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by Ree772 on January 3rd, 2006

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Years ago I loved sex, but now I hate for my husband to touch me or even mention it. I feel like sex is a chore, but my husband wants sex every other night. How can we resolve this?

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  • by Answers101 on July 1st, 2006

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    Perhaps, you should seek marriage counseling.

    Clearly, there is something missing from your relationship and sexual intercourse isn't the main problem.

    There are other ways of showing affection; besides, sexual intercourse.

    I would recommend spending more quality time with each other and telling each other, at least, on a daily basis, 1 positive thing you like about each other.

    If you'll reflect on why you're in love with your husband and how enjoyable your first years of marriage were, and focus on these positive attributes, then you'll find your marriage improving.

    More than likely, your sex drive has decreased due to a number of factors such as daily stresse, anxiety, worry, and other components.

    Good luck & I hope this helps!

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    • Counseling? My husband never seeks counseling. He has read ALL the books and knows ALL the answers when it comes to other people's lives. He father was the same way. He dedicated his whole live to others so that his own children wanted nothing to do with him. He eventually committed suicide.

      He praises me all the time for the things I DO. I simply do not feel loved for who I am because he does not know me. Again, he is content with superficial relationships. I have no doubt that he loves his children, but he spends no time with them so that he can really know them. Several of my boys have relationship issues themselves and don't seem to know how to share themselves with others. It seems the apple does not fall far from the tree. I see a pattern here from his father, to him, to my boys. If he does not break it, I fear it will perpetuate to my grandchildren.

      Again, I cannot get counseling with him. He does not expose himself in such ways--not even to me. Sometimes I don't think I ever knew him. He never shares his weaknesses, his childhood background, etc. We know FACTS about his life; we don't know him!

      I am a Christian and I know that I am commanded to love him in spite of how he treats me and our children. But each year gets harder and harder. He is content with our twice-weekly sex. I dread it and get moody on the day of the "event." It's like having sex with a stranger. I feel dirty.

      I have tried talking to him before, but he gets understandably defensive. He always points out that he is a good provider and does not run around with other women. I need to tell him that he does run around with another woman--that he has done so most of our married life. She is his career. He is often gone and when he is home, he is on his computer. He is there but not there.

      Dippydoodles

      by Dippydoodles on September 21st, 2011

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