From where I'm sitting, it's good that you don't feel that intensity. Guys go through stages where they feel like they have to prove themselves. They have to prove they're tough, they have to prove that they belong because they're tough. This leads to all kinds of dumb behaviors just because guys want to "prove themselves." I'm guessing that what you perceive as a lack of intensity is not being interested in proving yourself that way. You probably have things that make you feel intense but fighting isn't one of them. If you don't want to fight, don't. I'm not saying you won't catch some flak for it because you might. But I have a feeling taking - or maybe even giving - a punch to the face is something you can do without. You have guts for asking this question because you're daring to think different things than the group. The bad part is that that doesn't make you popular with the group. The good part is that you don't do things you don't want like fighting. To be blunt with you, I didn't have the guts to do that when I was growing up and I was a pretty miserable kid because of it. You're doing things better than I did. It makes me feel good to see that you are.

You have not lived till you have been in a knock down roll around on the ground fist fight to a knockout. It is more fun than sex

i thought i was the only one who doesn't get mad for the things most people do. coming from a girl, fighting may be attractive or fun for some people,but to a lot of girls it's just stupid unless its for a real reason. i suggest you not worry about it. if it ever comes time to really fight-you'll know-that's when you'll feel the intensity.

The greater the need to fight, the more primitive the mind of the person. It's basically the animalistic, caveman mindset, the need to show they are the "better mate" or the alpha dog of the pack. Also, some people aren't good at anything else or successful in life, so the only way they have to show off or feel good about themselves is by confrontation.