My husband admitted to me that he's having and affair with another woman and the woman is now pregnant..and he wanted to continue their rlationship..he says he will never leave me.he says he also love the woman.what should i do?do u think he still love me
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sweetazhe
ANSWERS: 24
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He wouldn't tell you if he didn't love you.
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He probably thinks he does love you. But what about YOU? Is this the kind of love YOU want, the kind of relationship you want, the way you want to live your life? You are not required to accept his terms.
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First of all, I'm sorry you're going through this. Second of all he can't have his cake and eat it too. Third of all, just because she's pregnant doesn't mean he has any obligation to carry on a relationship with this woman, only their child. He needs to decide. It a difficult decision for you as well, but how happy will you be constantly wondering if he loves her more. How happy will you be when yoy're waiting for him to come home & you're wondering if he's with her. Give him an ultimatum. End it or get out. Don't mean to sound harsh, but he's not thinking about you here. As to whether he still loves you? He may think so & may feel so... he's not showing it. In fact he's showing an utter lack of respect of the relationship the two of you built together and unfortunately hon, you can't make him change unless he decides on his own. Hope this helps. good luck.
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I don't think that she would share him, especially since she is pregnant. I'm sorry that you have to deal with this kind of pain.
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That is very sad. I'm so sorry. Do you have children with him? If you dont then I think its best to get a divorce. For your sake!
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Wow, two pregnant women... he is a really busy guy. No one can tell you what to do. This is pretty sad that he can't confine his love to the woman he promised it to in marriage. You have to weigh all your variables and decide what you stand for and what you cannot stand for.
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Leave him. Thats a bunch of B.S. and You don't deserve it! I'm sorry to say this, but he doesn't love either of you because you could NEVER hurt someone that you truely love like this. Do not put up with it. Get out ASAP!
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Consider your options, sweetazhe. (grins) You could have the baby, stay with him, and have him be the father of both children at the same time and maybe even compete with the other woman for his attention/love. However, you could also just have the baby and raise it by yourself, getting alimony all the while. Then again, you could have the baby, and give it up to a relative to raise or even to adoption, and move on from him. Lastly, abortion is NOT an answer. Don't kill a baby to cover up this foul up, for that only compounds the problem. Pro-choice is synonymous with anti-inconvenience.
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eek. that's a shitty situation. honestly, if it was me, i would NEVER allow someone to treat me like that. Do you have a way to support yourself? I would leave him.
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Where does his loyalty lie? With the one to whom he promised his unending faithfulness and love, or with his pregnant midlife crisis? I can give your usband props for having the guts to come forward with what he's done, but he must make a choice. Force him to choose. Either he pays child support to the lady but never talks to her otherwise, or he leaves. Those are the only options for an honorable man. I am so sorry that you must walk such a dark path... but be strong and firm, or you will never be able to trust him.
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You married the guy... and I'd be willing to venture that he's breaking those vows he made. That's not love. He's wrong, and he's not worth it. If he won't choose you, he won't choose you, but being the wife of what amounts to a polygamist isn't the answer. So what do you do? Give him the choice between the two, but let him know that if he's cheating, he's a goner. If he doesn't pick you in a heartbeat, go find yourself a good divorce lawyer and fleece him for all he's worth.
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At this point who the hell cares what HE wants? Tell him to make sure the door doesn't hit him in the ass on the way OUT!!!!!!
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What is this???? How many ways can I ask this question?
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I dont think so.If he would have loved the other woman more, he would have left you for her.He knows that he has done a mistake and now he is repenting.I know its an akward situation.But both of you have to deal with it with proper understanding.
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Wait is the other woman pregnant by him or someone else? He should decide who he loves. Sounds to me like he wants both of you and if I were either you or the other woman. I'd think about making his choice for him by leaving if he does not choose. You will always be questioning if he's going to cheat if you know there's another woman who knows how many more there might be. If he picks you and is sincere about it... we're all human and make mistakes you could forgive him but that's your choice as well.
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i think he is confused...nt able to make a choice...give him urr luv..ask him what exactly he wants..that will help all thre of you to live a relaxed life...
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I think I would be leaving that man.
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Forgiving an unfaithful husband is one thing...but saying he cannot let her go and wants to devote time to her, I'd say it's time for a divorce. Best of luck to you.
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I do not understand why you except this. Kick his ass to the curb, he is disrespecting you.
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sounds like bad news to me I think you can do better
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Asking the same question, 6 different ways is not going to get yo a different answer.
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I'd say let's all meet. See how the other woman feels about this. She may have a whole different idea on how she wants things. See if he will allow this. If he doesn't that means he's only telling the other woman what he wants her to know. He could be telling her that you said you would take everything he has is he leaves. She may not even know about you. He is a lier!! He has lied to you and I'm sure he has lied to her. Don't waist you life on him you deserve much more.
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Do I think he still loves you? - Not a chance, you're just a convenience. Pack up your stuff and move out. He wont be looking as good from a distance, and if he wants to work it out just tell him that cheaters never win in the long run,,, at anything. I know that sounds hard to do but you'll love yourself more later on.
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I think you should stop wasting your time asking these questions, pack up your stuff RIGHT NOW and get the hell away from this jerk... Sweet heart - if he loved you in the first place, he wouldn't be with this girl now He's even admitted to being in love with her, so that's pretty black and white don't you think? .. It's horrible to face facts, but the situation you're now in is never going to get easier no matter how you look at it... Your husband is a scum bag, time to cut your losses and move on...
Mountain Momma 
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