First, I want you to know what you sometimes know, but may have forgotten - that you will not always feel so bad. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. You will have good days again.
Second, you are not a rotten person. Nor are you defined by this depression. It is not you; it is simply something that you are working through.
Third, please see a doctor and be evaluated for all the possible causes of depression. The treatment may be very simple and effective.
Fourth, please make sure you are getting good nutrition, adequate rest, and exercise even when you don't feel like it. Let the light in from outside your house and go outside.
Fifth, talk to someone about this who will not condemn you or give you easy answers: a counselor, a pastor, and wise friend, a support group, or all of the above.
I don't know if you believe in prayer or not, but I do and I am sure you believe in love and suport. So, I am going to stop everything right now and give you my love and support by praying for you.
All the best. Please keep us informed of your progress.
I will also pray for you tonight.. I've been down the whole depression road & can say i understand. I've done some pretty awful things to myself also wen i was depressed so i encourage u 2 keep ur head up & try 2 keep in mind that ur trials will pass & that God won't give u anything u cant handle! Things may seem 2 be bad but they will get better! And remember: prayer changes things!
Read this;
Life is a gift but dont take it too seriously!
Life is not about how fast you run, or how high you climb, but how well you bounce.
Do not regret growing older...
It is a privilege denied to many!
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.
Remember: "Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways - Chardonnay in one hand - strawberries in the other - body thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and screaming WOO HOO! ! What a Ride!"
Good friends are like stars....
You don't always see them but you always know they are there .
Music makes me happy, so do quotes. Here comes Anne Frank:
"Everyone has inside of him a piece of good news. The good news is that you don't know how great you can be! How much you can love! What you can accomplish! And what your potential is!"
"I don't think of all the misery but of the beauty that still remains."
"I keep my ideals, because in spite of everything I still believe that people are really good at heart."
"Think of all the beauty still left around you and be happy."
"Whoever is happy will make others happy too."
She is one of my inspirations. :)
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In my experience the defining characteristic of Depression is the complete loss of hope. You feel hopeless, that the future is hopeless and that nothing will ever get discernably better. This loss of hope makes you despondent, angry, irritable, bitter and tired. Here are a couple of points that helped me out tremendously when I was in it and I hope they do you as well.
1. When we are in a bad depression, we become completely focused on ourselves. Forgive me the cliche but we really do wallow in our own depair. I found that when I forced myself to think about others I automatically felt somewhat better because the focus was no longer completely on myself. Read up on stories about people more more tragic than yourself (morbid, but it works). Try to do something (anything) for someone else - the tiniest accomplishment such as a smile or compliment for someone else will lift your spirits I guarantee it.
2. Force yourself to think positively at all times, even when it's a lie. Become conscious of what you're thinking all the time and force yourself to change the thoughts. For Example: I hate my life and I have nothing to look forward to. Change that thought to: I love my life and I'm so happy to be alive. Again, even if it's a blatant lie, you can trick your brain into changing the thought processes. Hope I helped!
I get depressed alot to Im sorry to hear that you are. Something I try and do is think of people that have it worse than me. People I have come in contact with or know personaly. It helps me not to sit and have a pitty party for myself. Also I have this saying all over in my house "This to will pass" It makes me realize that I can't dwell on one thing all the time because something else is coming around the courner weather good or bad i need to get ready.
Take care heres a funny quote "If you think no one care miss a few payments" I hope that made you smile just a little
When I've been up to my eyes in a bad situation that has extreme problems, anxiety, failures, dead-lines to meet, that all conspire to crush me helpless, and there seems to be no way out; Then I remember my mantra: "This TOO Will Pass.This TOO will pass". And I hang in there with a better spirit and the certainty that it WILL pass. God Bless.
Visualization helps me a lot. When it gets murky in the winter, I intellectualize that sun is just as hot as always and if I could be picked up like a puppet on a string and go up until I rose above the cloud mass, I would see that. If you think of your blue funk as a temporary cloud mass or a season, above which the sun is constant, perhaps that can buy you a few days.
firstly i totaly understand where you are coming from because i have been there myself and i know its hard. i would say just stick with it and you will come out the other side smiling.
when i was depressed i thought nothing could help me and i felt like everday i had this big black cloud hanging over me i really couldnt see anything positive in my life at all. but with the help of a doctor (who understands you) you can get through it and get back to your normal self.
hope this helps :0)
I've been there and fallen to the depths and thought I'd never come out. That was 7 years ago. I know how hard and overwhelming depression can be, but you can come out of. Without knowing exactly what is causing the depression it's hard to really address it. What I do have to say is you are a person of worth and value and "this to shall pass". Take a step back and distance yourself from the darkness. I applaud you for putting yourself out there and asking for a boost out of the fog. Each day is a chance to start over. You are loved.
The brain can't feel pain, but the mind can, when it's overburdened. If, say, you have more to do than you have the strength for, depression may be a way of forcing you to rest. Giving up a task might be all it takes. Otherwise, depression tends to be a downward spiral which is often caused by a series of bad decisions--decisions not to take action when action is called for. The action may not be what you think. You may think "I've got so much homework, I can't do anything else BUT homework"--but if you're sick of all of it, you'll get depressed rather than do any of it. So do something else till you can face it.
This won't help a lot of people, but it may help some. Hope you're one of them.
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