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What is the best way to quit smoking? I would add my advice as definitely psychologically dramatic and (hopefully) damaging enough to get you to quit! First, no one has been VERBALLY able to 'tell you why you should quit. I have stood in your shoes. I was just like you. This is why I submit, you have to EXPERIENCE the 'why to quit' in a different way. I pray I can do this for you. Truth is ... I WANT TO SCARE YOU. I smoked...

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What are some helpful tips to quit smoking? After reading 'TenSixths' informative response, I would add my advice as definitely psychologically dramatic and (hopefully) damaging enough to get you to quit! First, no one has been VERBALLY able to 'tell you why you should quit. I have stood in your shoes. I was just like you. This is why I submit, you have to EXPERIENCE the 'why to quit' in a different way. I pray I can do this for...

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John Lennon wrote a song called "Happiness is a warm Gun" a parody of the obsession with guns.If that is the case ,where exactly is the happiness in a deadly weapon? I'm of John Lennon's generation. I believe this song was NOT praising guns, but the [cough-cough] 'gun' between his pants! More, if 'you knew' anything about John Lennon he was absolutely against guns.

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am going on a first date with a guy .... should i wear a dress with allot of cleavage(is that too skanky) or a dress with a scarf? plzz help My question is: 'What impression do YOU want to make?' I think the answer is here.

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Do atheists fear God, so try to avoid God? http://blogs.wsj.com/speakeasy/2010/12/19/a-holiday-message-from-ricky-gervais-why-im-an-atheist/ Just like 'DA BEN DAN' below ... WHAT is your POINT??!!!

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Im going on a cruise and have purchased a beverage plan, can I sneek some of the drinks to my wife?? How do they keep track?? I believe this is just plain silly to think this way. 'Stealing' IS stealing, no matter who, what, when or where! Second, YOU and SHE would know! After all buddy, YOU have to live with yourself, your conscious and your swing-back-at-ya-karma. Forgetaboutit!

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im scared to death of going on a cruise I was a little too ... BEFORE I went! Now? I am an avid, OH MY GAWD, it's fantastic cruiser.

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Has anyone taken a cruise to Alaska? Would you recommend it and when should we go and from where? Alaska cruising is fantastic! There are plenty of 'landings' and 'events' you may sign up for (the side-trips cost money). Your ship pretty much 'sails' at night between towns and cities. Extras? We took a train ride ... went to a salmon bake ... went to a glacier (a do not miss)! Carnival SPIRIT treated us like royalty! By the way, make sure to get a cabin WITH a balcony. No kidding,...

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What has been your favourite book, film and music of 2010? Book: 'The Help' 3 Movies: 'Mao's Last Dancer' ... 'The King's Speech' ... '127 Hours' Music: Rediscovering classical Gershwin

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If you had to give 3 things to charity what would you give? TIME ... TIME ... TIME!!! http://www.helpfromhome.org/links-goodcauses-playgames.htm

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Do you consider people who don't donate to charity (and can afford it) selfish? What about cold hearted? You assume some 'givens' here. Perhaps you haven't thought your question through? 1. It is absolutely none of our individual business what others do with their money! 2. YOU wouldn't want someone to arrive at your doorstep, take a look at your own personal finances and make a (reasonable) assumption YOU are 'more wealthy' than 99% of most of the known world and 'should' donate 'more'. If...

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Im 14. when i grow up, i know it is farfetched, but i really want to be an actress on a sitcom. i know that i want the fame and everything, but how do i figure out if i want to be in it for the fame? [In March, 2008, I answered a very similar question here on AB] = Your question is really quite rational. Of course there is an endorphin thrill from performing, especially before a live audience. I know, I've been there many times. Because of a 35 year career experience in theater and film, plus having my own professional teaching studio, I offer the following comments and suggestions: Each...

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I have a serious problem. Whenever I'm acting, I have a tendency to grin semi-unconsciously. How do I stop it? Are you just starting out? Have you taken class? Simply, it may be that you are not thoroughly focused on your immediate Objective with another actor or within a scene. What are you physically doing to attempt to get what you want?

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When we search for the answer to a problem, we gain insight in what causes our problem. But how do you use it to overcome or work around it? What a sincere guy you appear to be! Thanks for submitting your question! Let me first share beloved and I have been together for 28 years. We somewhat jokingly confess we feel we are still on our honeymoon. No kidding. I propose to offer this information to you because 'knowing' and 'DOING' within a relationship may be two very different things, aren't they? Some history: both had many...

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how do you get rid of gilt? What are you feeling guilty over? This may be key to your process of understanding what to do. [P.S. 'gilt' is a metal covering]

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Which forms of entertainment would you enjoy if televisions, phones and the Internet ceased to exist today? Sex with beloved. Read. Swim in the ocean. Painting watercolors. Chef'ing. Gardening. Kids. OOh wait. That exists today. Hurray!

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I really like him, is there a way to bring down my feelings? Is your question he isn't on the same page ... is with someone else ... isn't into you ... doesn't even know you? Okay. The shortest answers to your question may be: • create distance and keep it • let time pass by doing really encouraging and wonderful things for yourself. or do both of the above.

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I AM NOW AN EXPERT. Are you happy for me? xD Absolutely! Congratulations! That is, IF you really, really like the point system. It took me a while to get over it actually. I now just enjoy when I'm here.

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I AM NOW AN EXPERT. Are you happy for me? xD Absolutely! Congratulations!

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where can you buy the whole nutmeg seed? www.savoryspiceshop.com The Best!

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I love my best friend and confessed my feelings to her but she won't leave her boyfriend for me. We are still good friends. What should i do next, Wait for her or move on.I've tried a lot of times to move on but i just could'nt cuz i really love her alot Let's just imagine for a moment the girl 'you have feelings for,' has great character, a really kind heart and a strong mind. (Some of the reasons you are best friends, right??!!) If these characteristics are true -- and why you find her so attractive -- do you imagine a woman of that character would LEAVE someone 'just for' someone else? Friendship, commitment and love take true effort. My...

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what are some ways that a mirror can lie? A mirror is a mirror is a mirror. Meaning? Its only a 'thing.' It, as an object cannot 'do' anything ... but be 'it.' Therefore, it is incapable of lie or truth for that matter. The emotionally-connected, intellectual brain has the PRIVILEGE of deciding exactly what it WANTS TO feel. It turns out you may consciously direct your attention to any choice which allows you to BE the person you...

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What colors would compliment Sage green? Are you 'just' doing a Fall motif and plan to change the decor in Spring, by season?? If you have enough storage space for seasonal ideas -- and storage for all the 'stuff' which belongs to each group, it's really a fun way to keep rooms fresh looking. Of course, seasonal flowers and foliage do exactly the same thing without the expense. Moving furniture around in new groupings are another...

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Need to pick cushions which are in contrast with my yellow colour walls , where do I shop for them ?? Have you asked yourself which style your furnishing are 'modeling?' Are you traditional, western, retro, contemporary, country French, etc.? We got TONS of ideas [for our remodel] from cutting out pictures from magazines which 'related' to the look were were trying to accomplish overall in our home. All types of different magazines are resources, believe me! I found a perfect-for-us...

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why are most people so mean now a days? It seems like there are more hateful rude people now then nice people. Indulge me for a moment, please: Our conscientious decision to enter a reaction toward [inappropriate] people with empathic perception, and consequential action, requires a profound inner strength of character and a concrete individual design to 'rise above' those people who act out with whatever particular brand of distress or offense they may offer. This could be as simple as someone...

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What should i wear as a costume for being a messenger in a play? Send me the title of the play if you can ... This would give me a better view of production values • Is the play going to presented 'realistic' or does the piece veer to be staged into another look, i.g. imagine Shakespeare's "Merchant Of Venice" staged in a 'ghetto' or in a circus environment style. • Is the messenger's outfit the same throughout or does [the character] change...

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What's the best film about war that you've ever seen? 'The Best Years Of Our Lives' * * * *

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What famous Actor was a producer for the movie "One Flew Over The Cuckoos Nest"? Yes, Michael Douglas was the producer. Here are other interesting bits, which I knew before finding this on the web: Opened 1963 on Broadway with KIRK Douglas (Michael was a boy). Kirk bought the original rights of the play from Ken Kesey so he could produce the play into film. Kirk held onto it for fifteen years, and then decided to give it as a birthday gift to his son, Michael. ...

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I have a spicy salsa that I want to see about bottling and selling. What should my first step be? I have absolutely NO idea where to start. I have no expertise in this area, but if I were 'to begin,' perhaps these are some of the steps I would take: • Take my salsa to as many restaurants in my area. Ask the Executive Chef to taste it and evaluate it, adding their 'notes' for improvement. (You can take this last as serious as you wish. • Send the salsa (or deliver it) to all of the food critics in your area, with a...

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I have a spicy salsa that I want to see about bottling and selling. What should my first step be? I have absolutely NO idea where to start. I have no expertise in this area, but if I were 'to begin,' perhaps these are some of the steps I would take: • Take my salsa to as many restaurants in my area. Ask the Executive Chef to taste it and evaluate it, adding their 'notes' for improvement. (You can take this last as serious as you wish. • Send the salsa (or deliver it) to all of the food critics of local newspapers in...

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is spanking abuse? In order for you and your mother to 'move on' to other forms of communication, you could talk with Mom or write Mom a letter, letting her know what you experienced now that you are a mid-teen? Don't make her the 'bad' mother -- she'll just get defensive and think you are being a brat! Instead, communicate with Mom in a way that shares how much she has contributed to your growth and successful...

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Why is it that my dad always pulls me down whenever I try and do something good with my life he's changed so much HELP ! There may be a couple of considerations here, eh? You mentioned, '... he's changed so much!' Can you track back to when Dad was 'his old self?' What happened to influence a possible change in him? Perhaps Dad is ill (physically or emotionally) -- perhaps not sharing this with the family -- as a bright and loving 'child' you may have to not take what he is SAYING to you so personally, IF...

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As a rule, will there always be an exception? All answers lay outside fixed patterns. (Bruce Lee)

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How often is what you do because of "obligation" rather than what you really want to do? This is really a thought provoking question. In my mind I believe there are multiple layers that address possible answers. One's solution can be measured by a person's scale of value, whether intuitive or learned. There is a code of ethics in business. There is a code of ethics in religion, as well as a code of ethics in the military. Each family has a certain code of ethics. And, most...

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I need some help! My sister is totally worthless, how do I get her motivated? See description. First, stop already with the guilt! I don't know what your family background is, but you know -- as a responsible adult yourself -- there is literally no free lunch anywhere! It isn't that it 'isn't fair,' its that Life is a beautiful challenge to greet and meet with the best each of us has to offer! NO EXCEPTIONS! It would seem to me that since your sister is 18 it is time for all of YOU...

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How do you react when someone is rude to you? Rude to ME??? I mean, ME (as in myself-and-I)?!!! I am probably the (cough-cough) nicest, sweetness, gull-durn-it, no kidding, I-just-luv-everyone-kind of person ... well,CRAP! My deal is this: someone who is rude to me doesn't deserve my precious, hard-earned energy ... not my time of day, not even a how-de-doo, nor a comment, not even a mooning pants-pull! These folks, God bless 'em,...

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Have you seen the Oscar winning Japanese film 'Departures?' What did you experience? Yes ... a huge ... BIG .. 'OH YES!' Several months ago, a friend recommended to beloved and I to go see it! You know? It is absolutely amazing to both of us that more people are unaware of this film ... and others like it. Question is, "How to get the word out to people who don't go to 'art' films?" Hardly one, eh? So touching!!! Universal. Provoking! Ohmygawd, so moving, so amazing,...

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What do you think of my drawings?? http://www.facebook.com/home.php?ref=logo#/album.php?aid=25144&id=751308240 Share your answer...

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What do you think of my drawings?? http://www.facebook.com/home.php?ref=logo#/album.php?aid=25144&id=751308240 You know these are very good, right? So ... what is the REAL question here?

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How does one tell a married man who persistently makes sexual innuendos to one, go away you moron? Tell him to cease and desist or you'll call his wife.

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How do you walk away from an argument instead of losing your temper? First, 'losing one's temper' should not be viewed simply! Usually, outside of public debate arenas I mean, this would be an emotionally charged situation. Probably for both, a set-up for failure! In other words, not fair to my intimate nor would it be fair to me, eh? To my way of thinking, a charged and angry stance is an emotional state that should be very, very rare. In any...

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What is the nicest thing you can do with your hands? Pinkie-finger only dance with a friend who is permanently disabled! I love doing this with her.

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I added too many friends on facebook and got a block put on. Has this ever happened to anyone else? How long did it last? WAY WAY tooooo many. How did you 'block' them? I don't know about this.

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Do you find yourself on the laptop or computer way too much? I just typed this ... this morning! Blinking, the icon waited for just a short entry. Any entry, 'it' didn't care. Now, I was aware I had been staring stupidly at that hypnotic pulse, just realizing then what had been bothering me for a very long time. In this, our advancing age of connection, we have lost contact. Calls are now fewer. Little, if any, comes our way of a...

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Any parents out there who have lost a child and can bare the pain i lost 2 children and i miss them alot I POSTED THIS MESSAGE TO ANOTHER WHO HAD LOST THEIR CHILD: We, parents who have lost children, belong to a very special "club." The only membership fee is the unfortunate event of losing a beloved child. Others cannot belong. It is not that others are unloving or uncaring. There is just no way a person can completely understand without having had the experience. I have lost two...

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Why do men have an easier time not showing their feelings than women? Frankly, I believe most men are quite easy to 'read,' so one can intuit a 'feeling.' Mostly, I think that if we women would just shut-up long enough to SENSE what is going on with our men, they would be quite transparent. Most women are talkers and want to talk endlessly about the multitude of variations 'on a theme.' (We women CAN kick a horse to death --...

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What would be one major difference in the world, Had nobody invented the wheel? We WOULDN'T be writing on AnswerBag.

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Do you ever take the time to stop and admire a beautiful sunset? We are privileged to receive sunrise AND sunset every day just out our windows (floor to ceiling) and the sun goes down into that fabulous Pacific Ocean. Oh my!!! This IS heaven.

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YEA!!! His lordship just became a SAGE!!! Congratulations! Will each of you join the party and congratulate him upon making SAGE? Hurray today, we all bow down To His Lordship, a friend we've found Here's one of my paintings for you! 'Towards A Healing Heart!" (hope this uploads)

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What's something YOU always get from the grocery store? Joy from creating 'anonymous conversations' with other people!

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A straightforward question deserves an undemanding rejoinder unless expounded upon in the inquiry. The resolutions explanation comes from the origin during the inquisitorial process in the sophisticated progression of the psyche's mind. True of False? It is very interesting you seem to prefer complication.

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My 6yr old daughter kicked my husband and locked herself in the bathroom for half and hour. When he put her in corner time she just screamed and ran round the house. My husband spanked her for ten minutes with his HAND. Was he right to do it that way? All of you might find interesting and healthful solutions at this site; http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&source=hp&q=supernanny+full+episodes&aq=3&oq=Supernanny&aqi=g10

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Would you ever go and see a marriage counselor? After reading the answers here I find it interesting many assume an outside 'help-mate' is only sought when there is conflict. A relationship and/or marriage does not have to be 'in trouble' to find unbiased assistance and individual support for a partnership within a relationship. Frankly, we believe in (and practice) having a a third-party confidant. It is important...

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What's something YOU always get from the grocery store? LESS money!

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I been married for 20 yrs recently i texted a guy pic of my vag.I think i humiliated my self,i almost see him everyday.I dont know what to do.Do you think he'll sell me out First ... ask yourself WHY the hell you did this. Maybe the answer to that will guide you to not only a solution but to bigger issues that need to be dealt with.

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So- i caught my girlfriend talking to a guy- she says hes only a friend. what would you say? "im sorry Kyle. i just cant lie to you. but i will always love you..as long as you love me too. Kyle...i dont want you to leave me alone." what would you say? NO ONE should ever, ever, ever want 'to control' their mate. Ever. = The fastest way for them to want to flee, rightfully so since none of us want's to feel 'in constraint.' We DO live in a country of freedom. You wouldn't want yours taken away! nbsp; 1. If you are secure in your OWN worth you will rejoice that others find your mate worthy of attention,...

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Why did 18th and 19th century solders pose for portraits with their right hand inside their outer uniform coat, over their solar plexus? I'd guess that it was some sort of 'pledge position.' After all that right hand IS over their hearts, eh?

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"AIEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!" Screeeeeeeeeeeeech... thump thump! What just happened!? Beloved loved me one more day!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Is there any time of day when it's just wrong to eat a donut? On the toilet?

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So its been about 5 or 6 months since i have called in sick and now i have something kinda important on thursday. should i feel bad for calling in sick? Why do you have to lie? Why not just tell them that this event has come up and you ARE going to attend. Be confident, you've most likely earned it.

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What's a good title for a book where the main theme is, "your past has come back to haunt you" RUNNING BACKWARD!

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What do you do if you feel your s/o is being distant or avoiding you? I literally addressed this question in an answer to a previous question along those lines. Check it out: http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/1159651

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Monday (Aug 3rd) I go for a sit down in the office that I've interviewed at to see if I fit the position...what are some things I can do or say to ensure I shine brightly enough to be hired? Help! Sorry, I came in on this one late ... I've been off-line with AB for months; I was very ill! So dear ... how did the interview go? Did you get the job?

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If the interviewer told me that I should hear back from her by Monday (today) about the position- is it unprofessional to call tomorrow if I don't hear anything today? She said even if I don't get hired they'll call... I believe it is not necessarily the question of when to call but HOW to call. In other words the professional attitude and tone with which any call is made to another professional is key. In my view both 'sides' are equal. 'You' are viewing what would be in your best interest for employment as much as you viewing 'them' and their ability to screen what...

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I seem to have been on 54 for an ice age. Does anyone else get bored and dispondent when they don't seem to be moving up the Answerbag ladder? I dunno. Seems like you'd be a lot better off by listening to Rosie's comment above (she's a real gem, by the way). Mine? Years ago I KNEW I had gotten somewhere on this site by completely and totally forgetting about the rating system and enjoying the communication between questions, answers and, more than anything, getting to know the 'players.',

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Other than cucumbers, is there anything you enjoy eating that is pickled? Kimchee! After moving to Honolulu, beloved and I were introduced to many 'exotic' dishes that we had yet to try, even though he and I are global food fans. Kimchee is a pickled cabbage dish from Korea. It has a wonderful bite to it, probably from the red peppers traditionally found in it. If I'm not mistaken the cabbage is salted and weighed down for five weeks or more!! ...

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What little steps do you take to save more money? • Once every three months -- basically at Season's change -- my girlfriends and I have a 'Clothes Swap Party.' We pull all the stuff from our closets that either we're sick of ... never wear ... outgrown ... and literally swap clothes with each other. Plus its a grand way to get together and laugh at ourselves (and each other) for some of the stupid purchases...

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What kind of gift would you get someone who you just started dating AGAIN? A calendar!

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How could I ask for more? You didn't really define what it was 'more' of that you wanted or needed. I address your question only if you are asking for more things specifically. I tend to think this is not what you meant, but maybe ... just maybe ... you will get another idea from what IS presented here on your behalf: Its an interesting idea you've come to my friend. May I offer a couple of...

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What is your key to a happy life? Absolutely enjoying the success of others!

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I have several friends with whom we usually exchange gifts with at Christmas...this year I wanted to donate to local food pantry in their name instead. Do I send a card telling them this or what? Send them a card with something like this: Having had another grateful year with you and the privilege of being able to call you friend ... in your honor, I have donated [ ] to [ ] charity. May we all continue to share laughter, gratitude for the finer things in life and remember peace and goodwill toward all! (Thank you for your inspiration!) [your name]

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Would you volunteer your time to sit by a dying person's side while they passed away, so they wouldn't feel all alone? YES!! And, I am experienced! Allow me to share an experience with you... One of the 'best' times I've had in my life ... well, one of the most MEMORABLE of many ... was having the literal pleasure (and heartache) of attending a fabulous man who in his eighties was 'on his way' ,,, he was very ill. I literally lived in their home for over a month. He and his...

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What is the oddest piece of trivia you know? Everyone dies but no one knows when it happens to them!

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What is a good reply if an interviewer for a job says you seem to be overqualified for the job, but you want it anyway? Couple of suggestions: • Have a very clear view of why you really 'want it anyway.' There is a passion in this statement if its not about the salary. Discover what this is for you personally and you may even practice explaining it before doing so in front of an interviewer. • Never lie: this always catches up to you when you least expect it. ...

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For those who are proud of their ethnicity, race, or anything else you were born with... why, exactly, are you proud of this? What about it makes you proud? (yes I am going to answer my question because I am annoying this way) What I am actually incredibly 'proud' of is ... human... diversity! There is, almost undeniably, a certain protectionism when talking about one's specific ethnicity, isn't there? After all, its what we know; what we were born into. So, maybe the first demonstration of human elitism comes from that familiarity, a certain 'following' grasp of secure acquaintance....

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Will you ever stop smoking? Most likely, dear friend, you will not listen to me. Its that way with smokers. I know, I was one of them for fifty years. Last year I was diagnosed with horrid lung cancer. Consequently I had part of my right lung removed. A large part. NOTHING ... but NOTHING is worth lung cancer. There is absolutely NO PAIN like it. Not only do I have a fifteen inch incision under my arm -- a...

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I've been coughing up phlegm for over a month now. Does anyone knows what this could possibly be? ps, been smoking for 33 of my 42 yrs on this earth. I know it's probably the worst case scenario but hopeful it could be fixed. LOL Most likely, dear friend, you will not listen to me. Its that way with smokers. I know, I was one of them for fifty years. Last year I was diagnosed with lung cancer. Consequently I had the top uppermost portion of my right lung removed. NOTHING ... but NOTHING is worth lung cancer. There is absolutely NO PAIN like it. I will NEVER be 'the same.' Its not 'just'...

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How can I get myself to stop crossing my legs at the knee? Is there any way to stop this habit? What's the prob, Anubis? [Showin' too much??]

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If someone has a habit of taking too many things seriously, how can he change his habit? Just for fun? Here, try these: Not everything is really equal, see? = • On the left side of a sheet of paper, make a list of the FIVE most important concerns you have right now. Now, grade those five, separating them into 'most' to 'least' by giving them each a number. Say, #1 is very serious; #2 is serious; #3 is mostly serious; #4 kind of serious and #5 not...

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Who's your favorite crime fighter? Those guys and gals ... just down the street ... who wear police department badges, those that day-in-day-out protect our neighborhoods, protect as best can all of us, doing the 'stuff' none of us want to do but are endearingly grateful for. These are our heros and s/heros!

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Have you ever met with a financial advisor? Is it worth seeing one? KNOWLEDGE ... is always a good thing. And seeking an opinion is simply gathering INFORMATION about how it relates to you and your own personal position. As 'information' you then can do with it whatever you wish. I'd say, go for it. It can't harm you and -- if my intuition is correct -- it will help plan your next steps, relieving much of your financial anxiety.

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Am I the only one who is afraid of money? Not having enough of it, not spending it right, debt, etc....this is scary stuff. I'll preface my comments with some background: Both beloved and I, separately, came from very meager backgrounds. So meager that he milked the family cow every day, while I, at ten, knew how to de-feather a newly strangled chicken by plunging it into boiling water, the easier to pluck. He tended goats. I tended the perpetual stock pot on the stove. He picked eggs from the coop...

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What are your secrets for getting go? • Clinging to solutions that don't work creates future failure. • Letting go of who I think I am may assist seeing these are one in the same (I may be the problem. That's okay, I can admit this and change MY behavior!) • Letting go of who I don't think I am and having the courage to leave it at that. • Its better to understand than to achieve in...

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What would you rather get in a card, Cash or a lottery ticket? Well ... I know I'm not really answering the EXACT question ... but I'd always like to receive words of affection and encouragement. I am a real sucker for ... LOVE ... and you can take that to the bank! HA!

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Which act is the highest level of art? Writing, directing films, painting, sculpting, photography or other? This is really a provocative question, isn't it? I really treasure all questions requiring more than a little deep personal thought. 'Thinking' is, indeed, a very good thing. These kinds of inquiries touch the moments that become one of the better elements here in AnswerBag. In our ability to share, we observe, perceive, conceive and maybe even understand our human...

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Are your friends more needy than you are with them? i have a friend who calls me every morning at work just to talk about nothing, sometimes i just don't answer the phone. Please, allow me first to state empathetically I believe (and hopefully practice) empathy toward all people. (There are exceptions which I discuss later in this essay.) One can never be quite sure what another has gone through or may be going through nor do we gain anything personally by being too harsh about 'how' a person 'should act' in friendship. Sometimes our own...

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Are you, no matter what (pretty much), able to demonstrate a positive attitude at least once a day? If so, how? Well, if I could I would make way-cool little badges for people who ... 'no matter what' ... AT LEAST ... attempt to put crazy-hard Life things in perspective I would, happily. Truth is, not everything is 'drama,' not everything is 'hard.' It amazes me sometimes how some folks just walk through their life space and time thinking and behaving as if everything IS...

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What was the last thing someone told to you that made you feel amazing? Well, about a month ago, over our traditional Sunday morning breakfast out, beloved said to me: "You know M? You have been so incredibly brave this year! I am so proud of you! You have been as positive as anyone could possibly attempt to be, given the year you have gone through, what with your lung cancer diagnosis, your subsequent lung surgery and removal, its very real trauma and...

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What did that crabby old man say to you? "Thank you for reminding me that even an old crab like me can have a friend like you!'

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Do you have a 'vanity' license plate? What are the letters on it? Beloved's: NVRBTR Mine says: UNMEBB

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Please join me in wishing Meg a very happy birthday.. she seems to think its craptastic having a 30th!! lol.. will you help me cheer her up?? HAPPY 30TH MEG!! XXXX “Birth Day Candle Light” © MMoon May the flame of this day light your heart and spirit May its haloed heat rays warm and comfort you May its sparks at play ignite your mind and ideas May its circular glowing ballet dance friendship around you May expanding light give security within as an eternal spirit flame May our effortless pledge be an oath of...

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What are some of the more subtle signs that someone is getting uncomfortable with you? Absolutely interesting question! Thanks for that great thinking on your part. Perhaps one pre-condition for an answer would be to ask 'in what situation?' I agree with the others here regarding general indicators, loss of eye contact, fidgeting, crossed legs (no kidding: this may be considered as a standard signal of shutting down. When one unconsciously crosses their legs,...

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My dear friend 'Lippycow jetpacking for Nelson' has finally made it to GURU!!! Lets get together and wish her congratulations and have a fabulous party.. are you with me? You will darling. Just remember love and romance takes 'effort.' No thing ... no one ... is more important than that. Check out my answer here: http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/358123

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And on the dark, dark web, there was a dark, dark website. And on this dark, dark website there was a dark, dark question. And in this dark, dark question there was a dark, dark answer. And in this dark, dark answer there was... what? ... a dark, dark hallway which lead to a thinly painted dark, dark line pointing to a dark, dark stairwell going up to a dark, dark attic with nary a dark, dark string to pull so one's own dark, darkness could be lit from within.

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I got the job! (Sales position at an employment agency) Are you as excited as I am? Ooooooooo Jakey is the Best, is the best He'll now wear a suit and a way cool vest He's happy to write, proofread and see All those Job Seekers coming to be One in the workforce in a time nearby On his island with an ocean, a surf-side Now, I'm no poet as you can see but I'm a'grinning for our friend HERE ON AB!!! You GO, Jake! Sooooo happy FOR you!

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What is the most horrendous thing that has ever happened to you? I can assure you I KNOW something 'horrendous' has happened to everyone. Yes of course, to me too. See, the deal is I was going to write a list of my own personal 'horrendous-nesses' but then a couple of 'something's' just kinda popped into my head. May I share them here as sub-questions? These, my something's are: 1. Is their REAL fruit in...

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What makes a person unattractive to you? Plain and simple .... MEANNESS!

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My dear friend 'Lippycow jetpacking for Nelson' has finally made it to GURU!!! Lets get together and wish her congratulations and have a fabulous party.. are you with me? HAPPY DANCE FOR ALL!!! CONGRATULATIONS 'LIPPY!!!!!'

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What's the difference between the willies, the heebie-jeebies, and the creeps? spelling

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How do you define happiness? The personal energy that arises and is put forth from cooperation.

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What will it take to persuade you to take this job? Enough money to make my own decisions.

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What type of question is an interviewer allowed to ask? ANYTHING. I am adult and life-wise enough to know how to answer.

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What courses could you teach here? • Peak Performance • Theater & Film Acting and Directing • Water Aerobics • Watercolor • Health Care Management ~ The Responsibility Of The Patient • Cooking 'Globally'

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What would be some really lame Halloween treats? (Eg, one stick of gum, a pencil...) [Don't think this really falls into the 'lame' catagory] =Husband would answer the door in a god-awful, scarry mask. I would literally take a picture of the terrified kid with a Poloroid and hand it to them for keeps (or their parent). Beloved and I did this for a gadzillion years and it was a total hoot! The kids ALWAYS came back year after year!

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How can you let your friends know how much they mean to you if you are so far away? Well, I'm a firm believer and practitioner friendship needs, requires and just plain loves EFFORT. For over twenty years I've drawn, colors and/or painted the OUTSIDE of envelopes going to family and pals by mail*. The drawing always has something to do with what they are especially into or celebrates a certain event like Christmas, a birthday, or even Halloween. At other times...

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Why didn't you finish your dissertation sooner? I was busy writing an early draft-'Workbook' for my sole owned and independently=held workshops for a paid-for Masters Class in Theater/Film directing and acting. Only accepting working professionals after THEIR two week audition, these Master Classes had an almost two-year wait list 'to get in' (with deposit) and members who traveled & crossed national and...

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How can I stop worrying about the results of this test, I don't want my family or boyfriend to see how upset I am, but cancer is upsetting for anyone. Any way to just chill? I have to wait until Oct. 31 for the test... Some here often well-meaning suggestions. However, WARNING! Be very, very careful about using any 'alternative' medicine. Do THOROUGH research on both sides of the coined submissions; weigh your options; if you have 'time,' get double, triple medical opinions on your actual condition, physicality and mental state; and lastly, talk with REAL people who have had longer...

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I am smoking from age 13 and now its been 8 years wht are my chancwes of a lung cancer? It is said that 85% of ALL lung cancers are caused from smoking! Smoking is THE MOST addictive 'drug' right next to heroine and crack cocaine. I smoked for 50 years. Got cancer, had part of a lung removed, still recovering, still in horrific pain. YOU DO NOT WANT to even be close to 'catching' this unbelievable PREVENTIVE disease. There is nothing, nothing, nothing...

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What do you have trouble accepting? That with all the multitude of life challenges I've risen above that it may be this year's cancer surgery that will never allow me to REALLY pick myself up once again and be 'the same.'

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How can I stop worrying about the results of this test, I don't want my family or boyfriend to see how upset I am, but cancer is upsetting for anyone. Any way to just chill? I have to wait until Oct. 31 for the test... As someone who has had cancer in her life, a question I must ask is: what was the test and what was the explanation for why you have to wait? Okay. Now, for arguments sake, let's say the person 'waiting' is not you but either your literal boyfriend, your mom, your dad or a close sibling. Would you think it correct of them not to share their health concerns with you? I...

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I recently found out that a distant friend of mine is in a coma because she fell suddenly and severely hit her head. Could those of you who believe in prayer send some positive vibrations her way? Personally, I hold all as friends in kind. I continually pray for all, especially those who face immediate challenge. I light a candle that all may find their way in the darkness ... knowing ... always ... they too are loved and touched by loyal kindness!

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In one word, how would you describe god? Nature

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What do you consider necessary to be called "rich" Breathing!

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Have you seen the show "Tabitha's Salon Take Over"? Is it crazy of me to want a show like this about hospitals and medical offices instead of salons? Hey! What a great idea! Why don't you submit this to one of the networks?

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Does anyone else get bored of being bored? This is an interesting question ... what defines 'bored' for you? The fact that you at least partially spend some time online at this site implies that you are creative enough to wile away some of your time by being curious.

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Does art have boundaries? Another viewpoint other than the one I've already posted here about the word 'boundaries' [in art]. Since I'm personally a professional watercolorist (painter) its been an interesting journey to witness the boundaries non-artists would 'just love' to place on the making (and showing) of fine art, but within my own arts community it drives me absolutely nuts...

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Does art have boundaries? Mmmmmmm. Boundaries on art function, boundaries within arts production or boundaries of shown art and its viewers or methods of making it? Several angles are presented by this simple query, see? There are many things in life to which many [other] people would like to place boundaries and limitations on ... one of these things is, indeed, art. But this is certainly a subjective wish on...

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If I asked you to pick me up something to eat, knowing I wouldn't be home in hours, & offer to pay you when I do arrive, but you carelessly leave it out causing the food to spoil, am I obligated to pay you for the meal I could not eat? This may not be a question of how much the FOOD cost ... but how much value the friendship has in the long run. Now that, in my view ... is PRICELESS. Personally, I would pay up for the food on either end of this debate actually since both sides have emotional intelligence and logical justifications. However, I also believe that some folks might get caught up in the minutiae, ending up...

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Are you still running against the wind? Sometimes running AGAINST something, including the wind, can make one stronger. May the question, then, be 'which wind' determines idiotic nonfunctional and non-rewarding repetition of effort and/or which wind determines the building of personal character and physical stamina?

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How can I just let you walk away, just let you leave without a trace? Before I make a suggestion ... may I ask why you might consider doing this 'for real?'

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Do you do 'Aqua-aerobics?' If so, do you exercise in a pool or in the ocean? I am not only a HUGE fan of Aqua-Aerobics but also, from years of experience, have found that Aqua Therapy (in a pool) is by far the greatest way to recover from a slew of different kinds of surgery, including but not limited to (me) = five separate knee surgeries, including the last, a complete reconstruction and ... my latest ... recovering from lung surgery to remove a malignant cancer in...

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Is there really a pot of gold at the end of a rainbow?? or just a saying made by the irish? RAINBOW WOMAN © M. Moon 2008 There once was a woman whose eyes were like prisms People could hear her rainbow sonnet She laughed so much like crystal it was clear Glistening of varied shimmering spheres she sang spreading o’er the land lucky droplets of oooo’s and ahhhhh’s (It was true very few others knew exactly how to speak rainbow) she did ...

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What does the ocean mean to you? I have always called the ocean 'Mother,' no kidding. Fortunate enough to live very, very near it and be in it every day. Plus three of my loved ones who have passed are 'out there.'

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Has anyone else felt a great disturbance in the Force recently? Like an enormous group of voices crying out, then suddenly silenced? Yes, Jack! 'A' force has been mightily shaken ... but 'THE' force is strong as ever! Although I am about to literally leave for our son's wedding in Colombia ~~ May 8 - 24, 2008 ~~ and will be off-line ... I will be leaving AB after I return! I want to maturely weigh this decision since I have been a member here for thousands upon thousands of hours and really...

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Has anyone seen the movie Iron man and is it better than spiderman? This movie is absolutely brilliant for tons of reasons = four stars!**** : • First and foremost, the STORY line is excellent, following clear rules of 'beginning, middle and end' of any great story; the arc is terrific. • In some ways, an 'ensemble' is hard to cast, even if the characters are all well drawn with multiple layers. This cast of actors...

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I'm taking a plane from America to Mexico, can I take shaving cream + my razor on my bag that isn't carry-on? Now, as a seasoned traveler, we tend NOT to bring 'regular' items onboard or for that matter, packed to be stowed in the plane's/ship's cargo. These items are usually unbelievably cheap at one's destination site and 'disposable' or 'give-away-able' before you return. It makes for much hassle and 'more room' for other stuff, including...

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Where can I find the requirements for carry on bags for taking a plane trip? Dear one: Here's the government site: http://www.tsa.gov/travelers/airtravel/prohibited/permitted-prohibited-items.shtm

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My beautiful furry friend Momma Bear became MAESTRO and nobody noticed... <hangs head in shame>.. whaddya say we throw her a belated party and send her our congratulations? [[ SINGING and DANCING...]] OOOoooooh Mamma Bear, our Mamma Bear don't cha know we allllll carrrrrrrrre You're the one whose brought us flare To our site you are sooooo fairrrrrrr! 'I'M OVER HERE'® watercolor just for you. (YOU are noticed and loved!)

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What's your opinion of the new feature on wis.dm where you can poll the crowd? You ask your question and the answerer can select one of five different possibilities only once and then it shows what percentage of people selected which choice. I didn't know about this site. Thanks for the reference! Very interesting place.

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If you were soluble and went into the rain, would you have a really bad day? Never: I would be 'One.'

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How can we know anything? Abstract Thought; our homo sapien ability to communicate; our ability to change our minds

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What is the last thing you drink at night? A tall glass of milk! YUM! Nighty-night!

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Do you celebrate the success of others ... or? I just LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE when other people do well ... this just makes me SO happy!

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What are three things you would like to do this summer? I have four: • Travel to our son's new clinic in the jungles of Costa Rica; bring donated clothes to the people there. • Swim many, many times within the pod of my cherished dolphins on the North west shore of Oahu. • Remember to be grateful that I am still alive after my lung cancer! • Delight in my awesome and incredibly romantic...

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My son's (and soon-2-B-bride) new clinic in Costa Rica is called 'THE GARDEN OF LIGHT.' I just finished an artwork 4 their wed-gift=leave Thurs. 4 Colombia!) New sign I created sits inside a glass shadowbox! Wanna see it? [I made 2 other artworks too!] HERE'S a photograph of the artwork I made for 'GARDEN OF LIGHT:'

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Is there really a pot of gold at the end of a rainbow?? or just a saying made by the irish? I AM Irish! Well ... half of me is! What I learned from pappy was this: "YOU are the rainbow! People get the 'gold' from your shinin' smile!'

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Hey pals! Wanna read the wedding poem I wrote for my son and his soon-to- be-bride? [AB Friends: My poem here will be be presented to our 'kids' in a clear-glass 'float' frame. It is centered on wonderful velum paper. Both of these adult children are now internationally certified Doctors in Traditional Chinese Medicine and have opened a clinic in Costa Rica. For them, I placed a plethora of references to their Medicinal practice: Earth, Water, Wood,...

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Do you read all the answers before you answer a question?? Or does it depend on how many are there? I really cherish the diversity of AnswerBag! So very many ways to think about things, eh? I attempt to read all of the answers to the questions posted (that I click on). I especially like answers that are provocative and really make me and others think!! More, the answers that aren't 'safe' in the traditional sense of the word makes me really appreciate the courage it takes...

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Anyone else out there take morphine on a regular basis? I take 100 mg 3 times a day and have for about 2 months now for pain control. Does anyone have any help for the nausea that it can cause? I am on the verge of throwing up a lot of the time. Any help? Medications, called antiemetics, can help reduce or prevent nausea and vomiting in patients undergoing chemotherapy. 'Aloxi®' and 'Ansemet®' are but two. I don't know whether these would be effective for morphine reactionary side-effects. I did come across some coping tips for you: • Eat small, frequent meals slowly. Chew food well, and eat food...

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I am going to write a book on relationships, what chapter should should I put in it? The value of couples actually and literally studying cooperation as a 'team sport.' Beloved and I have been doing this since the second week of dating and that was 26 years ago. We decided to 'pretend' that we hadn't a clue what cooperation meant. Everyone just assumes that they do, especially when you are the one being asked. Its been an incredible and interesting...

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If you are insecure about yourself, should your S/O not be able to do things, because of it.? Firstl, I don't think a really valuable and worthwhile mate would want to stop [whatever] = doing activities that brings them individual personal fulfillment and enjoyment. Why would they?! That's the point of encouraging the ones we love, isn't it? (And it has absolutely nothing to do with 'allowing' them. Our mates are not our children.) Second, it is...

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If I want to put asiago cheese on top of loaves of french-ish bread I'm baking, how long should the cheese "bake on"? Just the last 2 minutes? 5? WELL! IF you have made bread before, you probably know what texture it needs to be before rising, right? Okay. In 'CHESSE BREAD' you can add about 1-1/2 cups of cheese to the dough. USE 2 packages of active dry yeast. A slightly egg is added so the cheese doesn't make the dough either tough or heavy. No more than 3 C. flour to start off with, mix then S L O W L Y add 2-3...

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I am naturally very nice, but apparently that's what people see as a push over type personality? I'm just happy and patient and don't have hang ups. Couple of considerations and thoughts: As a deliciously, deliriously, romantically, happily married woman to the NICEST guy in the world I would say YOU are the treasure. 'People' who view nice guys as push-overs apparently don't have the experience or emotional intelligence 'to get' what an equally sophisticated and genuine human being it takes 'to be'...

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If I want to put asiago cheese on top of loaves of french-ish bread I'm baking, how long should the cheese "bake on"? Just the last 2 minutes? 5? You said 'baking.' Did you make the bread? Or, are they store bought? Or, are you putting halves under the broiler? Are you using grated cheese or are you planing the cheese into thin slices? I'd be able to answer this better if I knew which darlin'!

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Does it bother you when people lie to you over and over, then come up with excuses for every lie that they told? Any suggestions on how to deal with someone who does this regularly? Oh sweetness! Like the others answering here, I would recommend that you 'get rid of these people immediately.' ALL of us have standards which we have an obligation to up-hold: impeccable honesty is just one of them. If we do not hold ourselves individually responsible for values and mores we believe contribute not only to the development of sincere and continuing, respectful...

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Why do parents spank their kids to teach them not to hit? Like the rest of you here, my mouth just drops to my chest (and heart) when I witness 'parents' hitting little ones. Most who hit have been hit, its 'what they know.' That doesn't mean though that there isn't a plethora of counter-information out there in magazines, news stories, TV shoes (Oprah, Nanny 911, et. al) 'Hitting' to these unfortunates,...

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In a collaborative environment, which role would suit your talents best...Creative, Leadership, Managerial or Administrative? Ewwww: you got me again, dear one! This is such a great question, Rosie! And like before [my cancer] I've gone and got a bit wordy here: My first answer, off the cuff, I would say my answer would be like most: simple! Without thinking about circumstance or situation, I believe most of us would jump to a conclusion, 'instantly' picking one of the trait-elements that are more...

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I just wanted to say that Rosie is just about the sweetest person you could ever meet. Who also feels that she is like the kindest grandmother to us all and brightens up our days with her presence? Our own flower, no thorns she our living treasure, of course you see For our angel, a glass of chablis To Rosie, our loyalty we guarantee!

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Our gorgeous, fun loving SWEET T has made it to Maestro, who would like to come to her party with me and wish her congratulations? [SINGING and-a DANCING...] Ooooooh, did ya know our Talented Sweet T was playin' da words, Maestro became she Her AB fans arrived, sharing her repartee For the joyous mark she's made, its her degree! Sooooooo, swing along and dance for free Write your own name on her Marquee She'll be delighted you partied and 'Be' All about her under the Alphabet Tree!

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What is the nicest thing you can do with your hands? Hold you without talking

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If you could give your parents one gift, what would it be? Forgiveness

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Who was the most recent person you met that made you remember to be incredibly humble? I just received the most amazing gift. Recently, I had the opportunity to see one of my best girlfriend's grandma. She has Hansen's Disease (Leporsy). She lives on the Kalaupapa Peninsula of Molikaii, one of islands in the Hawaiian chain. Although her face has virtually melted away; although her lips are gone; although she has stumps for hands, she and the other members of this...

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If you had but one question left to ask, what would it be? Do you know that I will always love you no matter what?

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Which hierarchy are you the top of? My own. The person I call ... me.

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Do you have a friend that you "met" here on AB that you converse with outside of AB? Yes ... MANY!! And, some of them I have had the great good fortune to actually meet in person! HURRAY AB!!!!

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The wonderful AUNTIE EM has made it to SAGE.. will you all send her your best wishes and congratulations with me? Sorry I missed this one too! [Singing...] Ohhhhhh ... happy day, happpppie Sage We're alllll so proud of youuuuuu ... You did so well, we can tell.... 'cause your number has a boon! CONGRAT'S to ya, 'Em!' Great job! This is one of my watercolor's for ya: it's called 'NETTED PARADISE'

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What's the most bizarre use you can think of for kitty litter? Fine Art!

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To those who have helped me before, I am still struggling & need some reassurance. I miss my ex alot, he pulled my hair, said to change or leave, used mean words, shoved me, I felt so sad in the end, I know it was abuse, but I need some help believing it. Is this still happening???

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To everyone who I normally email and keep in touch with--I have just bought a new Mac and am having trouble answering any emails. I hope you all realize that I'm not ignoring you. Don't you? Don't you feel cut off from your world when your email goes? Thanks for the heads up, dear one! No problems here, I believe: I am a Mac-ster too!

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Honestly ... do we REALLY need boarders? Opinions from both sides please! Well ... if there are borders in one place I suppose if you go along with that 'thinking' then we would need them in ALL places. Guess we a-better put them up between, say, Indiana and Illinois, eh? Heck, 'no borders' aren't working there, right? OH WAIT! I KNOW!!! I'll check 'your papers' if you 'check mine?' OH, I GOT IT! = IF we have...

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Do you remember the last time your life was easy? Well, I don't think life is suppose to be 'easy.' However, if I think to remember some of my developmental and hard-won lessons, even the silly ones which weren't silly at the time (think learning to tie shoes!), I can truthfully enjoy more of how much of the day actually IS 'effortless.' In my view, I believe we all tend to forget just how far we've come...

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Honestly ... do we REALLY need boarders? Opinions from both sides please! EEEEEK! I MEANT TO SPELL IT BORDERS!!!! SORRY FOLKS.

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If I try and have a good attitude, will my attitude change? ABSOLUTELY ... absolutely ... absolutely!!! Not only is it a good idea to attempt to have a 'good attitude' but there is now state-of-the-art scientific evidence that the brain 'structure' changes because of it. The brain is plastic (changeable) and remarkable This is not about just 'feel good' stuff, nor is it, what I call 'woo-woo' medicine. If...

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You have the chance to build a monument in honor of your hero. Who is it in honor of and what will it look like. Well ... only several hundreds of people know of him. He is perhaps the smartest human being I have ever had the pleasure to learn from. He is a more than giving, always encouraging others to reach their highest potential. He is a sensuous, athletic sort who does something everyday to keep his body, hence his mind, in sound health. But he is also that sort who never 'works out'...

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Honestly, what would you do without me? LIFE just wouldn't be the same!

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Is it easy or hard for you to establish meaningful friendships? In my view, it really shouldn't be hard to have a meaningful friendship with anyone. See, my deal is this: every single person is incredibly valuable. Wherever I am, whomever I meet, in my eyes, each IS very special. This makes eye-to-eye contact very easy. I show appreciation by giving it. I just happen to know I will never meet another human being exactly like them; there are no two...

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Is there a fellow AB'er that you find rather fascinating but are too shy or scared to add to your friend's list for fear that you may not be smart or cool enough? Darlin': everyone here has weakness and strengths ... the chance and the ability to share both is what makes AB so incredibly special! You just go ahead and follow your heart: your mind will know what to do after that. Trust yourself, you are special. I really do believe we are, after all is said and done, ONE PEOPLE, ONE PLANET!

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Do we forgive people, or do we really forgive actions? For discussion sake, this just might be a tough question in disguise. Frankly, its depth is only matched by the number of sides one may view it. Indeed, this could easily be a slippery slope! I, for one, willingly slide down it ... How about this: In the past, in reviewing some executive employment search MMPI tests (psychology), it was deemed 'normal' for any small child to...

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The Special One has just made SAGE, would you like to congratulate him with me??.. CONGRATS SPECIAL ONE!!! [SINGING ....] OOOOOoooooo YIPPPPPEEEEEEE!!!!! HURRAY FOR OUR VERY OWN 'SPECIAL ONE!'

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Have you ever looked for, and found, a fossil? Well, this will kinda sound strange, but believe me, its not! We walk on fossils every time we walk in our home! Yep, its true! We decided to lay natural stone, in our case its limestone, down throughout our entire place during its remodel. We wanted something easy to clean and something that could put up with the rigors of tropical weather. Whenever one looks down, right there...

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Are you in a hurry to experience various aspects of life or are you happy to take things slow and easy? Oh Rosie! Just another great question from you! For the most part I think a lot of people have got caught up in what I refer to as 'The MacDonald's way of Being.' Gotta get in the Quick-In & Quick-Out Lane [of life ... of whatever.] Their daily phrases run something like this: "Hurry up ... get up!!" '"I'll just jump into the shower for a second,...

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Ahh! i think i want to be an actress but i dont know if i want to just for the fame because i've never really performed before besides musicals and if i actually want it, its so hard to succeed!!! HELPPPP More from Moon: All of the answers here are good, some more sound than others. Any Art form is subjective, unlike science; there are no hard, firm "rules of proof." Before I give any advice, I would respectfully submit the following. The reason I begin here is to let you know I come from a professional lifetime of performing arts experience. I was in this [acting] field...

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Ahh! i think i want to be an actress but i dont know if i want to just for the fame because i've never really performed before besides musicals and if i actually want it, its so hard to succeed!!! HELPPPP Your question is really quite rational. Of course there is an endorphin thrill from performing, especially before a live audience. I know, I've been there many times. Because of a 35 year career experience in theater and film, plus having my own professional teaching studio, I offer the following comments and suggestions: Each 'industry,' each career choice, comes with...

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Have you ever had an experience with therapeutic touch? If so, please share it. Up until last week I pretty much 'poo-pooed' this area of healing. Then I picked up a book called THE BODY HAS A MIND OF ITS OWN by [the] Breaksley's (mom and son science writers). Very basically, its a book on 'brain mapping.' The brain has what is called a body schema. Okay: put your arms out to your sides, wide. The brain perceives not just your arm out...

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If you could inhabit anybody's mind and experience their thoughts and consciousness for a while, who would it be? (Either because they’re fascinating in a good way, or for the experience of seeing their weird view of reality.) The Dalai Lama Mahatma Ghandi Lao Tsu Stephen Pinker Stephen Hawkling Thomas Sowell OH OH OH SO MANY!!! Do I HAVE to choose just one???!!! AND ... of course ... my beloved husband Eric: he has more intelligence ... more emotional intelligence ... more gentle kindness ... more concrete, practical and common sense wisdom in his pinky finger than most of the rest of us. And,...

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What can I do to motivate myself to drink more water? Okay. Just last week, believe it or not on Oprah (!!!!) she had her Dr. Oz on and someone in the audience asked this very question. Well! SURPRISE -- SURPRISE! What good ole Dr. Oz said was ... 'This is all a myth: having to drink eight glasses of water a day! NO ONE that is harping this, especially the bottled water companies, tell you that the food you already eat has tons of...

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In the still of the night when we can't sleep, we confront our true selves. No one is there is confirm or deny..no "atta girl" or "atta boy"..do you embrace these times or do you try to avoid them? For me, these moments of aloneness are some of the most creative times one can have. Ever since I can remember, I have treasured 'being alone.' Actually for the most part, I've treasured being alive! (Even after kicking and screaming.) Its here, in my mind's eye, in my body's spirit and sense, I've danced with my breath, I've discovered new territories...

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How easy is it for you to always say 'no problem?' Since I kinda know what real problems are, when I do say this, it really does mean it is NO problem. I wish more would weigh in and choose there 'battles.'

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What is the absolute worse pain you've ever had? How did it affect you in the long-run? Oh boy. Even though I am the one who asked this question, its really difficult to answer personally. See, the deal is, I don't consider 'pain' in any sort of contest, not that I presented that way in the question. Of course it isn't. Pain, whether physical or emotional is so incredibly personal, so incredibly intimate. Pain equally adds that shine on the reverse side...

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Did you ever believe at any time you were growing up that you were an extraterrestrial? I AM an extraterrestrial!           I just couldn't pass this one up!

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Do really believe that the best things in life are free? I noticed most all the previous answers here to be one-liners, all correct in their personal musings. Yet, conceivably, this is really a wonderful question and may prove provocative ... even 'meaningful!' While it is fairly easy for any of us to answer [most questions] with quick-witted, off-the-cuff remarks, really good questions could require an enhanced moment of reflection. ...

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I need to know how to get discovered in acting? Can anyone help? No one 'gets discovered' in acting unless THEY have discovered acting first. This is a serious profession which takes years and years of study and experience. While there is a certain amount of 'luck' (right place at the right time) most professionals in this field do not ignore REAL talent and the drive it takes to hone such a demanding craft.

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Why are so many people unable to give compliments to others? It's not as if they really cost you anything...or do they give someone psychological power over you if you are 'weak' enough to give them a compliment?Anybody understand this question? For me to consider answering this question, I would want to step-back and look at a larger issue: the absolute lack of intimacy these days because of attachments and seemingly behavioral addictions to this thing we call 'the computer!' Apparently, 'SPEED' of use and instant-contact is the method du jour. No disrespect intended, but before I had my surgery for lung...

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If you had one last chance to write a sentence to a loved one before he/she left home in the morning, never knowing if you'd ever see he/she again. What would it say? (THIS IS POSSIBLE EVERY SINGLE DAY PEOPLE)? I don't believe most people actually accept just how close the possibility [and reality] of Death may be in the very next moment. We all take Life oh so for granted, assuming it 'just goes on, right?' As the saying goes, 'Honey, we'll be together ... forever, I promise!' I literally just recently survived lung cancer, whose diagnosis came as a complete and...

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People here are so great. Can you feel it? ALL THE TIME! Every day ... every way ... Frankly, friendship doesn't get any better ... especially when all of us are virtually long-distance from each other! Just 'checked in' for 'a fix.' Gonna go nap now! LOVE YOU ALLLLLLLLL! M

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What’s the farthest you've ever walked? With nurse assistance, the farthest I've ever walked was the eight feet from my hospital bed to the bathroom after my recent Lung Cancer surgery!

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I found out I woke up ALIVE! WOW! Doc's: "Gonna be a long journey back!" Got a feeling & thought FOR you: Are YOU prepared to witness & cope w/ your own personal, up-front, in-your-face Death? P.S. There are NO personal life references! Trust me on this! Oh my beloved friends: I am NOT back on AB ... yet! Being 'on' the computer just is way, way too exhausting for me (still). So, I request IF you wish to contact me, send me an e-mail (in my profile) and I will respond with a longhand note, card and/or letter. I am checking e-mail about once a week. Frankly, I have literally rediscovered that literally writing in longhand allows...

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Our lovely sweetcakes has made sage today; who would like to join me in welcoming her upon reaching her sagedom? HURRAY! It's called 'ROSE II'

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From M Moon: A note to my AB friends, okay? I'm back from the hospital ... [posted here] From Marlene Moon: FIrst: FOR Y2JSUCKS, who asked, 'WHAT IS THE MEANING OF THIS QUESTION?" Frankly, your 'minus' made me want to hug you SO affectionately just for your own earliest of misunderstandings. [TRUST ME Y2J: we have ALL walked in these point-driven shoes: early on at AB, one size really does 'seem' to fit all] ... but later -- hopefully sooner than...

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From M Moon: A note to my AB friends, okay? I'm back from the hospital ... [posted here] Dear cherished AB family: Oh, how I wish i could open this first missive to each of you with some profound stupid joke which make us all laugh or, at the very least, make us realize how silly some of our daily worries actually are. Simply, my sweeties, I cannot. You know me, I know you do: I went into this lung cancer business spirit-filled, head-high, firmly deciding 'well if this...

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M Moon 1 of our best 'baggers' is going in for her surgery tomorrow..Maybe we can all just convince her now that we will be thinking of her and sending our thoughts and prayers? We have strong hope for the outcome. So how about it?-let's let her hear it. Thank you so much ALL of you: I'm off to the hospital right this minute! Love you! Marlene

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In one word, how would you describe god? NATURE!!!!

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Did you get married in a really funny or strange place? Tell us about it, okay? When I am better ... I will answer this question I personally posted ... since OURS was one of those hilarious 'tales to be told!!' Later ... my cherished friends!

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Please read this little poem I wrote this morning, okay? [Submited here ...] I AM ... come from the sea like laughing waves washing back and forth -- water's treasures -- left wet on the sand for others to find taking home memories nothing ever really dies for my truth, The Truth is change is the only constant For with this ... I will believe always I SURVIVE all which has past what is here now -- and like the water -- splashing onto my...

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Do you want to see pictures of our 25th wedding anniversary last night? [see answer] Make sure you read PART I here ... it explains my gift to him and what he is looking at! PART II: MARLENE & ERIC'S 25TH WEDDING ANNIVERSARY PICTURES (Sorry kids, there are only a few!! We FORGOT to put NEW batteries in our digital! ARGHHHH!

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Do you want to see pictures of our 25th wedding anniversary last night? [see answer] Answer ~ PART I = actual pix will be in my next answer PART II. Okay! 11/13/07 was our twenty-fitth wedding aniversary, as many of your already know. Most of your are curious about WHAT my surprise for beloved! My surprise gift explaination: For twenty-five years Eric has made me coffee and each and every day had placed a romantic post-it on that morning's cup of brew. Eric...

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May I send my very best wishes to you? [see my answer] Just got up! WHAT A NIGHT! I'm going to post a question and HOPEFULLY be able to upload images and first an explanation of what I gave him!!.

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May I send my very best wishes to you? [see my answer] The best kind of friend Is the kind you can sit on a porch and swing with, Never say a word, and then walk away Feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had. It's true that we don't know what we've got until we lose it, But it's also true that we don't know What we've been missing until it arrives. Giving someone all your love ...

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What is the purpose of meaning? Meaning purposefully!

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I just joined answerbag 3 days ago but I'm already completely addicted & wanna spend the rest of my life with it & bear it's children in whatever means may be possible in the future. This is completely normal, right? DARLING!!!! Welcome aboard m'dear! You will find not only find questions and answers here on AB, but you WILL find the most amazingly wonderful and kind, giving people here as well. These, believe it or not, over time will be the 'strangers' that become CLOSE friends, caring specifically FOR you ... watching your back ... praying for you ... or doing whatever they can to assist...

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I have something to share with you pals, okay? Its called 'When God paints!' Knowing me, you would know that I think it should be titled 'When Nature Paints!' Enjoy, okay? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_xmSTO51IQA HA! Ewwwww: I knew I would 'get in trouble' by mentioning I'd 'prefer' to use NATURE instead of 'God!' YEP! Already down-rated. Funny thing is that I in some wonderfully strange, yet beautiful way, actually LOVE these people equally as well as those 'on my side.' I only wish for everyone to be emotionally intelligent and more? I wish that...

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Has anyone read anything by Stephen Pinker (recently voted one of the smartest people in the world)? I have read a few of his books and find him absolutely brilliant. "the Language Instinct" "How the Brain Thinks" "the Blank Slate". What do you think? YES!!!!! He is one of our favorites! Well ... along with Daniel C. Dennet, Richard Dawkins, Jared Diamond, Richard Feyman and Hawklings! Oh ... let's not forget Thomas Sowell (if you haven't read HIM, you should!!!!) These, along with many others, are our current-day intellectual heros! These are courageous in many ways, offering their hard-earned and won 'wisom' by...

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Do you have someone in your life who, when faced with a personal crisis, was more concerned about how you and others were doing than how he/she was coping? Ewwwwww ... Rosie! You ARE a 'sneaky' one, aren't you! HA! Well, MY answer would be: To even be 'allowed' to love someone else is nothing short of a pure privilege, let alone receiving care and love in return, which in of itself is their gift back to you, never, ever to be taken for granted! Frankly, in my view, if more people understood this, they would also...

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How can something come from nothing? Well ... that's like asking where love comes from, isn't it?

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Stableboy has recently resigned as a Community Leader. Who would like to join me in thanking him for the all of the wonderful volunteer service he has provided to Answerbag thus far? Stableboy: certainly by now, YOU KNOW I am a huge fan of yours! Its not just the emotional intelligence you offer all of us and the well thought out -- let alone 'well earned' Life's Wisdom ... its for THE WHO you are. This collage of mine is titled: 'THE FIRE WITHIN' ©Marlene Moon ... and ever so represents you ... all aglow! (I only wish the ACTUAL colors were...

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Do people still have sex in their 60s and 70s? Ahhhhhhhhhhh! YEAH!!! And STILL loving it!

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Describe your job in one word? ZEN!

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Has your moment in the sun passed you by? HARDLY! I AM the SUN ... and my beloved is the MOON

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Do you savor the precious moments in your life in the present or do you do it retroactively, after the fact? I suppose I consider myself one of the 'lucky ones.' Being one heck of a corny dog, all aglow with heart-on-my-sleeve gratitude for everything, EVERYONBE -- even those most difficult, icky stuff (or people) experienced = these usually turn out to be those 'HEY! I didn't ask for THAT lesson... but they contributed to THE WHO I am. More, I wouldn't want to take THAT...

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Would you give our own Bill is wanbli ohitika a shout out for his birthday? It's the BIG 50!! Thanks:) BILL!!!!! HAPPY, HAPPY, HAPPY FIVE-O!! Here's a flower for you! Just one of hundreds of my watercolors. Its called 'ROSE' ©Marlene Moon

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Today is my BIRTHDAY, is it a good idea to honor everyone with a "Get Out Of Jail For Free" pass, or would folks run amuck? HAPPY BIRTHDAY (even if I'm late!!!) A flower for you, one of my paintings. Its titled 'ROSE' ~ watercolor ~ © Marlene Moon, Artist

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<question removed> HEY! I AM ROARING FOR THEM OVER HERE! HOPE YOU CAN HEAR ME!!! RAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!

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What is morally wrong with homosexuality??--old video but good http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OPzso1OOTPM As I read another AB'ers answer '... the terms "right and wrong" hardly seem to apply. I am not at all concerned with what others believe. That's what independent thinking is.' This answer couldn't be clearer ... However, looking at the meaning of 'moral' there might be other emotionally intelligent considerations. This is not to imply that I...

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Where is a place where there's no room for Jello? Mmmmmm: let me just think about this for a sec: • Between the sheets • Between my legs [no ... I don't mean THAT! HA!] • Inbetween the keys of my computer • In any of the drawers of my art supplies! • ON any of my original paintings! • In any car's engine • In any electrical grid • Oh gawd .... I could just go on...

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What song would you want played at your funeral? Yes, my adult singing and playing his guitar ... one of the sounds off his CD'S!

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Do you have something to get off your chest? Sorry to be so morbib here but ... YEAH! My lung cancer!!! [Just got diagnosed this week!]

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Why DO men do that hair 'comb over?' HEY! I got 'IT?' Maybe if they comb over ... they WON'T ... go bald! HA!

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Had to share this funny, okay? 'Why does the penis want a raise?' The Penis Wants a Raise...... I, the Penis, hereby request a raise in salary for the following Reasons: 1. I do physical labor. 2. I work at great depths. 3. I plunge head first into everything I do. 4. I do not get weekends or public holidays off. 5. I work in a damp environment. 6. I work in a dark area that has poor ventilation. 7. I work in high temperatures. 8....

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Why DO men do that hair 'comb over?' THINK ... Donald Trump!! ARGHHHHHHHHHHH!

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Do you believe that genetics will sow a 'green' revolution? I, along with many others, 'understand' just how complex a question this really is! (HA! I literaly forgot I was the one to ask this question! Oh brother!...) My personal sense is Americans, per se, and other 'cilivized' countries, while having the plethora of food soures and grocer choices -- organic or no -- the farming technology and work forces to produce these...

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I'm starting an Answerbag Glossary which I will provide a link to one day when I have enough material. Can you please help me by providing AB specific terms with their definitions? Answer as many times as you want. Thanks for your support :) SUPPORTABLE SITES: n. questions, answers and/or comments which contain links for more information.

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"I don't know if we each have a destiny or if we're all just floatin' accidental-like on a breeze."{Forrest Gump}. And your thoughts? This is such a complex and provacative question (once again, gotta love ya for these!). It depends on how broadly you define the 'I' and ... or ... the 'we.' Some people 'argue' that biology is destiny. Is it the gene pool which may influence ones procilivities and preferences? Others would 'argue' that only human Free Will determines not only...

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Do you care enough to send the very best? If it were up to my heart and the profound feelings I have for all human beings, not just my beloved, family and friends, I'd just 'love' to send my very best each and every time, each and every day, each and every moment. However, there are those certain days that have me all oh-so-human, certainly not so best, not so perfect, not anything other than just another...

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Does it really matter which side your on? Well, in order to answer this question from my own point of view ... which 'side' are we talking about? Economics? Educational? Relationships? Medicine? Drugs? Marriage? Kids? Religion? My point here is that your wonderful question just has too many sides to answer this personally. In general, however, I would have to come down on the side that 'affects me and my...

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Tell us your success stories of swapping homes with another when you traveled! For years before we actually bought our home in Honolulu, we first tested the waters by sub-renting our home in California for the long periods of time we would be on island. This was just great training ground. We learned a lot! AND, I got to be A+ at interviewing via e-mail FIRST! Then, after we gave up our home in California and moved here, we knew we would want to travel, at the very...

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Ever been in a slump or lull in your life? Very rarely do I find THIS optimist and heart-on-her-sleeve kinda gal (me) to be in a slump! That said, I am in one right now: big time! And all of it surrounds medical issues that seem to have steam-rolled me! That said, my overall LIFE is filled with tremendos love and affection. I have two on-going successful careers which I absolutely love. OH pity the poor whiner! ARGH! This...

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Who would like to join in congratulating Scooter ? He is now, officially a Brain! HEY! WAY TO GO SCOOTER! For whatever reason I CANNOT upload THE ONE I wanted to send you: 'LIVE LIFE AS YOU IMAGINE IT!' So? Here's another painting of mine. It's called 'NETTED PARADISE' ©M Moon

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What is a good way to improve one's speaking voice? Having been on literally all sides of the performing arts, I can assure you there is a plethora of 'VOICE COACHES' who may certainly assist you. They do not only specialize in singing. Most likely, whatever area you are living in there will be at least one. That said, I did an online search for 'FREE ONLINE VOICE COACHING' -- this is what I found: ...

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Medical marijuana? Yes or no? PLEASE!! JUST WATCH THIS VIDEO! http://www.reason.tv/video/show/57.html My vote? OF COURSE YES!!!!!

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Why isn't marijuana legal? GOTTA WATCH THIS! http://www.reason.tv/video/show/57.html

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I want to give a huge bouquet of flowers to a group of people, but I'm not clever or artistic...so I'll use words instead....of appreciation, friendship, joy! Would you like to contribute some words to my bouquet before I give it to them? ©M MOON Written for all my Answer-Pals, but ESPECIALLY for Rosie, since she asked: MY FRIENDS ARE MY ANSWERS! Looking for my pals with Q & A (me but one follower), An event held by my friends, my geniuses with brain power I packed up my luggage happily to attend their loving party Jumping right in, I was feeling equally silly, tarty and smarty Lo and behold, all my pals,...

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Do you, like I, believe that there are experiential 'coexistent' layers of the personal Self that we, if aware, get to choose from? This is my answer to someone else's AB question quite a while ago, one who felt stuck by finding themselves 'only' sad and couldn't find a way out of that thinking. Please be patient. 'This' is just information. Though this is a lengthy 'monologue' on my part, observe and perceive if you can find an element within this that my assist you as an...

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If we stopped measuring our own experiences, as some kind of 'contest' with others, in your view, how could this create more empathy and global understanding? While some people measure their successes and hardships by what they perceive to be 'only theirs,' I witness and practice a different view. These well-intended folks focus on what has happened only to them, their own family, their own nationality, their 'own kind.' I believe -- and it is my experience -- this in many ways is myopic and prevents us all from moving into a...

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I want to give a huge bouquet of flowers to a group of people, but I'm not clever or artistic...so I'll use words instead....of appreciation, friendship, joy! Would you like to contribute some words to my bouquet before I give it to them? Rose! Is this to the people from your recent AB event attendance? Or is it a group of 'just women' or 'just men?' I will try to come up with something after you answer this for me!

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Which 3 of your possessions would you bring with you to a deserted island? Nothing. I would use whatever resources were actual and available, my own imagination and emotional intelligence to create shelter, food, and 'entertainment.'

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My girl always try to make me feel bad saying meanful things like you to fat I don't like you i'm cheating on you but more currently she been say i need to be a real man i take care of her, i'm a hard worker, help her out everytime she needs help There is nothing whatever in 'liking' someone, let alone 'loving' them that should be hurtful or harmful. Period. I don't know how old you are. Frankly, this doesn't even matter. But, coming from this 'Aunty M' who has literally survived extraordinary life situations and circumstances, let alone relationships, it is important that YOU, yourself, be...

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I watched the movie Perfume last night and was a little disappointed. Did anyone else see it? What was your opinion of it? READ THE BOOK! Peter Suskind, the author, 'carries you' through your own five senses by the way he writes from SENSE! I have never read a book which 'allowed me' to smell, taste, touch, hear or see through 'just' words!! I will not go see the movie just because of that!

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What is something easier done than said? For most women: taking the first piece of ANYTHING cooked!

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When, in your view, is being selfish a GOOD thing? An Essay: "Selfishness Is The Highest Form Of Cooperation" by ©M Moon My beloved and I will be celebrating our 25th anniversary this year: a truth filled, celebratory testament to our discovery and actual practice with belief systems and personal actions that work! Further, we actually feel and act as if we are still on our honeymoon! We truly consider it a pure privilege...

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If you could contribute to assisting computers 'to think' like human beings, would you do it? Why? ABSOLUTELY YES! I have been contributing to the Open Mind - Common Sense Project for over ten years now. This project is part of M.I.T. Over the years I have watched it grow, and change JUST BECAUSE of we regular 'Jills & Joes.' The link: http://www.openmind.org/ To Play and Contribute: http://commons.media.mit.edu:3000/ I sincerely believe computers will never...

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What's cooking good looking? • HAM AND EGGS - A day's work for a chicken; A lifetime commitment for a pig. • I didn't fight my way to the top of the food chain to be a vegetarian. • I don't even butter my bread; I consider that cooking. -- Katherine Cebrian • Once, during prohibition, I was forced to live for days on nothing but food and water. -- W. C. Fields ...

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Are there are furniture makers that specialize in creating armoires for big screen LCD TVs? I did a search for you: Check these sites out: http://www.google.com/search?client=safari&rls=en&q=armoires+for+big+screen+LCD+TV's&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8 We, ourselves, ended up hiring a carpenter and had one custom made! It was well worth every penny, especially since it literally matches everything else! Good luck!

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What's a piece of furniture suitable for locking large items in an office? I don't need it to be secure like a safe -- just like an armoire (or something) that locks. Ideas? Depends on the sizes, of course! However, you may try to use old steamer trucks, some of these are pretty large and have locks. Equally, some suitcases have locks too. There are, as you say, closet armoires which could technically be fitted for locks as well.

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I'm starting an Answerbag Glossary which I will provide a link to one day when I have enough material. Can you please help me by providing AB specific terms with their definitions? Answer as many times as you want. Thanks for your support :) BAG-EVENT: n. An outside event held by Answerbagers; a meeting of Anserbagers.

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What happened to you? I'll know when I come back from my MRI later today!

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Do you think it's best to answer or ignore the obviously homophobic questions? Answer? Yes. Ignore? No. If we 'ignore' these, then we would have to ignore other inappropriate and distasteful comments made to any 'pointed-at' individual, let alone people of other colors, religions, countries, style of living, age, gender or health status. It is unconscientiousable the [some] people, who have a proclivity toward humane injustice, think that those...

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Why do you continue to live if your just going to die anyways? Wow! Well, truth is I'd personally like to get all meaningful here, answering with my own spirit-filled (not spiritual) answers, but I will just let the others do that for me! So, my answer? • Laugh until our bellies hurt, tears rolling down our eyes. • Find that 'other' sock. • Contemplate why there is always lint in our navels. • Sing along...

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Hey people, can you please share your experiences and photos of the ab convention here? OH WOW! Just looking at all the pictures, posted so far ... ah me! I can literally FEEL you all! Almost 'desperately' (HA!) I oh oh oh wanted to attend this year's AB gathering! It is so obvious all you guys had a great time. I could be more thrilled or happy for each and everyone of you! Well, I'd be happier if I (and my beloved husband) were there yapping away ......

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How can a person learn to become more self confident? In all aspects of life. What are some ways to go about doing this. There are many tried and true techniques I would wish to share with you. Some are my own, developed from not only my own childhood hardships, but also were literally designed and taught in my Masters Class: I have had the honor and privilege to coach national and international Peak Performers. Self-esteem comes from literal Self-Doing. Like Anonymous said, 'One success at a...

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If you were going to give one suggestion that you think would improve most people's lives if they did it what would it be? (Could be anything from finding God to playing ice hockey- just something you think more people should try.) Just ONE? Wow ... mmmm ... a lot of choices 'out there!' Okay, today I would pick: SWIM WITH WILD DOLPHINS! I had a major life-changing, life-altering experience while swimming inside a 50+ pod of wild dolphins. I'll never be the same and frankly, I don't want to be! For whatever reason on that specific day (this Spring) ... swimming within them, underwater...

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If you go to the beach, do you worry about getting stung by jellyfish? Well, I don't know about the rest of the world, but I DO KNOW here in Hawaii 'they' -- those nasty jellyfishers and/or box jellyfish -- ONLY arrive ten days after the full moon. They stay for a few days and then leave. Its some kind of mating thing! http://www.aloha.com/~lifeguards/jelyfish.html

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You've done something you shouldn't have done. To confess will damage your reputation and possibly your career. To keep silent will damage your character and integrity. What gets damaged..reputation or character? This is one of Rosie's best questions to date ... and that is saying a lot 'cause she is excellent at getting all of us to think 'deeper.' I so appreciate that from her! One of my overall life motto's, especially about sensing one's own character is: 'YOU HAVE TO BE ABLE TO LIVE WITH YOURSELF!' Regardless of actual consequences, I would confess...

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Is the glass half empty or half full? Or did some just steal my glass? Great question ... and fun answers here! Mine? = If I have the emotional intelligence to stand back from it, I view only a whole glass ... like I view this life.   What's in it? Space and atmosphere -- filled for all of us to move through and to fill our lungs with life-giving air.

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Where do you like silence? I'm one of those fortunate people who can 'go silent' [literally] even in the busiest or loudest of situations. Maybe this 'talent' originated by my turning off my father's insistent yelling when we kids were younger? I am also fortunate enough to be married to a guy who, like me, can 'be alone' without need or requirement for any kind of exchange or...

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What sin has influenced your decision not to believe in God? SIN???!!! Is this one of those trick questions?

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What is the nicest thing to touch?(Let's keep it clean, please : ) ) Being able to 'tap' and be in touch with ones own inspiration and the ability to carry these through in all things, in all ways, as best to your ability at any given time!

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What is the nicest thing to touch?(Let's keep it clean, please : ) ) Baby skin!

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Do you make your own stock? Chicken, beef, fish, veggie? Or do you use canned or packaged? ABSOLUTELY!!! Not only that, but more often than not, I simmer a full stock pot (of whichever] down to a mere cup. It's called 'glicee.' [If you are making this it is absolutely necessary to NOT ADD SALT, whatsoever.] After about half-way through the process, I strain all of the meat and/or vegetables out. At this point I also skim ALL fat off. Next, I return the stock...

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Hypothetically, if one has been divorced for 6 yrs and has finally decided to join the datin' world, what's should that person's first step be? "Hypothentically?" Gotta first ask why the preface, since the question itself is a very good one and could easily stand on its own without it. Okay, that's off my chest: While age may, indeed, be a potential consideration for 'frist steps,' my views here will hopefully offer some generalizations that may produce some food for thought. However, FIRST step to...

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Do you own a food processor? How often do you use it? I have one which is called, I believe, a 'miniature.' It holds about two cups ... of whatever. It sits on my granite kitchen counter, next to our stove top. I use this EVERY DAY to grind fresh herbs to place into whatever I am cooking. These 'additions' make any food, whether homemade or store bought, taste much fresher. I love this little appliance! Oh yeah, I also...

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Those who don't believe in God: What created the universe? I don't believe it to be a 'who.' I believe it to be a 'what.' To this? I believe either 'it' created itself or 'it' has always been a 'form' of time itself.

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Each morning I'm positive, energetic and feel capable. At evening energy is gone, I'm overwhelmed, and not sure I can do anything. Are there "good times of the day" and "not-so-good times of the day" for you, too? Yeah, I think almost everyone can relate to this question whether they are a day person or a night person. Geez, its all so individual isn't it? Isn't this called ... mmmm: circadian rhythms or something like that? Both beloved and I are very, very early risers! Just gotta love that Hawaiian sunrise popping through our windows! (Fortunately, for us, all the windows in our digs...

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Have you done something really courageous once in your life? For those 'just for fun' or 'just for the hell of it:' I believe many of us have done something 'really courageous,' if for no other reason we were perhaps facing a fear that plead for release! Sure, that can include everything from sky-diving, going on a roller-coaster to eating foods strange and unfamiliar to us. It might be finally learning how to swim or stop...

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Thinking about it, isn't all sex (including vaginal) kinda gross? Come on! This is a trick question, right? That said, like mrshinyshoes answered, 'it' is animalistic. We are in the animal family after all ... The difference may be we -- as 'animal' human beings, coupled with our ever-so-precious free will -- choose with whom, where and when we enjoy this kind of intimacy. Gotta ask you, though: why DID you ask this? Got...

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What is the best way to approach someone in ending a relationship of a long period of time due to excessive alcoholism, and not very ambitious or looking toward the future, and sharing not many common interests without hurting their feelings? As other AB'ers have suggested here, you will not be able to 'not hurt their feelings.' And that is but one of the reasons you have come to this very personal decision. Real loving relationships are not at all about 'hurt.' Each of us makes life choices, this is called 'free will.' We each, in our own way, with our own real time ability, make our own...

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Let's say you are in a long term relationship and you end it due to the other person's negative actions toward you. Is it "immature" to completely cut them out of your life? Other than that occasionall misunderstanding from either parties, the real time actions OF LOVE should never, ever be observed, perceived, let alone experienced as 'negative,' let alone harmful in any way! Sure, we all 'take turns' at being creepy at times, but not as a behavioral style, whatsoever. I have the sense that if you ask this question, you are not comfortable...

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What defines American cooking? Because the United State has long attracted immigrants from a wide variety of nations and cultures, the cuisine of the United States is diverse and can be difficult to define. Many of the American cuisines have origins from another nation, or part of the world, and has been Americanized. American cuisine may be viewed by some as a synthesis of cuisines from around the world, a style of cooking...

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What defines American cooking? Because the United State has long attracted immigrants from a wide variety of nations and cultures, the cuisine of the United States is diverse and can be difficult to define. Many of the American cuisines have origins from another nation, or part of the world, and has been Americanized. American cuisine may be viewed by some as a synthesis of cuisines from around the world, a style of cooking...

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Have you ever been so in love that sometimes you almost felt or heard your heart sing? YES!!!!! And 'our song' is literally 'Our Love Is Here To Stay,' by Gershwin. Amen. AND ... not only 'YES' ... but we have the undeniable fortune to know, accept and practice, that even being 'allowed' to love someone else is nothing short of a pure privilege, let alone having that love equally returned' Even though this November, we celebrate...

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So, what are some tips on getting and staying organized? I seem to have a problem with that... The other answers here are really helpful. However, I would like to add another spin on it all ... FIRST, grab a cuppa something and sweetly sit your proverbial down in one of the areas you really consider unorganized. Hard part: just LOOK at each and every item, staying with it for a minute or so. JUST take it in WITHOUT ANY JUDGEMENT whatsoever. No, 'little inner voices, thank you...

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Best honest: if you will, what kinds of things did each of your previous relationships literally teach you to become a 'wiser' human being? Include both sides: 'the good' and 'the bad' (regardless of how few or how many)? Gotta say, so far, all the answers here from my fellow AB'ers are smart, not the least of which is the hard-earned balance of viewing whatever happens to any of us, for whatever reason as 'a learning tool.' For me, the significance of answering the question posted is found equally in the ‘good’ that one has experienced, as well as the ‘bad;’ whether...

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Is there such a thing as too much information? 'Too much information?' Mmmm, in my opinion, only when it involves a child and it not delivered verbally and directed as to be age appropriate. Other than that? No. I am an adult and can literally choose 'how much' I wish to receive. That includes, having the awareness and emotional intelligence to walk away from information I feel is not appropriate to me! That...

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What are some medical conditions that would be unlikely candidates for walkathons? (Eg, Male Pattern Baldness Syndrome) • DUCK FEET FOR THE WADING-ATHON • BOWLING WHILE WALKING-ATHON • BRIEF-WEARING FOR LAWYERS-ATHON • PUSHING YOUR IV-ATHON • MENTAL BAGGAGE PORTER-ATHON • CLIMBERS ANONYMOUS-ATHON • IDIOTS INTERNATIONAL-ATHON

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Where do we go from here? GREAT QUESTION!! Thanks for asking this one. Are you asking figuratively or literally, dear? Okay, I'll give both a quick shot: LITERALLY: • This morning (Hawaii time) I go back to the doctor's to have MORE x-rays and later a CAT scan. Plus, in the same office go to another round of PT. Wish me luck ;) • After that, continue to work on the surprise I am...

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Cable, Dish Network, Direct TV, antiquated antennae on top of house, wish is better? Like almost everyone who is actually old enough to remember, anyone lucky enough to have a TV, had antenna TV. We were kids then; prior to THAT we listened to only radio (and WATCHED its dial glowing!!!). As our generation got older we still had antenna TV'S! These days, as 'Scooter' mentioned in one of his comments to another AB'er here, there aren't many...

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What is the best tempature to wash white uniforms on to get them to some out the whitest? First, when I came to your question, it was DR'ed by six! Now why anyone would EVER downrate a partical question is far beyond me, that's for sure! Though this type of thing makes me NUTS! Okay: back to your question = Assuming you have a washing machine: #!: If -- or more precisely when -- there is any fresh stains, treat these BEFORE putting in hot water OR the dryer. Hot...

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How do you keep your attitude good when something bad just happens? I had the honor and great privilege to be a professional actress for 35+ years. Also, I had my own professional teaching studio for over 20 year (and counting), coaching not only national and international actors, directors and producers, but also ended up being a coach-consultant to the likes of Olympic Gold Medal Athletes, Corporate Key-Note Speakers to NASA and other Peak Performance...

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Over the years, how much has your vocabulary improved? Explain... Earliest: Ughkh {{{ grunt }}} Before my birth: {{{ woooeee }}} Birth: goo-goo, ga-ga A bit later: ma-ma; da-da Later: Mommy, could you help me? Much later: OOOOH MOTHER!! How could you? NOW:: FLOCINAUCINIHILIPILIICANTION = adj. the act or habit of estimating or describing something as worthless, or making something to be worthless by deprecation". With 29 letters, it is...

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Do you have an eternal sunshine on your spotless mind? Well, yeah. At least I attempt to, though I have to say, sometimes the light may get pretty dim. Guess I just gotta remember during those moments to turn a light switch on, huh?

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I'm getting married in 3 months. My fiancee was flirting around with lot of girls earlier. now, he stopped but on a conversation he told me that he lost his freedom and I'm not letting him talk to any girl thou I feel he is cornering me for the same. As an INCREDIBLY happily married woman, this year our 25th, may I offer some suggestions? Pretend, please, that there is no order to these, as in our experience all are equally important for successful relationship, let alone marriage. (Forgive me, dear, but I have to wonder how old you are, whether you have 'a life' outside of this relationship and does he?) • Gaining the...

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What are 3 huge mistakes that women make with men in a relationship? While absolutely agreeing with the other answers here, I'll add: Constantly asking, 'Honey, what are you thinking about?' ... and ... When they say 'Nothing,' women think they are not 'sharing!' Don't realize that sex, for men, IS their way of showing love, affection, caring, etc. Understand and practice that if [women] want to get something...

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If there were no point system would you still have answered and asked the questions, (be honest)? Very, very much so. While the point and level system may be stimulating to some, for me the entire site is educational, provacative, challenging and more than helpful!!

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I'm starting an Answerbag Glossary which I will provide a link to one day when I have enough material. Can you please help me by providing AB specific terms with their definitions? Answer as many times as you want. Thanks for your support :) BAGNOBLE: n., demonstration of ethical, principled standards; honorable, just, fair, worthy; respectful

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I'm starting an Answerbag Glossary which I will provide a link to one day when I have enough material. Can you please help me by providing AB specific terms with their definitions? Answer as many times as you want. Thanks for your support :) BAGNOBLE: n., demonstration of ethical, principled standards; honorable, just, fair, worthy; respectful

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I'm starting an Answerbag Glossary which I will provide a link to one day when I have enough material. Can you please help me by providing AB specific terms with their definitions? Answer as many times as you want. Thanks for your support :) BAGANIMOSITY: n. hostility, unfriendliness, disrespect for individual's questions, answers, and/or comments on AnswerBag; demonstration of and by trolling and downrating inappropriately

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I'm starting an Answerbag Glossary which I will provide a link to one day when I have enough material. Can you please help me by providing AB specific terms with their definitions? Answer as many times as you want. Thanks for your support :) BAGAMITY: n. In accord and amicable; respectful of other Answerbaggers.

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I'm starting an Answerbag Glossary which I will provide a link to one day when I have enough material. Can you please help me by providing AB specific terms with their definitions? Answer as many times as you want. Thanks for your support :) GRASP-BAG: verb., to understand and by accepting, grasp new knowledge posted on AnswerBag.

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Has anyone experienced being dumbfounded by someone's comments? DUMBFOUNDED??? DUMBFOUNDED!!!! THAT is just not a big enough or long enough word for some of not only comments ... but questions ... and answers!

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I'm starting an Answerbag Glossary which I will provide a link to one day when I have enough material. Can you please help me by providing AB specific terms with their definitions? Answer as many times as you want. Thanks for your support :) AB-CLIQUERS: noun. 1) a narrowly exclusive group of people usually held together by a common often selfish interest or purpose; 2) those that only refer to questions and answers from their own AB 'friends;' 3) individuals who seemingly never go outside their own 'bag!'

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Do animals like music? Yes, very much so, although the word 'like' is a human word, no? Animals hear the music alright, but much more intensely than we folks: their ears are ... (cough-cough) ... attuned! (HA! Pun intended ... just couldn't help it! Tee-hee!) Anyway, I swim/dance out in the very, very deep ocean. I have this gizmo called 'Aqua-Tunes'® from Sport Valise. Its a...

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Have you ever intentionally or unintentionally alienated anyone? I think everyone has at some point? Though, obviously, I could be wrong. Starting about five years ago, I had this epiphany that some of the 'friends' I acquired over the years were literally never-ending dramas or never-ending needy, without ever taking personal responsibility for personally fulfilling those needs or even seeking outside opportunities that were obvious to all,...

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What is the furthest you've been from civilization? As a senior woman, camping by myself in the High Sierra's. I just love it 'out there' -- and that's coming from pretty much a 'city girl!' Really reminds me how to take care of myself, by myself !!! (even over 60); that Nature is always a best friend; that the night sky is filled with more stars than we can ever imagine; that situational precaution and...

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Do you think that every time you/somebody down-rates something, they should also comment on it explaining why they think it is a bad answer? Yes, I would love someone to share what they were thinking, especially since those that give pluses usually leave not only answers but a comment and sometimes comment threads. In many ways, for me, the best of AB creates DIALOGUE! For that, I will forever be grateful. One of the reasons I absolutely love AB is that, for me, it is a way to potentially expand ones knowledge base, unlock some...

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How many of you know that Anthony Quinn is not only a fine actor, but a great painter & sculptor? http://www.herndonfineart.com/images/Quinn/quinn_sculpture_viennese_beauty.jpg

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Who would buy a piece of Artwork painted by Tony Curtis? This guy is pretty darn good! (I am a professional Artist, myself.) http://tonycurtis.com/image/tid/1

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How do you take your mind off of your troubles? By giving to someone else in more need than I perceive I need at the time.

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What's one thing that you know you would do without question for the person you love? Do absolutely anything and everything he could possibly require, need or want from me. He deserves nothing less than pure affection, loyalty, love, passion, cooperation, kindness, consideration, my body, my mind ... and all of that from my very full appreciative heart. He, that perfect one for me, has given me nothing less that that ... and more!

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Is it better to love those who deserve it, or to love ingrates? GREAT QUESTION! No really! (Wish I had asked it! HA!) It is my sense that this is one of those Life Questions that suggests anyone answering it give it careful thought. This cannot, in my view, be answered 'off the cuff.' I don't know about anyone else, I 'only' experience 'me.' And the reason I start here is not that 'others' are not to be...

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I want to become a movie director in the near future, any tips on anything? Like for instance how Do I get a budget for making a movie, how do I cast and ect. Your question suggests you are very much a beginner. Nothing wrong with that! Several questions ... first: • Is this a hobby right now? Have you been filming? With what? And what? • What experience have you had in ANY kind of performance directing, let alone film? * What technical knowledge do you have to accomplish your goal? * What knowledge do you...

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How Would you become a film director, right now im 17 and in 6th yr in secondary school, so is there anything you could do during the last year towards helping after like writing a script or something? I was professionally in this field, both sides of 'the lights' for over 35 years. Before I submit any suggestions I have a couple of questions: 1. What country do you live in? I checked your profile, but no 'real' information was available! (A good thing for AB'ers to do, if nothing else to save time!!!) 2. Do you live in or near a big city? Okay: your...

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How do I come up with ideas for the problem in the story I'm writing Like 'must be' inquired ... 'What is the central topic of your story?' Do you have drafts? What is the purposed of writing your story? For yourself, family, friends ... for contest ... to publish? SPECIFICALLY: what is the 'problem' or current challenge you are having that would want you to post this question?

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Woo hoo! I made it to level 20! Do I get a prize? Yeah ... the level! HA! CONGRAT'S though, from Honolulu!

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Do you appreciate abstract art? Not only do I appreciate ALL art, regardless of technique, but I myself paint in abstract. Actually what I paint, in that crazy art world of mine, can be called 'Recognizable Abstracts.' That means the view 'can tell,' say, that 'one' is a mountain scape or that other one is a 'seascape.' HERE, you judge for yourself: This one is titled,...

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Our lovely sweetcakes has made sage today; who would like to join me in welcoming her upon reaching her sagedom? YIPPPEEEEE! Here's one of my paintings... a flower for you! It's called 'ROSE'©

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"Technology adds nothing to art." Agree or disagree? (the rest of the quote is inside) I absolutely DO NOT agree! While its true we could use last nights ashes or the cooled charcoal from its fire to draw or paint something, or walk down to rivers-bed to sketch in wet sand, I am, like so many of we Artist's, especially we professionals, thrilled we have so many literal options with which to create! I'm overjoyed that I don't have to grind my own paints. I laugh...

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"market system is the best economic system" Do you agree or disagree? Absolutely agree if you mean 'free market' system. Did you have something else in mind?

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Was it good for you? REALLY great question! Gotta say, Joe ... it's 99% GOOD always who I'm with (meow) and ... where I live (literally Paradise: Hawaii) ... what I do (++) and pretty much how I actually (now) think about myself all the time!!

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How does one act "ladylike"? Is it a desirable or necessary trait in a woman, or does it matter? Well, 'lady-like,' is all very relative isn't it? I remember when I was little (when the dinosaur's were still roaming the planet) I was constantly accused by my European parents as 'not being lady-like!' Yeah, I sat (at six, all legs asunder, 'spread,' frankly all very innocent.) Little did they or I know at the time, by such a very real animated...

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Anyone here ever live in Portland Oregon? I am moving there next summer and need to know what area is the least expensive area to live in. My adult son lived in Portland for four years while attending a university for his second college degree. Here is a map of his neighborhood, on NE. 82nd Street, not really far from freeway access. I did a mapquest search for you on www.mapquest.com He bought a really cute house in a very safe neighborhood for just $103K. It had two bedrooms downstair and he reconverted the loft-attic for...

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How do you thing you can help another who is critically ill to not give up on one's self, to feel safe, loved and helped through the frightening unknown. This is such a personal question! I have had several of my own experiences with this, with a couple of senior friends (bed-side) and definitely several family members -- both young and old. All of whom have now passed on ... May I first ask: Is this you? Or a loved one? Is the person married or single? Is this person cognitive of their situation? Are they under really good...

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How common is toxic shock syndrome? Do you know anyone that has had it? GREAT educational question! I don't know anyone who has suffered from this or died. However here is the Mayo Clinic site with good information: http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/toxic-shock-syndrome/DS00221

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Rock on! Who would like to join me in congratulating Ed the Headbanger upon reaching maestro? Party on dude! WAY TO GO ED! HURRAY!

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Is it possible that Brittany Spears is the reincarnation of Joan Crawford? Now THIS is funny! Mmmm: good question! Mmmm: probably! HA!

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I had a wonderful daughter last year. Her personality changed with the coming of a new bf (negative, unreliable, full of excuses, blames me for stupid things, is either lying or is talked in to believing falsehoods) What can I do? Sorry, but is fellow the kind of man YOU would wish she with with when she was of adult age? In my view you are 'allowing' this sweet and innocent child, whose entire body and brain are literally developing (!!!) to accrue what is called in medical circles, 'muscle memory' of tension, drama and insecurity. SHE FEELS and is taking everything all in -- both passive, positive...

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What color shoes should i wear with a yellow dress? I know that you were asking about SHOE color in this question. Here's some considerations that easily include shoes!! The literal 'temperature' of the yellow you have in mind, may help you decide. If its 'bright,' do you want to accent this kind of animation or do you wish to tone down by mixing this specific color or yellow with a 'softer' hue? ...

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I was a free-spirit before I met this guy. Now I'm afraid to leave my front door. I want the passion for life back. I want to enjoi the beauty I'm surrounded by. I know it's there, I just don't feel it anymore. How can I conquer this fear for good? My dearest 'sister' in this world: Before I submit any personal opinion about your situation and your feelings, could you share more with me? How old are you? Are you living in the same home as this guy? Are you working -- what is it you do? You are close to any of your family, do they live near by you? Of your 'old' friends, are you still in contact with any of...

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My 18 yr old daughter has moved to the city, started college, & has a p/t job. We pay for college & any bills she can't handle. Her 22 yr old BF is living-in, not working, & not looking very hard for a job.How do I get her to see that he's not her type? I remember once an old girlfriend told me, 'From the time they come out of you, you are in the process of letting go!' I thought that to be an incredibly wise comment, whether a 'child' is just born ... or 18 ... or a mature adult with their own life. Although you will always, always see your daughter as 'your child,' one who is cherished by you, one that you...

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What makes a person unattractive to you? Another answer here: ANYONE who is not at least open to listening to all viewpoints and opinions!

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If there are any well-known philosophers today, who might be an example of them? Well, for me there are several within many different forms of contemporary industries and sciences. Richard Dawkins. Thomas Sowell. Daniel Dennett Charles Garfield and ... know this one will seen, at first, silly ... but when I think about it, its ACTION of philosphy that counts a lot: Oprah Winfrey! Knew you'd most likely have a 'problem' with that one! HA!

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If the general, scientific community says something, is that enough for you to believe it? Why/Why not? It is my understanding that the underlying principles of anything scientific is to DISPROVE itself! I find it quite interesting, and disturbing, ALL of us -- globally -- literally 'enjoy' the products of science, whether that is medicine, engineering, mechanics, transportation, physics and all the hundreds of sub-categories, while 'disbelieving' science has 'any...

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If the general, scientific community says something, is that enough for you to believe it? Why/Why not? It is my understanding that the underlying principles of anything scientific is to DISPROVE itself! I find it quite interesting, and disturbing, ALL of us -- globally -- literally 'enjoy' the products of science, whether that is medicine, engineering, mechanics, transportation, physics and all the hundreds of sub-categories, while 'disbelieving' science has 'any...

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If the general, scientific community says something, is that enough for you to believe it? Why/Why not? It is my understanding that the underlying principles of anything scientific is to DISPROVE itself! I find it quite interesting, and disturbing, ALL of us -- globally -- literally 'enjoy' the products of science, whether that is medicine, engineering, mechanics, transportation, physics and all the hundreds of sub-categories, while 'disbelieving' science has 'any...

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What makes a person unattractive to you? I'm very tolerant and loving toward most everyone ... however ... I would have a hard time with someone who smelled of a lot pee in their pants!

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Do you think that is wrong to move out when you turn 18 and drop out of school Before I offer my own opinion and life experience ... please, could you share more information with me to better understand your specific situation, what you are thinking? I WILL NOT judge you = I will only offer the best advcie that any 'aunty' may be able. More, it might be helpful if I just ask a lot of questions once I know more?

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I'm heading out on a trip, and if I happen to stop by your area, would you care to go for a drink? =) Which cities did you decided to travel to?

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What do you when you feel like you lack confidence, and just generally feel like the most miserable person on the planet? THE 'deal' for all of us? It is not only 'how' we perceive what we are capable, but better yet we HAVE the ability to literally switch thoughts ... replacing those icky, unserving, unproductive 'NO YOU CAN'T'S' with 'WHY THE HELL NOT?' In one of my professions (as consultant) this is called 'MENTAL RE-SCRIPTING.' A person...

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What do you when you feel like you lack confidence, and just generally feel like the most miserable person on the planet? THE 'deal' for all of us? It is not only 'how' we perceive what we are capable, but better yet we HAVE the ability to literally switch thoughts ... replacing those icky, unserving, unproductive 'NO YOU CAN'T'S' with 'WHY THE HELL NOT?' In one of my professions (as consultant) this is called 'MENTAL RE-SCRIPTING.' A person...

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What do you when you feel like you lack confidence, and just generally feel like the most miserable person on the planet? THE 'deal' for all of us? It is not only 'how' we perceive what we are capable, but better yet we HAVE the ability to literally switch thoughts ... replacing those icky, unserving, unproductive 'NO YOU CAN'T'S' with 'WHY THE HELL NOT?' In one of my professions (as consultant) this is called 'MENTAL RE-SCRIPTING.' A person...

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When answering a question with an honest and valid opinion who is most likely to get annoyed with you - an animal lover on a question about pets or a religious person on a question about beliefs? Without a doubt, a religious person!

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Can you name 20 things that have make life easier? Affordable housing Electricity Water access Indoor plumbing Construction & building supplies Easy access to food or growing it Hygiene Trash pickup All science, especially Chemistry All Medicine The printed word, Books Information Access All Transportation methods Eye glasses / contacts Shoes Pressed Paper, ink, pencils Cash and/or credit cards as exchange for services ...

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Name 5 things that most women aspire to do or be? Well, I can't speak generally for 'most' women. However for me? • Be eternally curious and seeking = discover and then educate myself. • Work always toward my highest potentials and savor the success of others. • Always be the best lover, best friend and best wife I can possibly be to my beloved husband. • Use emotional intelligence to the...

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Have you found that moment at which you were most happy in life? (Mine is this: I got to say, "I love you, Bella"...I'll always remember that.) There are several, actually: • When I was quite little, I was up in an apple tree and knew for the first time that I was my own person. • Running away from home at 16: one of the best decisions I ever made. Finally safe ... finally secure! • Having my three kids. • Now? ALWAYS when I am with my beloved husband. ALWAYS. * Being alone, appreciating time to...

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It is not always the fault of poor parenting that a child 'ends up,' bad! Agree or disagree and why? While the answers and comments bring up many different kinds of issues, all well considered and layered, I might add, some of these 'considerations,' while offering universally helpful held thoughts and 'normal' caring and loving-intentions, do not address very real issues and behaviors which are experienced from even the best of intelligent, loving and diligent parents....

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What's one of the best lines from your favorite comedian? From Chris Tucker in stand-up: "POOR???? POOR!!! Ain't NOBODY, NO-HOW POOR in this country! Hell, even 'the poor' have food stamps, a car and a couple of TV'S! POOR?"

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Fool me once, fool me twice: what happens then? I KNOW not to entertain EVER AGAIN ... that person ... that situation ... that circumstance. This is all the personal wisdom, and consequent 'new' actions, that comes from 'The School of Hard Knocks!' And, frankly? I wouldn't have it any other way ... BECAUSE: You can't make an omelette without breaking some eggs!

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Do you find yourself more knowledgeable ever since you have joined the AB website? Absolutely! AB, in many ways, is its own kind of self-editing encyclopedia! I am so grateful for all the opinions, even when I am not necessary in agreement with some of them. Fuller person from all of it, that's for sure!

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Do you find yourself more knowledgeable ever since you have joined the AB website? Absolutely! AB, in many ways, is its own kind of self-editing encyclopedia! I am so grateful for all the opinions, even when I am not necessary in agreement with some of them. Fuller person from all of it, that's for sure!

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Do you find yourself more knowledgeable ever since you have joined the AB website? Absolutely! AB, in many ways, is its own kind of self-editing encyclopedia! I am so grateful for all the opinions, even when I am not necessary in agreement with some of them. Fuller person from all of it, that's for sure!

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Do you make your bed? Well, this in its own way is a funny question, since it 'hits home' for me! I grew up in a home where one could eat off my mother's floors! Literally, she spent her lifetime and ours, unfortunately ... cleaning! [It wasn't until much later in adulthood, that I discovered the reason she did was to keep out of harm's way from my abusive father!!] Anyway, growing up...

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Why are different kinds of fear felt in different areas of the body? Mrs. Dufresne: This is PART II ... an extension of my previous submit to you. While what was discussed in PART I is an empowering personal tactic, it is also important to consider other modalities of thinking, feeling and doing, lest a person-in-fear get 'caught' by always feeling that they have to 'do more,' 'be more.' Truth is, we are WHOLE human beings...

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Why are different kinds of fear felt in different areas of the body? Mrs. Dufresne: This is PART I of II --- PART II will follow in another answer box here. When you think about it, thoughts are just patterns of energy. They have flowed from our neurons to create a feeling in our body. Added, by these patterns of energy, the brain-producing biochemicals of 'fight or flight' may 'present' themselves in different areas physically,...

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I go into the kitchen and lose myself in cooking and when I emerge, we have something to eat. Do you have anything that you can lose yourself in that is productive? Cooking is a serious hobby for both of us in our home. Love everything about it, especially since we both have agreed neither 'has to.' Of course my watercolors 'take me away' -- very Zen like experience for me and usually it feels as if 'someone else' has produced the artwork. Anything 'ART' related like flower arranging and even gardening, viewing...

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It's been said that "happy" people have no stories. Do you think this is true? No, I don't think its true at all! And well, whoever created this saying is either an idiot or really missing the point of 'having a life worth living.' Like others have opined here, each human being is not only an individual but is UNIQUELY individual. It's also been said, 'One person's happiness may be another's sorrow!' Certainly that is...

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As your rating ability of questions and answers has increased, have you gone back and uprated riveting or compelling items from the past on Answerbag? Great question! Mmmm, yes I have, but only up-rated the ones I really wished I could have at the time! You know, those ones that in your comment box you say something like, 'GREAT ANSWER +10!'

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Anyone up for a Answerbag wave this evening? Stand up at your computer and put your hands in the air, it might be the biggest wave ever! Here I am ... waving ... I can FEEL you ... can you feel me? Wow! The wind generated from all this arm flappin' is just amazing!

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Is it possible to find love at 47. Like I mean holding hands, Talking, Caring, Enjoying each others company, Sex at least twice a week. I don't believe it has to die when you have been together 20 years. I just can't keep the fire burning by myself. I hope to only be of assistance. If I have 'jumped the gun,' or do not understand all the details that have made this discomfort, I first ask that you forgive my ignorance of these, but understand only I wish you both well! It is possible to rekindle love if both parties are willing. Intimate relationships can and do remain when both individuals catch 'situations' long...

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If you regularly give good answers to a particular users questions, & you notice that they frequently comment on other answers given but never your own, do you think it is unreasonable to assume that the questioner doesn't like you? Pretty Pirate: Yes, like letmespeak, I can understand why you may feel like you need to assume this. However, HONEY! We all here, regardless of good intentions and emotional intelligence and empathy, are, indeed, literal strangers to each other, even if we have 'friends' in our cache and we are in theirs. There is no way to know WHY someone does something in this life, let alone...

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On Answerbag I've had to apologize more than once for hurting someone inadvertently and have always been able to work it out. Have you been hurt by an AB member and were you able to work it out with no lasting hard feelings? I got in very, very deep doo-doo this week from answering a question. NO offense was ever intended nor, in my view offered by me. As you know Rosie, this is NOT my style. Turns out that I 'didn't know all that was going on [for asking their question in the first place]! Was I to be mind-reader? So after what felt like a million comments back and forth between three people (1,...

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Is it possible to find love at 47. Like I mean holding hands, Talking, Caring, Enjoying each others company, Sex at least twice a week. I don't believe it has to die when you have been together 20 years. I just can't keep the fire burning by myself. Before I offer my own personal answer: I went to your profile to discover whether you were male or female, not that this matters to generally offer 'answers' let alone suggestions. Please, then, would you be so kind as to offer and share more specifics to me? Beloved and I have been married for 25 years (November 13) and fell in love during our late thirties. Both had previous...

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Do you sneeze at least once a day? No ... should I?

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Why do ABer's insist on answering a question, when they don't have the specific answer?...i.e "What kind of car do you have", "I don't have a car"... whats the point in leaving this type of message? Yeah, I know what you mean! Argh! Well, maybe these folks want this internet friendship-kind-of-thing to get going rather than answering the posted query? Well ... who knows what makes many others tick? I sure as 'Helen' don't!

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I think if you can't be comfortable alone and lead a positive, productive and happy life, you are of no use to anyone else. If you "need" to always be with someone, you will be needy and clingy and no fun to be with. Do you agree or disagree? This question is a very essential, Rosie. I sense some people never even entertain the meaning of this question, let alone how very, very important it actually is for all of us to ask and consequently answer by our own unique way, our own singular method, In my view, all individuals need to feel not only capable of thoroughly enjoying being alone, whether that is lazy, productive, silly,...

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Do you know people who do not watch the news? Does it scare you? No, I don't watch the news but READ the news. Even that is suspect. After all, depending on the OWNER of the news station and the owner of the newspaper, it is slanted toward their preferences. So, I/we in our own household get a cross section of newspapers AND magazines, like 'Weekly World News' which are compilations of various newspaper reports and/or columns from around...

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Can you freeze bread? I can't finish a whole loaf before it goes green. Well, we travel a lot and its just the two of us. Yes, you can freeze bread though it never really 'feels' like fresh baked again. However, pita bread, bagels and some others and freezing ing freshly made bread dough BEFORE it rises seems to fare pretty well.

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What do you desire in life? Not much more ... I FINALLY have most of what I have desired, wished for ... or dreamed about! However, THAT doesn't include the passionate desire to continue to learn ... to be a better listener ... a better cooperator ... a better teacher, a better student ... ... all those types of things that make for 'A LIFE WORTH LIVING!'

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What do you do in life? Hi guy! Well, on the surface this question 'looks' simple. However, it really isn't, you ole smartie-pants of a person! Because you are THE THINKER that includes 'who you are,' I will ask questions BEFORE I come back and answer what I feel and think. Are you asking ... mmmm: what do I do for a living in this life of mine? Or ... mmmm ... what do I do in life as...

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What do you think when you see a woman riding a motorcycle? I only feel, 'YOU GO GIRL!' I have several gal-pals who own and ride Harley's! These women are amazing and I adore them for all the qualities they bring to all of us that have the privilege to know them!

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What makes you proudest about your children? Its a no-brainer that every parent wants their kids 'to turn out well.' Most of us have the honor and privilege of witnessing them through thick and thin, sometimes even wondering ourselves, if they will 'get through' all of this Life's challenges, especially these days!   Yes, our son is a wonderful human being. He has been a world traveler since he was 18,...

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Between the names Gracie Angelica and Amélie Evangeline, which do you like more? Amelie Evangeline ... definitely. Great sounding, great rhythm (already mentioned) and just plain sweet!!!

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What good deeds is your hubby doing right now so you will let him go golfing or something else that he really wants to do but you think he should be spending time at home today,lol? Maybe I have COMPLETELY misunderstood not only the question but the purpose of it? Why oh why do some people in assumed loving intimate relationships think 'they let' someone 'do' something the other truly enjoys? And more, why is that other expected to do good deeds nee 'be good?' ... 'so you will let him go ...?' I thought that marriage and...

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I'm ba.a.a.ck! Did you miss me? OH yes indeedy! Did you miss us?

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Could you mend my broken heart? Perhaps, if you allowed me to ask a couple of seemingly difficult and even personally challenging questions! I will assume that you have darn near 'killed' yourself by asking the standard questions we all do in these circumstances like, 'HOW did this happen?' ... 'WHY did it happen?' ... 'WHY NOW?' ... 'WHY ME?' ... and those similar to...

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Do you buy into the current trend where people blame all the bad things they do on an "addiction"? Which do you believe is least likely to be an actual addiction? LACK OF PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY FOR ONE'S OWN ACTIONS!

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Is all addiction bad? Like others, I first thought: YES! OF COURSE, as the word 'addiction' implies more often than not out-of-control behavior or dangerous behavior. However, if we were to take a larger view, I don't believe so, so I submit a somewhat confused or uniformed 'no' here. If one's 'addiction' does not hurt them in any way or not hurt or harm anyone else, I...

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Does happiness become more obscure as intelligence and knowledge increases? Why or why not? In my view, by becoming more aware of ones own perceived sense of balance in life, its perceived happiness and perceived negative attitudes (or their accompanying mental and physical consequences of such) become MORE personally reliable, accessible and instrumental with the increase of one's own emotional intelligence. With any self-produced 'profit' from this sense of...

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Have you met anyone recently, that you feel you know better than people you've known for many years? Actually and somewhat 'strangely' this happens to me quite frequently! Maybe its because I always carry myself with the attitude that there are 'no strangers,' not really. Specifically, interestingly enough ... on-line and finally meeting in person ... beloved and I met two people a couple who we absolutely instantly bonded with, especially for the fact that they too...

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What is the most difficult thing you have ever had to do as a parent? Literally and completely let a child of mine go through 'Tough Love.' This first born turned out to be a confirmed and diagnosed sociopath and psychopath, lacking an conscious whatsoever and who was also the person who started our horrific house fire where we lost our daughter, who was barely three at the time. He has been a career criminal his entire life, in and out of prison...

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If your 14 year old child was repeatedly having sex in your home at what lengths would you go to get this child under control? Okay: FIRST ... as is said ... 'The apple doesn't fall far from the tree.' While I agree that this 14 YEAR OLD child is 'out of control,' it is correct to more than suggest the entire FAMILY has a problem! No kidding! To this, it is absolutely 'demanded' that the ENTIRE family receive immediate Family Counseling. And I mean TODAY! The fact that a child...

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Do you ever feel like you are second choice? Actually, for me the fact that someone even asked this question is in some ways very disturbing! Geez-Louise, you guys! I am so surprised how many of you actually feel like a 'second choice.' I personally feel bad for each of you. Maybe I am missing something that lies underneath your answers? Only one, so far, has answered with 'No ...' While some would think they...

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Say that you have a bunch of broken down boxes that have been chilling in your dining room for a few weeks now, and someone stuck them outside on the covered patio, would you flip out that they would get wet even though they are just boxes? QuinnFan: you didn't mention or include who 'took the boxes,' you only identified them as 'someone.' Perhaps if 'we' knew more, we'd be better to address the specific issue. If this was some 'outside' person who you don't care about, or don't have a relationship... my comments and answer would be entirely different! However, that...

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I've come to love belonging to Answerbag as much as I enjoy cooking..never thought I'd say that about anything. It fills a niche/need I didn't know I had. What things have you "happened upon" casually that you have found that you love? Ikebana ... Japanese flower arranging! Who woulda guessed? Swimming in the VERY deep ocean ... well, actually I don't 'swim in it' ... I literally dance out there! Who knew you could actually DO this? Playing backgammon with my honey-pie! Watching SCIENCE programs and thoroughly and completely loving it! ... even that 'stuff' that's really difficult for...

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We've all had difficulties trying to grasp/understand some things..or trying to explain something to those who are slow in "getting it". Which bothers you more...being the explainer or the explainee? For me personally, it depends not only on the topic but the situation and circumstance. If its something is really KNOW, something with years and years of training and professional experience, I LOVE to teach and be the 'explainer.' This also includes the love of trading real-time and useful information whether that surrounds my gadzillion years and experience in all things...

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Is it true what they say, if you ain't lovin' you ain't livin'? Well ... mmmm ... very interesting question nee 'statement.' Personally, I believe that LIVIN' is all about lovin!' Now, some would interpret your question only to mean loving someone else. While that's always sweet, natural, and 'wanted' with many, many rewards (and challenges too), I suggest that there is MORE to be gained from Life than...

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You're in a heated debate. How challenging would it be for you to see all sides 'as equally correct?' Can you step outside of your own views and accept the totally of what is really important: the respect for coexistent, layered individual ideas? Absolutely! Actually beloved husband and I decided about a year ago to take this very challenge! It's been really interesting, since both now are correct. Although we virtually do not argue, it has prevented a heated debate about a topic to be exactly that: about a topic, not about the relationship! We absolutely have gained so much insight from this!

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Sweet lie or bitter reality? if you have to choose one of them as your life's direction, what would you choose? Lies are ALWAYS bitter and reality has the potential of always been sweeter than most imagine!

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When you have to go to the doctor how long are you willing to sit and wait to see him? Have you ever gotten up and left because you had to wait so long? I am perfectly willing to patiently sit and wait for no more than a half-hour. After that, if I have NOT been informed by the doctor's reception staff that there was an immediate emergency which the doctor had to attend, I will not only leave (not ever in a huff), but I WILL send them a bill for MY TIME for anything over an hour, which is completely reasonable and respectful. I will...

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What do you think is the best self-help book that ISN'T (marketed as) a self-help book? I know of several, but I'll only list a few ... 'THE PROPHET' by Kahlil Gibran 'THE TAO OF WAR' by Sun Tzu 'PEAK PERFORMANCE' by Charles Garfield, Ph.D. 'THE VIRTUE OF SELFISHNESS' by Ayn Rand

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Do you think that Marketing is "evil"? Why or why not? Like others say here, 'marketing' is not evil. I don't even think 'marketers' are evil either. Mostly because we, as individuals, CHOOSE by our own free will to purchase or disregard whatever products are being advertised! Marketing and advertisers are part and parcel of our American free market. Like anything else -- and much like other people's opinions --...

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Is mind separate from the body? Or is the mind simply a product of your brain? I sense that more people than not walk through space and time believing there IS a separation between 'mind' and 'body.' For whatever reason, I suppose this may bring a sort of illusionary comfort to those that believe this to be true. However, speaking personally of course, I believe 'it' is absolutely magical and wonderful this mind/body thing ... all this...

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Agree or Disagree? You can't make eggs without breaking an omelette. Totally agree with it! I love this phrase! It has provided me with courage, especially during times when I thought I could do something outside of what was familiar to me. As it turned out, most all of my 'omelets' turned out much better than I even thought they would! Pretty darn tasty, if ya ask me! ;)

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I get really jealous of my Husbands relationship with his daughter. I know its wrong and stupid but I can't help it. I keep causing rows and upset because of this and now my Husband is talking about divorce. I don't want to break up, what do I do? Without meaning to be rude here, you said in your question, ' ...but I can't help it.' Truth is, dear, this is a literal CHOICE you are making and however unfortunate, find yourself functioning from 'this belief.' Now, another toughy question: how IS '... causing rows and upsets ...' related in any way, shape or form a personal demonstration of the love...

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What strength in yourself do you rely on most? My unbounding love and sense of life itself, the acceptance that ALL are equally to be cherished for commonality of 'just being' human beings, attempting, really, to do our best. LIFE itself is precious and frankly, a privilege!

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How can I begin to learn to live fully in the present without worrying about the future? Aloha Mrs. Dufresne! Actually I KNOW why you are posting this question and it is very normal ... and very, very wise ... for you to do so! Now, there are many suggestions I can share with you here. The first one, at first glance, may sound a little silly or even far-fetched: Take an improvisation class! ...

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Have you read Papillon by Henri Charierre? Did you enjoy it? Not only was this book fabulous, but it was one of those very few that translated to the movie just beautifully! Awesome book. Awesome movie. Awesome performances!

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If someone you don't know approaches you and says "You stink pretty", should you be highly flattered or deeply offended? Heck! I'll take ANY compliment for what its worth, regardless of how said. Stuff in this life of ours is challenging enough without getting offended by this! Gotta 'pick your battles,' I'd say!

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Do you have a partner in crime? Ooooooh YEAH! My beloved is my partner in the crime of passion!

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Ever get the feeling you've been cheated? Honestly? No, I don't feel I've been cheated out of anything! The way I view it, once you grasp the reality of some things, and accept them without any blame toward them or anyone else, everything THEN feels like a virtual gift = • 'Life' isn't fair nor is it suppose to be. • Mother Nature IS indifferent. She doesn't 'pick on'...

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I've got an extra $100 and want to buy something. What? Well, I don't know about anyone else ... I would just give it away. My decision may be impulsive at first glance, but I would probably really think about who I actually felt could SPREAD a hundred dollars in the best way. After all, these days, $100 dollars, depending, doesn't really go very far! Sure, I could think 'of the needy,' who most likely would need it no...

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You have something that you have to do that you are dreading..if you could go to sleep and wake up after all the turmoil were over, would you do so, or do you think that would be chickenly/cowardly/wimpy and elect to just do it and get it over with? I'll bet dollars for donuts going to the policemen that you are 'talking' about your upcoming, unasked for, unanticipated move, Rosie!   The task that you are currently facing IS daunting, especially for all the reasons you've shared here. However, I believe that if you ask literally everyone you know to assist you and your husband, you will be delightfully surprised...

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If you see someone in a really expensive car...or ever drive around in a neighborhood of palatial mansions..do you imagine what kind of lives these people lead and would you like to take a brief look-see at one of their typical days? Rosie! Like Highlander said, it's all in perspective. I remember hearing Chris Tucker, the comedian, in one of his routines. It went something like this, though paraphrased: 'POOR? POOR!!!???? Ain't no one, no how, poor in this country! Hell, even the poor here have FOOD bought with food stamps (!!!), a place to lay their heads and probably a couple of televisions and a...

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Is it ever OK for my wife to touch and rub another man's foot? This is a trick question, right? I KNOW you know not only what to think, but what TO DO!

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Why do guy's not show affection? Like others here, I think you have generalized a bit much. MOST men do show affection. Each individual has their very own, special and unique way of demonstrating it.   I, too, would ask ... WHO are you hanging with?

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What is a good rate for an artist to draw a 200 page graphic novel The rate that is charged by an artist has several considerations: • What is the experience of the artist? Is this the first time they are hired for their ability, or is this person 'established' in their field? This definitely would effect 'rates.' • What are the standard 'going rates' for this type of job? [Do a Google Search.] ...

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If you were forced to live with someone(s) whom you disliked, but you had no choice, do you think you would eventually find a way to get along or would you be at war constantly? Rosie: have to ask WHY there is 'no choice?' I'll be better able to offer my answer if I understand the situation more clearly!

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Is there a part of you that is closed off or locked up, that no one has ever experienced, or are you totally transparent and open and accessible to others? WOW! I can so appreciate and honor Highlander's answer! First to him, I say thank you for your service! For the question at hand, I guess perhaps I have different thoughts to share here ... Without disrespect to anyone and their absolute right to choose which to offer to others and which to close off, this is how I view 'this deal' from a lifetime of great and absolutely...

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Ok, I need a head count. How many of you, my fellow Abers, are planing to tuck yourselves away in my suitcase? We're ALREADY in a suitcase! We're on Kauai right now! Wanna come here?

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When it comes to global warming tell me how concerned are you? Well, I wish others would understand how much of it is not caused by humans, though this, of course, should be of concern. Check out just one of the articles on global warming caused by volcanic action: http://www.gaspig.com/volcano.htm

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Was there a point in your life when you realized you didn't need to be taught anything else - that you were pretty much set for life with the knowledge you had already accumulated? No! Not only that, but the only thing I KNOW for sure is I would be a dead person long before I could ever even imagine that happening! In my view, the absolutely delight filled wonder of being a human being is 'knowing' that there is ALWAYS going to be something new to discover ... something more to learn ... some new technique to better develop my mind ... some new...

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Are you satisfied with your life so far? What are there choices you could have made to make your life more worthwhile/more accomplished/happy/whatever? Life to me is a breathing entity, filled with constant movement, shape, form and always offers the opportunity to step forward regardless of circumstance or situation. Some say, 'Hey! Life isn't fair!' Honestly, I don't expect it to be fair; I have never expected that from it. What I have 'expected' is to meet all of it head on with all the passion and...

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My girlfriend use to be so affectionate hugs and kisses all the time than recently i've had to beg her for just a hug, she works at a fine mens clothing store and is hit on alot, im a little insecure about this what should i do? Rameen: you didn't mention how long you two have been together, not that 'lack' of affection toward someone should be cause for that. However, beloved and I have witnessed many a couple who begin to become complacent in their demonstrations of affection and love for the other. As a woman responding to your query: • Instead of feeling 'insecure' about her...

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Lately i have been getting a lot of stress about my career. I'm only 13! My art teacher says im the best he's ever seen, but I don't want to do this for a living. It seems too unstable. What can I do to relate my art (I mostly just like drawing/painting) You mentioned, ... 'getting a lot of stress about my career.' I first have to ask just who is causing this stress? Your answer for 'us' might prove to be more specifically helpful in understanding how to answer your question in a better way. No one at 13, especially one who is really good at something, wants to hear about how you are 'just' 13! Although a...

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I hate change...when I'm comfy with something I want it to stay as it is...when I'm forced to accept change I'm not a happy camper. What about you? The funny thing about 'being comfy' for me: its the place, literally and figuratively, that literally allows and even encourages me to take more chances, enjoying change where it most likely needed to occur. For the most part, I no longer 'hold tight' for there is no reason to anymore. The deal for me is this: I view all of my life with as much acceptance as I can...

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My doctor just told me that I have cervical cancer. I'm scared. What should I do? Dearest Mrs. Dufresne: You have been on my mind since yesterday when you first posted your question. Since then, I have come up with more thoughts for you, I wanted to offer other considerations ... You didn’t mention whether or not you had children in your home. It is an understatement to suggest that when one person in the family has a diagnosis of cancer (or other to-be-taken...

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Do you wear your heart on your sleeve or hide it in your pocket? Frankly, I am just way to open to hide anything away. Plus, I don't know why some believe that their 'human condition' is so gull-darned different than anyone else! So what's 'to protect' anyway? What's the big deal? My sense is that Life offers opportunities, tragedies, successes and failures ... relatively speaking, we've all known 'the poor...

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I have found that there are certain rhythms/points of view to some people's questions and once you key into that, it makes answering their questions a lot of fun. Have you found that to be true for you as well? Yes, definately! We all have a 'certain' syntax we use while speaking and it appears this too comes out when we write. Since I'm an animated human being -- always have been -- I tend you use symbols for emphasis, i.e., capitals for emphasis not for 'yelling,' or ' -- ' as if pointing to that, hoping it gets a wee bit more notice in my sentence structure. ...

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What are some unusual or frankly weird hobbies? (Feel free to make something up.) THESE ARE NOT CURRENT HOBBIES BUT COULD BE OFFERED CLASSES SO THEY MAY BECOME A HOBBY? * Weaving with live plants • Paper towel fashion design • Dis-organizing for the anal retentive • Nail painting and polish for the straight male • The Art of Shoe Polish • The Art of Writing Tabloids on your neighbors • Wizzardry for Christians ...

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My doctor just told me that I have cervical cancer. I'm scared. What should I do? Oh my dear sweetness! So sorry to hear your very recent news! These things always come as a shock and in the beginning all the feelings that flood you are completely normal. 1. Let everyone around you, especially your cherished husband help you through this phase and period of your life. 2. I was diagnosed with cervical cancer twenty-some years ago. It was a Grade 3 which isn't...

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What are some more good phrases like "Whatever floats your boat" or "Whatever rubs your Buddha"? 'Whatever rings your bell.'   'Whatever tips your hat!'   'Whatever puts a bounce in your step.'   'Whatever sharpens your knife.'   'Everyone likes something else on pizza!'   Whatever puts cream in your coffee.'   Whatever walks the dog.'   Whatever paints the better portrait.' ...

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What is your favorite frozen treat? Frozen seedless green grapes on top of mango sorbet.

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Can saying, "Let's agree to disagree." be counter-productive in the exchange of ideas? No, I do not believe so. 'Agreeing to disagree' respects the PERSON more than the TOPIC being discussed which, by all civilized standards, has greater value!

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In order to help those less fortunate, you will have to give up one of your good qualities. Which one would you be willing to donate? Well, my answer comes in the form of a question! While at first glance this question may, at the least, be considered provacative and even 'interesting,' it doesn't really make sense to me, Rosie. I'm not saying that I am sooooo full of 'good qualities' that I would know which they are, let alone which to give up to someone less forunate. Gosh, darnit! Maybe...

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If we could eliminate our prejudices (conscious or subconscious) we would open up many areas that are currently closed to us. Which areas would you like to explore first? Rosie, dear ... this question is a bit personally confusing to me. Could you please reword it? I always so, very much, appreciate the thought that goes into all of your questions, let alone your answers. Most times I feel we are sitting across a table, sipping something and discussing, delightedly, the night away! You ARE a treasure and deserve all the points any of us could possibly give...

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How important is intention? Person A does something totally selfish and Person B coincidentally benefits greatly. Does this action by Person A get added to his/her Life Record of Good Deeds? In my view 'intention' is neither necessary nor sufficient. Prior to specific intention is one's hopefully well-thought-out and identified personal motive: what, at the very least, will be gained by the elements of a ‘giving’ decision and how might these two be related to each other? Though perhaps a possible cause for semantic questioning, when motive and...

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Your sweetheart calls ..he is bringing a long-time friend home whom you've never met..you have no time to go to the market..with what you have on hand right now, what are you going to prepare to eat? He promised his friend a home-cooked meal! No problem whatsoever = There are at least a hundred way to prepare eggs. Even more for potatoes. There is always several kinds of onions on hand. Oh yeah, there is my traditional fresh herb garden -- now in containers as we live in a condo. Our literal global spice and herb cabinet, a lazy susan with two shelves, holds every herb imaginable from as far away as Morocco, South America,...

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I fell down last night and I believe I fractured a rib! What to do? HEY AB-PALS! THANK YOU SO VERY, VERY MUCH FOR YOUR INPUT! Just got back from Urgent Care! There aren't any broken bones, but three distinct DEEP bruises on the bones (x-rayed). Doctors don't tape ribs or chests anymore as it prevents deep breathing and in 99% of the cases causes pneumonia (!!!), but I am allowed to hold a pillow tightly to my chest as a source of compression. ...

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If you could only choose one, what would you say is the ONE most important characteristic of a friend? Confidence: they know who they are and practice the art of cooperation.

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I love to love but now i have nothing to love :( What ever am i to do? Many people love the CONCEPT of love, but have either a hard time actually loving another being or have so mystified loving that any individual outside of them could never live up to the fantasy of (cough-cough) 'real' love. Your question which includes ... 'I have nothing to love...' suggests that you do not love yourself in an emotionally intelligent manner. A critical...

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Microsoft or Mac? Mac's ONLY! End of discussion?

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Have you ever used the term "Oh My Science!"? Yes, actually I have! And love it! &nbsp: However, my newest is 'OH MY NATURE!'

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What are some male or female stereotypes that you fit? I am a 'girly girl,' very demonstratively romantic while at the same time 'fearlessly' adventureous without being girly-silly about it. I wear my heart on my sleeve, while at the same time holidng my 'Scorpian' tail in reserve! [However, this period of my life is much more Pheonix Rising though!!!) But, this isn't a gender 'difference' either. ...

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What does it take to be a truely compassionate being? A 'truly compassionate being' begins with a demonstratable strength of character deepened by personal experience. Acquiring personal experience is not determined by an individual talent for compassion. As in all human experience, this individual 'wisdom' arrives only from facing one's own life challenges head on with grace, a sense of humility and cooperation....

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Do atheists view morality as an enemy of free will? Like some here, I am more than disappointed by the prevalence of incorrect and misleading 'definitions' of atheists. What is truly more of a shock is the 'all-knowing' lock many indiviudals (and groups) place upon not only atheists but other types and/or styles of being and view. Why anyone labels another with 'unknowing' incorrect labels of concrete facts, will...

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Do you ever ponder the deep questions in life or do you leave that to the philosophers? This is an interesting question, to say the least! In is my belief all people ask deeper questions, even those that don't think they do! This is especially true when loss is great, whether a specific dear person in one's life or loss of realationship, loss of employment for whatever reason, or international or national conflict. These life challenges, along with many, many...

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I don't understand when people don't just want to be kind to each other! Do you? StableBoy’s answer addresses a practical form for cooperative functioning and behavior. Further, he addresses what he does to either ‘ignore bad behavior,’ or to 'reward good behavior’ or humanely offering assistance when and where he feels it appropriate to do so. Cowboy22, you have offered an additional question referring to an extreme behavior (serial killer)...

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Are you jealous of friends and family that are doing better than you, or are you honestly happy for them? Not only am I NOT jealous or envious of the success of my family and friends, I thoroughly celebrate each and every of these ... including aquaintance and even strangers! The hard-won 'gifts' these received are the very things we hope for, aren't they? In my view, they should be ... Most of us are not handed a silver platter and we have to work our proverbials off to not...

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We're moving after twenty years in one place! It is daunting to contemplate. Do we find a place first? Do we weed out stuff first? Do we do both first? We have until November 30..any guidance,thoughts,roadmaps that you can think of? BOY! Can we absolutely relate to this question! Beloved and I not only decided to move, but decided to down-size completely. We then had to decide how to get rid of all our stuff in a five-bedroom home as where we were moving to ... a condo of less than 1,000 sq.ft. in Honolulu, could never hold it. Not only that, but we were completely switching 'styles,' from all cottage-like to...

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Anything you can do I can do better, what can you can do better than I? Paint fine art aqua-media fine art & collages & have solo art exhibitions. Coach world-class Peak Performers, including twice gold medal Olympic athletes and NASA personnel. Teach working professionals in acting and directing, both theater and film, and have a two year waiting list to get into your Masters Class. Have THE MOST successfully happy marriage of 25 years with a...

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What part of the brain do you use left or right? It is my view and some science study everyone uses right and left brain functions situationally. In this sense, there is no either/or but our mind’s faculty to function with mutual affect and effect. There is much to be said for the unfortunate 'locks' most people put on other people (or themselves) by using 'standard' identifiers as they know them. Many...

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How much time do you spend hoping, wishing or dreaming rather than doing? While I am a person who dreams, more often than not using these 'streams' as inspiration for me to get it on. I am one of those fortunates who is never at a loss for ideas! That said, personally I completely accept that an idea, however 'good,' must be not only produced but should be choosen for its ability to advance both ones mental and physical well-being, while at the...

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What was the last thing you purchased on-line? Some art supplies to begin replacing the $3,000 worth that were stolen while recenting traveling!

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If you could be something other than human what would you be? The sunlight the shines upon each and every human being when they wake up in the morning! OR A sense of warm peacefulness when all appears to be lost!

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Your thoughts on the following. Is forgiveness: giving up ones right for revenge or retaliation? While forgiving is one of the most difficult challenges we humans face, there are other elements to consider. When anyone 'forgives' another, for whatever reason personally relevant to them, the cause of the original injustice does not go away. In this sense forgiveness is partnered with 'not forgetting.' We learn by not forgetting what caused us harm and refrain from...

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Do you and your wife/husband still take time out to go out on a date? How often does this happen? Beloved husband and I have one of the best marriages and relationships anyone could ever want ... after 25 years we believe and act as if we are STILL on our honeymoon! There is no 'luck' here as we both believe that being 'allowed' to love another is a pure privilege, let alone be equally loved by them in return. There is no 'magic' here as we both believe...

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Why do some of us "turn" on each other just because we got a little ticked off at something? Maybe just one of the reasons is that most people have forgotten how to laugh at themselves and not just 'tolerate' the differences but literally celebrate them!

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I'm a big fan of trying to work things out. How about declaring today "Wipe-The-Slate-Clean Day" and forgive one another's transgressions/hurts, real or imaginary? We start over (where needed) and maybe we can do a better job this time! O.K.? In some ways, Rosie, its apparent that you may be addressing some AB'ers. However, I wish to add and offer another layer ... Your question reminds me of September 11th, a day when it appeared everyone wanted to sense how to establish an overall sense of peace not only for themselves but for others, while at the same time responding to injustice. 'Forgiving' is a difficult...

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Why can i not email answerbag if i need some techinacal support? Zemark: I am fairly confident that you may contact answerbag with any problem on its site by going to FEEDBACK, found at the bottom of all AB pages. Good luck! Let me know how it goes, okay?

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Hey you guys! I just found out I won an International Award for some poetry I wrote and entered! Have you ever won something from your own writing? HEY YOU GUYS!!! As requested I've placed the poem in my profile! I hope you enjoy it as much as I had writing it! THANK YOU for all your wonderful comments!

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What moment in your life do you wish happened in slow motion? The wonderful thing about my own imagination is that I can 'go back' to many terrific life experiences and view them in slow-motion. True this talent comes from being trained as a professional actress years and years ago. Though I am not that now, I now value all the techniques, methods and training those professional studies and experiences gave me. Indeed, their use has spilled...

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Describe yourself in as few words as possible. Living A Life Worth Living!

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Whats the funniest thing you've seen printed on a shirt? My husband collects all sorts of provocative but funny T-shirts: easy to wear here in Hawaii as most times no one dresses up for anything except for an occasional haute cuisine meal at one of its more famous restaurants. That said, all but two here require a jacket! One of my favorites is a picture of one of those dummies used when car makers test air bags. However, under this tech...

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Okay this is it..I'm leaving for Maui in a couple of hours (for a month)..You will all be here when I get back won't you? We all just wish you the most fantastic time. The Hawaiian islands are really incredible, each really does offer something different ... kinda amazing since they are are relatively close to each other. We've lived on Oahu for years now, and although we are well traveled, we cannot imagine living anywhere else in the world. (Too bad you won't be on 'our' island, it would...

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What's the shortest possible answer you can give to this question that will still make sense? When?

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How long do you think the trend of piercings and tattooing will continue? I think like all fashion statements they will disappear..how long do you give them? First, I have to comment that we live on an island wherein many of our ethnic population 'sports' tattoos and piercings that are considered symbols of family origin, status and in many ways honor ancestral 'totems.' These tattoos also honor Nature and its creatures. Many of the younger generations wear these too, even some not of that specific ethnicity, but for their own...

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I have presentation fear, I panic, blush, my hands shake when i hold the speech paper,etc.. how to overcome such fear? All the answers submitted here in my view are helpful and may be incorporated into your goal of overcoming an unwanted personal state and presentation behavior. However, may I first inquire whether presentation is a part of your career requirement or an occasional situation you find yourself in? In some ways, your answer may make a difference in how you might tackle your perceived and...

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Do you hack your own path through the jungle or do you prefer to follow the path that others have provided? Well, it would depend on WHICH jungle ... WHICH path! One of the great good fortunes of living within this day and age is the plethora of information, methods and techniques, let alone classes with others and do-it-yourself materials that are made available to us all. I am a creative, independent critical thinker. However, there has been multiple times in my life I had the wisdom to...

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Post-it notes: Love them or hate them? Funny you should ask! I'm one of those gals who would have liked to have invented post-its! Personally, I use them all the time. I love them! BUT, that is not the reason I REALLY love them ... let me explain:   For 25 years my beloved has made me coffee every morning, somewhat jokingly saying 'It's my job!' HA! Gotta love this guy for that! Anyway, ON my coffee...

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How do you stay a constant person? Consistent in your thoughts, beliefs, actions and temperment, in other words a steady person. From where comes your strength or what things you do help you? My consistency comes from a lifetime of learning: how to behave first with myself and how to cooperate with the world that surrounds me.   I don't believe we are born with inherient values or standards. Much like water filling a glass, I hold each personal experience -- whether 'bad' or 'good' -- advances in some way my healthiest and most cooperative...

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Do you really exist? No ... its all a temporary illusion, one that frankly I am enjoying just from the sheer magic and celebration of just getting to pretend I do!

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I'm having a hard time asking good questions lately. do you have any advice for me?(by good questions i mean ones that get comments/points) It is my sensibility and never-ending thirst for not only knowledge, but for the expansion of my critical thinking skills and emotional intelligence that I do not concern myself with the point-system here on AB. Oh sure, its a built-in 'incentive' alright, but, in my view, the virtual existence of AnswerBag has deeper meaning and consequences; that is if one wishes to view it that...

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I have had pain in my groin for 2months. ive tried stretching and also leaving it alone with no joy,any ideas I am hoping you haven't put off going to not just a professional doctor for this malady, but are proactive in seeking as much information and physical rehabilition as it possible. ANYTHING that lasts 'for 2 months' now wil be considered 'chronic' vs. 'acute' which is the label given to any injury and/or illness that last less than ten days at the most. ...

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Is now the best time for the UAW to strike against GM? My opinion here may be somewhat off this immediate issue and question. It was many of our 'forefathers,' those who originally started unions when 'things' were really, really difficult in factories, including but not limited to child labor, literal unsafe working conditions and the like. Since these times, many a law has been 'put on the books' to prevent harm...

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We are privy to/knowledgeable about certain"facts"....we want to bring those facts to the masses..to "elevate" the dialogue...to educate the people..the facts are arcane, obscure, esoteric, abstruse and recondite. We are totally ignored..now what? In my view, one of the best ways is to role model in one's own life how these 'faccts' have influenced our behaviors and ways of thinking. If one does this, sooner or later, another human being WILL ask, 'Mmmm: how did you arrive at that [way of being or thinking]? The best 'teacher' is one who practices what they preach, demonstrating in all that they do or...

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Be honest - how much does your spouse or significant other have to put up with, being with you? Well, beloved doesn't 'put up' with much, so HE says! Originally, I would 'beg to differ', as the saying goes but have come to appreciate and understand that when a couple is completely and totally in love, much is not only dismissed as the other's right to individuality, but in the best of sense the gain from this perceived and practiced 'right' is a...

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Will ye nae listen ta reason, laddie!? Ah, back at 'cha, you old leprechaun! This half-Irish lass can only wish to continue to observe, percieve and act from reasons point of view! And what a thrill that is, me boy! Were that reason stepped out first in any and all peoples minds, words and deeds, forwarded by its sincere action, the world as-we-know-it would, indeed be a much better place. Great question, me dear!

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How do you get a messy person to become a neat and organized person? This is a very interesting question and brings up lots of topics and issues that I, myself, have had to not only consider but RE-consider! First, since you used the word 'person' and not 'child,' may I intuit this is an adult person? Also, you didn't suggest what kind of relationship you have or may have with this individual. It would, however, appear that it...

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Is there any person in your past who gave you a really hard time,to whom you'd like to say anything? You know, the bully who made your life miserable in grade school/middle school/high school..the boss who was threatened by you..the ex?What would you say? To 'all of them that didn't believe in me and/or ridiculed me:' Thank you for making me stronger. Eat your hearts out, babies, I have everything any woman would ever want now! A fabulous marriage and family, a successful carrer, a peaceful heart and an educated emotionally intelligent mind!

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Will you teach me everything you know about a very specific subject that you have mastered? I'd love to! I just visited your profile page and you appear to be an intelligent and sweet young man. I have years and years of coaching experience, especially in any thing surrounding 'performing.' However, you'd have to move to Hawaii (Honolulu) to study with me: • Any and all performing arts. • Fine Art, especially watercolor. • Life...

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Whats something you wish you had but can't have it? The two children of mine who died in two separate events!

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Why do 'we' as people feel a seemingly insatible need to be 'special?' For if an individual lives, day to day, emotionally intelligent, humanely confident, cooperative and respectful, isn't this just 'regular?' Yes, from yours and other answers here, we are all unique, one-of-a-kind and irreplacable human beings. What I will suggest is that self-esteem comes first from self-doing and while the opinions of others, especially loved ones, feels important and essential, I was merely attempting to also suggest that 'acting regular' -- with standards, values, emotional intellegence and the like...

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Why do 'we' as people feel a seemingly insatible need to be 'special?' For if an individual lives, day to day, emotionally intelligent, humanely confident, cooperative and respectful, isn't this just 'regular?' Yes, from yours and other answers here, we are all unique, one-of-a-kind and irreplacable human beings. What I will suggest is that self-esteem comes first from self-doing and while the opinions of others, especially loved ones, feels important and essential, I was merely attempting to also suggest that 'acting regular' -- with standards, values, emotional intellegence and the like...

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Would You Compromise Your Standards To Be With Someone You Truly Love? This is a most interesting question! I sense others here are not thinking through to the underlying elements of your, actually brilliant, question! First, I would perhaps question which standards are we discussing? It is true every individual has a view and practice of standards that seem 'right' to them. However, there are global, not just community or national standards,...

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You are friends with a group of people among whom one is your best friend. This person has a falling out with one of them..a trivial reason in your opinion..do you drop that person because your best friend asks you to? Personally, I don't catagorize any friend as 'best friend' anymore, though like everyone else I did do this for years, not really understanding at the time how the OTHER close friends would 'take it.' The ONLY friends I have in my life now are each 'best!' To answer the question: I would never have a friend who asked me to do such a thing. IF they did...

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How do you find peace within yourself? One moment at a time. No past. No future. Just ... now! (Sometimes easy ... sometimes most difficult to do!)

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There are things going back many years that I remember vividly..each detail, all the dialogue. There are other things that others remember and remind me of that I swear never happened! Have you had the same experience and why do you suppose that is? While we may believe that our thinking and feelings are familiar, these all are influenced by each of our literal senses: taste - touch - sound - sight - smell. In this sense these may be viewed as 'sense memories.' It is our experience in this life, these accured sense-experiences which 'flash' as personal reminders of things, people or places familiar or experienced. I...

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What is it about you that makes your child(ren) lucky to have you for a parent? The way beloved and I share the celebration of life itself.

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When you die, your kids will inherit your "stuff"..you know, the things, the possessions, the toys. What do you hope they will inherit from the" stuff" of which you are made? Another interesting question! I believe we have decided to parcel out some of it. Of course our son will receive a healthy bit of it. However, we are planning on giving some of our assets to different people for a plethora of reasons. Also, we plan to give some to different organizations and associations we hold dear and already contribute to.

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The roast is in the oven..with potatoes, carrots and onions..we're having coleslaw (with shredded carrots and slivers of red and green bell pepper)..there will be grilled polenta with cheese..may I invite you all to join us? Any takers? Yeah ... I'm just down the block ...having flown in somehow knowing you'd have me/us over for dinner. I brought an excellent Ridge Vineyard '83 to have with that oh-I-know-it yummy roast!

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The roast is in the oven..with potatoes, carrots and onions..we're having coleslaw (with shredded carrots and slivers of red and green bell pepper)..there will be grilled polenta with cheese..may I invite you all to join us? Any takers? Yeah ... I'm just down the block ...having flown in somehow knowing you'd have me/us over for dinner. I brought an excellent Ridge Vineyard '83 to have with that oh-I-know-it yummy roast!

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What do you believe in, that few others would agree with you? That all human being may succeed, regardless of circumstance, situation, economics or background and contribute to be the incredible individual entities they, indeed, are 'meant' to be... this does NOT require luck!

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What skill (practical or otherwise) did you get to grips with when you were young that most others didn't learn or perfect until they were much older? • That any individual can leave harmful situations. • That the PEOPLE in life are far more important than things or even accomplishments. • That dreams may become realities, if given enough determination and time. • That empathy has always been a part of my intrinstic 'who.' • That the science of Nature holds or will hold all of the answers. ...

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Wherever you are in your life, is it where you want to be..or are there miles to go to achieve your goal? This is a wonderful, thought providing question, Rosie! (You usually ask great ones!) The way I view my 'life:' The first half was literal hell for a plethora of reasons. However, it is those situations and challenges that have made me the 'who' I am today, though it is quite true I wouldn't wish many of these hardships on my worse enemy! And I love it, honestly....

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After watching this video how optimistic about our future are you? http://video.yahoo.com/video/play?vid=178f89d3d9987efabcf31c6fb8364fd6.654968 Well, this may not be my personal cup o tea, but I have this saying: 'Everyone likes something DIFFERENT on their pizza!' It does't make them wrong, it doesn't make me wrong either. Honestly, I sense anyone who takes whatever hobby they are into seriously are probably more neighbor friendly, more intelligent (they have to figure out how 'their hobby' works) and...

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What would happen, if there were no emergency services, no 911, to depend on, and you were forced to handle the situation. Would others come to your aid more quickly, than they do now? It is true that we as a nation have delegated law enforcement to handle tough situations. However, it is my view, we are citizens of this great nation and are 'partners' in having and maintaining a civilized society. In that, we are equally responsible to use our intelligence to 'handle' some immediate circumstances. FIRST, of course, as non-trained individuals, we...

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There is a strange person following you home from work. every time you turn around he ducks into a doorway. you go faster, he speeds up. you run, he runs. what do you do now? You didn't mention whether or not this was daytime or nighttime. If it was daytime, I'd laugh that my shadow is my back-lit angel! If it was nighttime nee no shadow: • Start SCREAMING ... FIRE! (calling for 'Help' doesn't work as well!) • I'd stop, as they approached me throw up on them. • If they were a male, I'd GRAB 'where...

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The world will end tomorrow. What will you do with that knowledge? HA! When I first read the question, I thought we were to think about what we would do with KNOWLEDGE, not with knowing about the end! Silly me! I KNOW WHAT WE WOULD DO! Even after 25 years (this year) together, we can barely keep our hands off of each other! So ... I'll leave that as a hint. The rest is up to you!

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Jay Was Here has finally asked and answered his way all the way to Sage... Who wants to thank him and congratulate him for a job well done? GOOD JOB!!!! Oooooo, HURRAY for JAY CONGRAT'S!

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Do you believe that there is a good solution for every problem? I sincerely believe that there is a 'good' solution for every problem, not the least of which can be accomplished with implementing awareness of such, cognitive thinking, emotional intelligence and desire for cooperation, if held by all. However, my answer would revolve more regarding how long the problem has either been in existence -- whether 'ancient' or...

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If you were a question, what would the answer be? 'You can accomplish anything that you want to with vision, determination, elan and emotional intelligence!

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You're giving a presentation in front of people in a meeting (or class, or whatever applies to you) and you're suddenly hit with this really intense, distracting itch in your genital region. What do you do? Actually, I have been in this situation as a consultant speaker! Since essentially it is 'your show,' you can literally DIRECT the audience into any number of angles! Humor is key, always! Mmmm: I'd ask EVERYONE to scratch 'down there' and for their probable surprised looks and quizzical murmurs to each other, I'd encourage a pretend situation, an 'as...

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Why do you think anorexic people refuse food? Fear of fat, feeling fat, anxiety about food, obsessive compulsive about calories, self-punishment or just to scared of what will happen if they eat? It is my understanding that anorexic individuals actually suffer from a split or multiple personality disorder. This arises apparently after a short term or long term trauma, which they [had] no control over. One 'side' remains rational -- most people do not know this and 'offer' diet solutions as 'help.' This will NEVER work! Onlly a trained professional,...

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Although having circulation, what magazine do you subscribe to that is 'outside the bag,' that we ABer's may find equally interesting? 'REASON MAGAZINE' http://www.reason.org/ 'WORLD PRESS REVIEW" http://www.worldpressreview.com/ 'SCIENTIFIC AMERICAN 'http://www.sciam.com/subscribe_combo.cfm?ec=googlec01 'SCIENTIFIC AMERICAN - MIND' http://www.magazines.com/ncom/mag?id=3899952051847&mid=0000007601 'PSYCHOLOGY TODAY'...

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Although having circulation, what magazine do you subscribe to that is 'outside the bag,' that we ABer's may find equally interesting? 'REASON MAGAZINE' http://www.reason.org/ 'WORLD PRESS REVIEW" http://www.worldpressreview.com/ 'SCIENTIFIC AMERICAN 'http://www.sciam.com/subscribe_combo.cfm?ec=googlec01 'SCIENTIFIC AMERICAN - MIND' http://www.magazines.com/ncom/mag?id=3899952051847&mid=0000007601 'PSYCHOLOGY TODAY'...

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Do you and your beloved take 'alone' holidays? Yes. As a matter of fact we attempt to do this as an annual tradition. Beloved usually bikes 800 miles or so and camps along the way. When he does this particular activity (oh so good for him!), I too take off. Sometimes I'll go camp by myself ... or I'll go somewhere I've either been before or haven't been ever. This has always been what we consider a reflection...

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Why do some people need more freezing when having dental work done? My dentist always has to give me the maximum short and long term freezing and then continually reinforce that. I don't mind going to the dentist at all--but is anyone else like this? Perhaps there are several factors at work. First, everyone has a 'subjective' pain threshold, regardless of reason. That said, perhaps your gums and teeth are ultra sensitive, especially if you have gum retraction and/or gum disease. Personally, I have a hard time at the dentist office, not the least of which are for the above reasons. The other is that I was literally...

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Why do some people need more freezing when having dental work done? My dentist always has to give me the maximum short and long term freezing and then continually reinforce that. I don't mind going to the dentist at all--but is anyone else like this? Perhaps there are several factors at work. First, everyone has a 'subjective' pain threshold, regardless of reason. That said, perhaps your gums and teeth are ultra sensitive, especially if you have gum retraction and/or gum disease. Personally, I have a hard time at the dentist office, not the least of which are for the above reasons. The other is that I was literally...

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I chose the road less travelled. Now where the hell am I? 'Where the hell am I?' Oh, just takin a step at a time!

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Do you believe there is ever a time NOT to vote? Some here have implied [My capitals here.], '...even IF YOU DON'T LIKE the candidates, you MUST pick the one you prefer! In my view this is not healthy at all. What if ALL the candidates do not have [---- fill in the blank ---] that would concretely assist our nation to forward its highest potential? Do we 'just vote' because we pick what we believe to be the...

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If you were going on a vacation to Hawaii, what activites would you be sure to participate in during your visit? Since I live here ... on Oahu ... I'd definitely add ANY swim-with-the-dolphin tours. Its an experience of a lifetime. (So much so that I now volunteer with them!) Also, though I am not a fisher-woman by nature, we just 'did' a deep sea fishing adventure and ended up with a 110 pound Yellowtail Tuna (called Ahi by most). There was so much sashimi that we ended up giving 70...

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Do you have a favorite phase of the moon? Why this one? While the full moon is absolutely gorgeous, I think I do prefer NO moon, or a wee-bit of a sliver of one. When these phases occur the STARS are so magical, romantic and I always have a sense that 'the universe' is much, much bigger than I ever imagine it to be!

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What is your Best Friend's very best quality? The are masters of cooperation and communication. They celebrate everyone's successes. They never play 'mind games.' They are self-sufficient, taking care of themselves, so that we don't ever feel we need to bail them out of 'trouble.' They are positive movers and shakers in their own lives. They inspire us by the vitual of their character and...

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Where could I buy a pet blue whale? How much would it cost? I just did a search engine for you, here's what I found: http://www.google.com/search?client=safari&rls=en&q=large,+stuffed+blue+whale+toys%3F&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8

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When family/friends call your attention to things that might be improved upon, but do so in a kind, gentle and respectful manner, do you appreciate that they care enough to tell you or does it just bug you? I'm confident that most emotionally intelligent individuals not only would not have a problem with this, but would more than welcome it. That said, there is a world of difference between 'criticism' and 'critique.' The how someone approaches one with a critique is everything. However, in my view, most people 'need' to find their own answers to their own...

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I want to make a life sized papier mache blue whale to be displayed in a museum, with an open body so its papier insides are visible. Where could I find the funding, help and space to do this? Has it been done before? Sometimes I have discovered if one goes directly to the source of supplies, many professional companies will 'offer' whatever you need to complete this type of project. What these would want in return is usually some sort of credit, displayed by the exhibition. More, they would want to firmly know that your project has been accepted by the Museum! As for 'space' to do...

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You have a son and a daughter..you want them to emulate someone who is a superb example of the best one can be..who would you want each child to admire and have as a role model? Well, I sense there are many individuals who demonstrate peak performance. Certainly all of us may be able to come up with someone, whether family, friends or in society at large that by their very own lives show us 'superb.' Perhaps, however, it is best to consider what the ingredients for 'best you can be' might be? I would sense that ALL of the people any of us were...

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Regardless of 'why' it is so or whether it is actually good for you, what is your comfort food? Where did this 'taste' come from? Well, I don't have a sweet tooth and I suppose I call myself pretty fortunate about that. BUT, it you put a potato in front of me, ANY potato, I'm like a kid who found themselves at Christmas when it wasn't even August yet! I believe it is all genetics (and nurture), actually. Father was from Ireland. [Potatoes!!] Mother from Yugoslavia. Both 'off the boat.' There...

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Did you ever cry at a party because it was your party and you could cry if you wanted to? Yes, many times! But my favorite of all time was when my Masters Class in acting, hired a limo for beloved and I to a 'surprise' for our 10th wedding anniversary. We were driven to a restaurant, all of them were there! Not only that, but they wrote and acted out a play where my husband had my job and I had his (an Economist and Finance teacher at the time!) It was absolutely...

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Does the city / town / area you live in have much character, style, or visible history? (Mine doesn’t, but there are pluses and minues wherever you live.) Very much so! We live in Honolulu, Hawaii. Now most people thing of Honolulu only for Waikiki. While this is a great place for new-time visitors, anyone who lives here will tell there is much, much going on! Originally I and beloved lived, individually or together in cities like Detroit, Seattle, New York City [Manhattan] and many, many years in San Francisco. All of these cities have a...

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What was the best camping 'trick' you ever learned? This is a trick I learned from my son, an Eagle Scout. He had to do this to receive a higher rank. They were without any tent, blankets, parkas, whatsoever. It was very, very cold at night. He had to go out alone: Let's first assume that you have the whetherall to build a fire. Okay: Build a RECTANGULAR fire, placing a plethora of rocks first under it. Let the fire burn all the...

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How do you go about addressing a family member who was inappropriately rude to you? Hey you ABer pals-o-mine! Thank you soooo much for your opinions and ideas! These are really appreciated, all of them! Just GOTTA share what I wrote back to this brother-in-law: Dear ----: Thank you for your thought filled response. It was not I but ____ who brought up Asimov's book. Frankly, I had completely forgotten we had given him a copy so many years ago. I was...

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Do you think friend requests should come with the option for the user to explain why they are inviting you to be friends? Might make it a bit easier to understand why someone's decided to add you, right? SASSYW above pretty much sums up a good answer: if you view there 'stuff' here on AB, you like what they have to say or better, you like the through-line of the character that is apparent throughout their answers and questions! That said, yes ... it would be COOL to 'first ask!' Then, explain?

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Would you volunteer your time to sit by a dying person's side while they passed away, so they wouldn't feel all alone? Yes, I have done this more than once in my lifetime. It was an absolute honor and privilege to be one of the last people in the world they would see! Of one such senior -- a very, very close guy-pal -- I asked, 'If you could leave me with one thing to remember, what would you say?' This dear one answered: • Do I love who I am? • Do I love what I do? • Do I...

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Name the closest thing to you that is red? Nail polish! Purrrrrrrrrrrrr

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How about a shout out to ilovemybaby for making Sage !! Thanks:) WOOOOO-WOOOOO! CONGRATULATIONS! We're all proud of you ilovemybaby for making Sage. YOU GO!

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Where do you find good recipies online? In other places here on AB, I've addressed how I have come to cook in other countries. Like all things that interest me, and that I am fond of, I am always seeking new and different ways to improve myself and LEARN. In my view, this is one of the best sites for chefing in other nations. http://www.world-recipes.info/ Basically, my offering means: Take a chicken. Take a pot or...

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Do you meditate? If so, what do feel it does for you? This is a very interesting question. It is my sense that many people equate 'meditating' by assuming some Yoga pose, on a pillow, eyes closed, omming away. While this certainly is a traditional form of meditation, I believe there are others. And, I am not taking about the plethora of 'traditional' forms, positions and/or stances. Perhaps 'meditation' is...

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What makes you feel like a kid again? • Remembering to 'think' young as much as possible • Swimming in the way deep ocean • Swimming with wild dolphins • Laughing my proverbial off at some of the foolish things I do! • Being with ANY kid, mine or others • When I am actually painting my watercolors • ALL the time with my beloved • Waking up and seeing...

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What do you love about RosieG the most? It is obvious she is ALL humane being. I love her sense of passion ... sense of 'giving' ... sense of intelligence and her willingness to leave something meaningful behind. I also believe that she is much, much more than 'just' an ABer! Its a pleasure to get to know her! (Her son lives where we do.)

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If a cashier gives you too much change back, do you tell them? If they were rude to you would you not return the money? Yes, in a BLINK OF AN EYE! AFTER ALL ... Honest is as honest does!

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Why do some people including me find it hard to get rid of things? i keep everything in boxes from old birthday and christmas cards to keyrings etc etc. is anyone on AB like me It seems in our nation, that 'stuff' means either 'wealth' or 'security.' At best these are illusions. Value comes from the peole in our lives not material goods. That said, we all 'save' important-to-us items, especially those that revolve around our loved ones, things they made have given us, photos of 'times remembered,' and certainly...

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Do you believe that the brain can be explained? Explain! Its that stew pot of neurons, the fire of emotional flares, the center of intelligence, lets us all be aware! Its the group of cells, those individual cliques that make us who we are, what makes us tick! Its the bucket of ideas, flowing freely in dreams interpreting our lives or dumping its extremes Its that bony bowled hat, all covered with genes some feathered by hair or shaven...

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Jay Was Here has finally asked and answered his way all the way to Sage... Who wants to thank him and congratulate him for a job well done? SING PLEASE: Hurray for Jay ... ohhhhhhh Hurrraaay for Jay Congrat's are a flying and comin' your way!

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After much thought over the last few weeks, I came to realization that I have a problem with being too needy, wanting constant attention and always needing someone in my life (i.e. boyfriend or over-controlling friend)... How do I boost my confidence? Well, you can take a huge leap up the staircase of self-confidence because you came to this realization. Not only that, but no one, not nobody, could have come to this but you! This truly is a mark of not just inner strength, but of innate character. You understand that worth and value are first viewed by the viewer. No one wants or needs a person who is 'needy' all the time....

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Do you ever crack yourself up beyond belief, but no one else gets it, so you're basically just sitting there, laughing at and by yourself? Yep! Sometimes I just have to laugh while making this comment: 'Lucy! Yu got som' 'plaining to do!'

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Do you find it more difficult to sleep without somebody in bed with you? Why? Well, this is the way I figure it: everyone sleeps 'alone.' After all is said and 'done,' once one turns over, there is no one 'there' but you.

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Do you think that psychologically it is a given that you will tend to dislike people who dislike you? Great question!! Very provocative ... mmmm: I suppose we could first discuss the reason why someone finds one unlikable. Sometimes, others critiques of behaviors can hit a healthy mark, requiring us to contemplate value and worth of the comment (or attitude.) This doesn't require a thick-skin. It requires a solid character or being, one that wishes to reach its highest potentials. ...

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I have had two spinal surgeries in the past two years and have recently been diagnosed with Peripheral Neuropathy and Degenerative Disc Disease, Anyone out there experiencing something similar? How do you deal with the pain? Yes. Not only have I had several surgeries in my life, but I too have degenerative disc disease, stenosis, four bulging discs pressing onto my spinal column, 'systemic' athritis and the accompanying clinical depression that occurs with this unfortunate status. The best suggestions I can offer which have held true for me over the years are these: • Attitude is everything!...

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Am I going to STAY this color!?!? Not if I use self-tanners!

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If you have a child who is naturally creative, will you support that child in creating a livlihood in this? Many believe that 'the arts' are, at best, unable to substantiate a solid income ... this has not been true for me! I suggest perhaps a different angle on 'creative' vs. 'linear'. (BTW, I am a professional artist!.) There is a certain myth that artists are not analytical nor linear in their thinking. I suggest that a true creative is an individual who knows not only how to incorporate both cretativity and cognitivity into their work but does so on a daily basis. Both of these...

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Do you think as adults we compensate for things we experienced when we were young? I, for example, used to be painfully shy and never spoke up..now I say whatever is on my mind, and sometimes not quietly. Do you compensate too? I don't know if I would use the word 'compensate' from what I was or was not allowed to do in my parents home while growing up. I sense that I have risen above all the nay-saying about my animated personality. They did not view my natural talent for all things art as serious in any way, believing -- like many of those from that generation in my parents era -- that it was...

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How would you go about expressing to your parents, in a proper way, how much the things they say and do hurt you and have effected you mentally? You are probably old enough to know that loving someone has many dimensions and components to it. Sometimes parents 'offer' comments out of what they think or believe to be best for their children, while it is unfortunately true some parents do not think with forethought, nor sometimes do they ever contemplate consequence. Here's my suggestions: Parents are for the most part...

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Do you find eternally cheerful, optimistic people who always look on the bright side, no matter how bad the situation, to be refreshing, or unbelievably irritating? Those 'people' in my view are our heros and s'heros! I know many who have had to rise above absolutely horrendous circumstances in their lives and were it not for their courage and determination, not only would they not be able to tie their shoes, they would not be here! Just because someone appears and acts as if the world is a bowl full of cherries, doesn't mean that...

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Today is September 11, 2007 ... what did you do today, if anything, 'to remember?' I went for a very, very long swim. I live on an island and the water -- whom I actually call 'Mother' -- allowed me to float, swim to sweating (yes, you can sweat in the water if you are working hard enough), and just remember. I will never forget these people ... all those that passed! I will not forget the bigger lesson, if I may, indeed, be so bold: YOU NEVER KNOW WHEN A...

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What animal would be your soul mate? http://www.quizilla.com/users/xxangelxdemonxx/quizzes/What%20animal%20would%20be%20your%20soul%20mate? My beloved soul mate is a mammal. He is a homo-sapien and ALL man! MEOW!

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What strange thing can you do with a body part? (i.e. pop your eyeballs out, touch your nose with your tongue) I can spread my toes so wide that I can pick up things with them, 'read' a book, stuff like that! Actually, my friends and family -- those that know I can do this -- call me 'Monkey Girl!' I LOVE IT!

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What is the difference between "sympathy" and "compassion"? SYMPATHY words (theasurus:) 1. 'A feeling or a capacity to share the interests of another.' compassion empathy feelow feeling responsiveness sensitivity feelings heart tenderness warmheartedness wamth benignancy benignness kindness kindliness + 2. 'A relationship of people or things that are drawn together and extert influence on one another attraction ...

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What kind of animal are you? http://www.quizilla.com/users/Shattered-Memories/quizzes/What%20kind%20of%20animal%20are%20you? I'm a wolf :3 Well, in actuality, I am a loyal dog! If I had another choice or two, I would go for: • DOLPHIN: WATER! (I call the ocean my 'real' Mother! These fabulous animals work in complete sense-harmony to their environment. They are loyal, gregarious, animated, fun-loving, sexual, brave and protective = if any sharks are around, watch out! • ELEPHANT:...

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Be totally honest now .... If you found $10,000 in a paper bag would you hand it in or keep it? While I easy might have said, 'I'd keep it,' years ago, I now know I would do my utmost best to find 'the owner' and turn it in. See, the way I figure it is that IT has to be somebody else's 'hard-earned' something (though why anyone would put ten grand in a bag IS suspect.) Since I wouldn't know the 'why,' I would give it the benefit of...

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What do you have trouble accepting? Fundamentalists!

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Have you ever encountered someone that you've had so much in common with, it was scary? Well, I don't believe this is scary at all. It happens to me all the time, even with strangers! Let me explain: Other than the fact that it is undeniably true that all of us share our human condition with each other, we also share the commonality of experience. Everyone has lost something or someone, everyone has gained something or someone. All human beings need sustenence,...

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Do you really believe that it is a 'woman's job' to keep the home clean? Hey you ABer's! I sense that HOW I asked the question would have been better served if I asked, 'Does ANYBODY believe ...' Beloved husband and I share everything, including 'da house!' Fortunately he's as neat as I. I grew up in a household where THE WOMEN were expected to do everything re: home/house/blah-blah! The guys? Yeah, well ... they were the ones...

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Last Christmas I received our group of friends’ uber-white elephant gift – a dried bull scrotum on a stand. How can I pimp it up before regifting it… beads, lights, maybe a lava lamp…? Well, since it was given at or around Christmas, might I suggest you make them into Christmas BALLS? (Take it off the stand, use the stand for some other artwork or give it a new top?) I think hot-gluing rhinestones around it might be fun ... or wiring it for christmas lights. OH! I got it! Punch a bunch of holes in it. Then when X-mas comes around, you can place Mistletoe in the holes...

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How to make cut roses last longer? Thanks everyone! I already knew about cutting them under water, especially at an angle! What I wanted were some unfamiliar tricks. I didn't know about the sugar or the 7-up. Isn't there some deal about burning the ends, too? I remember this from a Ikabana class I took years ago, but I can't find my notes! ARGH!

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How do you get your children to do chores around the house with out going crazy? When I grew up, in a American-European home (mom/pop and their family's 'off the boat,' girls were expected to not only do all 'girl' chores, but had to be available to not only 'dress' the dining table, but be able to cook a whole complete meal by the time they were twelve! I'm not sorry about that, but ... Recently, before our cherished Aunty--on my...

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In your opinion, what person, company, charity or anything else will leave the biggest legacy for future generations? In this order I would vote for: Nature Conservancy: http://www.nature.org/ and Bill and Milanda Gates; http://www.gatesfoundation.org/default.htm

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Why are human attacks so much more common than any other animal? Are you asking about 'now,' or asking for an evolutionary point of view?

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What should AB do to troublesome users who circumvent their sentences in the penalty box by opening new accounts and continuing to harass other users? Is there a AB 'central?' I would think that 'they' would be able to identify those users who do this?

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Growing up, did your family have a weird word for derriere? My mom said popo. Although beloved husband's family called HIS a 'seat,' mine family was much more imaginative! Mmmm: Guzzetza -mom's side, including her, are from Yugoslavia!

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I'm going to the Farmers Market for some great fall produce. Can I get you anything? Apples, corn, dill pickles? What are your favorites? Living here in Honolulu, it is impossible to find 'pickle' cukes for making my own! My gram use to do this and I'd love to have those small [cucumbers?] delicious greenies!

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Is life like a box of pizza? YES! One of the ways that I celebrate the 'differences' rather than merly 'tolerating' them is by saying, "EVERYONE likes something different on pizza!' Way cool question, extreme!

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How many scars do you have and how did you get them? When I was a mere 18 months old, 'dying' from double-pneumonia, my Yugoslavian mother placed a steamer inside my crib at home. It turned over and I received third-degree burns over my face, neck, right torso and right arm. Father took me immediately to the hospital, giving me mouth-to-mouth; he received second degree burns on his hands from the heat of my body. I was in coma...

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What do Peak Performers have in common? PROFILES IN PEAK PERFORMANCE by Charles Garfield, Ph.D. People who are Peak Performers have the following common characteristics: 1. Peak Performers are able to transcend personal and cultural limits. That is, they realize that any experience limit is merely a temporary level of accomplishment that can be surpassed. 2. Peak Performers are masters at Goal Setting. Unlike workaholics,...

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Do you sometimes find people with less money more generous than people with money? If so, why do you think they are like that? This is an interesting question, one which I originally believed in the past would be a no-brainer, an easy answer. Coming from a meager childhood, we didn't have money, and I was a first born American. It was traditional in our household to give away whatever we could or, at the very least, trade for other goods. That said, I sense that I would have answered the question with a,...

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As a very gullible, trusting person, I have to be very careful who I let into my life as a "friend". I cannot afford to let anyone close who will take advantage of me, as that is my Achilles heel. What is your Achilles heel? Truth is, I don't believe that I really have an Achilles Heel. That or that's how gullible I really am!! HA! No seriously, this is what I perceive: All human beings have feelings, that's our 'given.' All human beings have the capacitiy of cognition and common sense, that's also a given. [Actually intellect arises out of the emotional, sense experience first...

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What have you taught a computer to think? Hey you guys: This is a really interesting project. Check out all the sites related to it! I've been 'playing' it for years and years! http://commonsense.media.mit.edu/cgi-bin/menu.cgi

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I love going on stage, but when I'm in the middle of saying my lines, I just forget everything, and my leg and facial muscles twitch. I'm not scared of being on stage, so why does this happen? This is a very common occurance, usually found in new performers, but there are many adult professionals who still 'freak' when the are ABOUT to perform, but usually not WHEN they are actually doing it. That said, usually this occures from lack of FOCUS: the 'person-actor-character' is sharing the stage with the only one who should be there, the 'character.' ...

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What is an example of a paradox? The global paradox of feast and famine! View the article in Scientific American: http://www.sciam.com/article.cfm?articleID=3CFC8F84-E7F2-99DF-3E72D705FFD5FB25&sc=I100322

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Do you believe in unrestricted free trade? Restrictions reduce the wealth of the world! Period.

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What was the longest period of time you camped outside? Where? With whom? Beloved and I just love to camp! Although we now permanently live in Honolulu, for over twenty-five years we have made an annual trek to Yosemite National Park http://www.yosemite.national-park.com/. We usually camp up in the High Country, away from the crowds, but this place is just awesome. The longest we ever camped there was for a month! I brought my watercolors and set up a...

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To those who have helped me before, I am still struggling & need some reassurance. I miss my ex alot, he pulled my hair, said to change or leave, used mean words, shoved me, I felt so sad in the end, I know it was abuse, but I need some help believing it. Dear Annonymous: I re-send this 'paper' to you. Maybe you miss 'the excitement,' maybe because of difficult childhood you somehow believe this is a 'regular' way people act. Honey, it is not 'regular' by any stretch of the imagination! I know others here have, as you mentioned, helped you before, and you are still asking for assurance. Everyone at...

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MOTHERS: My mom won't leave me alone today. I've had a really bad week and she is bugging the hell out of me asking me whats wrong. I keep telling her to just let me be and now she's gotten all angry. Why can't I just have some space? Okay. I am a mom. An 'old' one, but a mom, nonetheless. The 'problem' is that ALL mothers tend to be idoits at some point or another. No matter how 'cool' and 'loving' we may actually BE, when we see a child of ours having a hard time ... you DON'T have to tell us (or yell at us, etiher) ... it goes with our wiring 'cause we had you: we...

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Does the stress of losing a child often break up couples? I don't know about 'often' but without care and even counseling for this loss, it may be that the 'guilt' one feels or projects onto the other spouse carries this sorrow into misunderstandings, misinterpretations and even divorce. My ex (yes, we did divorce) REALLY could not get over the fact that we lost our daughter in a house fire. More, he just couldn't...

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Do you know a true humble person? Yes ... unbelievably lucky to live with one: my beloved husband!

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Jay Was Here has finally asked and answered his way all the way to Sage... Who wants to thank him and congratulate him for a job well done? YOU GO, JAY! Congratulations!!!!! ;)

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In your spouse's eyes, are you "still the one"? Great question: Mmmm: let me see ... am I 'still the [his] one?' Do you mean if he ... • Makes and brings me coffee EVERY morning, joyingly saying, 'It's my job...' • Puts a love note on a post-it on that cup of brew for over 25 years ... • Says, after all these years, when he dreams of a woman, it is only me ... • Still gets that huge...

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How many recipes can you cook? Great question! For me? Mmmm: all I could say? 'Pick a country! ANY country!'

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When you finally see a good friend after a very long time apart, who usually starts the conversation? And what do you talk about first? Looks, family, news, work? If I have the great, good fortune to see a true friend I haven't seen in a long time, somehow ... no, really, there is no REAL need to talk! Usually we just hang and let things unfold like we've never been apart in the first place! How very, very cool is that? I love it! One great friend like this, I've known for almost 40 years! Seems impossible, I know ... we've been...

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What are the characteristics of a true friend? It is certainly a privilege to have a true friend and the answers presented here are filled with straight foward common sense. The people who have answered this question should have close friends for I feel they themselves are that, indeed, a true friend. That mentioned, I wish to suggest the following: • A true friend is one who is their own individual, who 'magically'...

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Artists- what inspires you? I've been in the arts for 62 years! Even as a youngster, with my 'over-active imagination' everyone knew, one way or another, I would be in the Arts field! The first 35 (and still counting) have been in all the performing arts, both sides of the lights. Fifteen years ago I discovered fine art and am now a professional aqua-media painter, having enjoyed my first ever solo...

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Is anyone out there insane enough to enjoy writing essays? (Kidding on the insane part, but I'm really curious if anyone does enjoy writing them.) I love to write essays! Although I have never considered myself to be 'writer,' and I am a professional watercolorist, I have two essays being published (!!!) this year! In two entirely different venues! I can hardly believe it! (Had a poem published too! GADS! Where's this all leading? HA!) I love AB. I tend to get long-winded sometimes but in my view some questions...

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Does the "gay is a sin" thing have to do with pride being a sin? I don't believe that it does, in my view, albeit I come down on the side of science in most all situations, whether human behavior or not. That said, most, if not all, religionists view -- by matter of faith in their own specific religion -- many human behaviors are inheriently 'sinful.' While every behavior -- 'good' or 'bad' -- has recipical...

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If I gave you my phone number, would you call and chit-chat with me? You bet! If you've read my answers here to you, you'll know that I would be honored to have you as an adopted 'grandson!' Where do you live? What are your current interests? Do your parents know about your AB acitivity? How well are you getting along with them now? Hopefully you guys are having the time of your life as FAMILY! Yippeee-i-o-i-yea! from your new adopted...

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Are you too old to be keepin' up with all the kids? After looking up your profile, I found out that you are fifteen. Oh what a wonderful adventure and journey you have before you! (I am old enough to be your 'Grammy M!' I, for one, only wish that you continue to share your insights with me ... this old gal 'of yours.') That said: I believe that everyone only benefits from having young people in their lives. But more,...

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Are you too old to be keepin' up with all the kids? From Kahlil Gibran's 'THE PROPHET' = 'And he said: Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself. They come through you but not from you, And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you. You may give them your love but not your thoughts. For they have their own thoughts. You may...

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Have you ever used the term "Oh My Science!"? THAT'S GREAT! For years now, instead of saying, 'Oh my God ...' I have determinedly used 'Oh my Nature ...' in most responses! (Funny how people 'get it' immediately!)

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I'd like to find someone to date my mother. But she won't actively look herself, and I'm not allowed to look for her either. So, can you give me any ideas how I can set her up with someone without her ever knowing that I am setting her up? First, may we assume that you have discussed HER desire to date? If you both are on the same page -- what a loving family you must have -- I offer a few suggestions: • Give her a gift certificate to a salon and let her update her look, if and only if that feels appropriate. She'll feel more confident about appearing more contemporary. That could include a 'free' makeup...

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We live in the tropics! Would you love to live in the tropics too? What could you do to make this happen for you too? (Ours took six years of planning!!!) 'To each their own,' so the saying goes! Beloved and I grew up in Northern American climes; he, in Seattle, I first in Detroit, Michigan and then many years in New York City. We met in California, both feeling that we had certainly found a sunny climate. We lived there separately and then together accumatively over 30 years! We would travel the Hawaiian island every year for...

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What is your best parenting advice? Be the parent you wished you had! Love and respect them exactly in the manner you wished to be loved and respected. Each child is a unique, one-of-a-kind, never-to-be-repeated human being. Encourage this 'difference,' support unwavingly their individualism. [They are NOT you!] LISTEN without any agenda going on in your own mind, never thinking of the next thing you are going...

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Which freedom do you value most? The freedom to vote.

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What do you value the most? TIME!

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Why are some people described as a chameleon, I just dont get it? I would never call a person who is considered a camelion cunning, unless they present themselves as lizardly so. In my view people with this very real talent are clever but even more are intelligently empathic. By sensitizing to the environment and the people in it, these geniuses blend in more smoothly, perhaps even unconsciously.

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Does anybody remember some of the wrestlers from the 1970's - Handsome Harley Race, Dick the Bruiser, his brother the Crusher, Cowboy Bob, Rufus R. Jones, Baron von Raschke and his iron claw, Bruno Sammartino, Pepper Gomez, Vern Gagne...? Oh my gawd! You just reminded me of a time, long past! My parents both are from 'off the boat!' Mom is Yugoslavian. Anyway, her mother -- who could not speak a word of English -- loved wrestling. She would sit in front of this round shaped, black and white TV and just laugh and laugh when Gorgeous George was on! I think that was about 1950 or '55? ...

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Does anybody remember some of the wrestlers from the 1970's - Handsome Harley Race, Dick the Bruiser, his brother the Crusher, Cowboy Bob, Rufus R. Jones, Baron von Raschke and his iron claw, Bruno Sammartino, Pepper Gomez, Vern Gagne...? Oh my gawd! You just reminded me of a time, long past! My parents both are from 'off the boat!' Mom is Yugoslavian. Anyway, her mother -- who could not speak a word of English -- loved wrestling. She would sit in front of this round shaped, black and white TV and just laugh and laugh when Gorgeous George was on! I think that was about 1950 or '55?

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How do you deal with people who are constantly late? Like most of you, I too have little patience for people who are constantly late! TIME is valuable to everyone. We had a friend who was always late by at least two hours, even for our dinner parties! Other than this unappropriate action on her part, she was a truly wonderful, caring woman. So, say if dinner was to be at seven, we'd just tell her we'd like a very, very early...

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Would rather be smart or have common sense? In my view, anyone who is 'smart' observes, perceives and functions off of common sense as well as they do off of any cognitive ability.

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How and what do you write in a mission statement? While most Mission Statements were orignially for (dah!) 'Missionaries,' most are now though written for business purposes. That said, I have found clarity and focus writing one for myself as an overall goaled 'theme:' writting down goals and purposes assists my day to day functioning, kinda like a through-line in a story, something that is at the core of my own...

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What are the best words to say to someone who has just had something tragic happen in their family? Since I have been on the other side, I offer these tips: * There are no 'right' words. Be yourself: your family and/or friends already know how you must feel not only toward them, but how you must be affected by their sorrow. * If they have little ones, lovingly just take these children off their hands. Maybefor a day, maybe a week or more ... it just depends on the...

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'Understand that you will be like those with whom you surround yourself. You environment is stronger than you are!' Agree or disagree and why? While most answers offered here are interesting views, I suggest there are deeper levels to explore. While it is undeniably true, with cognativity and awareness, we 'choose' which side of ourselves to be in control, regardless of 'surrounding' and/or 'influence.' However, the unconcscious mind is influenced by minute and unknown-to-us elements. For in this, the...

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Have you found your destiny? If so, what did it turn out to be? To understand and reach all of my potentials, my highest performance as a human being, as best I may be able! In this, destiny has no time frame ... it is in a living now!

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Do you have thoughts that are so complex that you have difficulty expressing them with words? Yes... when I • am painting • I am playing classical music • I am swimming in the deep ocean with dolphins. • I am in deep discussions with my beloved • in the raptures of love with beloved 24/7, and honies, I ain't kiddin' nor whistelin' Dixie. • I contemplate and attempt to view Chaos Theory in real terms while celebrating and...

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When was the last time someone gave you "butterflies"? This is in response to 'Jewel' here, in a comment she made after my submitted answer to the actual question. I have the sense that many people do not take the time to consider what they have to offer in a relationship nor what they actually want in one. I use to walk in these shoes. A few years after a divorce, a friend suggested I do the “assignment” which...

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When was the last time someone gave you "butterflies"? I have the sense that many people do not take the time to consider what they have to offer in a relationship nor what they actually want in one. I use to walk in these shoes. A few years after a divorce, a friend suggested I do the “assignment” which follows here. Probably, like most people, I was dating somewhat haphazardly, never really understanding that there were...

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Would you encourage a lonely child to have an imaginary friends? In my view, some of the answers here are brilliant, some pure common sense, while others appear to me as myopic. All children go through stages and all of them, save but a very, very few, outgrow them, including even 'the lonely child.' (Some of these are indeed critical thinkers before anyone actually realizes this!) I believe that children should be viewed as whole,...

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How often do you and your love argue? We have never argued. We just don't! We have been together for 25 years this year and get along like two peas-in-a-pod! We have had 'debates' though, sometimes getting worked up, but it is always topic related, never, ever relationship related! As a matter of fact, this year -- as serious students of The Art Of Communication -- we decided to take a really interesting...

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What do you do with used greetings cards? Well, for the ones I receive from my beloved husband, I save them all. The others I cut up to use in collages on other 'new' greeting cards I may create to send out!

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When was the last time someone gave you "butterflies"? Well ... I know for many, this may sound corny, crazy or just plain lucky but beloved and I have been married for 25 years (this year) = Whenever he enters a room I still get butterflies! I still look at those manly-man arms, still muscled from being a proactive amateur athlete all these years ... I still look at the hair on his chest, greying now ... I LOVE the way he just plain looks at...

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Do you have a vanity plate on your vehicle? What's written on it? UNMEBB

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Do you always do what you think is right? If not, why not? In attempting to do 'what's right,' I first weigh the circumstances within a situation, including the people involved, if any, and the potential outcomes of any action I may take. Of course, one's sense of what is right is not necessary met with united agreement, though attempting to daily live with a cooperative and win-win attitude, it is easier to do this than when I was...

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When do you think computers will become sentinent? I don't know about sentient, like having feelings. However, you can assist computers to think at this very interesting project: http://commonsense.media.mit.edu/cgi-bin/search.cgi

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Do you practice the "pay it forward" theory in your everyday life ? Give us examples. Through kindess the world softens. It is not difficult to do something, each and every day to 'pay it forward.' This can be as simple as helping someone cross the street or giving someone money 'just cause' you can. All of us in this country are very wealthy, even the poor for they have access to welfare and social services. Twice a year a bunch of my girlfriends and I...

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Do you believe in unity of mankind? I believe we can unite all things. When we encourage each other, all of our energies are going in the same direction: perhaps attendance to our highest potenitals; great things can happen. When we unify others, success is assured. I believe we may work in harmony so that all things may flourish!

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What is inner peace? Inner tranquility is achieved when you are in harmony with all entities, all beings and all situations, knowing that everything is precisely the way it is meant to be. One's choice of which attitude to adopt, therefore to function from, consciously arrives with not only cognitive common sense but with emotional intelligence.

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Is there such thing as a selfless good deed? give an example. Most of us consider good deeds as selfless and altruistic. However, I would propose that all good deeds towards others have a kind of built in personal satisfaction value, giving each of us a kind of better sense of self-worth. Perhaps the best of a selfless good deed is found in random acts of kindness, when no one but you knows you gave without any sense or need of recipication. I love...

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To become an actor do you have to start young, or can you start high school/college age? This is an answer I submitted a long time ago onto AB: Any Art form is subjective, unlike science; there are no hard, firm "rules of proof." Before I give any advice, I would respectfully submit the following. The reason I begin here is to let you know I come from a professional lifetime of performing arts experience. I was in this [acting] field for over thirty-five years....

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Take your mashed potatoes and add three items to them, what would you add? Well, it would depend on which countries cusine I was cooking! [Salt and pepper to taste are givens; butter or clarified butter would be optional...] If I was 'chefing' in any Baltic country, I would add sour cream and finely chopped fresh dill. IfI was 'chefing' in Morroco, I might add sumac, a small amount of very fine chopped mint and yogurt. If in Persian...

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Someone asked this question: why doesn't the government release all people convicted of drug offenses? i could not locate the original question, so i am going to answer this question........... FOR JOHN, who answered this question! I had to down rate your answer John. Sorry, but I honestly believe drug use should be legal = If an adult (key word here) decides, for whatever personal reason, to use drugs, it is their right in this great nation of ours. Frankly, I am mostly referring to marijuana recreational use, but have to admit that the above 'use' still holds true as...

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Do you ever get wistful or feel a bit melancholy? What kinds of thoughts, memories or occurrences bring these feelings out? I am usually a very upbeat and gregarious human being. However, during the 'birthday's' and 'anniversaries' of the loss of my two children, in two separate events, I can easily be 'pulled down' during these times. However, I have created personal rituals for both: on each of the birthday dates and the date of losing them. I allow myself whatever feelings...

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What was your most prized possession as a child? FREEDOM! = being away from my abusive father!

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Stranded! Water all round! No food! No tools! No hope! What do you do!? You didn't say whether I was stranded on an island, on a mountain top, in a foreign country, in a jungle or on a desert! My answers would be completely different for each, depending on my 'where.' For my answer -- like the others here -- I will take the plunge and say I'm stranded on an island: Since I am stranded, I will assume that I was on or in something that...

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Have you saved someones life? We had just entered Yosemite National Park only a half-hour before when we decided to climb up to view Bridalveil Falls. The morning was glorious and we were looking forward to a whole week there, camping. We parked the car and started the climb up which is pretty steep, some of the drops off the path were very close and obviously dangerous. Almost to the top, I stepped out to take a...

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If you wanted to take a short vacation somewhere but nobody else wanted to go, would you go by yourself or not at all? I would jump at the chance to travel anywhere! Most individuals, especially those that are 'younger,' don't necessarily feel comfortable traveling alone! Certainly, many times this thinking would be from young women. However ... I am female and have traveled by myself extensively, even when I was a young woman. There is a whole world out there to discover. Sometimes when...

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What's the shortest possible answer you can give to this question that will still make sense? Yes, I can

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Is your glass 1/2 empty or 1/2 full? Fortunately, I can see the whole glass!

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What was the hardest thing you've ever done, Physical or mental? The hardest thing I've ever done was to rise above losing two children in two separate events. The plethora of 'challenges' that have risen to this once 'just an ordinary girl,' has brought me to the point of LIVING 'in honor' of these losses rather than 'in spite' of them! More of these personal epiphanies that arose from this experience and the...

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Has anyone stayed at Waikiki Parc Hotel in Honolulu? No, we have never stayed there, but we live in Honolulu. What is it you want to specifically know? I could check into it for you?

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Has anyone stayed at Waikiki Parc Hotel in Honolulu? No, we have never stayed there, but we live in Honolulu. What is it you want to specifically know? I could check into it for you?

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Does anyone else here live in hawaii? Yes, we live in Honolulu. Where are you?

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Would you describe yourself as more of a feeler or a thinker? Why? There is no difference between 'feeling' and/or 'thinking' at all: feelings come from the plethora of individual human experience which are cooperatively integrated, consciously and/or unconsciously and inflenced by past and immediate circumstances. Ones ability to 'feel' starts first with physcial senorial responses, most times unknown to us. The brains...

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What is something you like about yourself? I am a die-hard opptimist! Honestly, this isn't because life itself hasn't thrown some amazing curve balls, many of which were absolutely horrid, but I do believe each and everyone gave me the OPPORTUNITY to either rise up to my highest potential as a human being, or to crawl away in some hole. I am incredibly grateful that each and every thing that has happened -- both con and...

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How do you react when someone goes ahead of you in a line you are standing in? On occasion, I have been known to say, 'Excuse me, surely you must either be ill or in a much bigger hurry than the rest of us to be so rude as to jump ahead of the rest of us! Here, PLEASE let me help you unload your cart so we can ALL get home in a timely fashion!' = this has made for quite interesting conversations [and even laughter] from EVERYONE in line! HA!

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Can you describe your father in one word? Terrorist

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Is there such thing as a selfless good deed? give an example. DAILY random acts of kindness! No need for anything other than the actual doing!

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Do you feel uneasy accepting compliments? If so, why do you think that is? When most people receive compliments, I believe many people feel it is 'better' to be self-effacing, lest they appear egocentric for giving [whatever] in the first place. In my view, in most circumstances this appears to be false modesty. More, I sense most people giving the compliment would truly just rather a 'You are welcome' in return. How many occassions were we...

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On average, how often do couples married for about 25 years have sex? I totally agree with answers here: 'sex' is not ever a contest, even for the most ardent couples, regardless of how short or long they have been together! Recently on the radio, I heard that SENIOR couples continue to not only have sex fairly frequently, but continue to carry on their romantic notions that 'got them going' in the first place. (Some were still 'doing...

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Which AB user would you be most likely to meet first? Whoever had the original idea to start AB first! Was that Joel?

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Have you ever written poems? This is a poem I intend to read to my beloved. We will be celebrating our 25th this November and happily re-taking our vows. What do you think about this, I wrote it FOR him: INSIDE EACH OTHER© Inside each other we remember Home We are blessed And if there be more time only I ask ... everything and nothing to know your thoughts to believe in your secret ...

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Have you ever written poems? THE SHAKING WORLD© written ON September 11, 2001 If the world is blind, we can open our own eyes If the world needs to nest, we can build limbs on one tree If the world is ignorant, we can teach what we know If the world is hostile, we can ask simple questions If the world is afraid , we can light all darkness If the world heart is broken, we can mend through patience If...

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Have you ever written poems? "C"reation and "E"reation © Some that think there outta be a blind belief in the Big "C" In the name of Faith, it proved to be Hate and war, pure castastrophe While history shows us a potpourri The Big "C" proves mere tyranny Even those Pharisee could now agree Lord's love was through a chimpanzee Foresee that's not a bad...

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Have you ever written poems? ‘IT WAS SOMETHING’© There once was a man who saw black and white who dared hope for a technicolor wife He searched high and low pacing ‘round for years He did not know she would answer his prayers Multiple magic colors of many hues was she this woman made in Heaven happily meant for he As last, they together Oh...a rainbow of tones from sun up to...

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What age do you consider old? I was always older before my time as a youngster. Now as a senior, I have never felt so young nor enjoyed so much freedom as I do now!

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If you were backpacking in Korea and arrived, starving, at a small town where the only restaurant had only a dog meat dish left to serve, would you try some? I grew up in one of those 'European'-American homes [both parents were 'off the boat'] where any young girl within in it had to literally know how to place a complete meal on the table WITH dessert by the time she was a mere 12 years of age. AND, that included 'dressing the table' as well! By 18, I was bored to tears with our families food fare:...

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Would you please post your best photo here? THANX 'CITY MOVEMENT'©

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We give our aged Beagle Bailey two baby aspirin each day for general aches and pains. A friend suggested Ibuprofin instead - have you heard of this? What's a good dose? Mmm: let me think ... if I am not mistaken Ibruprophin is an anti-inflammatory. Aspirin is 'just' for fever and/or pain? Whatever you give to Bailey I would suggestion several questions (plus prob'ly consult a vet): 1. How old is Beagle Bailey? 2. Without logical and reasonable cause, why would we give medicine to a living entity EVERY day? 3. What do we hope to...

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I'm searching for my mainline. Why can't I hit sideways? Why even bother posting this?!!!

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Is there such thing as an UNDENIABLE truth? Please give an example. Hey ... you! Could you explain what the ': P' means? OH MY GAWD! I just NOW got it!!!! It's your TONGUE stickin' out of yer mouth, right? Now THAT's funny!

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Can everybody be my friend on my list? Perhaps it would be cool if you could identify for yourself what determines a good friend in your view. All the obvious ones of ... loyalty, there-when-you-need-them, laughs a lot, shares the ups and downs with you are righteous, but can you come up with some definitions that apply to you specifically? Have you found these in your life? If not, why not?

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What do you do to get out of a bad mood? Well, beloved husband and I have this 'trick:' Either one of us is 'allowed' to moan, whine or scream for exactly 15 SECONDS while the other times it. When the bell goes off THAT'S IT! No more! We have laughed many a time over how quickly 'just screaming about it' leaves at the sound! Interesting too, just how many 'But, I's ...' were...

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What are some good ways to call in sick, when not really sick? While most of us has done it one time or another, I'd like to ask another question: How would you feel if as a SMALL business owner, your 'people' did this? More, if you found out that they had, what would you think, say or do?

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Have you ever written something that was later published? I have never 'really' considered myself to be a writer, although early on in my performing arts career I did write an industry specific workbook which was used by all my clients for 35+ years. It was used not only by these working professionals but was also referred to by many Peak Performers over the years. This year, I will have been published in two completely different venues:...

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If Answerbag opened the AB users' art gallery, what artwork of yours would you contribute? (Post a picture if possible) Here are some of mine ... 1. 'ROSE'© 2. 'WHAT ARE YOU DOING HERE'© (Study only) 3 'TOWARDS A HEALING HEART'© 4. 'LIVE LIFE AS YOU IMAGINE IT!'© 5. 'THE FIRE WITHIN' All paintings by Mahina®, Mahina Fine Arts, Honolulu, HI, Marlene Moon, Artist

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Would you like to upload a photograph here for us to comment/critique? Couldn't figure out how to send my absolute favorites I took: Here are but three: 1. 'Surfing Glass In Honolulu'© 2. 'Love Is At The Heart Of It'© 3. 'Bouquet Duo'© 4. 'Through A Glass Darkly'© All photos by Mahina®, Marlene Moon, Artist

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Would you please post your best photo here? THANX 'HER HEAD'S IN THE CLOUDS!'©

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Would you please post your best photo here? THANX 'Honolulu Night Bird'©

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Would you please post your best photo here? THANX The title of this is, "HER HEAD IS IN THE CLOUDS!'©

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Can you think of something that is NOT better late than never? Losing a child

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Lovers love it,friends need it,relationship starts with it,life ends with it,what is it? Whispers and screams

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Is there such thing as an UNDENIABLE truth? Please give an example. How about this one? I was born!

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How come God is the one who decides when it's my time to die? Are you joking?

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Without damaging yourself, how would you make yourself really ugly for an ugly party I am throwing? Will your costume really cover up your deep inner beauty? Having been in the performing arts for a gadzillion years, I would slather on wet oatmeal, let it dry and let its effect make me 'monster.' As an actress, it is possible to 'pull up' that side of me which is 'monster,' defocusing all that is 'good,' since -- as you have said you are throwing 'an ugly party' I would choose that side of me which...

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Do you have a pet name for your partner Well ... remember that James Bond movie where that gal was pleading with 'Ali Kareem-Bey?' even more plaintively ... 'ALI KAREEM-BEHY??' and continuing to repeat his name sensually over and over again? [FROM RUSSIA WITH LOVE] His response, which we all had to laugh over was everything from 'Shhhhhhh! BE STILL!' to 'A man must do what a man must do!' --...

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Do you prefer to use pen or pencil? What kind/color/brand/tip type? Well, for years and years my motto has been, 'Pencil is for erasing (if I choose or something else comes up) ... pen is permanent!' This self-created personal statement is particularly true when entering appointments or seemingly important 'to do's' in my weekly calendar: if its in pencil -- it is movable or even erasable. If it is pen, there is no wayI can...

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Do we really need to populate the earth? aren't all the abortion clinics and orphanages full enough all ready? I totally agree with Roger K's gathered information. Many opinions, I believe are not based on thorough research on a specific topic, but are myopic in their stance because of such. That said ... My comments here are to the Questioner, themselves: it is clear that your answer-within-a-question is loaded with a plethora of determinant motives! More, in my view, your...

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Would you rather be buried or cremated? There are several reasons I would prefer to be cremated, not the least of which is many a loved one of mine has died [some too early] and we had their ashes scattered in the ocean. There is much comfort in this. Certainly the fact that they were with us, either unfortunately lost at a tender age, or into their senior years, I 'swim out' traditionally on their 'birth...

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Are you like your parents? I ran away from home at 16 -- for very good reasons, especially because some of both my parents behaviors were hardly sane, reasonable, cognitive or SAFE. Now, over half a century later, I have learned there are many genetic qualities that have served me over the years, 'survival' elements from both my parents. Both parents were from 'the old country,' having separately...

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What is your favorite exercise to do? When was the last time that you did it? Both beloved and I are fairly athletic, always have been, except of course when a big owie comes along and prevented me/him from doing exercises for a bit. Since we live on an island and sea water is virtually everywhere and close by, my all time favorite is to swim out into very deep water and ... honest ... literally dance out there! With the salt water offering so much buoyancy, I...

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Have you ever been estranged from your own child? I have gone through this ... and believe me our estrangement went on for fifteen years (!!!) My now adult son is the only surviving child out of three = a long story (mentioned in other responses from me on AB). When I first posed this question, it certainly appeared to me that there would NEVER be a resolution, a coming back. I cannot speak for fathers, but for all mothers who find...

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Have you ever ran away from home? Was it a bad experience or a good one? Although I believe many people 'run away from home' emotionally early in their lives (even while still living at home), yes, I did run away at the beginning of my sixteenth year. Being at that time, 'a good Catholic girl,' it never even entered my mind, ever, to do anything other than be more than from which I ran away. My father was a die-hard abuser to all his children...

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Have you ever ran away from home? Was it a bad experience or a good one? Although I believe many people 'run away from home' emotionally early in their lives (even while still living at home), yes, I did run away at the beginning of my sixteenth year. Being at that time, 'a good Catholic girl,' it never even entered my mind, ever, to do anything other than be more than from which I ran away. My father was a die-hard abuser to all his children...

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What state do you live in? Do you like it? We live in Honolulu, Hawaii! Oh oh may some understand this came about not by luck, but well-earned effort and a true sense purpose! That, and the undeniable fact that both our aging bodies do much better out of the snow, and into the ocean!

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What do you consider necessary to be called "rich" While it is emotionally sensitive, like the others here, to consider love, life wisdom, empathy, cooperation, family, friends and other 'rich' qualities to be understood as a sense of inner-richness (which are all quite true of course) I would like to comment on the question ... financially. I believe there is a concrete myth about financial 'richness,' especially when...

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What are you doing to change the world? That however unique each person may be, that I honor the safety, happiness and rights of others. To always proceed in life with a honorable sense of empathy. That I not only respect 'the differences,' but celebrate them. To encourage all I meet to reach their own highest potential. That 'Living A Life Worth Living' is a responsibility only I can fulfill. And...

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Richard Dawkins is my hero, is he your's? Hero? ... mmmm. Well, there are many 'heros' in my life but I don't believe I would personally categorize Richard Dawkins as heroic as I understand its definition. However, he is heroic intellectually, having a profound sense of humanity-in-time and proposes many ideas on how we commonly experience our genetic behaviors (and in his view how and why we do them.) He is...

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Can you write a sentence with 26 consecutive words & each word starting with the corresponding letter in the alphabet. (1st word starts with 'A' 2nd 'B' 3rd 'C' & so on...) Absolutely believe consistently, deliberatively, effort feigned gains hardly image, just knowledge lost, most necessary otherwise potentially quintessential, resting somewhere timeless, universally very worthlessly x-ratedly zero.

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Do you have an artistic touch? For most of my life I have been 'artist.' At five I started playing piano (later to be trained). Earlier than that I ALWAYS danced. By ten I was in theater ... later to have a very successful career not only in most all the performing arts, but also as consultant to world-class Peak Performers, not limited to 'just' the performing arts. I have had an incredibly full...

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If you were going to die tomorrow, what would you do today? Go swim in a pod of 50 dolphins ... again.

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If you could only use five words for the rest of your life what would you choose? Yes Life Is Now Thanks

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True Freedom.........Fact or Fiction..........? First lets agree that 'freedom' is honorably given to those that do no harm; those that do harm must be held accountable hopefully by a cooperative global standard. Okay: I believe there are many different kinds of freedom, none of which should be taken lightly or for granted. Much like LynfromNM, I hold ones true sense of freedom starts with the Self. For without this personal...

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Why does the natural seem so strange for some people? As Stewie_G mentions, I too believe 'we are so far removed from Nature it has become foreign to us.' To Wake Now, I respond in agreement as well. I hold with both of you the underlying essence of what you are saying is, perhaps, an unfortunate outcome of those individuals who, in the short run, let alone the long one, have turned their eyes from the plethora of gifts from all...

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I have spent a considerable amount of time reading AB answer's to tough questions. It seems like so many people have lived through so much. I think that's one reason we may have all ended up together here. Anyone else see this pattern? As a Behavioral Consultant to national and international Peak Performers, including the likes of Olympic Gold Medalists, Performing Artists, NASA scientists, and high-end Corporate leaders, I can assure you literally everyone has not only gained a value here and there, but has lost someone or some thing in their lives. The universality of the human experience can be found in our common...

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Why are humans the "intelligent" species compared to others? We are the ONLY species with 'abstract thought.' I don't believe an elephant 'thinks' whether it can be pink or not! [Like in 'Don't think of a Pink Elephant!']

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How would you feel about another feature that can be used for questions where you can check to see if you already posted an answer so you don't have to go wading through countless answers just to find yours? This would cut down on redundancy. Any input? HEAR, HEAR! Count my vote as 'I'd feel GREAT about it!!'

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Would AB survive without the point system? I think that Answer Bag is and always will be a valuable source of information, regardless of topic. What is distracting though at times, come from the comments section, not from the answers themselves --a seeming tendency for some 'viewers' to vent when they don't agree with [points[ taken away to them. Of course, these individuals never disagree when pluses are given to...

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Have you ever seen the Northern Lights and if so where were you at the time? Yes, I have had the most unbelievable honor of viewing the Aurora Borealis. Many years ago, I was on tour in our most northern states. We were traveling in a bus ('natch), and for all but one driver, the rest of us were fast asleep in the back! Suddenly the driver shouted, 'EVERYONE!!! GET UP!' Only myself and another tour member did, assuming since the bus had stopped...

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Are you really interested in answers to questions or are points and promotion to a higher level more important? Personally, what I cherish most is just having Answer Bag available to all of us. I don't care about the points. I am much more interested in how others think, hopefully to better understand human nature and how I may be able to cooperate in my life in a more meaningful way!

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Is there such thing as an UNDENIABLE truth? Please give an example. I am reading your question!

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If you were lost in the woods & it was a cloudy day or night & you had no man made devices like a compass etc: to direct you back. What would you use to fine your way back?.....M.C.S. ... if you do miss your way, don’t get frightened. Realize that you are not so completely lost or as far away from help as you think you are. The first thing to do is to climb to a high place and look for some familiar landmark near your camp. Look for smoke, for smoke usually means human beings. If you begin to feel panicky, do something ... gather wood, build a fire, take a drink of...

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You go to a formal dinner, and all of a sudden the spotlight drops on you! What would you do? (I know this is really vague, but I want to see how you would react!) It would be kinda cool if everyone wrote their own 'Oscar Speech,' before this ever happened! You know the one ... 'I'd like to thank ...' That way, if this ever did happen, we'd all be prepared! [Great question!]

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While sitting on a porch at an old-people's home, you are 90 years old looking back on your life. What is the one thing that you regret not having done or accomplished? Any Art form IS subjective, unlike science; there are no hard, firm "rules of proof." Before I give any advice, I would respectfully submit the following: the reason I begin here is to let you know I come from an extensive professional lifetime in the performing arts, including national and international awards. I've have been in this field for over forty+ years. Whatever...

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What phrase is too often used for advice? "Time ... cures everything!'

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What's one thing you would like to see invented that hasn't been yet? I would just about give anything to have a smallish punched- hole in all of my 'plastic:' credit cards, driver's license, and the like. Plus, have a 'miniature' drivers license or equivalent ID on it. That would mean no need for TWO pieces to 'hand over': 'the type of card and its 'number' and 'my picture!' I believe it would be...

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If you were a sound, what sound would you be? The sound of a newborn baby's first breath!

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Ladies, what do you find attractive in a Guy? Well, I am a big fan of beloved's BUTT! Meow! Mmmmm ... maybe after that (HA!), I'd say his unending kindness! Double Meow! And a long 'a--' purrrrrrrrrr!

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What makes a man lose interest in a woman? Well, being a senior female person, and having an incredibly successful, phenomenally romantic and active sexual life (yes, even over 60's still 'do it') relationship and marriage of 25 years ... In my view, many of my 'sisters' have been 'trained' by society to 'think' they should control everything. (There is genetic, procreative science about...

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How has teaching evolutionary theories advanced us farther technologically, scientifically, physically, and mentally, in comparison to teaching the Bible, physics, biology, geology, medicine, astronomy, and sustainability? Evolution has taught us that everyone and everything is included, regardless of race, religion, creed or even species. Creationism ... 'creates,' if you will, only separatism. It purports 'to know better' than others with differing views. For if one believes there is 'a who [who] gave them the ability to evolve ...' is a Creationist way that separates others as...

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In a two-way dispute, isn't an argument invalid unless it is applied to both sides equally? Beloved and I have decided to 'take the challenge,' while in any disagreement, to view the other as 'absolutely right' in their individual view. What makes this such an interesting challenge within a working relationship is that most individuals -- during a disagreement -- feel the need 'to be MORE right!' This always creates only one winner and one loser! ...

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What do you consider are the elements that EACH of us needs to be able to do -- in a better way -- that realistically contributes (however large or small) to a more peaceful world? Perhaps, I miswrote the question: I was attempting to ask for a personal response from each reader of the question, one that would hold an individual responsible for advancing, at the very least, their own methods toward a more peace filled world ... the operative word in my question, I believe, was 'EACH [of us].' The other was .. 'realistically contributes.' And,...

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If you wrote a book, what subject would it be filed under at Barnes & Noble? 'Self Help Philosophy'

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If someone wrote a book about you, what would it be called? 'Being Effortless ~ Loving Effortlessly'

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What was the last thing you got for free? MY LIFE!

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Do you prefer to be right or to be at peace? Beloved and I have decided to 'take the challenge,' while in any disagreement, to view the other as 'absolutely right' in their individual view. What makes this such an interesting challenge within a working relationship is that most individuals -- during a disagreement -- feel the need 'to be MORE right!' This always creates only one winner and one loser! ...

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What is the best method to NOT argue? Beloved and I have decided to 'take the challenge,' while in any disagreement, to view the other as 'absolutely right' in their individual view. What makes this such an interesting challenge within a working relationship is that most individuals -- during a disagreement -- feel the need 'to be MORE right!' This always creates only one winner and one loser! ...

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How old are you? I am going to be 63 this year ... very happily, thank you! • At 16, I ran away from home from abuse: I felt as if I were 40! • By 18, I had my first child: I felt as if I were 18. • By 20, I started a very long, successful career: I felt as if ageless. • At 24, I lost my second child in a fire: I felt very old. • At 27, I lost my first born...

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Have you ever seen an eagle in the wild? I wrote this right after we saw an eagle on top of Mt. Shasta in California. 'ON TOP OF THE WORLD'© [M.Moon] At eight thousand four hundred feet they finally looked down. As they did, the now, thin-line shale snake road was only slightly visible, its s-curves slithering down round, between the fir trees. All the way up, this upright silver-tipped greenery lined the mountain...

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Have you ever swam with dolphins in the wild? On April 14th of this year, I had a life changing experience and personal epiphany while swimming with wild dolphins, while aboard a vessel with Marine Biologists.   We were sailing on a 35 foot catamaran, with a little cabin underneath you had to climb down into and even a U shaped bunk with ports galore.   Down there were some of their research instruments, a Head, with a...

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If change is universal and constant throughout existence, does that make the universe inherently chaotic, or orderly in nature? I am quoting from another AB REPLY by scymitar7213 = under the question: "What is chaos theory?" This answer is just excellent!!! This is an excerpt from the link below (that's why I put it in quotes...) -http://www.imho.com/grae/chaos/chaos.html "The name "chaos theory" comes from the fact that the systems that the theory describes are apparently...

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Have you ever seen an eagle or an osprey? I wrote this immediately after viewing an eagle with my beloved husband on top of Mt. Shasta in California! 'ON TOP OF THE WORLD'© [M.Moon] At eight thousand four hundred feet they finally looked down. As they did, the now, thin-line shale snake road was only slightly visible, its s-curves slithering down round, between the fir trees. All the way up, this upright...

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Why do decent people really care about others they barely know? One of the best parts of being a human being is our commonality with everyone, even those 'we don't know.' In one way or another, each human shares this specific form of universal wisdom, most usually hard-won or well earned, not just by the challenges of hardship, but equally understands the wisdom attained by qualities of any joy being shared. In this view, there are never...

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If you could be something other than human what would you be? [IF I WERE A ...] ‘DOLPHIN ‘QUOTES' © • I never apologize for Being. • I swim in constant unity without thought but with sense. • I am in touch with everything by simply ‘listening.’ • I cooperate ‘selfishly’ so I may survive individually,  enabling me to leave my living legacies behind. ...

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Would you enjoy spending a month of solitude in a beautiful natural setting? Food and shelter would be provided but you would not see another person. Funny thing is ... I have been in this situation ... many times! (For years I had a high-end estate 'housesitting', estate management company. At that time, beloved could not come with me as he was involved with his own enterprise during the years that this occurred!) Okay: the estates were always on some island ... in the middle of no-where with no people near by, literally some...

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I had a miscarriage two months into pregnancy and feel I lost my child. How do I respond politely to those who say that I "didn't really lose a child"? I submit to those of you at AB, answering with a kind of just-give-em-hell- response to this question: The only way to prevent and hopefully correct, obviously inappropriate behavior -- in the long run -- is to never respond to these unfortunates with anything other than the very love we would wish they, themselves, could understand and extend. It is not enough for we intelligent and...

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I'm gay, and I want to know the truth on the amount of people on average who are okay with it and who have a problem with it. Thoughts? In a country that supports Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Happiness, I find it reprehensible that ANYONE would have 'a problem' with any free person's preference! It is a sad statement of affairs in our 'civilized society' and most unfortunate this gentleman has to even ask this question!! What? He's put into a position of putting together a yea-nay roster...

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If you had a chance to spend one more day with someone close to you that had died, who would it be and what would you do? The daughter I lost in our house fire. I would take her to the ocean and just float there with her, lettering the Nature of all things, even its hardships, be equally cherished, for it is true -- no matter how 'uncomfortable' -- everything and everyone does 'pass.' Sometimes, they pass away too soon.

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I apologize in advance if this question is offensive to anyone. It's comforting to go to the cemetery to pay your respects...where does one go to pay one's respects when a loved one has been cremated? On the anniversary of their death, create a literal ritual for "remembering." I had one of my children cremated and her ashes were scattered at sea. On the anniversary of her death, I go swim IN the ocean and pretend she is holding me up ... talking to me ... and giving me permission to FEEL whatever it is I am feeling THAT year. Some years are silly. Some horrid crying spells. There...

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What if your house caught fire, and all you could get out was a bag of stuff. What would you bring? Nothing. Its amazing, after your own house has burned down to the ground, how much 'stuff' you manage to re-accumulate -- even family photos. The most important? People.

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Is creation science scientific? "C'reation and E'volution"© (Poem by MOON/2000) Some that think there outta be a blind, but 'knowing,' belief in their Big "C" In the name of Faith--proof of catastrophe Hate and war, its ageless, continuing legacy While history has shown us a potpourri The Big "C" demonstrated mere tyranny Perhaps those Pharisee could now...

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Is creation science scientific? Sure ... ah-yeah: 'Creation Science' is CREATION -- and even 'SCIENCE' -- IF AND ONLY IF, these kinds of ideas and their scientifically supported methods are based and viewed on the authenticity that NATURE was and is the only creator! Truth is, the movements of Nature ARE bigger than all of us, regardless of view! I would add, [this is] regardless of whether...

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How well do you tolerate people of diametrically opposed viewpoints? In my view, perhaps it is not a question of 'tolerating' at all. It appears that we human beings have an insatiable need to be 'right.' While individual confidence comes from knowing what is 'true' for them, a wiser individual accepts all viewpoints as 'JUST information.' One doesn't really need to argue in most cases, but needs to just LISTEN....

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Parents treat misscarriage like a abortion, wont let me tell anyone and its really starting to bug me. Why do my parents say that when i really need to get over it emotionally? Dear one: How very unfortunate for you! The answers here on AnswerBag are indeed wise and warmly offered to assist you, hopefully, so you may take concrete steps to take better care of yourself. Personally, I wish to add: those of us with sensitive maturity understand and have empathy for you. You are experiencing not only a natural reaction to your miscarriage, but having to cope with...

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Parents treat misscarriage like a abortion, wont let me tell anyone and its really starting to bug me. Why do my parents say that when i really need to get over it emotionally? Dear one: How very unfortunate for you! The answers here on AnswerBag are indeed wise and warmly offered to assist you, hopefully, so you may take concrete steps to take better care of yourself. Personally, I wish to add: those of us with sensitive maturity understand and have empathy for you. You are experiencing not only a natural reaction to your miscarriage, but having to cope with...

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What's the shortest possible answer you can give to this question that will still make sense? YES!

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If you had the chance to, for just one fleeting moment, clearly perceive the entirety of existence and fully comprehend your place in it, would you want to? Not only would I welcome all and any chance to perceive 'the entirety of existence and fully comprehend my place in it' I have had many such a Zen-slaps in my life: • Being severely burned at 18 months, from then on I KNEW and held empathy for all people and things that appeared 'different.' • Being abused by both my father and one of my brothers, and running...

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What makes a man (or woman) great? A 'great' person: • Asks great questions. • Inspires by example. • Makes conscientious efforts to leave something of meaning or importance to the rest of the world. • Demonstrates enthusiasm toward all people and things. • Prefers to listen, but enjoys speaking with common sense. • Effortlessly holds all layers of our human...

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Be creative. If you were homeless and had to stand on a street corner with a cardboard sign, what would you write? Since there is no such thing as 'spare change,' how may I assist YOU?

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Are you alone? Do you like it or not? In my view, there is a complete difference between 'alone' and 'lonely.' I believe that an individual who is interested and curious about all things in this world and the plethora of its people's, would neither be alone or lonely. 'A person who is interested, is interesting.' I absolutely love to be alone, fortunate -- for whatever reason -- to never,...

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What do you think is the most important piece of wisdom that guides you in your life?..the one thing you'd want to remember if you had to give up add of your wisdom minus one thing.. There is nothing more precious that Life itself. Happiness and security is never found in someone else, it is purely created by the spirit and mind of the individual. It is a privelege to even be allowed to love another human being and that being loved by another is a nothing short of a gift, never to be taken for granted. Celebration in differences and sameness itself leads to our...

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Has anyone swam with dolphins? Seven weeks ago I had a life-altering experience while swimming with wild dolphins. This profound experience brought me to the realization of what true cooperation 'looked' like, indeed, harmony in motion. This lesson, still held softly in the very core of my being has returned (yet, once again) how 'to let go,' to literally 'be in the moment,' and enjoy what...

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Can say your favourite and very meaningful philosophical statement? "There are only two bequests we can actually leave our children. One is roots. The other one is freedom."

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If you could choose to know everything about one particular subject, what would it be? The answers here are amazing! The question itself and, for the most part, all the submitted answers are equally thought provoking! Oh my, how I love this site! My first answer would be: "How to learn!" That said, my second 'answer' would not be an answer at all. In my view, 'having knowledge' per se, even if one did know everything about one particular...

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What is a yummy, economical meal? One of our favorite, "I'm too tired ... you're to tired to cook' EASY meals: Simply mince a bunch of a really fresh of herb (stems removed first) and toss this with cooked pasta of any shape or kind! We usually add some extra virgin olive oil. Adding whatever unsalted butter is optional. Season to taste. Favorite and easy: fresh baby dill, stems removed, minced. ...

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If time is money, what is money? Trade for services. Period.

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Which do you value more money or time? Cherished husband of twenty-five years and I came from very meager childhood backgrounds. So, when he and I started enjoying success upon success, naturally we were also enjoying the 'benefits' from our efforts. As future income continued to rise, as well as 'the hours,' we decided to ask this following question: "What IS the most important thing in our lives?"...

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What is your greatest wish for your children? (or future children) That however unique each of them are (and loved), that they honor the safety, happiness and rights of others. To always proceed in life with a honorable sense of empathy. That they not only respect 'the differences,' but celebrate them. To encourage all that they meet to reach their own highest potential. That 'Living A Life Worth Living' is a responsibility only...

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Are you comfortable with your naked body? Why or why not? When I was burned by an over-turned humidifier, with 'Vicks' in it, I was only 18 months old. The burns were third-degree, some going as deep as down-to-the-bone. The burns covered my chest and right arm. The doctors took skin grafts from my thighs to 'create' skin where it was now missing! For years, especially because of many just awful experiences as a child, I...

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Have you ever performed on stage? Yes ... professionally for over 35+ years! This period of my life taught me very, very much about 'the human condition!' In this sense and form, there are no 'bad' characters per se, just people--usually unknown to them on a conscious level --who 'function' from very poor psychological or physical reasons. Indeed, actors 'act' BEHAVIORS' and do...

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I need a cheep paste that will actually stick to the paper that I have to glue, and not leave residue on the background or smear the ink... Any one have a suggestion? Good luck with your project! It is my suggestion that whichever glue you decide to use, remember to always start with a TINY amount of glue, especially around, underneath or near inks! You can always 'ADD,' but never 'taken away!' Further, I suggest that you ALWAYS 'test' any glue you may consider using on a separate piece of paper, or whatever kind of...

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What is the brand and model of your handphone? If possible, what is its current firmware? We just switched to Cingular hand phones and also purchased Bluetooth ear pieces. We are very, very pleased with the package, the rates, and indeed, the phone itself, it 'allows' one to connect to anything, including e-mail, game sites, movies, videos, etc. Couldn't be more pleased with this product!

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What type of paper should I use to paint watercolor with soft pastels used over top of watercolors for a soft buttery finish? Your idea sounds very interesting! Good for you! My suggestion would be to start practicing on very small pieces of watercolor paper, using DIFFERENT weights and surface textures. You will notice that each of the following suggestions will ‘create’ a different effect. For example, Cold Press paper has more surface tooth, more literal texture (dips and valleys). Hot Press paper...

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Have you ever been through something in your life that absolutely NOBODY comes close to understanding how hard it was? How did you cope? I edited my answer submited (#1)here, under "Losing A Child" in Answerbag so I may start here to answer yours. That said, I would like to ADD some comments, specifically to the question posed here. My comments will be at the end of this submission(#2): (#1) We, parents who have lost children, belong to a very special "club." The only membership fee is the...

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What is the best way to bond paper to wood, where wood is the substrate and paper is the paint surface? In a word for the best archival glue, it is called: YES

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How can I get better at drawing? For me, your question did not advise us whether you are just beginning or have had some or a lot of experience WITH drawing (and/or painting). My 'answer' here is more a discussion on the thinking or philosophy surrounding "HOW?" Recently, I came across an amazing quote. Unfortunately, I don't remember the artist-author's name. He wrote, "NONE of us...

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What would life be like without art? I am very flattered and grateful that you understood my short missive! Of course ... copy away! You may quote it as a piece from 'Mahina®' of Mahina Fine Arts®, Honolulu, HI.

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What would life be like without art? Life IS ART, so in my view and sensibilities art could never be 'NOT!' The plethora of shapes, forms, dimensions, perspectives, that one is surrounded by Nature and 'just living': the color of day and night; the tints and tones of our diverse populations; the way any one 'dresses' -- art as a personal 'color-filled' demonstration and statement; the...

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What is the longest time that you have spent on a painting? For me, it depends on the mediums I am using. That said, it may be ten second studies to a year or more. Believe it to be very good to have at least three 'in the works,' especially when using multiple washes, layers, or other techniques to create 'the vision' INTO the painting!

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What talent do you respect the most in a person? The talent I respect in a person is the important gift they give ~ moment by moment. It is the way they value Life itself, daily illustrating the preciousness of each and every other human being through their ''loyalty to kindness.' These individuals are teachers, silently reaching out through their actions, aspiring us all to approach our highest potential. They role...

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Why do I always feel that I am taken for granted in relationships, and how can I make sure that it doesn't happen? Selfishness Is The Highest Form Of Cooperation Beloved E. and I will be celebrating our 25th anniversary in a year. Further, and a wonderful testament to our belief system and actions, we still on our honeymoon, no kidding! We both completely believe that it is a privilege to be allowed to love someone else, let alone be loved by them. Truth is, none of us really need to be in a...

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Why would a guy rather remain promiscuous than be with his "dream girl"? Let me be very clear: it is a responsibility of each of us to make CONSCIOUS DECISIONS about how we behave! In this very real world , in each and every moment, it is important, and true, that each of our actions consciously come from thinking through our behaviors and DECIDING how to proceed. All behaviors have consequences: good decisions make for and support good behavior and good...

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Why do I always feel that I am taken for granted in relationships, and how can I make sure that it doesn't happen? A great relationship is based on "selfishness is the highest form of cooperation." Hey ! Read my definition as "a new answer." Hopefully, this will explain what I meant!

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How does one say "no" to a relative who continually asks for loans and does not repay them? It is not possible to change anyone else, regardless of reason or righteousness. People must come to responsibility, appropriate consequence, and value on their own. We all potentially may have unpredictable needs = For most innocent and humanly unpredictable behavior, I believe it is important • to remain clear about your own rules of conduct and follow them • to role model good...

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I'm having a hard time telling whether I have a fear of intimacy and/or commitment, or if my girlfriend and I just aren't compatible. How can I tell? NOTE: My answer here was previously submitted and approved by AnswerBag.com . I submitted an answer to a very similiar question: How do you know when you are in a serious relationship? (100%, 1 rating) submitted by M Moon (A, 98%, 15 ratings), Sep 08, 05 When I read the heartfelt questions here at Answerbag.com, I have the sense that many people do not take the time to consider what...

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What is VistaScan? Thanks for being so specific! You are a gem!

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What is VistaScan? Thanks for being so specific! You are a gem!

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How can I get my husband to share more of his life with me without nagging him? So many helpful suggestions for you to consider! My comments, offered to you here, are based on a marriage of almost twenty-five years. Daily we celebrate the fact that we are very much in love with each other and still say, " We're still on our honeymoon!" There isn't a day that goes by that one of us doesn't make some kind of gratitude comment about what we have...

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What is the best way to remove labels and their glue from products? Thanks for all the input! I found the following site: www.thetipsbank.com This site is pretty awesomeas us "regular folk" contributing to it, just like for the most part, the people who contribute to www.answerbag.com I only included the answers reguarding the question I originally asked. "What is the best way to remove labels and their glue from products" FROM:...

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Why would a guy rather remain promiscuous than be with his "dream girl"? It is too easy to accept social cliches, and consequently further possible misunderstandings between men and women, when trying to understand "the differences." There is a plethora of scientific evidence about why men are promiscuous. One of many books written by scientist, Richard Dawkins, addresses this issue. In his 1990 book, "THE SELFISH GENE," Dawkins states...

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How do you know when you are in a serious relationship? When I read the heartfelt questions here at Answerbag.com, I have the sense that many people do not take the time to consider what they have to offer in a relationship nor what they actually want in one. I use to walk in these shoes. A few years after a divorce, a friend suggested I do the “assignment” which follows here. Probably, like most people, I was dating somewhat haphazardly,...

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What does it mean to understand yourself? Before seeking a relationship, know what you want

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How can one get into acting? All of the answers here are good, some more sound than others. Any Art form is subjective, unlike science; there are no hard, firm "rules of proof." Before I give any advice, I would respectfully submit the following. The reason I begin here is to let you know I come from a professional lifetime of performing arts experience. I was in this [acting] field for over...

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How should I tell my 9 year old daughter that I don't want her to hang around a child who I think is a negative influence on her? Just tell her, "No." YOU are the adult with more Life Experience. This situation is always an opportunity to LEARN SOMETHING TOGETHER! Speak with respect, love and authority.

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I had a miscarriage two months into pregnancy and feel I lost my child. How do I respond politely to those who say that I "didn't really lose a child"? We, parents who have lost children, belong to a very special "club." The only membership fee is the unfortunate event of losing a beloved child. Others cannot belong. It is not that others are unloving or uncaring. There is just no way a person can completely understand without having had the experience. I have lost two children. In two separate events. No, it's not fair...

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I am throwing a 60th birthday party for my mom. I cannot pay for everyone's meals. Is it appropriate to ask that people pay for themselves since she is not requesting gifts? It is loving that you are throwing your mother a 60th birthday celebration. Since you cannot afford the traditional etiquette of paying for all the fare, I suggest that you only invite those that are closet to your mother. It is important for you to be completely honest about your intention of not only sharing the celebration with those that care for her, but will want to "share"...

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What exactly is "women's intuition" supposed to be? Intuition is E V O L V E D ." Consider that human SENSE is very primal: smell, sound, sight, touch and taste. From these senses comes experience. From experience comes the FEELING (emotion) of what that experience meant. From that feeling comes the INTELLIGENCE (logic) that informs decision making. All evolved. Consider that a sixth sense (intuition) is that which comes...

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If traditional Chinese medicine is so effective, why is life expectancy in China lower than in countries like Germany, Switzerland or the US? If you are really interested in a boarder view than the one's most likely to be posted here, check out and read: "GUNS, GERMS AND STEEL" by Jared Diamond = Pulitzer Prize Winner and his latest , "COLLAPSE -- How Societies Choose to Fail or Succeed"

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What is chaos theory? Others will give you good scientific explanations. Sometimes it's best to just be very simple = For example, here is one visual of Chaos Theory "at work": Look at a whole Boston fern Look at only one individual fern stem and leaf coming off the whole plant. Look at each of the individual smaller leaves on that one larger leaf stem. Notice that each of the little leaves...

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What is chaos theory? Others will give you good scientific explanations. Sometimes it's best to just be very simple = For example, here is one visual of Chaos Theory "at work": Look at a whole Boston fern Look at only one individual fern stem and leaf coming off the whole plant. Look at each of the individual smaller leaves on that one larger leaf stem. Notice that each of the little leaves...

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