ANSWERS: 21
  • I like extremely nice people. There are extremely nice people here. I hope you get the chance to know them. They're fun!
  • You are probably coming off as artificial and desperate for validation. You can be extremely nice, but not be showy about it. If people don't like you, you are probably being a little showy. Btw- what is it about you that makes you deem yourself "extremely nice"?
  • i want to start by saying i like extremely nice people. i think it's a wonderful way to be and i try (but sometimes fail) to be as nice as i possibly can. I think people often assume niceness is fake because they aren't fully comfortable with themselves so can't understand why anyone would try to make someone else feel better.
  • It's a sad indicement of this World these days. I find in the society where I live if you are nice people will always think you have a hidden agenda . It's sad. As an old man I knew always used to say " It's nice to be nice ".
  • There is a normal thing people have called "space" its the room they need between themselves and another, if someone comes into their space they fell threatnend and very nice people is often so "open" that they dont have that much space so they come closer to people when the talk etc. and thet result in a frightance of the other person and therefore a dislike..
  • I think it might be because in this day and age that kind of niceness may lead people to believe you are concealing something from them. It may also be that some people don't know how to respond to this behavior in such a cynical age. As a result, it makes them uncomfortable.
  • I like nice people but maybe you are coming over as trying a little too hard. That can sometimes have a ring of falseness and insincerity. Maybe it is just lack of confidence that makes you feel people do not like you. Relax a little more.
  • I like you just fine! :)
  • I get the same thing, people tend to either be suspicious of me or walk all over me. Once in a long while, I find someone who genuinely accepts my help without taking advantage and they usually become long-term friends. I just try to not let others get me down. I help others to be a contributor, not to get validation from them.
  • I think people welcome honesty and kindness and over all genuinely nice people. But, in these times and from my past experiences, people who are extremely nice to me, I always look them over twice and wonder if there are motives behind their 'niceness'. I've learned to beware of wolves in sheep clothing. Maybe people are doing the same to you.
  • Could be your niceness highlights their not-so-niceness and makes them feel uncomfortable.
  • Because it is illogical to put others (as in everybody you come across) constantly before yourself. You must always be the most important person in your own life - and this is not selfish or showing a lack of concern for others. Indeed, if you want to make others happy then you need to be happy yourself before you can really achieve this. People, on the whole know this and find your behaviour insincere - they may question why you have so little consideration for yourself instead always concerned with others happiness. The bottom line is, this formula does not work long term at all - outwardly you may have a smile on your face as long as others are happy, but when alone in your private moments there will be distress caused from feeling undervalued and overlooked on a daily basis. Also, do not expect others to return the favour - some will, others won't - this is the way the world works - and there is nothing wrong in it. There is also nothing wrong with putting your own personal happiness and contentment at the top of the agenda (not to the point of extremes of course). In fact, this is one of the least selfish things you can do - if really want to make me happy, then you must be happy to do so - first. Otherwise, all your efforts may just leave me feeling a massive surge of guilt that you unknowingly inflict upon me and that I did not ask for. Your intentions are good but I think perhaps your perspective is skewed.
  • I very much like nice people. The people that annoy me are 'doormats'. It drives me insane when someone lets other people walk all over them. I just want to scream "Grown a SPINE, damnit!". If we're on the same page, extremely nice people get taken advantage of on a regular basis and I hate to see that. I'm actually a very nice guy, myself. I try to be very thoughtful and considerate and I pay close attention to other peoples' feelings. Perhaps it's that very awareness that makes me annoyed with overly nice people. I'd never hurt you or take advantage of you, and when I watch others do that to you it angers me and it makes me want to protect you. When you take no steps to protect yourself, however, I tend to get frustrated even more and I often have to just walk away from it and from you, because I didn't take you to raise, as it were. Thing is, I know you don't want or expect that from me, but that's my personal nature and I just can't stand by and watch it. So, for my own piece of mind, I give up on you, in the end. It doesn't mean I don't like you. It just means that it pains me to be around you.
  • For a very short time I had a roommate that came across as too nice. From the moment I met him, he gave me the willies. Then a few days later I found out that he had been found guilt of sneaking into a woman's apartment and peeking into her bathroom while she was showering. As a result of this he was listed as a sexual predator. He had also had some other brushes with the law in this regard and wound up moving back out of the apartment not long after he moved in. The point is, as others have said, when you are too nice, people begin to suspect ulterior motives. No normal person is that happy or that nice all the time. We all have our ups and downs. So, when someone is too nice, it sets off alarms.
  • Well to me it's not about liking or disliking niceness, it's about being authentic -- I like people who are authentic. A normal, healthy human has a wide range of emotions, and a wide range of ways of relating to others, depending on who the other is, the situation, etc. Someone who is always "just one way", regardless of WHAT that way is, is simply not very alive. It's an indicator of being stuck on "autopilot" -- humming along in a conditioned, habitual behavior, rather than being open, aware, and spontaneously responsive to life moment by moment. There is no "right way to be" which can be locked in and always correct. The right way to be changes in every situation, and the only way you can know it is to be aware and free from fixed ideas, fixed behaviors, and fixed ways of being. That's what I mean by "authentic".
  • because there is nice ...and there is nice, so maybe your just a little to nice nice ...try cutting back to being just nice ...works for me !:)
  • You must have other character flaws...
  • I'm the same way. I think people generally like to be unhappy. I make part of my day to smile and say good morning to my coworkers and just people in general. I dont always get a good response , but that their problem. It makes me feel good so it does not matter. If there is one person a day I can brighten or make smile back,I'm happy.
  • Someone once told me I was TOo nice. She was a real bitch tho. I am not going to stop being nice. As long as you aren't icky nice or let people walk all over you, I see nothing wrong with it at all. I wish more people were nice.
  • You are polite and friendly as normal. The difference is that, when somebody asks for something or whatever, unless you know them to be worthy of YOUR time and effort, you do not automatically rush to the front of the queue saying "I don't mind helping you". Learn to stand back and say nothing. There is nothing to feel guilty over because you have in fact, been very kind to one person who you know is worth it and who you should be extremely nice to.....and that, is you.
  • That is great that you can see good inspite of it all. As long as you express your other emotions too. I too am a happy person, but I do get mad. If that is truely what you feel inside and your are not sacrificing your true emotions (because you are entitled to them), then I think that is awesome and don't let anyone take that away from you. Stay true to yourself.

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