I gave up my seat this morning to a woman on a crowed Boston subway. Do you believe in this sort of gesture?
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totally...that was very kind of you...good job :)
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Only if the chick is smoking hot. Rickster you surely know what I'm talking about with a mustache like that.
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Yes I do. I will always give up my seat to a woman or an elderly or infirm person. Its how I was brought up!
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nice to see there are gentlemen in Boston....kudos to you...and +3 points
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Although I am a woman in my middle sixties, I willingly give up my seat to the elderly or the disabled and sometimes a pregnant woman too. Why not?
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I grew up in a society where it was expected for the men and younger people to give up their seats to the women and elder people. I've been on public transportation here, an older person or a pregnant woman with a small child, a stroller and a bag has wrestled on and stood all the way in the middle of the bus while a 20+ year-old selfish bastard sitting next to her looked the other way, pretending he hadn't noticed. Those are Americans for you, a lovely bunch! And this kind of thing is what they want to export to other countries at the point of an automatic rifle
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Absolutely. My husband was very chivalrous...I would never want to be with someone who wasn't. It is not about male/female, it is about courtesy. I would give up my seat for an older man in a heartbeat.
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aren't you a gentleman.if only there were more like you out there.good on you.
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its always a lovely thing to do for someone, especially if they are older, or impaired, or trying to handle a lot of items, or a mum with a child , or and the list goes on............... keep it up, its goodwill going round, there is nothing better ! :)
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I totally commend you. Kindness is a good deed done for yourself also!! Good for you! And your parents are to be commended also.
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Yes, i always hold doors open and give up seats, no matter the gender. Its just a nice thing to do, and if someone is short on change and i have it, i give it to them. Id like to think thats part of being American. Sadly, its a dieing trend.
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Yes.
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I think it was a very polite and gentleman thing to do and yes especially if the person is old and fragile or sick.
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I believe in perpetuating the "milk of human kindness", and sounds like you believe that too. Yes, I believe in that sort of gesture.
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I think that spreading kindness is one of the few ways we have of shaping our nation. I will always spread the kindness and hope that it's payed forward. It's nice to know that there are others out there who are doing it too. :)
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When I was in Boston sometimes my girlfriend would sit in my lap on the T. Does that count?
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It's wonderful to see that gentlemen still exixt!!!
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Well, I know on BART(Bay Area Rapid Transit) trains if you sit near the door, you have to give up your set to the handicap and elderly by law if there are no other seats and you yourself do not fall into that catagory. Beyond that, the trains are not really overly crowded as some trains are. Same seems to go with the buses. But if it ever happened that I got into a situation like that, I would give up my seat.
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Awww... that was wonderful of you. I absolutely believe in this sort of gesture. You know, your kind act may have made that womans day and she reacted to someone with a kind act and so on and so forth.... :)
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***How'd I know it was you? Of course I do! I also believe in men opening doors for ladies, stepping aside and allowing a lady to enter in before you. All of that! I teach my boys that everyday. I actually grabbed my little one by the collar just today for not allowing a lady to go first through the doors. As a result, they are kind and courteous and respect women. *Even though Im afraid it often gets lost on the "Girls gone wild" generation of so called, ladies these days... There are so few men these days because women have turned them all in to whiney metrosexual women by taking their gender purpose from them. You're momma raised you right Rick!
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Healthy young people should give up their seat to anyone who needs it, whether male or female, young or old. Hint: If they're on crutches, using a cane, white-haired, carrying a child, pregnant, carrying a stroller, or having trouble balancing, it's a sign.
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Definitely. I do it all the time, when I take the subway. A lot of young people don't do that anymore, and it's sad. I have given my seat up on a crowded subway to ladies with babies in their arms, little children whose parents couldn't fit them with them on their seats, and little old ladies. But Rickster, once I acted very mannerful and gave my seat to a well-dressed little old lady. As I stood right up and she turned to sit down, she stepped on my foot with the rather pointy heel of her shoe. I stifled my "yelp!" and only mumbled "Eeeeeyaaahh."
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ABsolutely, I'm a gentleman like you sir.
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That's what a true gentleman would have done. I am proud of you!
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I couldn't sit there and have an elderly or pregnant woman standing. I would be very uncomfortable. If a lady was standing near I would tell her to take my seat. It's how I was raised. Interesting though that some women would be offended by the gesture.
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Several times that I have done that, the woman would give me a wierd look, as if I was up to something. Other times it's "oh that's okay, we've almost reached my stop." Still, I have no problem offerring up my seat, I'm still able-bodied.
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Did you really give up your seat? Young men take lessons. I think we are losing our humanity very quickly and it does my heart good to know there are still some thoughtful people out there.
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I think it is the right thing to do. If only others felt that way. Wouldn't the world be a better place?
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I approve of it fully! You're the man Ricky...so dreamy...*sighs* :):):)
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I strongly believe in this kind of gesture and I'm glad that you do too!
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Absolutely, More people need to be kind.
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You are a gentleman - a dying breed in today's society. Having said that, I do not always think it is important for an able bodied man to give up his seat for an able bodied woman. Women fought hard and long for recognition of their status, and therefore have fought long and hard for the right to stand up on a crowded bus. But, there are situations where you can use your judgement to decide whether to give up your seat. I, a woman, will also give my seat up for others (male or female)- but that is a case of judging each individual situation.
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Yeah, but only if it feels right to you. We are all equals, especially in these times. Elderly and handicapped people should be given a seat, also mothers who are carrying a kid or something.
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If the gesture comes from within your heart then it is meaningful but if it is done to talk about or feel good then it is creating a karmic bond which needs to be repaid!
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Yes, I do. I would do the same thing. I'm healthy and standing is no problem for me. :)
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Yes I believe its a polite and respectful thing to do... that means you are both :))))
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I certainly do!! This type of generosity is lacking today and it's always nice to see and hear about it.
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Absolutely, as a man I believe I should always offer a woman or my seniors a seat b4 me. Im physically fit and believe I should stand while they rest. The only woman I would NOT give my seat 2 is John Mccains mom. She looks like she could b n better shape than me! Seriously, what's up with that lol? No im just playing. Every woman, every senior, every time. Respect our seniors, respect our women!
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That was so very sweet Rick..
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You are a true gentleman Rickster and you did what I was brought up to do and I definately agree with your gesture,so well done.
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yes im a firm believer in helping others rickster! (bit like yourself ha!)
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Baby, In a month I take 120 buses ( 3 to school, and 3 home 5 days a week ) I give up my seat more times than I sit, yet not many do, so I applaud you!
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Of course!! If Im in line and a mom has a load of stuff, and hands full with kids, she always gets to go first! If someone needs a seat and I have one, its theirs....I try my best to go the extra mile.
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i am from the time that even a child was expected to give up his seat for an adult. these habits have all but disappeared. you are a dying breed. never change! i am always touched when a man does this for me. i try to be courteous at all times. it makes the world alot easire to bare!
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That was a very nice gesture!! It's getting more and more rare to find men that would do that!! I do believe in it, you are a true gentleman.
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Yes, unluckily gestures of such are dying:( Its sad too. Gestures of kind are turning into gestures of rudeness... Don't quit doing what you did today:) Maybe it will catch on
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i do it all the time. those who don't like it can go kick rocks.
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Yes. I think it's commendable.
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I do, and I respect you fully for it. I don't know if I honestly wouldn't have done the same if I was in the same situation, depending (like late for school,etc.) but I do know this I would have probably done the same if I was in your shoes. It makes me so happy to see nice people doing generous things for others. Just makes me feel good to live in a country like this. : )
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Yes. I am sure it was appreciated of you from the person whether noted or not.
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>>Do you believe in this sort of gesture? I think the gesture you're really referring to is that of fishing for praise for doing a good deed. Sure. It's fine. You did a good deed, and you're milking it for all the praise you can get. :)
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It says a lot about the character of any man or woman, how they treat those weaker or less fortunate than themselves. William McKinley once denied a cabinet post to a man whom he'd secretly observed keeping his seat and pretending not to see an elderly woman carrying parcels on a street car. You never know who might observe you when you do such a thing. And if no human notices, your Father in heaven notices and rewards such deeds.
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Bless your heart, I love when people are nice to me on the subway!!!!!!!!!!! I work in Boston and take the Orange line at rush hour every day. I have one leg and use crutches instead of a prosthesis, so anyone can see that I have mobility and balance limitations. There's no guessing involved! Any of you who know Boston know that the T riders are not typically very good at this stuff. The truth is that when the car is not crowded I am very secure in a tripod stance and prefer to stand rather than to take my back pack off and sit down. But when it is crowded there isn't enough room for my crutches, and my foot and crutches tend to get pushed in a straight and unstable line. Also, is is hard to impossible to hold on overhead when you are on crutches. More than once I have been denied a place to sit or to stand in a spot near the vertical and lower horizontal rails near the doors, and have tipped over onto other passengers. I can't begin to say how much I appreciate the help when people have given up their seats or a spot where I can hold on. Thanks!!!!!!!!!
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I believe in it, yes and depending upon my medical condition at the time, would surely participate in such an act. In my present condition however, I'd much prefer her to see me struggling to get up and refuse my offer, allowing me to sit back down.
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Good for you!! My friend and I gave up our seats on the bus at Disneyworld, to an elderly couple. People were so shocked, they gasped, and then came up to us and congratulated on a job well done. I was even more shocked at how surprised people were.
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Absolutely. I wish that there was more of it.
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i think you did a courteous kind thing and if you did this for me i would smile and say thank you. i would also check your ring finger to see if i should strike up a conversation with such a gallant man.
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Yes. I do believe that sort of gesture exists. :-)
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I would do the same, Rickster. It was the way I was raised. I'm 71 years old...and, as they say, "You can't teach an old dog new tricks", which is not necessarily true. Realizing that things have changed, however, I would hope that the lady would not be offended by my gesture...and would graceously accept. Notwithstanding my age, I act and am quite fit. Bottom line, I would not feel comfortable having a woman standing in my presence while I sat comfortably. A woman of empathy would understand this. By the way, I made such offers many, many times...on the New York City Subways...even in this "New Age" of Feminism, and have never encountered a less than courteous response. +5
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definitely! if everybody performed just one act of kindness a day i think things would be much better.
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