ANSWERS: 47
  • If you really loved him, you never would've cheated on him in the first place. No excuse you can come up with can fix that. You betrayed him and you lost him. I'm sorry to sound so harsh but you got what you deserve, and he would be a fool to take back a cheater. You will have to be more devoted and loyal in future relationships.
  • Agreed. You are being primitive - there is nothing noble or desirable about your actions. Your root cause is a unjustified low self-esteem. If you feel that sex is the primary way to gain friends and popularity, you got us guys ALL WRONG. The men you slept with are not your friends, they are simply using you as a tool, and have no more love for you then a can of beer. Yes, you won't cheat on him again. I am not a Catholic Priest, but I suggest 20 hail-mary's, and 5 years without any contact with your boyfriend. If you "really do love him. . . "
  • What made you do it a second time? How can you be so sure that you will never do it again? And if you really love him, show him and you're going to have to give it all you got for a really long time. You have to realize that all the effort you put towards it, he can and might still not want you at the end. Just show him and tell him everyday and every chance you get until he feels like he can trust you again. It will take a really really really long time. GOODLUCK!
  • If you loved him that much, why would you do it a second time? Or would you have left him, but the other guy didn't turn out to be as perfect as you thought? I don't buy it. If someone better came along you would do it in a second.
  • Contrary, to what someone ELSE said, you're best NOT trying to reinstate your relationship w/your bf. Why? Simply because you've violated his trust on more than one occassion and once you've violated someone's trust is next to impossible, if NOT impossible, to regain their trust. What should you do? Move on with your life and seek counseling. Why cousenling? Because you need to address your relationship issues. Clearly, rhere's something at work here, which might be able to better explain why you cheated on your boyfriend and only you can honestly answer that question; although, having an unbiased ear like a counselor, psychologist, parent, best friend, or someone will help you to understand your reasons for doing it in the first place. DId you cheat on your bf becuase it was fun getting someone else's attention and it somehow felt thrilling to be engaging in something you know you shouldn't be doing, or was it because you have trust issues and you find it difficult to get emotionally-attached to someone else, so you cheat on them because you're afraid of getting too emotionally invested in them because they'll either hurt you by dumping you later on, or they'll cheat on YOU? All of these are serious questions that you need to honestly answer for YOURSELF because no one can better understand you better than YOU! If you're a Christian, then pray to God to help you overcome your infidelity issues and seek counseling. No one is perfect, but this doesn't serve as an excuse to do the wrong things. Repent, get help that you need, and don't go it again. Once you're able to ask yourself the WHY questions of your cheating, then you'll be much better prepared to handle yourself in another romantic relationship, but make sure that you DO NOT seek another relationship TOO QUICKLY until you've addressed your issues with cheating because if you do go with someone else, without resolving your cheating issues, then you're just as likely to cheat AGAIN as you were all the other times, so don't fall into the same trap twice by deluding yourself into believing that you've miraculously changed and will NEVER do THAT again because while your intentions may be the best, you'll end up making the same mistake twice because that's just human nature; unfortunately. Bottom line: Ask yourself why you cheated, address your issues with an unbiased, trustworthy, moral individual, and DO NOT rush into a new relationship TOO QUICKLY until AFTER you've addressed your issues w/cheating. I wish you the best of luck and I hope this helps to answer your question!
  • alriight you slimy slags, here's something that this girl can look at seriously.first off jeni, i feel you.i know exactly what youre going through because gasp!just last night my boyfriend and i split because i too was an idiot and made the same mistake twice.why?i don't need a damn psychologist to tell me why i did it.i don't need some cunt to degrade me and say "you have a low self esteem".i did it because the dude left me lonesome too often in a pit of wolves.what the hell do you expect me to do in a world of opportunity?yes, i love you, but if you don't give me the attention needed to fulfill my relationship quo, i'll be receptive to other attention-getters.no doubt, i'm NOT trying to put justice in cheating, but cheating CAN happen out of lonliness if your man isn't there that much.and when it does,what can you do?how do you convince him to let you earn his trust?first,i'd say give it some time.let him cool off, because if you try to patch things up too fast he's going to react with his first instinct.ANGER.the first thing he's going to say is "HELLLLLLL NO."after its been a few weeks, i know, i know, those weeks are going to be brutal, but BE STRONG.give yourself this time to build up on your independence.remember that you dont need to have a "love" life for you to be happy.now after those few weeks, you'll have had a better perception of everything that has happened.you should be better prepared by then and should have thought about the right things you could say.focus on things like,"ill spend the rest of my life making it up to you..",you know,cheesy shit like that.if he is willing to listen to you,you are already half-way there.then again, this is only my plan, and it all depends on the kind of dude youre working with.everyone wish us both luck.and screw you judgemental bastards.
  • Find some other idiot to tell your lies to. Exactly how many times did you say this line before? Time to move on!
  • Cheat on him a third time, and a fourth, etc, until you find a new bf to cheat on.
  • take this as a lesson well learned. plus you will never treat him right if he takes you back. you wont. you will forever take him for granted
  • He shouldn't take you back you obviously can't control yourself.
  • Send him a "Good for you!" card.
  • im afraid you dont ruined that relationship honey..cheating once is bad enough but 2 times..learn by your mistakes and hopefully you will learn to be true to the one you love..good luck
  • keep it in your pants next time, take it as lesson learned and move on
  • Deal with it. Noone did this to you but you. At least he's smart enough to try to find someone who will be loyal to him.
  • I am in the same situation, I'm just trying to be good to him and deal with what he has to say. I don't really know what to do but pray and fix yourself because if your not fixed then you cant help him.
  • dont blame him i wouldn't do it either
  • Well, you should have thought this little question through before you decided to be stupid. Now when you look for a boyfriend, you know to look for the kind that have low expectations of you. Then it will be a bit harder to disappoint. Hahaha ~+~
  • Once a cheater, always a cheater. I don't blame him for breaking it off. It hurts when your boyfriend/girlfriend/wife/husband cheats on you. I've been there.
  • you took him for granted the first time you cheated on him. the second time you cheated on him you made him into a fool by forgiving you the first time. you can't do anything about it, fortunately, because he deserves so much better. the best thing you can do when you find yourself in another relationship, is to be a loyal and considerate girlfriend. if you find it hard to keep your vagina closed, then i suggest finding a suitable boyfriend who has the same morality as you.
  • Tough titties.
  • YOu deserved it, i am sorry you cheated on someone that loved you and trusted you TWICE. He took you back and you did it again. WTF is wrong with you. You dont cheat on someone you love. Girls take sex diffrently then guys, guys are more able to seperate the act of sex as just that, without any feelings, girl on the other hand have a harder time with that. If he were to cheat on you twice would you take him back, i bet you would but you would resent him like crazy. Its better that you two are not together because being paranoid can eat you alive.
  • So yeah. My girlfriend did the same thing. Just in case anyone was wondering, I did take her back, and now she has cheated on me 3 times. Twice with the same guy. She says she doesn't have any feelings for him and he used her, but I say she doesn't have any feelings for me or she wouldn't have fucked around. If anyone is reading this and really wants an answer, let me tell you from experience. YOU DON'T CHEAT ON SOMEONE IF YOU LOVE THEM. ITS FUCKING IMPOSSIBLE. Did I mention the first guy she cheated on me with was her nephew?
  • Got any plans for this evening?
  • Find another boyfriend and don't cheat on him.
  • Use magic mere mortals can't comprehend...=)
  • Nothing, your a no good cheat and you will do it again. He did exactly what he should have. Leave the guy alone, and find someone who dose'nt care what you do when your not with him.
  • Did you promise to never cheat on him again after the first time? I'm guessing that didn't really work out too well. In some --SOME-- cases, I could understand cheating once as a mistake. However, if you were given a second chance, you should by no means expect a third. Move on, and try to remember this with your next BF.
  • Learn from your mistakes and move on
  • shame on you.
  • Even if he did take you back I don't think he'd ever trust you again and may not love you either.
  • This is a hard one.I do not get it, why is he not interested in you and your slutty ways.
  • youre a ho, and that seems to be the view of everyone else, leave him alone and try not to destroy other peoples lives next time...and whats your number!?
  • Besides love, trust is a big issue. With me, I cannot even be friends with someone I don't or can't trust. You've deceived him twice. Maybe you can tug at his heart strings and promise you won't cheat again. It will be difficult to convince him you won't, but it's worth a try.
  • Is that what you told him after the first time too? I wouldn't take you back either unless I was willing to share you.
  • Keep loving him! (But move on and endeavor to not repeat that which obviously does not work for you).
  • Sounds like your karma caught up with you. It also sounds like you're SOL.
  • No one in their right mind would take you back. You blew your chances. If you took a lie detector test, your test results would all be positive in the lieing department. Sorry. Cheaters never win.
  • Take a look at your username. You evidently think that you are sexy which means that you probably think that everyone else has that same perception. That makes you think that you can have any guy you want.. right? You have already cheated twice, henceforth, he doesnt trust you..why should he. You think you are the shit and you can do what you want. You cheated and you love him? Yeah right. Stick with the one night stands until you really learn what LOVE is because your perception of the emotion is diluted. You cant say that you truly love a person and then cheat.
  • 2nd Answer. Cheating once, might have been forgiveable. Cheating twice, is a slap in the face to your now ex-boyfriend. Cheating twice clearly showed your intentions. You made this mess, now learn to live with it and without your ex-boyfriend.
  • Move on. I don't blame your BF for not taking you back. YOu cheated twice, now you pay the price.
  • You should have learned your lesson the first time you cheated! How can he trust you now??? If you really love him, you'll either let him go because personally, I don't think cheaters deserve the ones they love, OR you can work hard to try to earn his trust back... Good Luck this time...
  • move on sweetie - you have proven to him that he cant trust you and it wont matter what you do
  • Since you're giving it away anyways you might as well make money at it.
  • I am sure you love him but He is not the FIRST in your life.It's not even about the cheating anymore but he doesn't feel any sense in you staying together.If he's not enough why don't you try to stay friends with him?Do you know trully what you're missing??Answer that question to yourself.
  • I have never understood how someone can cheat on someone they claim to love. Can you explain this to me?
  • I can never trust you again you lying whore. Stop talking about us on here.
  • Cheated twice? That sounds like love to me. I wouldn't take you back either.

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