That is the very test by which to judge your success! If you still have your ex running around in your head, then you aren't busy ENOUGH. Find more things to do. This is an excellent time to get things done. Your productivity level should see a sharp increase. It is worth mentioning that when you are NEWLY separated, it is very important to feel through the emotions instead of shoving them down into your guts. Otherwise, you get things like panic attacks, irritable bowels, and other negative things. Your body doesn't know the difference between what is physical and what is emotional, so bad things happen!

get a new girl :)

I don't know. I am off work for at least a few more weeks, so my days consist of sleeping as much as I can (which isn't much) and then just trying to survive until I can go back to sleep. Kinda makes me wish I liked booze, then I could waste away my days until I passed out then start again as soon as I wake up and repeat the process until I couldn/t remember why I started in the first place. But, that is not an option for me, so I turn on the tv, turn on the computer and spend as much of my time as I can bouncing back and forth between AB, myspace, facebook and anything else that will help me hide from my thoughts and feelings until I am so tired that I have no choice but to go to bed.

You don't. With time he'll start to fade a bit. You can surround yourself with as many friends and family members as you want, but until you're honestly 100% ready to let go, they'll remain in your head. Time heals everything but it can be a very long and slow process. You can be as busy as you want, but you'll still find the person running through your head. Be honest with yourself--do you really want to get them off your mind or are you entertaining the fact that they're still floating around up there?

Time does heal all wounds but it takes lots of it. I have been there, done that. I met my first Love when I was only 15 at church and the first year was awesome. Like "The Note Book". We were so young, he was 17. We learned alot from each other but bye the time I was 17 I was heart broken over him. He went off to college and apparantly our parents thought we were too serious and made us stay broken up after a fight we had (the kind where you say I want to break up out of anger and dont really mean it!) I have never regretted something more in my whole life! So... he started seeing other girls while I was miserably wanting him back. After about a year I finally met someone and was still getting calls from my ex, but not very often. I had to make myself let go and move on. Now, 20 years later, I still think about him occasionally. Espicially if I see him. We live in the same community. He is married and has his own family now and I am married and have my own family now. For some reason I dont think he will ever be out of my head. Obviously I do entertain the fact that he still dances around in my head. We have some realy good memories and its hard to LET GO!! We are both Christians and have alot of the same friends/contacts. Still to this day when I hear his name my heart takes a tripple beat. I get all nervous when I see him. I guess its true, you never forget or get over your first True Love. I know I never will. Just pray for Gods guidance and strength to move on. If its meant for you two to be together I believe it will happen.

The ABr who said "Time heals all wounds" was right. You can't ask how much though. You're still mourning the loss and it helps to do it. If there are still alot of unanswered questions then right a phantom letter and if you get the nerve........mail it to him. If people were more honest of letting a partner know why they broke up then it could help in the breakup process but most people don't want to hurt them anymore then they have to............good luck to you.

Think about who could be next ;)

You dont

When you catch yourself obsessing, tell yourself to stop. Do not allow yourself to indulge. Even if you have to stop yourself 100x an hr, eventually you'll kick it. Know that some part of you is liking the obsession, the idea of the problem, even asking the question on AB. Take that part away and correct the thinking & you'll be successful.

I am going through that now. When you see that your mind is worring about your ex just try to think of something else or go find something to do. This way the thoughts would go away to a point that when you do think about your ex you would be over it.