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  • You can not make anyone see anything that they dont want to. Sometimes our parents know more then we think they do. I am not saying dont do it or take what they say with a grain of salt. Do what you need to do for you. It will either work or not work, but that is something that you are going to have to find out for yourself. Our parents want to protect us from making bad mistakes but the reality is if we dont make them, how can we learn from them. Do what you need to do for yourself. Dont do if for him or your parents.
  • The way i see it, Are your parents dating him or are you? If you love him and want to move in with him DO IT, it is your decision.
  • Your already doing it sweetie your moving in together, they will see how happy you are and they will soften i'm sure :)
  • Doesn't moving in together show them that you're serious?
  • You can't MAKE them see anything. I bet your boyfriend isn't all that introverted around you though. He's comfortable with you. You need to make an effort to make your boyfriend comfortable around your parents, and your parents comfortable around your boyfriend. That's easier said than done (it took me until after we were married to make that happen) but that's what needs to happen to make them accept him.
  • Time together. If your family sees you two happily together over time, then they will likely come around. Be patient. If you two stay together and have a good relationship over time that will be the most compelling and satisfying response to their concerns. Good luck!
  • I would discuss this with your boyfriend as well. As much as we like to believe you can date someone your parents don't approve of, it's hard. Even without living with my parents and dating someone they don't like it was difficult cause I love and trust my parents, and their judgement. If the only reasons they disapprove of him is that he's an introvert you and your partner need to work on bringing him out of his shell a little around your parents. Though there is nothing at all wrong with being an introvert (I am one) it makes a lot of people uncomfortable. People think introverts are moody, hiding something, etc.
  • If you are over 18, then it is all you. Maybe a few drinks for every before going over would help him and them...
  • invite your parents to a dinner that you and your boyfriend prepare together and serve them, together. have social outings with them. (go to a movie, or outdoor festival where you aren't just sitting across a table, staring at each other) and the holidays are coming up, more opportunity for the two of you to display your 'couple-ness' to friends and family. it may take time, but if you are patient you can win them over. peace
  • Give them time ....I broke up with the woman that my parents adored....and it took time for them to warm up to the new one....Oh well...they did....it is my decision who I see...and it is yours...just try to be understanding, compassionate and tolerant of their preferences though.... Peace!
  • By moving in together.
  • I think moving in together is a good indicator on how serious you two are about eachother.
  • tell them u love him. that even though u guys don't have much in common u guys are perfect for each other. like the saying Opposites attract each other. my other half is a complete inrovert and we get along just great. try to make them understand that it is not about being an introvert that matters.
  • You don't need to; after all, it's your life, not theirs...

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