How do you get over the death of a loved one?
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ANSWERS: 23
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I know this sounds cliche but time and taking up your own time. Occupy yourself with other activities. Reminice about the good times you shared and remember the person as you would like them to be remembered. In time the pain lessens.
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One can never really get over the death of a loved one. However, they can truely live on within your memory. Let's hope that they are pleasant memories, which leads into the latter part of Coheed's answer.
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Time is said to heal all wounds. This is because eventually the pain and anguish shall fade into the broader memories you have of that person. My father died recently and I gave his eulogy. That was a cathartic release for me, helping to ease into the fond memories and assimilating the sorrow and loss. Each person is different, but if you listen to your feelings, instead of hiding from them or just allowing them overtake you, you will find your own way.
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it's different for everyone and it really depends on how close you were to the person who passed away. there have been people in my life that have died and it really didn't affect me one way or the other. there are others that i will never get over. you basically have to adjust and live with it but don't let it cripple you as hard as it may be. you just have to live...
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instead of dwelling on the fact they are gone get together with other family members who are also getting over the deceased and start sharing merorable funny times you have each shared with the deceased or things that they did that cracked you up or times that when it happened it was serious but years later it was looked upon and laughed about talk about some of your most favorite times that each of you have shared with them if alone then just remeber those times I have helped a couple of my friends through some of there darkest hours of losing a loved one all I know is that they have thanked me for helping that my suggestion has made it a little easier for them to cope with it
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Time helps but in my experience never truly.
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Grieving and its stresses pass more quickly, with good self-care habits. It helps to have a close family or friends. It also helps to eat a balanced diet, drink enough non-alcoholic drinks, get exercise and rest. Most people are unprepared for grief, since so often, tragedy strikes suddenly, without warning. If good self-care habits are always practiced, it helps the person to deal with the pain and shock of loss until acceptance is reached.
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In short: you mourn... It's important to allow yourself to experience whatever comes up, without expectations or judgment. Typically you may go through waves of sadness, anger, numbness, or guilt... There's no "right way" to feel, just allow whatever is happening to happen... remain aware, in other words, as much as possible. The process of healing is natural and takes time.
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Hi I lost my Dad in Jan 07...it was the saddest day of my life. He was diagnosed with a brain tumour on the 5th Jan and died on the 30th. I still get upset at the silliest things.... but I know my Dad would want me to carry on in life and live it to the fullest. I think I know how you must be feeling but please rest assured that it does get easier and in time I think we'll both think of our Dad's and smile instead of shedding tears. Take care.....
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always remember grief is your friend, grief helps you remember and helps you heal.
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Please email me if you ever get the answer to this!
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I dont think you ever really get over it but you learn to cope with the loss.
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Time is the greatest healer. Allow yourself to grieve, it is a natural process. After a while time will soften the hurt. One day you will be able to smile at the memories..so be sure you make and store away some very good ones.
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I agree with justme's answer you never really get completely over it but hopefully as more time passes the grief and pain lessens and you move on with your life grief counseling also works wonders if you are having a hard time getting over their loss especially if it has been awhile since they passed and you feel like you are never gonna get over it I lost the love and light of my life 2 and a half years ago to rape/murder and have struggled with the pain and grief for all this time I think what makes it harder for me is I blame myself for her death because I was too selfish to go out in the rain without an umbrella and get myself wet to meet her at the train and walk her home the night it happened I keep telling myself over and over that it's my fault if I only had not been so selfish she would be alive and with me right now I have been going through grief counseling for a couple of months now and it has been a big help with helping me to lear to move on and get past this I highly recommend it to anyone having trouble getting over the loss of a loved one
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I lost my soulmate, Scott, 17 months ago. Everyone is right you never get over it, it becomes part of who you are and I believe has changed me forever. If it wern't for an absolute belief that he is waiting for me in a better place, I couldn't have survived his loss. In other words with out God I couldn't have made it. When I feel totally lost I try to picture the reunion we will have someday. I also have tried to change the way I look at the world and that all of those things that once seemed so important mean nothing. It is Love and kindness that matter, he taught me that!
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You dont. Not if you truely loved them my uncle has been dead for almost two years and i still cry and still the same way i did when i saws him in his cascet. When it finaly hit me like a bag of bricks that he was gone and he isnt coming back. Trueth is if you realey love them it wont stop hurting and you can only cover the pain up like a bad habit. Sorry for being so blunt. CANCER KILLS GET ANUALLE SCREENINGS!!!!
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Hello I lost my grandmother to lung cancer, and the hardest part is the fact that she never smoked. I love and miss her so much. It hasn't been a month and its been hard for me to sleep at night. Everytime I dream I dream of her, it isn't pleasent dreams its more like nightmares. I just don't know what the dreams are trying to tell me. I just know its so much that I want to say and so many hugs and kisses I want to give her. I just can't stop crying everything reminds me of her. I'm scared to talk to anyone because I don't want them thinking i'm crazy, I just feel lost, I can't get over the fact that if I have a dumb question I can call her and she won't judge me or if I feel alone or scared I can call her at anytime of the night and she'll pick up the phone... How can I ever find that?!?
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I'd think, embrace the emotions. And don't hurry. Also think about it that no one You loved would want You to be feeling bad about it for long and the person surely wants You to accept it, just remember Him/Her and live on being happy.
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You don't it just becomes more bearable in time for most.
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As I get over the death of the Liberal World's beloved democracy leader Ronald Reagan!
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You don't get over it. You learn to live without their physical presence.
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no correct answer to this one every body has to deal with it in thier own way all you can do is support them dont judge the way they deal with it and listen when they want to talk and give them space when they want it
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I Really do not no ,i no at certain times it floods back to you and you realize how much you did love that person ,and i no people say you will get over it ,but it is not easy ,i just try and remember that special persons my parents who are both passed on the joy and the love they gave all our family ,they were married 58 years and were special people and you do not get over it you just can not for get them.
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