Laissez Faire. Turn your curiosity elsewhere.

Ask her teacher - they are usually pretty good at knowing about kids are feeling about their classmates and school. If nothing is up at school, maybe there is tension in the home that is making her anxious.

I used to do the same thing when I was a child, it was because I was picked on for the clothes I wore and being over weight, I hope you find a solution to this problem because it can have long lasting emotional effects on a person if this is the case.

In your home, who is THE boss? When I tried to pull that garbage, THE VERY FIRST words out of my Mom's mouth were: "Forget about it! You aren't staying home! ALL your friends are in school! AND guess where you aren't going to be today? I'll answer that: YOU ARE NOT going to be home. I have work to do. You have work to do! GO TO SCHOOL!" End of faking it! AND you know what? My Mom, God rest her soul, was absolutely right! I love you, Mom. I miss you, Mom. Rest in peace, Mpm. Thanks for asking your Q! I enjoyed answering it! VTY, Ron Berue Yes, that is my real last name! Sources: A little stroll down "Memory Lane". "THE University of Hard Knocks" Also known as ("a/k/a") "life's valuable lessons".

She needs discipline and the clear understanding that lying is wrong. she should not stay home from school unless there is a valid reason.

Urgent The same as Sarah my 6 years old boy is very clever but lately for a couple of months he does not want to go to school and even pretendes to be sick by vomiting with sometimes some anxious symptoms of vomiting and diahrrea which makes everybody worry and wonder what is wrong with him. Me personally as mother try to talk to him, to see if is anything from school, and even see if it is an emotional problem but nothing, selective and deaf ears. I have taken him to the doctor because by now the school does not want to having without a doctor examination, like I said I have taken him several times and all doctors say that is nothing wrong with him, prefectly healthy and the last doctor said it might be an anxious situation. Now, I don't know what to do anymore since he does not open up to me about anything from school, just says he feels sick after lunch (is always after lunch but is not the food because is the vegetarian option same as home)but when we reach home is behaves totally different, well and goes to play. I have tried to explain this to the school and probably say it is an anxiety problem, a cop out from school, not dealing with responsabilities, some emotional pain and some defiance but the school even having a cousellor they don't want to listen saying it is a physical sickness therefore there is a policy that the school can't have sick children therefore they sent them home. Now I ask how can I get around this problem and reenforce discipline, talking to him and make him face the problems, make him not to lie when the school everytime that does that takes my control out, sends the message that it's alright and reenforces him to do the same over and over again and then because of the policy of vomiting he has to stay at home for 3 days, of course, this attitude makes even worse for him to stop, gives him control over the situation, play us and is proven that the longer it gets and the longer he stays home the worse it is for him to get back on the routine. How can I take this control by myself. How can I defy the system and the school when I see my boy suffering more (emotionally) and see that in the long run this yes will have a more devastating emotional problem to coup out if lingers and no one listens to me. What techniques do you have, since I have to solve this problem by myself, eventhough they keep saying that there is a back up in the system for this, but pardon me is a lot of bull because when he really need it everybody washes the hands and hides behind rules, stupid systems and so on instead of tackling or at least form a bridge and reenforcement with the parents Any ideas what to do in home. Since the school does not want to apply rules and discipline, even my friend counsellor says that when he throws up instead of calling to pick up to put him by himself a litlle while (until the end))in a room where he cannot see anybody or talk to anybody and use the time to calm down and think about this. I agree but school not. Ana Barroso