I'm very into the D/s lifestyle. Unfortunately because of real life circumstances/situations my man and I can't do a 24/7 live-in master slave thing but ah well. We don't have an actual written contract (but it would be hot) but we do have an understanding/agreement that I don't sleep with any other men. Now I know some women would find that offensive or have the 'who gives you the right to tell me what to do/why is it just me not sleeping with others' etc, but it all comes down to consensuality and what rocks your boat. When we first started in the D/s lifestyle, I secretly wanted him to 'tell' me that I couldn't be with other men. Then a couple of months down the road he expressed how he felt and I was so relieved cause I wanted to hear that from him so much. I guess it has to do with control/protectiveness/possessiveness and I just love being owned by him.

having being a 24/7 slave in the BDSM community for over 7 years and now a Gorean slave, and meeting so many O/others who are in these lifestyles, this girl would say many are involved, more so than can imagine, and even more than known as many keep that part of their lives relatively secret. as for contracts, this girl has lived under a contract and do agree with them as they are a basis, and outline of what can and cant be done. and the excitement of it all is to be "owned" but also the serving and the depth of committment involved in these type of relationships. the saying " in slavery a woman is free" is a true one. as this girl has learned that in her serving her Master, she is free, and able to be more herself than ever before. this girl would live no other way *smiles*

It is not my intention to tell others how to run their relationships. The opinions expressed here are entirely my own, always remember YMMV I am in a 24/7 M/s relationship. My wife/slave and I do have a contract but as the years have passed we refer to it less and less; now it is mainly for historical interest. The one thing that we hope never to have to use is the clause that states what happens to the evidence of our lifestyle if we ever break up. It is my feeling that, if you are in a new relationship or new to the lifestyle, negotiating a contract is a good idea since it will force you both to sit down and think about all of the things that go into one, what kinds of play you like, toys, limits and so on. If you want to talk about this more you can email me offlist at one of the addresses in my signature. Sorry I cant help much with Gor since I don't know it form a RL perspective; all I know of it is what I have seen online. Those whom I've spoken to that have Gor RL say its much different. Best Regards NightWing{s} Author The Lovers: The Story of Lorna and Peter Blog: http://lovers.mynight.net/b2/blogs/index.php/thelovers Web Site: http://lovers.mynight.net Author's Den: http://www.authorsden.com/nightwing MSN Spaces: http://nightwing2006.spaces.live.com Yahoo 360: http://360.yahoo.com/celeborn_lg Email: thelovers@mynight.net personal email: nightwing-s@mynight.net

I definitely live in a dominant / submissive lifestyle. I am the submissive element within my marriage. In a sense we do live this 24/7 but to a limited degree. I am not always groveling at the feet of my wife, but she is clearly always the one in charge. This is evident by the facts that I do most of the domestic chores (cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc) and always answer to her wishes. We do not have a formal contract (though the idea is interesting) but I understand that her desires are my commands. A few of her friends and her mother are fully aware of my status as her “purse-boy” so it is not a secret or hidden lifestyle; it’s just kind of subtle.

The question you asked was "How many people are into the Gorean Lifestyle or Dominant/submissive lifestyle. I guess to answer this question properly, you probably have to break that question down a bit more. First, how many are into the lifestyle in real life, living those lifestyles, 'OR' how many role play the lifestyle online as a glorified sex game? I think you'll find a significant difference in the two answers. A rule of thumb, all you find online (Male / female) that claim to be involved in the lifestyle or know so much about it really don't have a clue as to what the lifestyle is in real life. Next issue to break down is the difference between Gor, and the D/s lifestyle. While many will lump these two together, they are actually very very different. Remember, the Gorean Lifestyle is actually based on a set of books written by John Norman, totally fictitious, and about 90% of which you couldn't duplicate in our today's society if you wanted to. Yes, there are portions of Gor that real people do live and practice, but for the most part, the Gorean Lifestyle is strictly an online role play. Part of the problem with Gor, there are those that stumble across it online and are led to believe that yes, it can be lived real life.. Sure, it can be for a very short time, but you'll find great difficulty finding anyone that has truly lives the Gorean Lifestyle 24/7. (Yes, aspects of the Gorean lifestyle can be lived and practiced for brief periods of each day for an extended time, but only aspects of it). The next thing to realize, regardless of what you call the lifestyle, whether Gor, D/s, M/s, Poly or yes, even BDSM, those names all mean different things to different people. What I might consider an extreme relationship someone else would call mild and rather vanilla. As to an actual number, that's hard to come up with. I haven't seen any reliable source post any type of reliable number on this. I will say that various accredited studies have shown the number varies greatly depending on what part of the world, and in the case of the US, what part of the country you are in. Studies have also shown that there are other factors that may enter this equation. For example, some occupations are more prone to have submissive females in them. But this in itself is not a determining factor since yes, even a 'slave' might hold a rather Dominant occupation in her 'day time' life at work. There are some excellent sites around that will give you more information on this topic. Spend a few moments and search out some of them, just remember, there are a lot of screwy ones out there as well... try and visit. http://www.sexuality.org http://www.asubmissivesjourney.com http://www.iamgor.com

Not as many as you might think. Not everyone likes to be branded.

We don't intentionally live that lifestyle, but our natural personalities tend to position us that way. I'm a retired Army officer and command comes naturally to me. Lady Meghan is gentle artistic type and wants her life run for her. We have a formalized play scenario of "Lord Protector" and "Lady Meghan". She actually drew up a contract in beautiful calligraphy.

I am involved in a permanent 24/7 D/s relationship. My marriage is clearly Female Dominated. I am enslaved to my wife- my Mistress and Owner. We consensually signed an Ownership contract that declares my period of enslavement to be in effect for the remainder of my life. I was then collared at a ceremony shortly after signing the contract. I consider myself to be a real 24/7 slave- Mistress keeps a collar, chastity belt, and a butt-plug harness locked on me at all times. I am owned property with no rights. All of my possessions, assets, and income are in my Mistress' name. I'm totally into D/s, but Gor isn't exactly my thing...