Help answer this question below.
First, I want you to know what you sometimes know, but may have forgotten - that you will not always feel so bad. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. You will have good days again.
Second, you are not a rotten person. Nor are you defined by this depression. It is not you; it is simply something that you are working through.
Third, please see a doctor and be evaluated for all the possible causes of depression. The treatment may be very simple and effective.
Fourth, please make sure you are getting good nutrition, adequate rest, and exercise even when you don't feel like it. Let the light in from outside your house and go outside.
Fifth, talk to someone about this who will not condemn you or give you easy answers: a counselor, a pastor, and wise friend, a support group, or all of the above.
I don't know if you believe in prayer or not, but I do and I am sure you believe in love and suport. So, I am going to stop everything right now and give you my love and support by praying for you.
All the best. Please keep us informed of your progress.
Music makes me happy, so do quotes. Here comes Anne Frank:
"Everyone has inside of him a piece of good news. The good news is that you don't know how great you can be! How much you can love! What you can accomplish! And what your potential is!"
"I don't think of all the misery but of the beauty that still remains."
"I keep my ideals, because in spite of everything I still believe that people are really good at heart."
"Think of all the beauty still left around you and be happy."
"Whoever is happy will make others happy too."
She is one of my inspirations. :)
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See, your smiling now. Heheheh. =P
Read this;
Life is a gift but dont take it too seriously!
Life is not about how fast you run, or how high you climb, but how well you bounce.
Do not regret growing older...
It is a privilege denied to many!
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.
Remember: "Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways - Chardonnay in one hand - strawberries in the other - body thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and screaming WOO HOO! ! What a Ride!"
Good friends are like stars....
You don't always see them but you always know they are there .
I get depressed alot to Im sorry to hear that you are. Something I try and do is think of people that have it worse than me. People I have come in contact with or know personaly. It helps me not to sit and have a pitty party for myself. Also I have this saying all over in my house "This to will pass" It makes me realize that I can't dwell on one thing all the time because something else is coming around the courner weather good or bad i need to get ready.
Take care heres a funny quote "If you think no one care miss a few payments" I hope that made you smile just a little
In my experience the defining characteristic of Depression is the complete loss of hope. You feel hopeless, that the future is hopeless and that nothing will ever get discernably better. This loss of hope makes you despondent, angry, irritable, bitter and tired. Here are a couple of points that helped me out tremendously when I was in it and I hope they do you as well.
1. When we are in a bad depression, we become completely focused on ourselves. Forgive me the cliche but we really do wallow in our own depair. I found that when I forced myself to think about others I automatically felt somewhat better because the focus was no longer completely on myself. Read up on stories about people more more tragic than yourself (morbid, but it works). Try to do something (anything) for someone else - the tiniest accomplishment such as a smile or compliment for someone else will lift your spirits I guarantee it.
2. Force yourself to think positively at all times, even when it's a lie. Become conscious of what you're thinking all the time and force yourself to change the thoughts. For Example: I hate my life and I have nothing to look forward to. Change that thought to: I love my life and I'm so happy to be alive. Again, even if it's a blatant lie, you can trick your brain into changing the thought processes. Hope I helped!
I've been there and fallen to the depths and thought I'd never come out. That was 7 years ago. I know how hard and overwhelming depression can be, but you can come out of. Without knowing exactly what is causing the depression it's hard to really address it. What I do have to say is you are a person of worth and value and "this to shall pass". Take a step back and distance yourself from the darkness. I applaud you for putting yourself out there and asking for a boost out of the fog. Each day is a chance to start over. You are loved.
God loves you and so do I.
firstly i totaly understand where you are coming from because i have been there myself and i know its hard. i would say just stick with it and you will come out the other side smiling.
when i was depressed i thought nothing could help me and i felt like everday i had this big black cloud hanging over me i really couldnt see anything positive in my life at all. but with the help of a doctor (who understands you) you can get through it and get back to your normal self.
hope this helps :0)
The brain can't feel pain, but the mind can, when it's overburdened. If, say, you have more to do than you have the strength for, depression may be a way of forcing you to rest. Giving up a task might be all it takes. Otherwise, depression tends to be a downward spiral which is often caused by a series of bad decisions--decisions not to take action when action is called for. The action may not be what you think. You may think "I've got so much homework, I can't do anything else BUT homework"--but if you're sick of all of it, you'll get depressed rather than do any of it. So do something else till you can face it.
This won't help a lot of people, but it may help some. Hope you're one of them.
Could it have anything to do with your username?
Visualization helps me a lot. When it gets murky in the winter, I intellectualize that sun is just as hot as always and if I could be picked up like a puppet on a string and go up until I rose above the cloud mass, I would see that. If you think of your blue funk as a temporary cloud mass or a season, above which the sun is constant, perhaps that can buy you a few days.
You could have a terminal illness, you could be jail, you could be starving in Africa.
Be happy. Don't worry time heals all wounds.
everyone fells bad a day or another, just do something you like and it'll be alright in no time!
You are a very nice guy who is very nice to talk to, and I sincerely hope you feel better soon!
Try to see the rediculous in everything.-Laugh!
Sing a song! You will VERY soon be happy again.
Call a freind, to help get your mind off of yourself.
Help someone else, and your problems will be gone.
Eat healthy and remove toxic causes of depression!
Smile! Why? Because I love you! (Everyone!)
Cry and let it all out.. then do all the above!
I'm seriously depressed too. Misery loves company.
You are not alone. Doesn't that make you feel better.
Hmmm...you've gotten lots of positive words of encouragement. How about something to make you smile?
(You need sound)
http://www.funlol.com/funpages/laughingcat.html
I just went through a very hard time, with the death of my Dad being the biggest blow. All I can say is talk to your friends. Let them be there for you. Grab hold of the positives in your life as your life ring. My positive was and is my daughter.
I think that feelings of any kind are like water, they ebb and flow. So, just like good feelings don't last forever, bad feelings also do not last. Things don't stay at a peak, so they also cannot stay at the bottom of the barrel. So, keep working on it and I'm sure you will see your way to better times.
ofcourse ive been depressed at a young age and i came to my mom she told me that everythings going to be ok and things could be worse i would just pretend that shes there giving me the words or call her up and talk to her im sure she'll have something
Don't Jump! Everyone gets depressed from time to time. I would recommend:
-doing a fun activity with a group of people
-putting down your sad, mournful music and pumping something more lively, upbeat, fun.
-take note of the thoughts you're thinking, meditate on good things
-tell yourself a joke, and laugh at it even if it isn't funny
-kick your dog...that always helps me (just kidding!)
-talk it out with someone
Go to Colombia or Ethiopia somewhere the nation GDP is low and see for yourself people who would give anything for a job or an education which isn't available to them. See people begging you for money because they are starving to death. Maybe then you will appreciate what you have.
If that doesn't work shoot yourself in the head and make room for someone who really wants to take advatange of his life.
I've got something that seems unpositive but you really have to think about it to realize that the life you have could be a whole lot worse.
*All suicide methods suck.*
The methods which are guaranteed to work (such as tall buildings) give you plenty of time to reconsider without giving you a chance to back out.
The methods which aren't guaranteed to work (such as guns, pills, suffocation, strangulation), all fail in ways which are likely to leave you in a horrible state of being which will make you even more miserable than you already are, and you will likely have no means to change it anymore.
These are the thoughts which run through my head any time not being alive starts to seem attractive. Being alive in a horrible condition or suddenly reconsidering halfway down are two good reasons to throw aside suicide and look for something else to do.
Smile: I know it sounds trite, but its true, smiling releases endorphins that make you feel better. I know from experience that when you're that far down smiling hurts, but if you persist for a few hours, it does help.
Music: Find music that suits your mood and listen to it, or better yet, sing it (if doing so doesn't make it worse, it should help).
Hug: Go find someone you trust not to laugh at you and ask them to hug you often, or to just hold you. People can DIE from lack of touch, esp. lack of loving touch. It is a real physical and emotional need. People from the US tend to be touch-deprived because of certain cultural taboos. I know asking for a hug is hard, but its very worth it.
Count your blessings: Okay, this sounds trite too, but yes, it works. What you think about affects your state of mind. Counting up accomplishments, no matter how minor, is my version of doing this, because I often feel like I've worked all day and gotten nothing done. Other people often make this worse without meaning to.
Don't give up: Remember always that there is someone, probably someone who would surprise you, who would be devastated if you weren't in the world tomorrow. If you're at rock bottom, at least you have an idea of which way is up.
Congratulations on reaching out for help. Just realizing that there are other people you can connect with is a big plus.
Depression can be caused by a lot of different things... physical (like post-heart attack), genetic (like a tendency to get miserable in the winter), psychological (like unfinished grief). Getting good treatment is the best way to get back to living your life. A good clinician will match the treatment to the cause. If you don't know who to go to, or can't afford to, check out this website run by the National Association of Social Workers: www.helpstartshere.org
I wish you energy, pleasure and a return to the flow of your life.
I understand how you feel. Even I was depressed for over a year. I then started the spiritual practice of chanting the name of God (according to religion of birth). Within 3 to 4 weeks I was completely healed. It worked for me, pls visit http://www.spiritualresearchfoundation.org/spiritualresearch/mentalhealth/
I do suffer with depression and as you know its not just a feeling of being DOWN, but it does come in waves, it does come and go, is you depression caused by low seratonin or because of some past or present problem ?, i don't want any details, but if you haven't been to the docs yet, you need to so that he can find out the cause, or at least eliminate clinical depression or treat it, the first tme i have depression i was in such a state i had panic attacks , because i was in some kind of shock because of the strange symtoms, but after a while my body and mind adjust to the stress and some how I learn to cope and just learn to live with depression, i find i am always worse when i'm overly tired, so get plenty of rest, eat properly and pray a lot if you are that way inclined, hope this has helped you but remember you are not alone.
what is making you feel depressed?
Why can't I be happy?
by juanwa on January 28th, 2010
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Is there any possible way that coffee can cure depression? Because my parents seem to think so, and they're forcing me to drink coffee. Also, what can I put in it besides milk and sugar to make it not gross? I HATE coffee. I it really an "aquired taste"?
by juanwa on December 7th, 2009
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How do I stop feeling depressed?
by Karina on January 8th, 2010
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I can teach someone to do something and help them solve their problems..and usually they are able to break through.. but i can't solve my own problems.. Is it possible?? Why?
by Shirou on December 6th, 2009
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How can one seek help for depression without health insurance or a job?
by Khaosbreaker on January 19th, 2010
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Comments
Good answer. Especially liked "talk to someone who will not condemn you or give you easy answers..."
by Stableboy on December 15th, 2006
This is a great answer. These are the things that I try to do to combat my depression.
by AntigoneRising on December 15th, 2006
Great answers, everyone has been fantastic help. Some days are worse then others but the day I read these was definitely a good one
by Mediocritycomplex on December 15th, 2006
I just hope that tomorrow is an even better day.
by tomsims on December 15th, 2006
I will also pray for you tonight.. I've been down the whole depression road & can say i understand. I've done some pretty awful things to myself also wen i was depressed so i encourage u 2 keep ur head up & try 2 keep in mind that ur trials will pass & that God won't give u anything u cant handle! Things may seem 2 be bad but they will get better! And remember: prayer changes things!
by Forgiven on December 18th, 2006
Quite possibly one of the best and most honest sounding answers I have seen in Answerbag. Kudos. (the answer is of help to me too.)
by NoWayJose on December 21st, 2006