Is it unmanly to cry? Should it stop at a certain age?
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Positively Negative
ANSWERS: 27
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It's not unmanly, and don't let anyone tell you different. Crying is an outlet of emotion, and indeed a good outlet. Too many men suppress it, and its bad for you. So cry, at least you are a real man who can show your real feelings
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I am a grown man and I still cry, sometimes at movies, sometimes from a song. crying has nothing to do with manhood, it is an outlet of your emotions. In fact you would be a clodheart SOB if ya didn't cry.
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Haven't you ever heard "It takes a REAL man to cry"? Being able to express your emotions is important and that should never stop at any age.
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I think it is good for men to cry, rather than hold it all in. I personally would go somewhere private to cry if I felt the people around would look down on me (and there are such people, even if you are female) but I would definitely let it all out. It is a very cleansing thing.
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I have only seen my husband break down and cry once. It was scary but if he needed to let the tears flow, so be it. I cry like a maniac sometimes and have a "free pass" to do so because I am a woman. There are some men that are just very emotional and cry every time the wind blows. It's their business but no doubt those around them might think something is seriously wrong with them. Hairdresser Jonathan Antin having a good cry
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A neccessary outlet. Don't ever hide and or restrain that emotion. Real men cry. Real people cry. Normal and healthy.
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You would have to define "manly" as we all seem to have our own individual definitions of that. Personally, I do not think it is unmanly. I think it is emotionally unhealthy to bottle everything up and be unable to express it. "Should it stop at a certain age?" - I'm not sure what exactly this means. Height growth, for example, stops at a certain age. Teething stops at a certain age. Crying is the expression of emotion. I am unaware of any developmental stage when expressing emotion stops (except perhaps death).
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No, it is not "unmanly"! The older U get, the more U will realize this. I used to cry a little, (at sad movies, mostly), but now I cry like a baby at sad or happy movies, sad or happy t.v. shows, or sad or happy songs. The key to it all is LOVE. If U have ever loved and lost, then U understand and r affected by movies like this, (or songs, etc.). Once you've witnessed the birth of 1 of your children, U will cry with joy at the thought. And if you've lost a loved 1 or a close friend, U will cry like a baby when U see a similar situation. Don't ever let any 1 tell U that U r not a man if U cry. The people that poke fun the most, r usually the first ones to leave the room when a sad movie comes on.
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No, it shows a woman you are sensitive and can be a turn on.
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DON'T LET ANYONE TELL YOU THAT! that is ridiculous, you're a human being for chrissakes. if another man makes fun of you because you cry, odds are he has serious personal issues, and he probably cries a lot when he's by himself, he's just too insecure to admit this.
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crying is perfectly fine !!!! i have been with my fiance for 4 years and i have never seen him cry i am begining to thin he has no soul he didnt even cry during the notebook !!! heartless ...so the moral of the story is that some where out there ...there is a girl looking for a man who cries
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No I love a man that cares enough to show emotion.
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God no! A man who cries is sexy. I could never love a man who never cries. Everything in moderation, though, please!
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Be yourself and cry when you need to. I'm 38 and I cry. Sometimes I choose the situation. Crying alone is allright. sometimes crying with someone is better. Being an adult cry baby is one thing. being intune with your feelings is another. Those "Tough guys" That claim they never cry. Cry.
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No its not unmanly to cry! Being able to express emotions is a very healthy thing and should never stop. Not to mention that I think angst guys are really cute, I just wanna hold 'em!
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Unmanly to cry...hell no....it would be totally unhuman to not cry...gee guys...keep them tears flowin till your in ya coffins...men who dont cry have it all stored somewhere inside...and how, I wonder, does it then present itself to the world or their families?????????????????????????
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absolutely not. it not only shows that they are not afraid to show their feminine side. but, it also shows that they are not afraid to show their emotions. and i think that's important.
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I agree with the others, no it is not unmanly at all. There has always been a stigma attached because boys were told "A real man doesnt cry." As the years passed, many men still feel it to be a weakness, when actually it a strength and human emotion. Crying is very therapeutic for all human beings, and a great release.
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No, I don't think its unmanly but I do think its the double standard that society is placing on men these days is unfair. We want them to be sensitive but not too sensitive and "gosh darn it why can't I find a manly man, but you know, one who is sensitive and can cry but doesn't cry too much cause that wouldn't be macho, just a football playing, poetry reading, cooking, cleaning, woodchopping, infant-raising, barfighting guy. That's not too much to ask, is it?" Mixed signals everywhere.
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I hate crying, but I do it and see nothing wrong with it. Its much worse to keep in all bottled up, then you are likely to do something much worse!
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Depends on the situation. When Jimmy Carter did it after he was defeated for the Presidency, it just showed that we voted against the right wimp. When Bill Clinton teared up, it just showed he was a good actor. At other times, not doing so just shows you can hold it in if you want to, but getting choked up shows you have heart. So as not to be parochial, many of the greatest heroes of history and literature cried at the proper time. Jesus wept. Aeneas sobbed. The heroes at Troy, of Greece and Rome and Elizabethan England all knew how to do it.
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If you're crying because the shoes you want aren't on sale, that's unmanly. If you're crying because your son just made you very proud, I can't think of anything manlier.
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Sometimes society considers it unmanly to cry, but crying can be healthy. It keeps the heart and soul flexible and prevents it from hardening up which results in a lack of feelings. If I had a son, I would encourage him to cry when he felt like it, but also to be aware of the social stigma and what it can mean for him, let's say if he's 17 yrs old and gets hit in the head with a soccer ball during a game.
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I do not think it's unmanly, but I admit I have a little trouble with it personally. If feel it's going to happened I pinch myself pretty hard until the moment has passed. Don't have a logical reason, so rate me down if you think you should,
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BOYS DON'T CRY. Men do.
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no, it's not unmanly, i cry really often, at school, when i watch a movie,and even when i'm losing someone...
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I don't believe it's "unmanly". One doesn't need a womb to shed tears. I remember reaching an age (in my teens) when I couldn't cry as easily as I did when I was a child. My son, not knowing about my experience, told me that he experienced the same thing. He's 14. That shared, we're both disgustingly unapologetic when we DO cry.
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