If your mate was 'cheating' on you would you rather catch them red handed or have them tell you? Why?
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ANSWERS: 17
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Trust me, catching them red handed is not fun. If you are sure, just confront them. It is alot less dramatic and potentially dangerous. And it will getthe same result without as much drama and posibility of hysterics.
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Of course, I would rather them tell me, but if they didn't have the balls to do so, I would love to catch them in the act! I love the show cheaters, but I feel sooooo bad for the victims!
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Neither... Its a tough choice if I have to make it. If I catch them I can be confident in my catching abilities; if they told me I would feel stupid that I didn't know. If I catch them I would not be able to forgive so easily; it should never need to come to me catching someone I am supposed to trust. If she told me I could forgive her for cheating. However the worst option would be if she told me she was cheating and was not sorry.
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Catch them red handed. That way, he doesn't have time to plan out his excuse and I won't be tempted to forgive him.
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Have him love and trust me enough to tell me. I would want him to feel strongly for what he had done that it bothered him.. not that he could just blow it off. I would not want to catch him in the act and have that image burned into my mind.
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i really wish he had the balls to tell me, then i would of known he was sorry and meant it because he told me. not to tell me just showed he wanted to do this and wasn't sorry at all, only sorry he got caught. in reality it hurts both ways, that will never change.
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I would rather he tell me, and not give me such a horrifying surprise. If he stepped up to the plate, I would still leave him but at least had the guts to fess up. By continuing to lie and betray me, and my catching him, would have serious repercussions.
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I'd rather catch the person red-handed. Guys that I've dated in the past who have had significantly less moral scruples than I are often more likely to approach me and tell me that they're behaving inappropriately. My problem is that I believe everyone is basically good. I never see the warning signs. I'd much rather just catch him. I'd be far less likely to be blinded by sentiment.
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I would rather have him tell me, I dont think there should be any reason for me to go through haveing to "see" it it would cause me more pain and since I didnt do anything I wouldent deserve that. I think he rather deserves to "sweat" it out and tell me what he did.
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catch him red handed because then he as no excuse and i would kick him right out the door (bye bye)
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It would be great if your mate would tell you he/she was cheating and get it over with, but that doesn't usually happen. They cheat as long as they can. Even if you suspect your mate cheating and question him/her, they will lie and tell you nothing is going on, and make you feel bad for suspecting them of cheating. so I'd rather catch them red handed. Im speaking from experience I've been cheated on alot.
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No one wants to be played a fool, so I would rather see it with my own eyes, than have him tell me without me having known before hand. I believe we instinctively know if something isn't right and that's what I count on feeling. It's not so much that I want to catch him, but that way there would be no chance of an argument about who told me a rumor, trying to start something, etc. I'm not much for accusing or questioning, snooping or anything crazy obsessive. But I'd definately have my eyes and ears open, awaiting anything outta-whack to alert me that my gut feeling was right.
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id perfer if they told me. it would be extremely painful i believe to have to witness it with your own eyes or ears. unfortunatly that doesnt usually hapen and you usually find out the hard way
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I would hope that if he was my mate he would have the decency to come forward and tell me, but we know thats not how things go and so I would prolly have to go be a P.I. and catch the S.O.B.s in the act and then I would get caught in the act of 2 murders.LOL
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Catch them. It's easier to believe what you see with your own eyes than listen to what your cheating "mate" wants to tell you(and omit). Catching them gives you the advantage to knowing the whole truth
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IF you are happy and everything is working with the two of you, WHY would you want to know? With 26 yrs. of marriage under my belt I have never tried to "catch" my husband" and told him before we were married not to come confessing anything to me to make himself feel better. My friends have always known not to come telling me anything and tearing down my picket fence. I went thru the jealous thing etc... in my first marriage. It's not worth destroying all you have to find out something you really didn't want to know anyway. Life is too difficult as it is, why add more drama? Put all that energy into being the best partner you can be. What goes around does come around. Concentrate on what makes YOU happy and what makes YOU a better person. What your spend time thinking about will make it's way to your heart and mouth. One thing I have always remembered "THOSE THAT ANGER YOU CONTROL YOU!" Be careful who you give that control to. Have a smiling day!
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Well in my case there isn't really cheating because it's an open relationship. Then again, there are different forms of cheating, there's physical but also emotional. I'd rather be his soulmate in the fact that emotionally we're connected and open as opposed to who you sleep with.
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