My boyfriend lives with his controlling father. He is 24 I am 38. He made a deal that requires him to live at home until he pays a debt off but wants to move in w/me. He honors his word/commitments but dad is destroying us. How can this be resolved?

What are you trying to get him to wake up from?
He had a commitment to his father before he made a commitment to you.
Just be understanding and patient....his father prolly isnt destroying you, but your own jelousy is destroying you...and his relationship with his father.
Let him work, let him pay off the debt...and see him here and their, and keep in close contact. He doesnt always need to be with you, and if hes working...let the dude work to pay off that debt.
Maybe just have him sit down and have a real man to man conversation without any stupid arguing...an have him ask his father if he can move in with you...if he says no, then just honor it.
Just make the best with what you have right now, its all in your perspective of the situation.
...you cant MAKE him leave. Unless you wanna start family issues, before you even become part of the family...which isnt good at all.

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Wow, that one was better than my answer...I guess your not a sage for nothing. +2 !
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by HelpingHand. on July 29th, 2009
Hey, lol...thanx.
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by schmee2369 on July 29th, 2009
Sure ^^
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by HelpingHand. on July 29th, 2009

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