truth so i dont look stupid. but if was not a fact then i dont want to hear it.
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I don't hate it unless their idea of "gentle" is to beat about the bush! If i'm wrong say it loud and proud, I won't hurt you.....much :)
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You'd be a fool to think you were always right. It is better if you were told that you are wrong in order to learn. You should try not to be sensitive about it because this might put people off correcting you in future...and so you will continue in a blissful state of ignorance. To answer your question and be perfectly honest...Personally, if you are a person who has a track record of denigrating people or being patronising or smug when telling people they are wrong, I will not easily accept being told I'm wrong by you. In fact, I'll probably have some unkind words for you. :)
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Yeah,sometimes. If it makes since that I could be wrong-later might realize the possibility,but it DOES usually REALLY piss me,off,YES!*
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I dont hate it, nobody is alway right
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I dont like being wrong, but its silly to worry about. For one thing,most of what we consider "right" and "wrong" is a matter or opinion, or the product of selective remembering, selective fact gathering, and the like. It is interesting to observe how often - if you have an open, relaxed discussion - it turns out that both are right or both wrong depending on how you look at it. For example, I was once asked if I wanted to attend an event in such a way that it was clear I wasnt welcome. Years later, I said I didnt attend the event because I really wasnt invited, whereas the other party insisted that I was "invited" and chose not to come. So who is right and who is wrong? Technically, I WAS "invited" but tehn again, I wasnt really "invited".... I have given up arguing these things any more as it isnt worth it. Humans gather evidence to support whatever they want to believe, and thats just the way it is.
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If they are correct and approach the topic well, I'm perfectly fine. If they are wrong, making assumptions, or nit-picking something tiny, it does bug me.
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No,i shouldnt because i always scold them if they are wrong.No matter whoever they are and so i dont HATE if someone tell me that iam wrong.
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If some tells me gently that I am wrong, I am willing to listen to why they think so and maybe even accept it.It the obnoxious buggers that make me get bullheaded
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people say " you are wrong " in 2 ways only. One, that when you are really wrong and someone think it is his/ her duty to tell you that you are wrong. Second, people try to declivate the confidence of the person by saying that the person is wrong in his/her decisions, actions and whatsoever. So it is you to know that what type of person is telling you , that you are wrong.
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I don't mind if somebody tells me they disagree. I'm not usually "wrong" its usually a difference of opinion. If I am wrong, and they present intelligently with reasons why they disagree, I will reconsider my position and change it if necessary. But I wouldn't be mad. Generally I get irritated when people say that I'm wrong when in fact they don't have all of the information, or they have faulty information.
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Not at all. I like to know where I went wrong so I won't repeat the mistake. +4
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Mistakes, errors, and incorrectness are just opportunities to begin again more intelligently :-) I think it was Henry Ford or Alexander Bell that said something like this ... but wise words!
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I can take construction comments, backed up by their reasons for thinking that I am wrong. But, I do know people who never think they are wrong and do HATE it when being told so. An ex-friend of mine is a good example, it's almost two years since she got mad at me for politely telling her that what she was wrong in what she said........she hasn't talked to me since.
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A golden opportunity to learn, no? ;-)
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I like being wrong... It serves to remind me how I am not act6ually a goddess and it keeps me humble.
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