ANSWERS: 36
  • Yes, don't puch for sex, be interested in what I have to say and be a gentleman.
  • dont be creepy and BE funny but dont talk about how awesome you are
  • Well, I can't resist. Bring a fat wallet.
  • Treat me with respect, he doesn't have to spend a lot of money on me. Good question :)
  • Just letting me know that he's really actually interested can work wonders. Calling every so often, even just to let me know that I had been on his mind, is a great way to keep me interested as well.
  • Be respectful and have a good time. If you enjoy yourself, I will too. But don't assume that we are going to have sex just because you took me out. If that's all you're after, hire a hooker. They're cheaper in the long run than a date, and no commitment issues afterwards.
  • Yes, respect me,treat me like a woman then later on give me some wild and kinky sex, and spank my booty make me scream your name. DONT TEASE ME PLEASE ME. lol
  • If he has good communication skills and an intelligent sense of humor .. we're on!
  • put his hand on the small of my back when allowing me to pass in front of him..for a chair or whatever.sigh.
  • Make me laugh (that helps a lot) Imply that he might be up for something appropriately kinky (not necessarily then and there, but slightly further down the line.) Be a Siouxsie and the Banshees fan (I did actually once go on a second date with a guy solely for this reason - I ended up going out with him for nearly two years...)
  • probably not
  • good chemistry, with no awkward silences and not serious..
  • nah:P you'll just have to ask and await the answer :P hold you in suspence :D
  • Leave your ego at home.
  • Although I'm not a woman and it's not just one thing, I think Diana Krall said it best: Peel me a grape, crush me some ice skin me a peach, save the fuzz for my pillow talk to me nice, talk to me nice, you gotta wine me and dine me don't try to fool me, bejewel me either amuse me or lose me I'm getting hungry, peel me a grape Pop me a cork, french me a fry crack me a nut, bring a bowl full of bon-bons chill me some wine, keep standing by just entertain me, champagne me show me you love me, kid glove me best way to cheer me, cashmere me I'm getting hungry, peel me a grape Here's how to be an agreeable chap love me and leave me in luxury's lap hop when I holler skip when I snap when I say, "do it" jump to it send out for scotch, boil me a crab cut me a rose make my tea with the petals just hang around, pick up the tab never out think me, just mink me polar bear rug me, don't bug me new Thunderbird me, you heard me I'm getting hungry, peel me a grape slow-ow-ly LOL !
  • You betcha..make me smile, make me laugh, keep me in stitches..not from setup jokes..just from dry wit and observation! :)
  • There's actually no way that you can guarantee another date. Read on to know why. I think that I can answer this one even though I'm a guy, because it's rather obvious. A simple few things you need to do: Keep the conversation light and funny. If she's not laughing, you're not funny enough. Humour is the key for a good, and entertaining atmosphere, and it's the base for a succesful first date. Remember, she's already out with you on the date, so obviously you've done something right in the first place. In addition to creating the mood, being optimistic, social and a good conversationalist helps, as does a good pick of the location of the date. Being creative (in a good way!) is usually appreciated more than you'd guess. Keep it public though. As much as you want to take her to a nice, pretty, secluded area, she'll feel safer on a public area, where she has the chance to leave whenever she wants to. But of course, when it's you, she wouldn't leave if she had to, right? ;) Oh, and try not to ask for a second date on the end of the first one. Just say goodbye, and call her next week - if the first date went well, about a week's wait is good, since she'll surely have thought about you... which is good, because even though she'll wonder why you haven't called, she'll be way more relieved that you're calling, and the slight confusion will vanish, leaving you with a week's worth of her thinking about you... smart, eh? - and propose a second date. Still, as I said, there are no guarantees. This will work, if she's originally interested enough. And since they all aren't, I cannot possibly promise that these things are a sure guarantee. Am I right, girls? :)
  • the only for sure way is to not untie them after your first date.
  • Take the time to ask me questions regarding my observations and opinions on life and really be interested in the answers. Discuss your thoughts with me as well. If you are faking your interest in what makes me who I am, I can tell. Be honest. I will respect you more if you are straightforward about your agenda with me. If you don't care about my opinions and are only interested in sex, the answer is probably no, but I do appreciate your honesty and might even go out with you again because I find you amusing and know you will be honest. Also, make those first couple of dates something appropriate. In other words don't pick me up and announce that you're taking me to a spa where you have arranged for us to get the couple's full body massages. That really happened to me recently and I barely knew this man. But if you are someone I've had a chance to get to know very well prior to dating, you can be rest assured I must already be attracted to you or I would not have accepted your invitation. Therefore we should go out dancing or some activity that we both like. I often wish that I could point potential dates to Answerbag because it would give me a chance to discover if there is going to be that mental connection before I go out with them.
  • Hi Zack..wouldn't it be nicer to go even further? A third date is lovely...but still better to get married. :-) Just be kind and understanding and that will do wonders!
  • my first date was simple and suprising. dinner at a small cafe, and then he taught me to ice skate- apparently teaching how to do things i'm horrible at worked well (living in miami, ice skating isn't exactly common...) anywho, try something new, at best you start a long road of new experiances, at worse you both make fools of yourself and you have a good story to tell. but she'll almost always give you a second date if the first one was exciting.
  • Entertain me. If the date gets boring, why would I want to go out on a second one?
  • A guys perspective, and not intending to dismiss the other answers but... i dont think there's an answer to this. A girl will make up her mind very fast on a date, if she likes u ur in, u can still mess it up but generally if she likes you she'll get over the little things. Best answer is to be yourself and try and have fun.
  • If I were still on the market, yes, they could do what my husband did: display kindness, courtesy, and character.
  • yeah, let her know youre after more than sex
  • Just make me laugh for the duration of the date.
  • He is himself, whether I like it or not. He doesn't hate people just because I might have issues with them. He doesn't stop talking to people because I tell him to. He stops talking to them because he wants to. He doesn't like being on bad terms with anyone, but that doesn't mean he is going to agree with everything I say. He doesn't live to impress me. He is very easy to get along with and really approachable. He doesn't think of people with the concept of labels in mind. He doesn't care if people think certain people are emos, punks, goths, gangsters, . . . WHATEVER. He just doesn't care. He sees them as people, no matter what mask they're wearing. He understands that other people have feelings and thoughts, and most of all, a heart. He understands that people have potential and they can think and probably succeed if they are given the chance. He knows that people can be known to say things they do not mean when they are angry, frustrated, or upset. He knows that people may not seem like they are a true friend at times because of things they might say and/or do, but he also understands that we are all human and we all make mistakes. I can still be the weakest person around him, and he would still view me as a person, just like anyone else. He doesn't care where I'm from, what I look like, what kind of music I listen to, or who I choose as my best friend. I am still a person to him. He doesn't really like bragging about himself. He lets his actions and words show who he really is and he lets other people flatter him instead of straight out flattering himself. He is selfless, but he doesn't forget how to be himself at the same time. He is very interested in people, but most importantly, he is interested in me. He knows how to appreciate a parody and he is not afraid to challenge authority's definition of right and wrong. He sees me at my weakest, and still sees the best in me. Well, . . . the reason I wrote all of that is because I wrote something like this in my Facebook profile, but about me instead. Then, when I was editing my profile, I copied and pasted this into the answer box on this question. I changed "I" to "he" and made other changes to what I said here as well. Hopefully this makes sense. I basically just want to be with a guy who I can love and accept for who he is who isn't afraid to be himself. Thankfully, that's exactly the kind of guy I've attracted and am with. I'm not ashamed to call him my boyfriend at all.
  • if we get along and it feels natural then its ON!
  • yes not to talk about himself, sex, his ex, his mother, just be himself and how nice he is i guess
  • be cute and funny :)
  • I'll answer for them. Look like Johnny Depp or Brad Pitt and you're in.
  • Take me on a ride...on their horse.
  • It's a bit hard to describe, but basically if we make a mental/emotional connection that intrigues me - makes me think about something in a different way, makes me consider other possibilities, other worlds. It would get me wondering if there were other layers to discover..
  • If he genuinely compliments me and makes me feel good about myself, that will guarantee it. Also if he can make me laugh.
  • They need to entice me, captivate me, make me want more of their company.
  • One thing? no. But here's some things: 1) Don't talk about ex-wives or girl friends 2) Don't talk about the things you own 3) Don't talk about your investments (see 2) 4) Don't talk about your car (see 2) 5) or your big screen TV (ditto) 6) Ask about me and my interests 7) Remember your manners 8) Talk about your interests and hobbies, but never in too much detail 9) Appear modest even about your greatest talents 10) Say you really enjoyed yourself and you would like to see me again 11) Consider sending an email the next day or two repeating the fact that you enjoyed yourself, and that you were really interested in (something I talked about) 12) Call or write within the week asking me out to a movie or something interesting (hint - what did I say I was interested in?) Seems like a lot, I know, but that's the formula my guy used and it surely worked :)

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