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stick to your guns. If he loves you he will go -- if he refuses to go then he just wants easy sex and is not willing to invest.
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dont sleep with him until he brings you that paper saying you are clean. my b/f and I have been together for 2 years and we just got tested again... He must be scared of needles.
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Dump him. Not willing to give you peace of mind on a little (should be no-brainer) issue that costs him nothing? What about when a MAJOR LEAGUE issue comes along? He throws a tantrum and wins that too? And...no sex until this is worked out. Not for punishmnent, but because I'd rather keep you alive. Most likely he has had (as most of us) risky sex and he's a little scared to know the answer. I was too. But you shouldn't risk you life for his fear.
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stop having sex until he's tested and clean. your health is the main concern.
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Thank you for your input guys I'm so confused and scared about what to do. I have tried withholding sex from him, I lasted three weeks and then I was the one who gave in. Why doesn't he understand how important it is to know you're clean? If he refuses to go, it says a lot about his level of respect for me doesn't it? Does fear trump love?
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tell him to sack up before it falls off - - No P***y for the wussy
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If it is really important to you, you need to stick to your guns, NO SEX, and no giving in, LOL. Of course he has something you might also need to get tested.
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He MUST get tested. People have STD's EVERYDAY and don't know it. Just because he might of practiced safe sex doesn't mean he does not have anything. He should do this to reassure you.
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Ok girl he is just afraid that he has it. simply tell him you will still love him just the same if not more.
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Dump his ass !! Your body is your temple, have some respect for yourself. Any boy/man who had an ounce of respect for himself would get tested with or without you asking. Tell him to get his Bed Snake sorted !!!!
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He should have no problem getting tested for your peace of mind. The only problem I can see that he would have wit this is that he has something to hide. I would not have sex with him until he gets checked.
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make him get tested, or he ain't gettin' ANY.
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def stick to ur guns...and pants. say he's not getting anywhere with that 'wont go' attitude. no one 'knows' they're clean unless they dont sleep with anyone, its always really important to get checked out regularly, even when ur in a solid relationship. maybe he's a bit scared, so offer to go with him & get checked out urself as well =]
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Have only safer sex with him until he does. Just like you were doing before - right? RIGHT?
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Tell him you can't have any until you get tested!
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Why is this an issue? Unless you have a specific reason for wanting him to get checked then I can sympathise. The record of some tests remain on your medical history & do affect various insurance premiums etc & occupational health forms often have a box to ask if you've been tested for things. Perhaps he just doesn't want to invite this sort of trouble for no reason...... Are you getting tested?
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The world is full of potential boyfriends. Well, half-full, anyway.
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If he reallly loves you and respects you he will get tested. I asked my bf to do it before we started habing sex and he had no problem with it because he definitely respected me. You are putting your life in jeopardy when you have sex without knowing whether or not your partner is disease free. Don't be foolish, do you really want to take a chance that you may contract aides??
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He's scared of what he'll find out. It's an immortal struggle to get most guys to go to the doctor. If he says it's insulting, then he's a fucking prick at that. You can always get a lawyer to serve him I guess. Say his lack of compliance has jeopardized your health if you've already fucked.
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You should tell him that if he TRULY cares about your relationship AND you as an individual, then he should get tested at a reputable medical facility & provide you with verifiable proof that he's clean. Otherwise, You should tell him bye bye & find another boyfriend that TRULY cares about the health of you & your relationship. If he TRULY loves you, This shouldn’t be an issue to begin with. As the old saying goes, "Honesty is the best policy".
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Maybe he's a virgin and can prove it. Otherwise, every test imaginable is in order. And guys can get tested for HPV according to my doctor, but what is the treatment for guys? At least I would know and not be susceptible to cancer. If I was madly in love, maybe a condom forever. But generally no thanks to no test.
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No one "knows" that he or she is clean. There is no one to know. He gets tested or you drop him. No sex until you have his clean test in your hand. He should not be giving you this problem. He is not understanding or he is hiding something. TEST, YES!
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Maybe you should show your guy the worst case scenarios. Things such as a picture of stuff growing on someone's pecker. And say this could happen to you if you don't know that you have something. True he may be insulted thinking that you don't trust him. And he might just be a chicken about going to a clinic or doctor. Tell him he could have contracted something like chlamydia before you got together that shows no symptoms but can make you unable to have children in the future. There is also HPV that could eventually give "you" cancer. And last but not least have him read some of the answer's on AB.
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Yeah sounds like he definely trying to hide something and how would he know not all STDs give you symptoms so someone can have something for years and never know about it Give him a choice to either come clean about what he is trying to hide, go have a std check up together or you are prepared to have no sex/break up, what ever you feel is the best for your situation
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lol... this is Classic! Just tell him you love him and you would never want to make him do anything he doesn't want to do. Then, next time he tries to get some just ask if he got tested yet, and if he says no tell him your sorry but he should have already got that taken care of. Also go get yourself tested and let him see your clean and make it look like it's no big deal.
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I could understand his reluctance IF you’ve not been tested. But, As long as you yourself have been tested & If he truly loves you & wants to earn YOUR trust & respect, He’d get tested. Some want to make excuses for him, but if he truly loves you, He’d get tested to prove to you that you can trust him. You should tell this to him. It’s your health that’s at risk & since it’s such an issue for him, I’m suspicious of his reluctance. Good luck & God bless
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