If you were a teen mom & the father was a serial cheater & verbally abusive towards u, would you stay w/ him for the sake of the child or would you walk away & raise the child alone? Just for instance, say the mom was 18.
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For the sake of the child I'd walk away.
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Walk a way cause that could damage the way the child will look at thing in the world.
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Sounds exactly what I went through. I married the ass then later divorced him. If I could do it all over again, I would have RAN far away and raised my son on my own.
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teen pregnancy is already a bad enough situation. you dont need to add abuse and cheating into the mix. walk away. as long as you love the child it will make up for (to some extent) them not having a father. when the child is old enough, you can explain the situation if you want, and hopefully they will understand. but for now, the best thing to do is go somewhere safe and away from the man that doesnt know what he has.
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Well in this case it doesn't matter how old the mom was. No, i would not stay with him for the sake of the child. SAFETY is for my childs sake this includes not tolerating verbal abuse. abusing MY respect is enough for me to leave. I would raise my child alone...and provide love for MYself and my baby! If i was in this situation, i'd stand up and be independent and raise my baby on my own, without him because obviously he doesn't give a fukk!
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Walk away and not look back for the sake of yourself and your child:-)
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walk away. i was 17 when i had my son i was much happier on my own now i have met a great bloke.
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I was married to that guy! I divorced him as soon as I found out I was pregnant. It took having a precious little being relying on me for me to grow a backbone. It was the best decision I've ever made.
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No matter how old I was, I'd walk away. Being a young mother without a great support network can be scary, but for the sake of the child the best thing to do would be to leave. The child will see how its father treats its mother and think abusive relationships are ok.
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I'd walk. The last thing a young mother needs is the head hassle of a shit relationship.
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the guy belongs at the bottom of a fifty five gallon drum..
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walk away
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Walk away, and quickly - and don't look back! Someone who is verbally abusive can degrade into a physical abuser, and (as someone else mentioned) your child is going to observe this as (s)he grows up, thinking that's how relationships are supposed to be and/or that it's ok to behave that way toward his/her partner. And once you've gotten healthy mentally, and know that you can survive without him (but be sure to push for child support payments, if it doesn't mean him automatically getting visitation!) -- once you're confident and your child is a little older, you might meet a man who will be the father-figure your child needs, someone who's a GOOD influence for both of you. Best of luck!
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I'd run as fast as I could. The last thing a child needs is a dad like that for a roll model. If the mom stays that's a way of teaching the child that abuse is a normal way of life and the cycle would continue.
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i walked away eventually and raised the kids myself.:)
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I wouldn't because I believe you have to make yourself happy. You come first, you have to take care of yourself first. You are unhappy if that's how you are being treated by your child's father. It is never too good in my opinion to stay in an abusive relationship for the sake of the child. The child will be unhappy if you are unhappy. Just remember, the child will be better off without the abuse towards mom. I would rather raise the child on my own. It may be rough at the beginning but after a while things will fall into place for both you and your child. I wish you all the best.
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you would be doing that baby a favor not being with him
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You must think about yourself and the baby. If he is abusive towards you now, do you want to wait and see how he's going to turn out with the child? There are many agencies out there that are able to assist teen moms in so many ways. You should do some research and always have a plan. Also try to reach out to friends and family and see if they can assist you until you can get up on your feet. Good luck.
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You should never endure abuse "for the sake of the child". You will do much better by your child if you show some self-respect and set an example for you child what is acceptable behavior and that you deserve to be treated with some respect. Dump the loser. You've already got enough on your plate raising one baby without adding an adult child to boot! Set a precedent of not tolerating abuse NOW and you will have a happier life in the long run.
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I found myself pregnant and in an abusive relationship at 18, I walked away and raise my youngest son alone, I've never regretted it we have a bright future
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If anything you shoult leave him for the sake of the child. Growing up in an atmosphere with violence and inconsistency would be a million times worse than growing up without an abusive Dad.
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I would leave for the sake of the child. That child will have a much better life being raised with the parents no longer together. Not saying the father doesn't have rights to see his kid. My daughter's father cheated on me all the time. I wasn't going to sit there and let that be the example on how relationships are suppose to be, so I left. Today (5yrs. later) I have been able to forgive him for the things he had done to me, we have a great friendship, and he loves his daughter very very much.
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Girl GET AWAY for the sake of the child and YOU. I satyed with the guy for "the sake of the child" ended up getting pregnant again by the asshole and now i have a great man the kids father isnt in the picture.GOOD LUCK.
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leave him because i wouldnt want my baby growing up around that
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leave his worthless ass. the mom and baby would be better off without him. no father is better than a piece of shit father.
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Do NOT stay 'for the sake of the child'! Doing so would be detrimental to your child's well-being. Right now you need to have the best interests of your child at hand. Staying with this guy, no matter how much assistance he may give you, will not be in the best interest of your child (or yourself).
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I would walk away from him for the sake of the child and for mine!!! In the famous words of DR. PHIL, a child would rather be from a broken home than be in one.
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