Well, if you knew that their job was demanding to begin with and before you married them, then that's to be expected- to some degree. If however, they had time to court you and woo you into marriage and now feel that now that they have you, there is no need to bend overbackwards for your affection because now they take for granted that you will always be waiting at the house, I would say talk to them about it one on one. It might have to be once they make it home or go up to the job and suggest that you go out to dinner instead of heading straight to the house. Think about what you're going to say before you say it and consider his feelings as well as the point you're conveying to him. And please, don't sound like a wimp. Men can appreciate you being straightforward and not complicated and the talk will be all for naught if you get overly emotional.

This needs to be discussed. My father was also very work-centric. He wanted to make sure we had selected opportunities that he didn't have when he was growing up. Also, I think he felt obligated to provide financial security for the family, even though my Mom was a teacher with a 4 yr Education degree.

I have learned to just pack up the kids and take them on vacation myself. We don't wait for him to make our plans. We make our plans and if he can join us great, but I don't hold my breath. I'm not going to stop living just because he wants to work all the time. Don't get me wrong, I LOVE my husband, but life isn't all about work and it took me a while to realize that it was easier for me to change MY attitude than to try and change HIS.

That makes just one of you thinking about family first and also makes your job that much more difficult to do by yourself. I think you know what to do already.

My S/O and I own our own business and he also works outside of the home. It is beyond aggravating that he is forever working and it is the cause of at least 75% of our arguments, but I have learned that he feels he is doing what is best for his family. I also have a 4 year old and believe me when I tell you, my son KNOWS that if the phone rings it may be a customer and he needs to talk quietly and leave whichever one of us is on the phone alone. It is possible to teach a 4 year old that.

I would say do not give up on finding a job that pays decently. some jobs are better approached via a temporary agency. They can do the work for you- they will already know your work availability and then you can focus on other things like- your marriage.It sounds like there is a bit of hostility there- with regards to your husband's long work schedule but you too have also put in long hours- raising little ones or a little one can consume an entire day. I would say cook your husband his favorite meal, keep the house clean, and if you aren't affiliated with a faith based group, start checking out churches in your area. Even if he doesn't attend, you might want to consider the esteem boost that you will get and the networking with other moms in similar situations such as yourself. You are of value and don't allow this current situation to get you down- Keep the communication open with your husband and don't forget to always tell him that you love him- go for broke! And however way it turns out, you will know that you've done everything in your power towards a successful marriage. We know that it takes two to tango so in the meanwhile, don't forget about your feelings in the process. Oh, I looked on Yahoo! Jobs and United Health in FL is hiring for Customer Service Reps. Maybe you should check them out. Best Wishes for you and your family.

I'm sorry, but there does come a time to live a little. My BF and I take time out for each other because we want to, otherwise we both could work all the time. Your husband sounds like my brother and sister-in-law. They are having problems with the same thing. He needs to quit blaming you for HIS unhappiness.

Get a hobby of your own or a job for yourself. That is the American way these days unfortunately.

Sorry to see you're still having problems, Snakelover. No more movement of the sitcom, then? :)

tell them they need to get their head out of their ass and stop placing you and the family at the bottom of their priority list!

For me...not well. First time ended in a divorce after 22 years of knowing her and the current girlfriend is on the outs after three years of dating. I take the ultimatum approach which apparently doesn't work.