My mom has threaten to hit me.Is this wrong? What should I do?

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• A threat can be worse than getting hit itself - it's abuse and a form of control. It's like a husband threatening to kill his wife if she leaves. Whilst the asker isn't getting threatened with death, still, a threat is a threat and speaking from personal experience, sometimes the real thing is preferable to threats that cause extreme anxiety and other emotional and psychological traumas. Of course neither threatening or actual hitting are acceptable - no matter what led up to it but I'm just pointing out that threats are certainly not okay.

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  by Ausbabe on March 5th, 2007

• aus is right. Just because shes your mom, you have rights too.

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  by --angel_fire-- on March 5th, 2007

• Thanks Angel. I knew alot of people who thought it was awful that I had bruises from being hit by my mom (or as us Aussies spell it, mum) but not one of them thought about the emotional or psychological damage my mom was doing with her words and threats. Going to bed every night and being terrified because your mom threatens to punish you and then laying there tense and anxious until the inevitable happens (or worse sometimes, doesn't happen) can be awful. Sorry, I tend to prefer to leave personal stuff out of these answers but can't really do that this time.

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  by Ausbabe on March 5th, 2007

• i'm not defending all threats against anyone. i'm talking about this particular question - this person is saying that their mom threatened to hit them. this person is asking if that in itself is wrong. i think not.

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  by AliasAnonymous on March 5th, 2007

• Threats are also a form of abuse. If we continue to say anything to our children just because we are parents (I'm not a parent but...) if things like this continue then when our children grow up they will result to the same tactics. Using abusive threats do not help you manage your child, it actually may make things worse. Especially when these threats are said during difficult times. I am a victim of verbal abuse, and while my mom is my mother, he verbal abuse drove me to contemplating suicide frequently. It's not about what parents have the right to say, it's about whether they think about how these words affect their children. The poster was probably emotionally hurt when these things were said to her.

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  by dontcallmegaga on March 17th, 2010