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by Darryl61 on December 22nd, 2006

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My wife has just been diagnosed with cervical cancer. Can you share any personal experiences with this? I don't want clinical answers, or links.

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  • by Anonymous on June 24th, 2008

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    Wow, my wife went through this as well, she just hit her 1 year mark of being in remission. From my experience, it is probably the hardest thing I have had to go through in life. I never dreamed by the time I was 31 that I would have to help my wife with an IV because of dehydration and blood clotting while holding a newborn and trying to give him love and affection.

    Though the experience of going through the cancer with her was hard, the aftermath has been even harder. She has gained a lot of weight and is trying to shed the pounds, but is not having much luck due to the onset of menopause. She doesn't show affection towards me at all since it all happened and feels the need to carry guilt around because of it. She also uses the cancer diagnoses as a crutch. Before cancer, if there was something that was challenging or seemed impossible, she would go for it; now, she says she can't and if approached about it she often retaliates with "Don't you know I have cancer"... I guess it will just take time. She often senses my tension with the whole situation and says "I wish I wouldn't fought so hard to beat the cancer because that way you could live a normal life"...makes me feel like crap, but in a way, I understand where her mind is at and I just wish there was something I could do to fix the situation. I know this whole rant doesn't probably make too much sense but it is all I can seem to write at the moment.

    The only thing that keeps me here in the marriage is remembering who she used to be and hoping I can help her make it back to being that person again someday

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