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by LuckyLefty on September 20th, 2008
You want unbiased, bad advice? here it is :) don't tell your parents about it. Tell them it's for a field trip (relate it to your choice of career) and print a fake letter with a watermark and everything, telling you where you have to be. Tell them the organizer is sending you a free ticket.
But just in case this guy turns out to be a nutcase, tell one of your friends what's really up. And make sure she keeps her mouth zipped about it, unless of course you don't come back on the decided date.
Also, make sure this ticket is a RETURN ticket. Where ever you are headed, your friend should know the destination and your parents should too know about a major city nearby (assuming it's a small town). If you can think of any other problems with this plan, let me know :P
by advracer on September 20th, 2008
uh, first I would suggest you look into all the horror stories of girls who have disappeared or who have been raped because of exactly what you are thinkin of doing. I would suggest that if he wants to see you that badly, have HIM come to YOU. And have him come to the house so your parents can meet him. I haven't seen the statistic for a long time, but if he says he's 18, he's probably actually like 32. If he says he's 180 pounds, he's probably actually 260. If he says he makes 50k a year, he probably actually works at McDonald's. Be careful.
by Sheriff Raff -Answerhag on September 20th, 2008
Honey, the Internet is full of perverts, pedophiles and weirdos. Anyone that would offer you a plane ticket to visit could be setting you up so that they make you their personal sex slave. If this guy is on the level, he will not push you to come and see him.
http://www.dangersofinternetdating.com/articles/playingitsafe.htm
by Miggim on September 20th, 2008
Ask yourself just why a stranger is willing to buy a plane ticket for another stranger. And a minor at that. What he's proposing is illegal in the U.S.! He needs your parents' permission, not yours. He's supposed to arrange this sort of thing through your parents, not you. But he hasn't done that for the obvious reason. Look at the responses you've gotten already. This is the worst idea you can consider. Stay away from him!
by Starmaster on September 20th, 2008
A decent, honest guy would show up at your parents house with flowers or a cute gift for you and would have a nice "man to man" conversation with your father showing respect and admiration for all of you. What you are describing is someone who is "fishing" for his prey. Sounds bad enough, stay away from him.
by Sunset on September 20th, 2008
I totally agree with the first answer, don't you dare consider it. He only wants you to be his sex slave as the first person wrote. Don't ever fall for someone who woul pay for all expense for you to come and see them. You would only be setting yourself up for danger and hell. Loose contact with this person immediatley!!! No joke, for real, and i hope for your sake that you didn't give out any personal info to track you down. Please be very cautious and use common sense. Please don't take him up on his offer. You will seriously regret you did. Please watch yourself, and don't ever talk to people like that. I hope and pray that you haven't given him your information. Take care and pleeeeease keep away from that danger, you don't want to get mixed up into that stuff.
by needtoknow on September 20th, 2008
Don't do it, don't even ask your parents. Don't talk to this person online again. If you have to ask your parents, then you are a child. Men just love to lure children this way. DO NOT GO. Have you never heard of terrible things hat have happened to girls that followed some jerk to his den, don't.
by Ec-nal Licensed Bootie Inspector on September 20th, 2008
Naa. If the dude's for real tell him to make the trip yo...
by LarryH54 on September 20th, 2008
You DON'T. That's just about the most dangerous thing you can do with the Internet. Even if you lived alone or with a friend, you wouldn't do something like that alone. ALWAYS bring backup. And verify their ID. There are rules for meeting people. Find a copy. Read it. And give this guy a wide berth.
by Hellifino on September 20th, 2009
If you have to talk your parents into it then you shouldn't do it. Not safe at all.
by Foxy Roxy on September 20th, 2009
parents??? How old are you?? Probably not a good Idea hun!!! He could be alot older than you and trying to scam you or something...
by - M.C.S. - Dave on September 20th, 2008
Beware my FRIEND for this can be a trap. Don't fall for it. If he has the money for the ticket. Then tell him to fly there and meet you with your parents.
by TAPriceCTR s son is wearing his COAT on September 20th, 2008
advice... if your parents still have say, you are not ready to meet someone who can afford a plane ticket. but that is just my opinion.
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I do not know enough information to tell you how to convince your parrents to let you go.
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make sure you know what the expectations are, what does he expect from this meeting? what do you expect from this meeting? I am good at seeing through charisma and would be willing to look at your communications if you want more specific help, my email is in my profile.
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TAKE PRECAUTIONS:
have 2 cellphones, one which is preferably yours because it is always good to have... and a second hidden where you will not be separated from it. a bad guy would stop looking after finding the first. fully charged turned off. it does not even need service because cell companies can not refuse a 911 call.
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carry a locking pocket knife, spend a few hours learning to wield it in an attack manner blade extending from side opposite the thumb. good lash targets: eye ridge, throat, underarm near pit, inner thigh near groin. good stab targets: chest (front/back), inner thigh. stabs include immediate pull out, do not try leaving the blade in like in movies, pulling out may not be as dramatic, but it is more effective.
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make sure someone knows all the details, even if you mail a letter to yourself the day you leave so they can open it if you do not return as expected. if your parrents didn't figure it out the police would
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if when you first meet him he lied about the smallest detail (grey hair, moustache, etc.) ABORT. run. any deception will indicate danger.
by Kravenhead on September 20th, 2008
The question is how can I talk you out of it? This isn't like sneaking out to meet a boy from school. Stay home, where you have the opportunity to get input from your friends, regarding who's a good guy or not so cool. A thing like you're considering, is a total shot in the dark, and an unreasonable risk, as apposed to getting to know someone from within your community. Please .. stay home.
by Sweet Pea on September 20th, 2008
I wouldn't do it. I'm sorry - I know I probably sound like everyone else in here, but I've been assaulted too. So I don't trust this whole scenario one bit of a second. Especially if you are under 18. Not that it would be any safer if you were older, but I wouldn't do it.
It's not safe, and I would imagine you don't really know the area well to which you'd be flying.
If you insist upon doing it, I would insist on an itinerary from this person for your family.
But please, I highly recommend you don't, and it has nothing to do with Dateline - it just has to do with meeting up with someone you think you know but you don't, and in an area he knows that you don't. It just doesn't sound like a good situation to be in...
by Lady Justice on September 20th, 2008
Uhhhh no. First of all what is his name do you even know it? What does he do for a living? Does he have a criminal record? Why does he want you to come and meet him? Why doesn't he come to you? Don't give off personal information, really bad he could track you down and kidnap you. Mention it to the authorities, your parents, the police, etc. Maybe they can track this guy down and figure out if he be a rapist or a priest. What you are doing is walking into a trap. This guy maybe nice but there is a strong chance he may be some kind of pedophile. Have you ever watched Dateline? Google it there are tons of stories of sex predators who lure children to their house or have children allow the predator to their house. Not very wise. Don't make a mistake on this. From the lack of personal information from this guy he is trouble.
by DudeLer 2 on September 20th, 2008
take a parent with you.
by ♥AngelHeart♥ on September 20th, 2009
If you are still living at home, I believe you are probably not legal age. I would not take the chance of flying to someone you do not know. I see red flags all over the place on this one. Since this is an old question, you have either met or not met him by now. I do hope you were cautious and know that the others were doing their best to help you.
by randomness - is now a Maestro on September 20th, 2009
Don't do it. One minute you're getting on the plane... the next, you're waking up in a bathtub full of ice with a kidney missing!!!
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But really, lots of teens decide to meet people they have met over the internet, and a lot of them end up assaulted, or dead. Don't do it.
by Misplaced_Diamond on September 20th, 2009
You dont.
by Teacup Chihuahua on September 20th, 2008
If you have to ask your parents, don't even think about it. You're too young. If he really wants to meet you, he'll go to your house and meet you and your parents. Plus, it sounds like you met him semi-recently from the way you typed this up. It doesn't sound serious if your parents don't know this person from you talking about your life. Why waste 600$+ of someone's money who could potentially kidnap you and keep you there?
by Questionbag on September 20th, 2008
tell your folks your staying over at a friends for the weekend, and have that friend cover for you.
then you have a free pass weekend.
everyone here is the overly protecting, better safe than sorry, but they were all kids once too, and snuck out more than once.
not everyone in this world is bad.
by PipHalsey on September 20th, 2008
Honestly, it's not 100% thing that he is a pervert. Dateline, and the media in general has scared a lot of people. Being I met several people online, and had some pretty nice dates. The terms should depend however. How long have you known him? The only way you should actually risk going far enough where you have to take a plane to visit, you should have known him for atleast a few years, seen him on webcam, and chatted with him on life in general to know more about him then he knows about himself. I chatted with a girl for 5 years, before we finally met a few months back, and it was really great. But if you just met him online, then going to meet him would be a huge mistake. Having him come to you would be a lot safer, and easier to slip away from your parents. You'd just have to tell them you were hanging out with a friend, and techically be telling the truth. Then just take basic precautions. Meet in a public place, and take a friend along with you.
by crazynekos on November 26th, 2011
wow u really are a dipshit arent u ,i hope u get raped by this guy u think will be the ''love of ur life'' get ur head on striaght and think of the danger DO U WANT TO BE FOUND FLOATING FACEDOWN IN A RIVER but this question was posted a long time ago so by now u prbly did go see him and now ur his personal sex slave or ur floating in a river somewere just bcuz u couldnt listen and u decided to be a dipshit nice......real nice
by malevolentbutticklis on September 20th, 2008
I would be totally honest with them. Tell them you decided to go and that you aren't asking because you know the answer is “no”. Then leave and stay in a hotel for a couple days. That way you can find out what they will do to stop you so you can make sure the real run is successful.
by His Lordship... has left on September 20th, 2009
Never a good idea to met anyone you talk to online. You have no clue who they really are.
by babyglo on December 22nd, 2010
please don't go..he might be a pedophile..
by Sunset on September 20th, 2008
Sorry the answer that i agreed with was sheriff-raff answerhag
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lol...that might just work if my parents would go for it. They won't even let me go on school field trips that are IN the state if it's more than half hour drive.
by CoriRae on September 20th, 2008
And supposing he's a dangerous nutcase, just what good is it to let her friend know "what's up"?
by Miggim on September 20th, 2008
Miggim: She wants to meet him. Doesn't mean she shouldn't look out for herself as well. Does it? Would you rather have me not tell her that and leave her family COMPLETELY open for that kind of trouble? Besides, I've talked to this girl before and she's mature enough to know what she's doing. I'm not gonna assume she didn't weigh out the consequences, the pros and cons and put her down like everyone else did. Just being honest man, *shrugs* what do you want me to do?
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CoriRae: Then just wait until you're 18, besides, if he can afford YOUR ticket, he can afford HIS ticket. Tell him to come and meet you and take a few friends, sounds safe enough to me :)
by LuckyLefty on September 20th, 2008
How about answering my question?
by Miggim on September 20th, 2008
Because you can't figure it out on your own after my page long essay? OK! IF he does hurt her, or she fails to come back in any case, her parents are bound to get worried. If she doesn't come back, then it's her friends responsibility to tell her parents what REALLY happened. That way, this doesn't end up on CNN with "MISSING GIRL DAY 5" and they can still help her out. Seeeeee? It's 2+2 buddy :)
by LuckyLefty on September 20th, 2008
That doesn't even make sense. And it still doesn't answer my question.
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If he hurts her or worse, the time frame for reaching her is not established by virtue of her friend's knowledge of CoriRae's trip. How can CoriRae be assured that this guy won't kidnap her to some remote location many miles away? And in this scenario, how will her friend's knowledge be of any help? So the authorities are looking around for her. Meanwhile, this stranger is having his way with her. But at least she has this consolidation that her friend knows she went on a plane trip to that city/town.
by Miggim on September 20th, 2008
Exactly, at least she has that consolidation. At least, in the worst case scenario (which you made up) these "authorities" have somewhere to start. Right?! Look, I told her a way to get there. I felt obligated to make her feel safe about it. Can you do that? Can you answer HER question and at the same time try to make sure she does the best she can to protect herself. She says it takes ages to gain her trust, if shes willing to go see someone that far, I'm sure they have her trust. So I'm gonna get off her jock about that... does that make sense to you?! Are you just doing this for an arguments sake, cuz I'm in a good mood and you're killing my fuckin buzz :/
by LuckyLefty on September 20th, 2008
Can I do that? Make her feel safe about it? What have I been trying to get across to her this whole time? --That it's not safe. You haven't given her any piece of information that can assure her safety. Other than consolidation. Which doesn't protect anyone.
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And that worse case scenario (which I made up) does happen. Or do you think girls don't get kidnapped? Do you think this is not how some monsters get their victims? So, the authorities have somewhere to start. Yay! I guess that means they can just run around the entire city and outskirts, entering people's homes, checking out their basements... Wow! Things are looking up! But for God's sake, we don't wanna kill your buzz.
by Miggim on September 20th, 2008
I'm not even gonna read this... you're terrible with your arguments :)
Here, listen to this song, it'll calm you down
http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/982315
by LuckyLefty on September 20th, 2008
Are you on pot?
by Miggim on September 20th, 2008
No, I'm just a happy guy! Why do you hate that? LOL
by LuckyLefty on September 20th, 2008
You're a grown man who actually gave advice to a minor about how to deceive her parents so she can go meet a guy in person she met on the Internet. I'm not terrible with my arguments; you're an idiot.
by Miggim on September 20th, 2008
Fine, whatever helps you shut up.
by LuckyLefty on September 20th, 2008
Oh no. I'm not shutting up where an idiot gave some of the most disturbing advice to a minor. If I ever see you do anything like this again, I'll file a formal complaint with the authorities.
by Miggim on September 20th, 2008
fuck you, go do it right now
by LuckyLefty on September 20th, 2008
i agree with lefty here, sorry people, leave your house, and go out and meet real people. your all too paraniod.
by Questionbag on September 20th, 2008
lucky... you were slaughtering him untill that last sentence.
miggim. have you forgotten being a teen? every person who said "YOU"RE GONNA DIE" and any other plain "don't do it" was filed away under "not what I asked" and "boring old people" making you advice actualy oppositional in effect because she will want to prove the boring old people wrong. lucky actualy gave her advice she would think about and might influence her not to proceede. But even if not, would likely help her decide to take precautions she otherwise wouldn't allowing her to make it if things do go south. so he is doing FAR more to protect her than you
my parrents told me not to mix chemicals. had they helped me it would not be luck that kept me from the deadly mixes.
by TAPriceCTR s son is wearing his COAT on September 20th, 2008
rage is an annoying thing, it builds up :S
thanks for conforming that i'm not a jackass afterall... i just thought I'd be a bit different about my answer, everyone else was just gonna tell her how BADDD it could be. And sorry about the language, you shouldn't have had to read that.....
by LuckyLefty on September 20th, 2008
Good God, then why didn't you just ignore me?
by Miggim on September 20th, 2008
*shakes head* lets just forget about it lol
by LuckyLefty on September 20th, 2008
dealing with stupidity bullheadedness and rhetoric can bring up undesirable emotions. I would recomend she find someone she could discuss the whole situation with who isn't blinded by fear (like most the people here) or blinded by excitment (her, and likely most her friends) you, questionbag and I seem to be the only people here who fit that bill.
by TAPriceCTR s son is wearing his COAT on September 20th, 2008
How old is this girl?? She is going to fly to meet this man??????
by TjoeBaxter is Hot Yo on September 20th, 2008
she's 16. she needs to stop before she gets in over her head, or worse.
by ard munch on September 20th, 2008
Definately!!!!
by TjoeBaxter is Hot Yo on September 20th, 2008
I agree, but she won't so the next best thing is to help her take precautions. sort of like why we give teens condoms. they are too young to be having sex but they will not listen to that.
by TAPriceCTR s son is wearing his COAT on September 20th, 2008
plane tickets are a lot harder to keep from your parents than condoms, however :]
by ard munch on September 20th, 2008
wow nice advice dip shit what if this guy is a perv then wat she goes missing never to be seen again or worse found floating facdown in a river wow u really r an idiot i hope u never become a parent or else ull just add to societies troubles and y the fuck would u post that ....now i really hope she dies just so that it will forever and always be on ur conscience -good day sir!!!!!!!!!!!!
by crazynekos on November 26th, 2011