ANSWERS: 11
  • I don't think so, why are woman always made to be responsible for everyones contacting? I'd sue his ass, but I wouldn't call him myself.
  • No No No! I think if there was any reason to have him contacted it'd be because he owes you money. He has no reason to see your baby. My dad was a dead beat & wasn't around & I am perfectly fine with it. I'd rather he not be.
  • You have the responsibility as a Mother to do everything you can for the benefit of your child. If that means going after the biological father for child support; providing the biological father continuous updates regarding the childs whereabouts; allowing the biological father every opportunity to see and interact with his child; and never bad-mouthing the biological father; that's what you owe to your child. When all is said and done, your child should be provided the opportunity to decide for himself wether or not his biological father should be allowed the title of 'Daddy'. Your son will respect you and love you if you give him the choice, and his biological father just might step up one day and be the 'Daddy' that he should be. It's not something that you owe the biological father... it's something that you owe your son. After all, he didn't choose that man; you did.
  • Hello, that isn't just your son, and has every right to know his father no matter what you think of him, damn right you have the responsibility.
  • I'm repeating myself, but doesn't anyone else find it unfair that the responsibility of contact is always with the mother. I'm quite sure that the father of this child knows how to use a phone or write a letter or email a message. Why are people mad at the mother when she is the one that IS there with the child. This so-called father knows exactly what he was doing when he walked. I'll even bet that he feels lucky he hasn't been nailed for child support. So to the mom, do you have the responsibility? No. Does the father have the responsibility? Yes, and he always did but he DOES NOT WANT THE RESPONSIBILITY!! or he would have called. Period.
  • Hell No! If you already have and he treated you like crap then thats that. If he wanted to be around he would and nothing would have stopped him. First of all think of it this way, Would want your son to have a father thats flaky and not really give a damn and continuously disappoint him growing up? I think that its your right to protect your son. I know you want him in his life but i think that when gets older and if he want to go out and meet him then your son can do it on his terms once he matured. But since hes just an innocent baby growing up with that kind of a father figure in his life would only damage him.
  • You as a mother have the repsonability of taking care of your child. As long as the father knows the child exsists then it is up to him to decide if he wants to see the child or not. Your son was young when daddy walked out so my guess he doesnt even know him. My daughter is five and her dad has been in and out for five years so count your blessings that you dont have to hear the kid in the back seat saying "i miss my daddy" and you have run out of things to say to them. I finally had to cave and call him and we have been fighting for a week about random shit. He did get to see her though, and said the only reason he hasnt called was because we fight, fine but really seriously GROW UP BOYS do it for your kid Do what you need to do for your child.
  • For your sons sake yes, if you make the effort and nothing comes of it you can tell your son in years to come you did your best, the rest is up to the Father, and hey, its his loss surely?
  • Nope. He is aware of the fact that he has a child, and the only contacting you need to be doing, is to social services or child welfare and suing him for support.
  • just pretend your son is grown up, just for one moment-then pretend that you are asking HIM the question. you still got time now,,,you wont when hes grown up
  • Hi im in the same boat! my daughter is four nw and hasnt had contact with her dad for 3 and half years is taht my fault no is it a mothers responsiblitly certainly not if he wants to see your child he would have made a efort by now,i will tell my dayghter who her dad his when shes older and thenit is her choice but for now we are happy just the both of us.

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