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by Lori on December 2nd, 2007

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Should I call back the person my husband was seeing while we where saperated? She called when me and my husband got back together to tell me that he was madley in love with her wanted to have her kids she said a lot of things to me that make me feel sick.

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  • by Marcie on December 2nd, 2007

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    Call her back why?

    To give her confirmation that she scored a direct hit with her words and that you haven't been able to get them out of your mind since?

    I don't think I would give her the satisfaction, if it were me.

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    • This call happened over 7 months ago .I have not called her back, just for that reason. But ,I am hurting so much over some of the things she said. I guess it just hurts knowing my husband of 22 years could be with someone during our separation. He has done everything he can do to reassure me and show me his love. He has been understanding and thankful for my forgiveness. Our marriage seems stronger than ever. I love him but, how do I ever get over the fact that I could even be with another person? My husband said the same thing as you did. That she was trying to hurt me because she know that ,that would make it harder for him to get back with me.

      Lori

      by Lori on December 3rd, 2007

    • It sounds like you think this woman has a piece of the puzzle that will allow you to make peace with the knowledge that your husband could and did have something with someone else while you were separated. Unfortunately, nothing you could say to this woman and nothing she could say to you would give you a trip back in time to before your husband did this. Focusing on her is actually useful only in keeping your focus off the real deal. Which is getting over the feelings raised by your husbands actions. The woman was just the vehicle that he took on his misadventure not the cause. Time is the only "cure" I know of and it is an imperfect "cure" at that. On the other hand, isn't knowing that we could (cause we always could we just didn't acknowledge it) be with other people but we choose to be together an affirmation beyond untested vows? That's how I choose to look at it. It isn't the fix that time travel/amnesia would be but I think it may be as good as it gets.

      Marcie

      by Marcie on December 3rd, 2007

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