Is it easier to tell a lie than to tell the truth if you know it is going to hurt another's feelings?
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The short answer: It's usually easier to tell a lie in the short term followed by a big cost it in the long run. You could pay $100 today (tell the truth) or pay $10 a day for a year... The long answer: It's not an easy question - one I've asked myself often... After having tried to "not hurt people's feelings" for many years I can say that: Trying to not hurt people's feelings is rarely a useful practice - you have very little control over what others choose to feel and being honest will most often also produce the least amount of pain for others. Having said that - telling your truth at a good time and with awareness of "them" is a skilled art - and one worth practicing. There have been a few cases where I wish I had not told my truth or told less of it, but they are very, very rare. There have been many, many times where I wished I had been able to tell a difficult truth sooner rather than later. It might have hurt them a bit more immediately but would have saved them (not to mention me) a lot of pain in the long run...
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It is easier to lie because then we don't have to experience the discomfort of what might happen if you tell the truth...but it's morally better to tell the truth. Lies create a false belief and perception that trap people, where as knowing the truth even if it is initially painful allows you to move forward and be happy.
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I think that for most people it is easier to lie. However, I hate lying, so I try to be as honest as possible with everyone. Most of the lies I've told were not intentional. I know that with me, lies may make me feel good.. but if I find out later that someone lied to me, I will feel like I wasn't worth the truth.. so I try to be honest with everyone! I've also noticed that this helps me be more accepting of other's faults and be less judgmental. Therefore, mean thoughts don't enter my mind very often. Lying is definitely easier, though, for most. :)
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people often think that lying would hurt other's feeling less because what they do not know will not hurt them. but i think nothing can be kept secret forever. so if they're going to lie now, the truth will be exposed later anyways. and they will be hurt even more. personally, i choose the telling the truth over lying. because even though the truth hurts, it will be easier for the other person to let go or move on or whatever the case is. telling them the truth is just like you're respecting them. if you respect them, you wouldn't lie to them. simple as that. it's just bullshit to me how people would say "i lied cause i didnt want to hurt you" because by lying, they hurt me more -_-
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