• No. It's usually a double elbow tap in the ribs.
  • Yes, and I consider that a very healthy sign of the relationship, both the physical as well as the emotional aspect.
  • Not in so many words. It's always in vague codes, signs and signals. It would be nice if she just said "Please can I have sex tonight?" so I wouldn't have to guess.
    • Karin Herrmann Bartsch
      Just recently I told my husband while hugging him: Your kiss has just landed in a certain area way south. He got the message and acted accordingly. BTW - nice to meet you again, Marky Mark.
  • I am the wife, and yes, I ask/demand/instigate/gesture it too!
  • I am the wife and I asked my husband to be, even though it was our first date to have sex with me, and he obliged
  • What wife?
  • You must be a child , most humans don't need to know other peoples sex habits such as this one ..
    • Murgatroyd
      This is an old question, Pattijo, so the poster must be an adult by now. Lol:)
  • I don't ask my husband because I don't want to come off as being too demanding. Which perhaps is a reason we seldom have sex lately. With each other.
    • Murgatroyd
      How is asking your husband for sex being too demanding? He should be glad if you ask him.
    • officegirl
      Hi. He knows I am pretty much ready all the time and I know he needs to spend a lot of time on his work so is less available or interested, So he feels guilty he is not giving enough while I feel the same for wanting too much. So he has found someone who requires less effort while I see her husband) who enjoys making an evening of it.
    • Murgatroyd
      If that's how you like to live your life, fair enough. Who am I to judge? Just one thing puzzles me: why the heck did you get married in the first place? I don't see the point of marriage if you are going to be unfaithful to each other.
    • officegirl
      Well that sounds extremely limited. Marriage is about much more than I guess what you would think of as "sexual fidelity". For instance sharing, companionship, love, affection, friendship, security, family, responsibility, building something together for the future.. Would also point out from a practical point of view that if we expect our husband /wife to be absolutely everything for us - that we expect too much. I always wanted to be married and having found the "right person" I married him.
  • Of course, on occasion. But we both know that body language is far more seductive than words.
  • All the time.
  • I ask hubby sometimes, and he asks me sometimes., but usually we don't have to use words.
  • Well, it is my gf as we live together but decided that we don't want to be married. However, we are pretty open about sex and we have no problem asking when we want it. That said, we usually try to do something to "set the mood." So, say, if I am laying in bed, she might come into the room naked, crawl into bed and start rubbing my leg or something. (Hey, no one said it had to be subtle.) My gf is kind of old fashioned and believes that a man should get sex when he needs it, so while I try to respect her and read when she might not be in the mood, I do tend to be the one who asks - and sometimes frankly, I just say, "I want sex." Ten years and three kids later - it has worked pretty well for us.

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