I just yelled at a friend who insist on belittling me (and spinning/lying about what I say, touching me more than I like and put his hands around my throat) and i'm afriad that he still doesn't get why I "snapped". I'm tempted to apologize, should I?
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thewallfly
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i wouldnt apologize for crap. This person doesnt sound like a very good friend at all, get rid of them.
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If you yelled at a friend, yes. But you should also lay out what you expect in terms of his behavior, and see if anything changes. If nothing changes, act accordingly and drop him as a friend.
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No you should not apologize! You should avoid this person like the black fucking plague. If they've already graduated from belittling you to throttling you then it won't be long until they progress to smacking you or worse. People like this you don't need - wallfly or not.
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doesn't sound like you should call this person a friend and you need to find new friends. your situation sounds very volatile and may escalate...
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What that person did to you sounds like assault. Avoid him like the plague, and if he continues to verbally or physically attack you, tell someone who can help you!
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That's how a "friend" treats you? How do the people who aren't your friend treat you? Don't apologize, run, run very far away from that person and hopefully not see them again.
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You have nothing to apologize for, he should be the one doing all the apologizing and I would let him know that.
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Ok I am not certain what occurred... did he try to strangle you or threaten you with strangulation? If so I would ask a large relative or policeman to extricate your belongings from his domicile (I read some of your comment threads). No matter what you did, no matter how loud you yelled, NO, no way no how did he have the right to touch you and that he put his hands around your throat sounds every alarm bell I have. I would not worry about apologizing. I would worry about getting your belongings back and getting away from him. He is dangerous. The belittling is enough. You should not have to put up with that and, no, I would not apologize for it... period. Please, if I am correct in interpreting your question, get your stuff and get out. He is dangerous.
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1. he's verbally abusing you RED FLAG cause those ALWAYS turn physical 2. he's now PHYSICALLY abusing you. Don't apologize to him. He has the problem. Let me guess, he's blaming you and telling you all sorts of "you can't make it without me" , etc. Am I close. That is using more abuse/emotional hold. He will eventually hurt you or kill you. Call the police, call 911. In US call the battered women's shelter. They will assure you get to safety and you can still get your things. He is NOT a friend..he does NOT LOVE you but he will kill you if you don't get out. (speaking from experience).
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No apologizes.Bust him upside the head with something,then he'll get the picture.
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Nooo, get away!
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Apologize? Get the hell out of that realationship. It's not healthy.
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DO NOT APOLOGIZE. This guy is NOT a friend. NO friend would belittle you (most of the time... an inside joke between you, maybe, but a real friend would defend you to anyone else) NO friend would "touch you more than you like". He's feeling all he can, because he knows you will only take so much, and at some point, you will have him arrested (or threaten it) for sexual harassment and at least battery, if not assault. NO friend would "put his hands around your throat". Actually, that's assault. That's threatening. That should be the last straw - The one that broke the camel's back AND your "friendship". Stay away from that MF like the plague. He's obviously (to most of us) escalating his assaults on you. In fact, it may be prudent to get a restraining order on him. Hell, if any "friends" witnessed this action, I'd have pinned the MF to the ground, and held him until the cops came to take him away. STAY AWAY FROM HIM AND DO NOT APOLOGIZE. He's not worth it.
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DO NOT APOLOGIZE! Hes treating you like crap and keeping you down so you wont have the courage to get away this is classic abusive relationship tactics. Dont put up with it. Get out while you're still strong enough to and have high enough self esteem to, because hes wearing you down slowly and will keep it up as long as you stick around. Who cares if he doesn't know why you snapped everyone here understands perfectly which means the one whos wrong here is him. Stay strong and get out of that relationship. Good luck.
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