• Of course! You're the only one who can control your choices! No one else can make you antisocial. But being antisocial is a mental condition that should be managed with your psychiatrist, and I think avoiding people who pressure you might actually be a sensible strategy as long as it doesn't interfere with your daily activities. I wouldn't blame anyone for having a mental condition, unless somehow they brought it on themselves, which is not usually the case. That would be as ridiculous as blaming someone for having a medical illness that they didn't cause. But I think the bigger issue here is letting the opinions of others bother you at all. Who cares what they think. They have a right to their opinions and you have a right to yours. But they can't make you feel pressure if you don't allow them to. Screw them! Just let it roll right off... like water off a duck's back!
    • Linda Joy
      I certainly wouldn't let the opinions of others cause me to miss a fun party or other activity. How dare they even try to make me feel like I don't belong! I would have just as much right to be there as they are, if I was there. Wouldn't go to start anything, but I'm just as valuable as everyone else. So there, bullies!
    • Shadow Of The Mind
      I hear what you’re saying but being anti-social is not a mental condition. It’s a choice as you stated in your answer. I avoid people who try to cause me to be stressed out but I am selective with people who I choose to be around with who know to respect the individual as they are and not as a person they expect others to be if you know what I mean. In other words a control freak who are bullies. Many people in general are intimidating to be around with. I have nothing to do with those people. I consider myself not too cut off from people but it’s for my own protection for my mental health. Only certain people who are the good hearted ones are the people to associate with. Insensitive, cold hearted and uncaring people are better off being alone until they sort themselves out
  • Its only you thats missing out no one else cares.
    • Shadow Of The Mind
      I am not missing out on anything. People in general are corrupt and ignorant so there’s nothing fun about that
    • 11stevo73
      Why are you posting here then? the same reason as the rest of us you have nothing better to do you are missing out on something.
    • Shadow Of The Mind
      I am posting here because I am responding to what you said. I am not missing out on anything when people are miserable in general being helpless and useless towards each other’s mental health. There is no reason for me to socialise with people who cause corruption
    • 11stevo73
      How do you think I know this how many friends you think I have?
    • Shadow Of The Mind
      I have no idea how many friends you have. You say in your previous response I miss out on something but there’s nothing to miss when people are miserable in general
  • You pose an obtuse question. Why would you worry whether anyone blames you for anything if you want to be antisocial?
    • Shadow Of The Mind
      I don’t worry about it. I am just wondering if there’s anyone else on here who is in the same position as me
    • Army Veteran you're taking a poll to see how many others share your social handicap. Mark me down as "I don't". I don't care what others think about me. At my age, I have no interest in drama and I have no use for political correctness - I speak my mind. I get a sense of freedom that Liberal sheep can only pretend they have.
    • Shadow Of The Mind
      Being anti social is not a handicap. I don’t know where you got that information from. It’s a choice and choices are often based on reason. I also like to say what’s on my mind. I’m very open about it. There is nothing dramatic about what I say
  • No man is an island.
  • You can pick and choose what you want to do. Are you enjoying yourself, Mr. Shaw?” “Yes—and that’s the only thing I am enjoying.”- Bernard Shaw.
  • Well...maybe yes. Frankly: I never really understood "peer pressure". I mean: there were times (in my youth) in which classmates tried to get me to do something incredibly stupid and I was tempted - so: yes, I did experience peer pressure...but realizing or believing that it was stupid, I simply refused to do the stupid thing. Peer pressure? Ignore it. Do what you know is right, do what you know is best, do what you believe. So you don't get approval (or - more likely - ridicule) from whatever loser peers tried to get you to do the stupid thing. So what? If gaining the approval of such people is important (and I don't know why it ought to be), then do it in other ways - in upstanding ways, in honest ways, in right ways - in NOT STUPID ways. And if those ways do NOT get their approval, then quit wasting your time trying to get their approval and "hang out" with people who have high-minded ideals similar to your own.
    • Shadow Of The Mind
      Peer pressure is usually when groups of people force their views on anyone who engages with them. It’s people with a weak mind who end up getting brainwashed by some groups. It doesn’t necessarily have to be in a school. It could be a gang of criminals or something or a group of psychological bullies. It’s better to be selective with people who have similarities to a person who can be kind of sociable without mind control

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