I would like my boyfriend to call me on a nightly basis, but he feels that this type of request is controlling. Do you agree/disagree?

I do actually. Insisting that someone call you according to any pattern set by you, whether its daily or monthly, is controlling. Although I'm female, I've had boyfriends who have gotten uptight when I missed calling them one night and I felt hopelessly stifled because I felt like they didn't trust me. Its not that he doesn't want to speak to you, its just that he doesn't want some rigid pattern that will potentially lead to suspicion and mistrust if he dares to stray from it. The truth is sometimes not much happens in a day and all those conversations where you have nothing interesting to say apart from "I love you", "I love you too" can get a bit grating after a while- give him some time to collect stuff to talk about and you'll have much better conversations anyway. I also don't get "I would like him to call me" - if you want to talk to him that bad why don't you call him?
Chill out, don't be so needy, let him decide when to call you, if you really have something you want to talk about- call him! He will appreciate you respecting his personal space and value you more- isn't this more important than some tim,etabled nightly phonecall with nothing in particular to say? With a more laid back, less rigid attitude you stand a lot more chance of cultivating a healthy and interesting long lasting relationship.

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correct!
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by Answers101 on March 20th, 2006
good answer
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by hemiman on October 3rd, 2006
I agree 100%
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by LynfromNM on October 3rd, 2006
Perfect Lady Fuschia!
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by Penny The Wise on July 17th, 2007
T'was a long time ago but this answer was spot on!
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by Unicorn Man on February 16th, 2012

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