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  • usually people attack what makes them feel unsafe like, smarter people, people who brings different points of view, people who does not want to be the same, who are different. Any reason they have to attack you is going to be one of the reason why you are going to succeed later. Be smart, be brave. You are going thru a process that's going to make you more aware, more compassionate (since you know how it feels), more human being. Cheers to you since you are becoming a better person.
  • You have to put your foot down,and tell them that they are hurting your feelings,if they don't have anything to say nice don't say nothing.
  • Sorry to tell you this, but you simply need to tough it out and get some thick skin.
  • Well I don't know how much I can help, but I'll tell you what I think. My son is 12 years old and he started 6th grade this year in a new bigger school. My son is very unique and I love who he is. He is very sensitive and has a big heart, he is loving and vrey handsome. However kids at school look at him different he talks a lot and sometimes can get annoying because he is open about everything and blunt he holds nothing back I love that about him, but kids are picking on him. He can't get a girlfriend because all the "popular" guys have them and he doesn't have many friends. He has totally changed justy so he can be cool. He wears a lot of black, spikes his hair, wants to dye his hair black. (Which of course he isn't going to get too far into goth crap I let him dress in some black.) The point to this is I know kids can be cruel and school at your age and even older can and will be hard, but you have to remember who you are inside and stay that person. DO NOT change for anyone if they pick on you more than likely they are jealous in some way. Try to ignore it and just have the friends you trust and who are there for you. Try to hang in there and let everyone know who you are don't hide it and also stand up for yourself you might not be able to whoop their butt but you have to lte them know you aren't going to back down. They will be so jealous that you are who you are and they are pretending to be rich, popular, and cute. When deap down they are hurting and really lonely no matter how many friends or boyfriends/girlfriends. They are lonely inside. GOOD LUCK Sweetie hang in there.
  • Being twelve is tough on a good day. A few years ago I went to a 30 year High School reunion and met some of the people I knew when i was 12. One of them had sort of picked, on me in 6th grade and I had strong feelings about that at the time. later, we became friends and by the time we were 50, we were just a couple of old goats. His hair was greyer than mine though - so there is justice <smile>. Seriously, this is a big problem now, but it will not always be. Your feelings will mend and you will feel better. What you will gain from this is a sense of "empathy." Look that word up. It is the ability to feel what other people feel and it helps us to treat them with more respect and sensitivity. Personal pain can make us better people if we do not get bitter and angry. Please understand that no matter what people say, you are special and loved. There is only one you and that is really great. I am going to stop right now and have a prayer that youi will have a better day today. One suggestion is to find someone today to whom you can reach out. Then, do it. Help lift someone else up. You will be surprised at how much better you will feel.
  • Well, being a youngster, I can tell you that everyone (or mostly everyone) has the same problem. But just remember that you're only at school for a very little while. You've got to learn to just blank them for a while, study hard. After you leave it'll be fine. So as of now, you must learn to laugh at their child-like behaviour. And smile =)
  • You need to find your niche and that's not always easy. Do you have a parent or friend you can talk to about feeling down? There's the phrase "kill them with kindness" and it really does work. When people hurt you smile and they won't get the reaction they want. If you can do it, also tell them they are a jerk. Hang in there, middle school can be pretty tough. Aunt Barb :)
  • Just tell you self that there opions won't matter in the big picture, just tough it out it should get better as time goes on.
  • I think it's even more difficult nowadays to be someone of your age. Even from when I was there just a little over 10 years ago. One thing you have to remember is that half the time those people are making fun of others mainly to make themselves feel better. Believe me, I took part in it at times as well (much to my chagrin now). But I've also been at the receving end of that, and yes, I agree, it's horrible, it makes you feel ashamed perhaps even of yourself. You begin to think that YOU'RE the reason that you're being made fun of, that you're somehow a 'lesser' person for that...but it's not that. Only you are responsible for how things effect you. Now, it's hard to take that in now because of all the treatment you've been getting...but stick it out, put your head up, smile, and be yourself. Afterall, school is a small part of your life, especially middle school. You'll get through it, but remember to keep in mind how you're feeling when YOU get picked on so as you don't do that to others...sometimes that's the best experience out of all of this!
  • They can only hurt your feelings if you let them. Be brave and strong and dont let them get to you. bullying can happen for so many reasons but its never usually because of you, its usually because of themselves.
  • They are going to hurt your feelings no matter what youc an't change it that's just how some kids are, you just need ot be strong and don't let it get to you because that's what they want. I know what your going through my son is 12 yrs. old too and has the same problem. He is small, and very sensitive (he has a good heart), but kids pick on him for everything. We even bought him new clothes that were cool and accessories he just got an electric guitar for Christmas, but let me tell you something about mean little brats who think they are beter than everyone because there mommy and daddy have money and spoil their children so that they will never appreciate anything. You are perfect the way you are and you just need to stand up for yourself and let them know you aren't put down by there actions. Your the bigger person not them so show it. Good luck sweetie!
  • I totally know how you feel hun. 12 was the worst age for me, grade 7. I was picked on a lot at that age. And yes it was tough. But you know what? Many successful/beautiful people today used to be like that in school, they say it motivated them to make more of themselves like the 'Ha I'll show you' attitude and it's helped me as well. Ignoring them helps even tho I know it can be hard. But also find other things you enjoy to not dwell on it, like a kind of music to listen to (I found that very theraputic) or a hobby. Also, don't take it personal. Most of the kids who pick on you are only doing it to look cool, or even from pressure from their own friends to do the same as them, to fit in, some are even scared that if they don't pick on you they might be picked on themselves. For example, I'm 22 and endured it mainly thro junior high and a little in high school. A little while ago I ran into someone I used to go to school with who was one of the ones who used to pick on me and it was like it never happened cause they were nice and like 'Hey nice to see ya, how have you been?' Once they're out of the high school/peer pressure spotlight, they can actually be nice and be able to be friends with you. I'm not excusing what they do, no way, I just don't want you to take it personal. I hope you'll be ok, just remember that even tho you may feel trapped, it won't last forever. I used to think I'd never be free of it but here I am 10 years later free and living a good life. Good luck :)
  • hey man i have the same problems and you know it is really hard to deal with and the way i get through it is just to either ignore them or laugh at all their stupid jokes
  • join the club. this happens to me all the time too. what to do is remember this is a sign of immaturity and this can be exploited. If you show no sign of hurt the immature students at your school will decide that it is getting boring. this may be from as small as a week to as long as five months. but yes, join the club youve always got answerbag
  • I had the same problem growing up and it hurt a lot! But, I did find out MY MOM was right (more than once if you can believe it! <wink>) The people who are mean...are usually very unhappy people in reality. They try to hide THEIR feelings by making someone else feel badly. Sometimes they are jealous, sometimes their home life is pretty awful. But they want to make someone else unhappy, to help cover up their own feelings of low self esteem and unhappiness. It's not fair, it's nasty, it hurts...but someday you will be in a position to choose who you wish to associate with more than now...and then you will choose nice people, who will value you and be hopefully good friends that you can count on as much as they will grow to count on YOU. I agree that you may find more relief from talking to someone you trust and feel comfortable with. Just remember, the fact that YOU already know their behavior is uncalled for and a stupid way to deal with their problems...puts YOU way ahead of the growing up game....they'll have to play "catch up" to becoming a REAL HUMAN BEING...while YOU are already there! You already are learning how to care with a kind spirit...the Meanies...have NO clue...and that isn't going to win them much of anything as they become young adults in the next few years! (High School was much much better than Grade School or Jr High...and college was WONDERFUL!) Try to remember...if they are not on your Christmas Card list, or you wouldn't invite them to dinner...then they have little value to offer, an they are also LYING every time they say hateful things...their lies...have nothing truthful to do with YOU...they are mistaken!
  • When i was twelve I had some "friends" who through my lunchbox around all day along with stealing my lunch, this kid who emailed me in school every once in a while saying i didnt have any friends, and didnt have anyone to really hang out with till like the middle of the year. 6th grade for me was pretty crappy, but right now, i'm doing pretty good when it comes to social things. :) As you get older just try to get a little more confident, try to pick good friends, and you'll be ok. This kind of thing happens to alot of kids your age.
  • I'm 12. If people are hurting your feelings, then you should tell a trustworthy adult. It is the best thing to do. Don't try to get into fights with those bullies. You shouldn't be depressed or stressed out. Those people shouldn't make you depressed enough to miss class work and not be able to concentrate. What you're experienced has happened to me and has happened to many other teens. Your should just tell, that's what I did and it feels so much better after it stops. Just try to have fun in life and don't let other stupid people bother you.
  • First of all, I'm sorry you are getting your feelings hurt. Since you are experiencing this stress at school, once away from there, try to engage in activities that will lift your spirits. Sometimes bullies prey on those kids they know they can get a reaction out of. If they see they are getting a reaction, this only reinforces their efforts and they come back again and again to feel powerful. If possible, try not to let them get to you or at least don't let them know it and hopefully they will move on soon.
  • These kids at school are more than likely jealous of you and they are trying to bring you down, break you spirit and cause your confidence level and self esteem to drop. children who are more prone to be picked upon tend to have the following characteristics: Don't let yourself become one of the kids who has low self-esteem, become insecure or have a lack of social skills, These kids that pick on others look for kids who don't pick up on social cues or they cry or become emotionally distraught easily, or they are unable to defend or stand up for themselves. Some children actually seem to provoke their own victimization. there are several ways to deal with this situation. • don't react, walk away, get help if you are pursued • agree with the student causing the problem, saying "You're right." and walking away. be assertive. They are not expecting that type of reaction, and you may get the best of them by showing you are not affected by threir selfish behaviour.
  • the best thing to do in your case is if they make fun of you, play with their minds,remeber if you cant laugh at yourself then how can you live with it. dont let it get to ya their only makin fun of you cause their either jealous of ya or they feel intimidated by you or they want to be your freind and their to nervous to ask. i once had the entire 6 grade laughing at me once litealy, no joke every single last one even the teachers just shrug it off and youll do fine i dont care who you are what you look like . for writing this question, that took guts and that makes you cool in my book! remember its all in your head SEE YA COOL KID!
  • I thought U had to be atleast 13 to use this site?but anyway I had the same problem when I was 12 too.just ignore them,they will eventualy give up,I just smiled at them when they tease.I am a bit older now(13+)and they still tease me once in a while,I still ignre them but when I get pissed off I swear and pick a fight(witch U should not do YET)I beat a kid up once but that's a long story.so just be strong and when they tease U or whatever it helped me to keep saying to myself in my mind-F*CK THEM,F*CK THEM..... but like I said NOT YET!
  • Do not take their words seriously...I have a friend who takes EVERYTHING we say to him too serious, so he makes him feel worse and worse everyday...But he can't realise that we care about him and want him to imporove...Just think good of yourself and do not think that you are lower or weaker than others, coz you are not.
  • say to hell with the rest of the world and stop caring what they think.
  • just try to ignore it. i am going through the same thing. im 14 now and have been going through it for4 years now. if you can't ignore them talk to someone that you can trust. It can be a school counseler, religioous leader or anyone, even a peer that you are close to. I suggest talking to your parents about it. I know it can be hard to tell them and talk to them about it but it really helps. I personally told them in a note that i left on my moms pillow. I don't really suggest any anti-depressants because they tend to increase thoughts of suicide in teens. granted i dont know how bad your depression is. You can also check out dmlive.com this site is run by someone who has written books and really likes to help teens with stuff like this. If any radio stations in your area do it he also has a show called dawson mccalister live on sunday nights. You can always call into that if you think that you need more help. as long as it airs in your area. Just try talking to your parents. I know that you probably think that there is no way they can help and that they have no idea what you are going through but they really can help. depression tends to run in families and chances are one or both of your parents had it as a teen and may not have told you. they may even have it still today. That is probably the best thing you can do. or if you need to talk to a school counseler because they are required by law to keep things confidential if you tell them to.
  • ok i understand u need advice. 1. If u kno they dont like u dont try to be friends with them. 2. Try to look good to get ppl to like u 3. if some1 who hates u now starts to like u be thier friend 4. dont try to get revenge on these ppl 5. dont ever turn into one of the ppl that hates u hope it works :)
  • I had those same problem at that age until I found away to block all those thoughts out i took martail arts and learned to medtat it help so ffar it helped me until I turned 16 years old and it still helps me today.
  • hey! i was a heavy set kid in highschool and som people used to joke on me... but even thogh it hurt u have to turn that into confidence and show them screw u u cant bring me down.. and when i did that i becam a leader and i dated a few girks and had a good amount of friends. just be ur own person and the rest will falll into place...
  • Dont worry about it. In 20 yrs. who knows where those kids will be they might even be working for you.
  • Hey in this moment I just eneded that stage for me! If you try to ignore them and don't pay attention they will stop!! If they don't try to make pass by their side and ignore them and start talking to another friend! If you don't have friends try to meke new ones so you can trust them! but make sure they are nice and if they are nice be nice! never treat people bad if u don't know them
  • you cant let them get to you...you know who you are , you know what makes you, you...you just have to be confident in urself and be comfortable with who you are, that helps a great deal...they probably dont know you very well, i usually pity a person who bully's me because they are the ones who are being arrogant and insecure..so just dont listen to them because they have no idea what they are talking about and just feel like they need to do something with their lame lives and for some reason they think this is it..but it's not...
  • Just forget what those people say. find people that want to be your friend and stay close to them. Stay away from people trying to hurt you
  • honey, im sorry. the only advice I can offer is that kids at that age are hurtful and mean spirited. Just remind your self, the ones that usually got picked on, often turn out to be the ones that are beautiful, successful and more well rounded. There is a much bigger world outside of this - if you can get through it, just be a kid and do WELL in school, you will be suprised how the tables turn when you enter the "real" world.
  • excuse my language, but i used to let dumbass idiotic worthless fools upset me when i was in middle school. i'm a freshman in high school now. i know it's really hard to not let hurtful words get to you, but just know who your real friends are and it'll work out, i promise. :) i wouldnt've gotten this far otherwise. they obviously have issues with themselves if they have to go and talk about other people.
  • im 14 well look just ignore em be brave and just ignore them
  • be positive u'll get tru it
  • well all i can say is keep your head up. people are going to always have things to say but you just have to laern how to the bigger and more mature person and not let that get to you. remember god is always with you and he'll never forsake you. you'll always have a friend in jesus.
  • the question really is, why are they doing this? and the answer is most certainly not anything to do with you. when people comment/laugh/bully others it is always linked with a sense of insecurity in themselves, and they find a way of feeling better by making others (you) think they are lower than themselves. When the reality is, you are better than them, and that is why they pick on you because they see qualities they wish they had in you. good luck, and stay strong. xx
  • you just need to ignore them and tell your self something positive i'm almost 16 and i have the same problem as you what i do is i just don't pay any attition to them even if they dont stop. they will eventually leave you alone. talk to someone. your mom, giudance counclar at school, a best friend maby. i hope i could help
  • Just ignore them, you'll findout that there the ones who will have problems later in life, I speak from experiance. I was picked on when I was you age, just find some friends and stick with them, toether you can make it through everything!
  • As hard as it may be to do, the easiest thing is to ignore it. When people that bug you know that what they say isn't going to get under your skin, you then have the upper hand. You are a time in your life that is going to be difficult at times, but it will get better. Most kids that tease others are insecure themselves. Just be confident in who you are and you will be fine!
  • Don't let them put you down. You control yourself, and how you feel. After school, if your feeling down do something that you really enjoy to do. Play with your dog, watch a movie, play sports, go for a run. Remember, it's just middle school and there's more things in life, that school. You have your sports, family, pets. etc
  • Hey, you asked this a long time ago, and I didn't read all the comments, so maybe I am repeating something, but when I was around that age (I think that's prob the worst age EVER)I got my feelings hurt a lot because I was new to my school and area and such. I still deal with some issues because of it, HOWEVER, the best thing to do is to try to talk to someone, like a councelor or something. It doesn't mean "tattle" but just having someone to talk to about your feelings always helps. You are NEVER alone and there are always people who have felt what you feel. Don't listen to people that say get tough skin...the problem isn't you, it is the people that get off by putting other people down. Most of them will turn out to be nice at the end of the day, but in the meantime, just trust in yourself and your strength. You can still have your feelings hurt, but try to be confident in yourself, and all else falls into place...
  • What are they doing to hurt your feelings? My mother always told me if people talk about you it's because you have something they want or wish they had because no one worries about something they don't want. If you look at it that way then they are really picking on youo because they are insecure with who they are. Just tell them don't hate you because you're sexy!
  • The only reason ne one hurts others feeling s is they r 2 insucure to care bout others. Brush it off then they leave and go bully someone else.
  • remember that you cant control what others say or do. all you can control is the way that you react to them. just maintain yourself in a way that you can be proud of. and keep god with you, cause he will never let you down.
  • I AM 12 YEARS OLD,did u ever try telling on them or told your parents,because I'm no help because I have the meanest boyfriend in the whole 6th grade.You should try getting a tough boyfriend,You still will have your friend,{if you have any.}
  • I am now 14, and i know how you feel, everyone is mean and puts me down. Then i started to ignore the bullys and they went away!
  • don't allow them to do it. if they start to make fun of you, have a witty comment ready to give back to them. if you do that, they will see that you're willing to stand up for yourself and they will respect you for it. soon they won't pick on you, but rather joke around with you and you can joke around with them.
  • Tell me: What do they say? Do they do anything to you physcially? Don't worry, I'm twelve too.
  • im 14 and people used to pick on me but, like people would always tell me, i just got thick skin and no one picks on me anymore. im actually almost best friends with some of the people that made fun of me.
  • Search for bullying hotline with your country name e.g. bullying hotline canada on google.com. Call them, they give 100% confidential advice. That'll help you a lot. And about being depressed, sorry but this is just the start! Just hope that things don't get much harsh
  • If anyone is bullying you, you make sure you go tell your counselor & your mom.
  • you need to fight back be a man not a woman when i was 12 years old I was bullied on so hard i snapped and the deal was done
  • This isn't meant to sound rude or offensive, it's just necessary for life: Grow thicker skin. It worked for me, my mom, my dad, my grandparents, and all my friends. Can you imagine the kind of low self esteem someone must have to make fun of someone else? Don't take it personally, they're probably really messed up inside.
  • When I was in Middle school, some kids acted like I stunk and I really did'nt. They made comments like "something smells", and they would cover there noses. I took baths every day, but at that age I at times was very fragile. I did my best to treat people with kindness and respect. I never treated people badly. I was the shy one. One day in 8th grade a boy totally humiliated me by sitting on my desk and telling me, he wanted to take me to McDonald's and then afterwards have sex; I did'nt cry or anything, I just ignored him but the class members were present at the time to. Don't worry about those kids. Always open up to your parents and let them know how your feeling, maybe even to a school counselor.
  • hang in there, just remember: this too shall pass. you are still young and have a lot of amazing things to live and experience don't get bogged down. adolescence is hard on everyone just try and ignore'em and find something you like doing... like playing an instrument or painting or sports. that always helps.
  • I think you should ignore them all, it don't matter what they say. You see, I use to be like you when I was younger... I don't quite remember 5 years ago though when I was twelve... But for some reason I remember when I was 11. Oh well... My point is sometimes you have to learn to be strong, just don't fall to their level, be the bigger person of the matter and just ignore them... You see, I just ignore people now other wise I'd be in a fight almost every week or so at school. But the only way I'll fight is if someone says something about my family. That should be the only thing that bothers you. Everything else you should ignore, like if someone says something about you. Big deal, you know the truth and it don't matter what anyone thinks, if they want to judge you over a rumor they hear then forget them you know? It's not like you needed them to start with. Times are getting harder and things are changing you just have to change faster than they do.
  • Awe, I hate that you have to go through this but... You know I was in a similar situation when I was in Elementary school going into middle school! Honestly, I hated middle school! I think its just everyone is beginning to see themselves in a different light and some think they are hott stuff...But I know this may sound corny...but those are the people that usually suck at life! They will screw up along the way...Karma has a nice way of paying back people later on in life or rewarding them(in your case)! Its that ever preasent balance that keeps the world turning! Just try your hardest and make the best out of this situation! Out of this, you will def. gain a different view of life... and maybe in the future when the tables turn... you will not hurt others feelings! :) Just be good humored about everything... and keep developing that great personality!! :)
  • you probebly heard this before and think it is stupid-i do-but telling teachers is the best way to go.dont be afraid to be a teachers pet!i know this,i am 13 and i was bullied in the 5th grade. but now in the 8th grade i have tons of friends and they have my back. so if it is that bad,try chainging schools and gaining alot of new friends.the bullies will forgette about you and even if,you now have a group to hang around with. there is power in numbers! -i hope things get better for you **kisses** love hannah
  • find a good best friend , & start a cliuqe , trust me it will really help !!! most important , NEVER care what they say !!! i am 13 , & having a best friend REALLY helps !!!
  • if their clowning, get dirt on them and clown back, not only does it show that it doesn't bother you, but you may earn their respect and maybe make some friends. Humor can be powerful.
  • i'm 13, I do school online and the kids from my old school STILL try to pick on me every chance they get. The best you could do is try to ignore them, or tell your parents, or a teacher what's going on.
  • just bang um out im 12 i dont hav any problems or just tell dem 2 f off n just talk 2 lik nerds n slowely get up d ranks kl if u want 2 add mi msn is mattygold@hotmail.co.uk kl
  • ignore those people they are not worth it. middle school is always the worst years in a persons life. right now everyone may be acting dumb and hurtful to you but once you get to high school things will be better.
  • im 12 also and i am a cool kid and im one of those who pics on people but the buttom line is i do it cause im trying to be cool i guess i also no what its like i use to get picked on but i became cool later i still get picked on by jocks im a skater who hanges out with skaters and we pick on jocks u need to find your own little group and stand up for yourselves becouse thats how i became cool i stuck up for my self while geting picked on now everyone in my school respects me no fights nesisary just verbal words will work
  • I think we have all been picked on while growing up in some way. Being a 12 year old is difficult and 13 and 14 and even 51 at times. When I was picked on I had to turn around and walk away from them, not replying to their nasty attitudes. I tended to study harder and am sure got much better grades than they did. I made it through all those years of being picked on. And for you...even though it may feel like it is taking decades to go through one year, you have only a very few short years until you are done with the bullies and in that time you will find true friends in highschool and then into college. Remember to just turn and walk away, they are not worth your time or worries.
  • i am so sorry to hear that this is going on. do not let it get to you though. you are the better person. keep thinking positive and never give up on your goals and dreams. i have had depression just about since i was your age and i am still battling it to this day. it is not worth you feeling the way you do over it. you are a wonderful person and you have a bright future ahead of you. dont let anyone or anything take that away from you. hang in there. things will get better. good luck.
  • Don't take it to heart. and speak to a family member who you trust. Kids can be very spiteful. Don't let them hurt you or they win. TRUST ME a problem shared is a problem halved.
  • I'm sorry you are having such a hard time at school. Do you have anyone that you can talk to at school, church or home about this? Being 12 can be a tough age and you will get through it. I bet more kids feel the same way you do its just not something that comes out in conversation. You have to learn to love yourself and accept yourself the way you are and realize you are great individual with a lot to share with the world. A lot of times the kids that are making fun of you are hurting inside as much as you they just have a really bad way of showing it.(not that it makes it right that they hurt your feelings) Keep your chin up and remember stand up for yourself and what you believe.
  • I know exactly how you feel. I just recently turned thirteen, and I am constantly being teased and picked on. I know that if you've ever asked anybody for advice on this subject, you've heard the same thing: they're insecure, just ignore them and theyll go away. It is pretty annoying to hear this stuff over again, but it's true. Ignoring a problem may not make it go away, but holding your head up with confidence is a great way to show people that you are strong, and you won't put up with being treated like that. If times get intense, don't be afraid to say something back, but keep your defense to a limit, because it would only be a matter of time before you became just as bad as them. Good luck!
  • O man...I remember being 12...I used to skip certain classes just so I would't have to put up with the teasing. Things will change though. I don't know what else to tell you, since my parents just popped me into therapy on my 1st sig of depression :P But please believe that things will change. 12 year olds are not very accepting, and sometimes superficial (no offense :P). By highschool though things will be completely different.
  • don't listen to what anyone says about you! trust me, life is sooo much better after school is over.. Kids can be really mean. I think that there will be a time when they grow up and will definitly stop picking on you. I used to get teased a bit in elementary school, but in middle school and high school, not at all. I think that there is just an age when they will realize how uncool it is and they will leave you alone. Dont listen to the people who are making fun of you. The best thing is to ignore it because they will only continue to do it if they see that it is hurting your feelings. Just keep a smile on your face, and please don't be depressed! You have such a long life ahead of you. It's just school, trust me it goes by in a flash.
  • That really really sux. 7th grade was the worst year of my life. The only thing I can tell u is that it'll get better in the years to come. I know that probably doesn't really help much but all you can really do is try your hardest not to let it get to you & know that you'll most likely get happier as you get older. It really will be ok!
  • First things first. Why would you care what other people think of you, Let alone people who hurt your feelings? Generally care about what your good friends or parents say too you, there oppions matter more.
  • don't listen to them there just jeliouse, and they jusy feed off of gossip because they have nothing else to do with there pathetic lives so they try becoming popular by being complete jerks, but in the end it will all come back to them so you just keep your head up chicky
  • You're not alone. There are lots of reasonably well adjusted adults (usually, the very smart ones) who have been in similar situations. Remember the lovely little rhyming saying, and think of someone successful (because like I said, those are the kind of people who are bullied) "Remember me as you pass by, As you are now so once was I; As I am now so must you be, Therefore prepare to follow me." Good luck. It's hard, but don't let them get to you.
  • ignore them go to another click and join on to them they should join you in if there good riends i not walk away to another click.
  • even though my profil says otherwise truthfully im 12 to and i have the same problems. Most adults will tell you to ignore it, give you a pep talk and send you on your way. While ignoring it does help eventuly you can not do that any longer . walk away or make a biting comment keep a cool face then walk away but never stand there and exchange comments.
  • im in sixth grade and it happens frequently, well, im a brazilian and the grade is different(not confirmed) and i past from fifth to sixth an in changes ALOT, just continue your life. some times it is even your friend who hurts your fellings, just go over it, the next day maybe different, look good to the future, GOOD LUCK!=D
  • I understand COMPLETELY how you feel, i'm 12 too. I fell out with 2 of my friends, and one of their boyfriends' has been picking on me since. He seems to be making my life hell! There are 2 ways to get people like that off your back: 1.) Ignore them. 2.) Humiliate them. e.g. call them a really embarassing name in front of all their mates. But , seriously, if it gets that bad then tell a teacher, or an older friend that could easily squish them. :D
  • ignore them..
  • When I Was 12, I Got Picked On A Lot In School. I Used To Get Called Ugly && Dorky, And Many Other Bad Names. I Did Everything I Could Think Of But The Bullying Just Would Not Stop. I Know Your Parents Probably Tell You This But If You Ignore Them, They WILL Eventually Stop. No One Likes To Make Fun Of Someone Who Doesn't Seem To Care. These Kids That Make Fun Of You Are Probably Really Insecure About Themselves, And By Bringing You Down It Makes Them Feel Better About Themselves. I Promise Everything Will Get Better Sweetheart, I Was Known As The Ugly Girl In Middle School, Then I Went Off To High School. I'm Almost 16 Years Old Now, I'm A Model && I Have One Homecoming Princess Both Years I Have Been In School. And The People That Made Fun Of Me In Middle School Are Now The People Who Get Made Fun Of. Just Stay Strong && Things Will Work Out For The Better. I Promise =)
  • Im 12 too. Im considered a "nerd" just because i have glasses. but i get walked all over at school. That was until i started standing up for myself. sure i take a huge risk of getting beat up. but i somehow make friends. But do not be depressed. Just find a way to get back at them. Like if they say something like call you a nerd reply with something like " dont hate because im not dumb like you. Can you even spell dumb?" that can get something started but it will make some fear you. And some will also dislike the person so you will have made a friend. Write back please. Breannetheemokid.. ps I am not really emo :)
  • Well I'm 17 I have been in your situation since my last year in school. THeo nly thing you can do is ignore them. YOu have to hold you head up high. You can't let anyone put you down. from exsperience it helps to have a big group of friends. Don't let it get to you. Notify a teacher but ask them not to do anything just yet. Have them keep an eye on the person when they are around you and have the teacher catch them in the at. Good luck.
  • As a fellow 12 year old and always being told things that hurt me I say to you ignore them. Come back with answers at the most or just stand up to them. Your freinds should help you out of it. Anyone that messes with me my freinds stick a foot up there **** and they never do it again
  • All I can say is, PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE, talk to someone. A parent, a teacher, a counsler, any adult you trust. Being 12 is hard, but trust me, it gets better. Being depressed is nothing to mess with. So please do not just ignore it. TALK TO SOMEBODY!!!
  • you must act stronger than them...assert your dominance. develop come backs for insults send them the message that you are a force to be reckoned with in other words DO NOT act weak...at least dont show your weakness. what they look for is a reaction if your reaction is to throw an insult back or to appear not affected then they will leave you alone. good luck -Lone Wolf
  • pay no mind to them it makes them mad because whatever they do doesnt fase u trust me i no how u feel
  • you shouldnt listen to people at school, i know plenty of bullies, and they are usually either jealous or very insecure. so dont worry about what they say as they are the people with the problems, not you.
  • you know only sad people with rubbish home lives and low self esteem feel the need to put others down to make them selves feel better. so look at them with pity because their lives must be crap and chances are someone is bullying them too. walk tall and be proud of who you.....the better person! goodluck.
  • I'm 12 years old too. I've been there, in the 6th grade, i hated myself people were always picking on me because of my weight and stuff.It's horrible.Most people just pick on you because they feel insecure about themselves(im sure you've heard that a million times!)Being twelve sucks.People get over it eventually though. You can't let there harsh comments get to you because if they do, the your just falling into there trap.Don't give in. Just always be nice to them (which i know is hard to do.)It really doesn't matter what they think...in the end all that matters is that you love yourself..and your a good person. I feel for you...
  • Always stand up for what you believe in. dont lie to make someone feel better and never let anyone take advantage of you and try to talk all over you. you only have one life and for every 60 seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you will never get back.
  • ignore those people and find some real friends
  • You are at a defining point in your life. The next few years are going to be really tough, as you will be growing emotionally and mentally really fast. It may seem like it sucks, but what you are going through will people hurting your feelings in school has happened to millions before you, and you won't be the last. What defined who you are through these next few years for you, is how you deal with people trying to hurt your feelings, look down on you, etc. Are you going to come out of it strong, never letting them bother you? Or would you rather come out of it weak, letting other people dictate how you will live your life? This is the choice you will make over the next few years, and will set the path for the rest of your life!
  • Stop bein a pansy and start bein a man. Dont let people hurt your feelings, start being the leader type and take over your fears.
  • When I was in school I was always picked on because I was small and had to wear hand me down clothes. I never made the sports teams no matter how hard I tried. It was always the familys that had a higher status. Use there rudeness to be ur driving point toward ur future. Study hard and one day the shoe will be on the other foot. perhaps one day u will be there boss, show them the kindness they never gave u
  • all you have to do is get populer.and if you dont know how,look at some of the guys you know are populer and start from there.
  • well if people are hurting your feelings, then they're obviously not worth your time to be hanging out with/talking to/being around, all that stuff. just hang out with people that maybe have some interests. join a club if your school has some and you can make easy friends that way. if you have friends by your side that like you for you, then you shouldn't care what other kids are saying. trust me i had the same issue a few years ago and i just ignored it all.
  • Just remember, the people that say bad things about others are generally very insecure - they build themselves up by tearing others down. Remind yourself that you're a good person and that the people that hurt your feelings aren't worth caring about. I know that's hard, but you can do it - I know you can.
  • God bless you child and hang on there, you are strong and you will survive. Don't lose faith, better days are ahead just persevere with all the strength and all the determination that you have in you.

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