Sometimes love just isn't enough to ensure the success of a marriage. You can lower your odds for divorce by being selective in who you marry. True or false?
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true. people confuse infatuation with love. opposites make for a weak mairage. jack spat who could eat no fat and whos wife could eat no lean was probably a vegetarian and had moral objections to eating meat... every time his wife chowed down on a stick of lard it would disgust him creating animosity between him and her
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True .. I know a few people who "settled" just to get married .. They're all divorced :(
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True, marriage isn't just love and roses, it is hard work and committment. Love is the foundation and you have to build on that.
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Of course true.
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Yessss.One should always be selective when choosing a spouse.
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um how could you not be selective of who you marry? TRUE
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The problem with that is that you really don't know who the person you married is until you file for divorce
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True. Kinda. If people had "true" love (and not some watered down substitute) I think it would involve them being selective and getting to know eachother for awhile. Some people get love confused with really good sex or conveience mixed up with some puppy love/lust.
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I would assume that being selective is already a part of the process. I truly think that people get married before they perfect their communication skills and that they don't communicate to prevent hurting someones feelings. I've always believed in living with a future spouse for at least a year before you marry...............
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Love is NEVER enough to sustain anything. That is a load of romantic hooey. Tho I believe in love and the power of love, I certainly don't believe that all you need is love. Love and romance are ONE part of a relationship (err.. . TWO parts, actually). Communication, trust, respect, honesty and the ability to pick up your socks are all almost equally important. Should you be selective in whom you marry? D'uh. You should also do pre-marital counseling to really delve into and understand your communications styles and how you really feel about key issues that will make or break you as a couple.
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Love is definitely a factor in marriage, but not the only thing that will make a marriage successful. A marriage is hard work but as long as the couple are truly a team, it will be that much easier to make work. I do believe that one should be selective in who they marry, only to ensure that the beliefs and outlooks in life are compatible.
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The best way to improve your odd of not divorcing is to insure that you know the person you marry very well first. They need to be compatible with you in all ways. The little things are the ones that annoy later on in the relationship.
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I think the best way to give yourself better odds for a long-lasting marriage is to start off as friends. That will get you through any tough times. If you simply "fall in love" without being best friends first, when the bloom is off the rose, there is nothing there to hold you together..so someone's eye wanders and someone else is bored and empty and lonely. With friends, that will never happen. A friend will never betray you or harm you or take advantage of you. Even if you mutually decide at some point to not go for the long haul, you will treat each with respect, still care for each other and things will never get ugly. That's what being friends brings. :) ((hugs))
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In the end, mutual respect wins over passion. I think it is always better to think with your brains instead of your gonads.
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