If you see someone struggling for help with something do you help or ask if they need a hand first? Why?
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I ask because I have had experiences when I just helped the person and he got mad at me for touching him. So I will ask just to make sure he/she is comfortable with me helping him/her. If someone is knocked out and is not able to talk, then I would just help the person.
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I ask first, because I have tried to help someone before just to have them shout at me that they were doing just fine, thank you, and I could blody well just leave them alone. Things aren't always what they seem.
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That depends upon the necessity for action. If it is a social situation, I offer my services. If it is an emergency situation, I jump in until the pro's can take over.
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Depends on the situation but usually I'll help without asking.
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I'm taking your question to mean in terms of with a heavy package or something like that. I always ask first because some people do not want your help whether they seem to need it or not. I think it's kind of rude to help without asking - unless it's something simple like holding the door for someone which I would do regardless if they were struggling or not. I also prefer being asked so that I have the opportunity to say no. I once was carrying some packages home from the post office and a man offered to help me. Even though it was a nice gesture, I politely declined because I didn't want this guy knowing where I lived - who knows what people are really like - he could've been a serial killer or something! If you mean struggling with an idea/concept, addiction, personal problem; I still would normally ask first but I guess it depends on how well I know the person - with family, I tend to just tell them exactly what I think.
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I ask if they need a hand first. Why? it gives them an opportunity to "save face". I've seen men with 1/4 of a lung left out cutting the grass in 100 degree heat that would feel insulted if I offered help. So, to preserve their dignity I would ask.
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I'm really weird in that I tend to help, but in secret. I don't like people to know if I am doing nice things for them. I'm very weird sometimes. So just help
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I ask first so as not to offend in any manner.
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I ask first , some pople hate to accept help, others are embarressed by the fact they need help. Somebody close to me with terminal cancer has always been a person that friends turn to for help now he is very weak but still finds it very difficult to accept help offered .
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I think it depends upon the urgency of the need. I am not going to wait and let someone struggle to stay afloat until they tell me that they need help. On the other hand, I'm going to let my nephew try to tie his shoes as long as possible before helping.
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I think that it really depends on the level of help that they need. I might ask if they need a hand with luggage or groceries, but I wouldnt wait and ask if I could help if someone were falling off a cliff or something like that.
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if its somebody i know i would just help them but if it was a stranger in the street depending on what it was i might not help straight away because some people get a bit defensive.
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i ask, but jump in when i feel it's called for.
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help, cause they might not have the guts to say yes if you ask
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It would depend on the circumstance but probably offer first. Some like to work it out for themselves - like do you offer to help the guy in the wheelchair try to ....??..., no, you offer the assistance first in order not to make that person feel inadequate or for them to think you superior.
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It depends on if it's life threatening or not
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I've done both. I'm sure life has gifted "us" all with both options (or ultimately will). Basic instinct usually prompts me to, go for it without asking. Asking, however spontaneous, is bound in language and is, therefore a social cue; sometimes just permission to enter another's "space". I've had VERY funny instances with trying to help people because of the way some people respond to large African American men. I'm a large African American man. A teddy bear, mind you, but not to people who've made certain visual decisions in the name of personal safety. I'm certain I'm not alone in this and I know other people of other shapes, sizes, and colors have experienced what I have. I just find it "funny" from the perspective.unique to me.
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I've done both. I'm sure life has gifted "us" all with both options (or ultimately will). Basic instinct usually prompts me to, go for it without asking. Asking, however spontaneous, is bound in language and is, therefore, a social cue; sometimes just permission to enter another's "space". I have VERY funny stories about trying to help people. All fueled by the way some people respond to large African American men. I'm a large African American man. A teddy bear, mind you, but not to people who've made certain visual decisions in the name of personal safety. I'm certain I'm not alone in this and I know other people of other shapes, sizes, and colors have experienced what I have. I just find it "funny" from the perspective unique to me.
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I always ask then I tend to look stupid because if my husband can't open the jar yeah like I really can do it. I don't know why I always ask I guess I was just raised that way.
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if it's my son show him how to do it then let him do it. as for adults ask if they would like a hand or some advice. unless they are carring something hevy or it's an older person struggling then I just run right up and help. pretty much all depends on who needs help and how. but I'mn always willing.
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I jump in and help and I am proud to have that gift,so many time's I see people just staring or standing around watching, and I just can't do that,and at the same time I see alot of people helping somebody in need ! --- Pattijo
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If its someone I don't know, I ask if they need help, because some people like to do things on their own. But if its someone I know, I just help.
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i ask first. i once got yelled at very severly for trying to help a stranger without asking. she was crying and i stooped down beside her to ask if she was ok... and to lend some comforting words. but nope.. she didnt like that.
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