A guy I'm dating acts like he is in love with me, but he says he only wants a casual relationship. He is in his 30s but has only really had one long-term girlfriend. Could he have commitment problems? How do I handle this scenario?
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yoyogirl
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How do you mean, he acts like he's in love with you? And have you asked him to define what a casual relationship means to him? It may just be that he is not ready to be defined as a "couple". Casual doesn't always mean just sex. Just because he has only had one long-term girlfriend does not mean he has committment issues. He obviously committed once. Perhaps he hasn't found anyone else that he's been prepared to make that committment with yet. I can't figure out what you mean by how do you handle this scenario.....it depends on whether you want a casual relationship or a committed one. I would have a straigtforward discussion with him - both of you should be honest about what exactly your expectations/desires are. If they are in line with each other, you're good to go.
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You have to ask yourself what do you want from this relationship. Is it just sex or is it something more than sex, like a committed lasting relationship? Your conscience is speaking to you, and you are in doubt about him. Follow your instincts.
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If he only wants a casual relationship, then to me he means not a serious one that is committed so whatever you do, don't get involved anymore if you know you can't do this. To me it sounds like he doesn't want commitment and some men enjoy playing the field until they realise by a certain age they're too old and that's their tough luck. If you want more, you deserve more so move on to someone else who is more deserving of your affections.
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