I know a man from work and he said when he was 20 him and his NOW WIFE had a baby. They waited a little while to get married because they were so young. They didnt want to rush anything. Now that they are 26, i think, they've been married for a few years.

Several people I know have done this in order to save for the wedding that they wanted to have. Nothing wrong with that.

No, I would not. But before Answerbag shuts down due to the massive onslaught of DR's, hear me out: I had a very bad experience with my first marriage. We moved our wedding up quite a bit (a couple years) because she got pregnant, so we had intended to get married anyway. However, as things turned out, had she NOT gotten pregnant, there was a strong likelihood that I would have found out more about her in those many months that would have lead to us NOT getting married. I am an absolute firm believer in fathers owning up to their responsibilities. Even if I did not marry the woman, I would absolutely own up to the financial responsibilities as well as everything else I could possibly do as a loving parent. I would also continue the relationship with the woman, if that's what she wanted. But the marriage would have to wait until both she and I were certain of the reasons WHY we got married. The reason MUST be because we truely love each other and NOT for any other reason. This would introduce too many doubts and problems in the future. My wife and I resolved this issue early on in our dating relationship. I told her my background. I told her that if we chose to have a sexual relationship that I would not marry her just because she got pregnant. I told her why and I told her my beliefs about not being a dead-beat father. I saw no sense in going through an emotional horror of a divorce again, and dragging children through it as well, when we could either stay apart (not married) and raise the child without the animosity or work things out until we were sure about why we were getting married. As it turns out, my wife had a simple solution to this: she didn't believe in sex outside of marriage so this would never come up! And I'd have to say it worked out pretty darned well. We've been married over 12 years now and have three wonderful children to our credit.