first question u might ask is why do u have so many relationships in 2 years at that age...that's like 1 boyfriend/gf every 2-3 months...do u move fast or what

Ok sorry if this sounds cruel, but how on earth have you had 9 relationships by age 14? Maybe you just need to kind of take a break, spend some time alone or with your friends instead of a constant string of relationships. I think you may be a little bit too young to be getting that serious about relationships in the first place, and having some time alone will give you a chance to gain perspective and heal yourself before trying again.

IMO you are trying to grow up to fast. Take a break. Enjoy the reminder of your childhood. Being grown up and in grown up relationships is not all it is cracked up to be. And believe me one day you will turn around and you will be in your 30's thinking to yourself "where did all that time go?"

At 14, what do you know about a relationship? Define what you call a relationship. What you may be experiencing is encounters and in these encounters, you are giving permission on how you are to be treated.

Your only 14 you are too young to have a serious relationship, try friendships until your about 20. The other half of the question is to ask yourself the question, what do I look for in the other person? Do you look for macho? Or someone to make you feel good or attractive? or someone to give you attention? etc. It's best to find someone who gives you nothing but companionship. Then you will have no expectations of them and no requirements. They will not be able to let you down.

You are way too young to be having any type of relationship much less an abusive one. I know this sounds unrealistic but please stop worrying so much about boys and just enjoy being being a kid. If you keep on like this you will wind up like me ....Pregnant at 16 please just enjoy being a kid,enjoy your friends,family,and school. Before you know it you will be an adult. You dont need a bf,you dont need one to make you look cool or fit in with everyone else.

You need to forget about guys for a while. I know that sounds hard, but think about how important it is for you to be strong and independant! Maybe it would be a good idea for you to talk to a counselor, and make it a goal for yourself to just take care of you for a while- and keep away from men who control your feelings. Take advice from someone who has been there, and deal with these issues now before they get worse because believe me they will! Good luck and stay strong

You are too young to be dating. It's as simple as that.

Low self esteem. I grew up in a very abusive house, had very low self esteem, thought someone else in my life would make me feel better, you don't need to be in a relationship. I know at 14 the last thing you wanna hear is you're young, but believe me, 10 years from now, you will see you don't need a relationship at your age. Frankly, I'm 25 and am starting to think you don't need one at any age. Too many problems! Enjoy your youth. It goes away way too fast. I'm 25 and feel like marriage has aged me years. Go out with friends, you don't need someone to make you feel good.

You're replicating in your own relationships that which you have seen in the relationships of significant others. There is nothing wrong with you except having had poor examples to follow. Allow yourself to mature for awhile without trying to fulfil yourself through others.

What's wrong with you? Well nothing, just that you might want to forget guys for a while and focus on yourself and school.

Do you need attention? Do you like drama? Are you setting yourself up?

You're too young to be with all those people.I think you should concentrate on school and not so much on drama.

your way too young to have nine boyfriends and in two years!!yikes thats too many in a very short time!!!relax you have alot of life to live..concentrate on school and family for now!

14? your still a baby. My god, enjoy your childhood years. You will have plenty of time for adult relationships. You dont even know who you are yet and are incapable of making a responsible decision. Stop looking to replace daddy with some abusive creep. Be alone, be with friends....dont feel pressure to want to grow up before your time. smarten up.

You need to find out what it is that is attracting you to these douches and ignore it. You like the 'bad boy' or 'reject' type I bet. I had the same problem for years and I kept having disastrous relationships. Also, slow down a bit. I will not tell you to stop dating, but don't date seriously. Dating at your age is a good thing socially, but only if it's done right. A boyfriend at 14 should be the same as a 'best girlfriend'. Go out and have fun, maybe hold hands and steal a kiss at most. Don't get serious, it's not what you need right now. Right now is about fun, not relationship stresses.

Quit worrying about having a relationship, and focus on school. You're 14 for crying out loud. You don't have to worry about being in a relationship right now..Be a kid for now....9 abusive relationships, at 14??!! Leave the boys alone, and you'll be fine. Trust me..

The question I have is what in the hell is wrong with your parents. Two years ago you were only 12. How can a 12-14 year old be in 9 abusive relationships??? I would rather have a talk with your parents instead of you.

Well, in my opinion, 14 is too young to be trying to have relationships...serious ones anyway. You are probably being attracted to the "bad boy" image that some guys think make them look cool. There are signs that a person tends to be abusive and after 9 you should be able to spot them and avoid that person.

PLEASE keep in mind I don't mean to hurt you or offend you. Do you know the definition of insanity? If not, here it is: Insanity: doing the same thing over and over and over again AND expecting different results." This is according to one of the greatest men and greatest geniuses who ever lived: Alberrt Einstein. Whatever you're doing (or not doing), you have to change to another way of doing (or not doing) it. You don't have to go to bars, clubs or other "meat market"-type environments. There are some great places to meet nice people right in your own environment and perhaps if you get out of your "comfort zone" just a bit, a whole new world might open before you. If you go to church, temple or mosque, perhaps there are events for singles. If not go on-line and find-out when and where those social events will occur. If you have one or more hobbies or outside interests such as fishing, hunting, knitting, computers, etc., find a club or group in your area with people who have the same hobbies or interests. At your work, ask about professional organizations, which you can get involved with and participate in. Whatever your interest, IT'S UP TO YOU TO PARTICIPATE AND BE ACTIVE! Get on committees. Let people know you're alive! Get out of your comfort zone just a little: Find a worthy charity and on a regular, dependable basis - just as though it was a second job - do volunteer work for that charity. "The powers that be" and many caring, loving people - the folks you may be hoping to meet and "rub elbows with" and get to know, are those ladies and gentlemen doing volunteer work at hospitals, nursing homes, worthy charities and causes. When you do volunteer work on a consistent, dependable basis, your ability increases, your horizons expand and meeting that "special someone" AND possibly "climb, up the social ladder" could be greatly shortened and you could be recognized A WHOLE LOT SOONER. Are you bashful or an introvert? Perhaps you could enroll and participate in public speaking courses to help you "turn your flower bud into a live, vibrant, beautiful blossom" or plant! There are wonderful courses! I was reported for SPAM. Otherwise I would tell you which ones they are. Thanks for asking your Q! I did my best to answer it. I hope the information helps. VTY, Ron Berue Yes, that is my real last name! Sources: Some personal observations and opinions. "THE University of Hard Knocks" Also known as ("a/k/a") "life's valuable lessons".

You should not be going through boys like water at your age. If all these boys are the same age as you, then they are adolescents full of hormones and don't want a relationship, so of course you're just an excuse for them to experiment with their sexuality. And if they're older than you, they just want something young and easy. Sorry for sounding harsh, but there's a reason why people advise you to focus on schooling and leave relationships until you're a bit older. Your parents should have told you this.

Sexual act is normal in bf/gf relationships if you consider it abusive it's because of your immaturity, 14 is way too young for these kinds of relationships and thats what is wrong with what you do (not you!).You better stay friends with guys until you feel that you are ready to go further/-

The trouble is that you aren't old enough to be in romantic relati0onships of any kind. You need to mature, get to know yourself better and learn more about others, as well. Then when you are a better person and more knowledgeable about choosing good friends, you can reach out to others in a romantic way.

9 relationships by 14?! are you trying to prov esomething? that's absurd. Try saying out of relationships till you are more mature and you know what you are looking for in a relationship

I agree with most of what's posted here. In your own words, you're 'only 14'. To me, that screams, "I know I shouldn't even be in serious relationships". And that would be right. Concentrate on school, hang out with your friends (guys and girls both), and for goodness sakes, stay away from serious relationships! The guys your age aren't ready for serious relationships. Trust me, I'm only 21; it's not been that long since I was a 14-year-old guy. I remember quite well how I thought and acted then, and I wasn't anywhere near ready to date. Today, I thank my parents that I wasn't allowed to get into relationships until I was 16. I still wasn't ready even then, but I was considerably more ready than at 14. My answer is: I seriously doubt there's anything wrong with you. However, there's a lot of things wrong with the guys who are dating you. Either they're too old for you, or too young to be dating. Sorry, but that's the fact of the matter. You're too young to be dating an 18 year old, but the guys in your age group are too young to be dating anyone period. Get involved in the community - especially in the church, if you're religious. Trust me, it's not long before you're going to be 16 or even 18. Concentrate instead of on dating on making friends. Friends will stick with you throughout your dating ups and downs, and you're going to need that later. Exboyfriends get kind of awkward when you need help or someone to talk to about your relationship with the new boyfriend. Again, been there, done that... not a fun experience. Don't be pressured into moving too fast, it's not nearly worth it.

Well, you're dating 24 year old morons who are willing to date a 14 year old, first of all. Odds are fellows like these aren't operating on all 8 cylinders. Get your head out of your ass and stop perceiving nice guys your age boring and weak and going after "bad boys" that are actually just retarded violent fuckwads.

For starters, you're trying to have "relationships" when you're just a kid. What you need now are friends, not relationships. Take things slow, give yourself time to get things together. Do you have a counselor at school or at church or somewhere you might talk to? Recognizing you need to break the cycle is the first step, but they can help you find the patterns.

Hmmmmm, seems this is not so unusaul with today's youth as I have a 12 year old daughter who wishes that she could date. My girls are not allowed to go on dates, unsupervised dates, till they are 16 years old, and sometimes I think that is too soon! Where are your parents? I understand that parents aren't always there and are sometimes afraid of making enemiews of their children by enforcing rules and regulations upon them but, too bad. . . That's what we are here for and someday the child will understand and appreciate the fact that you cared enough about them to make them follow some rules, they will know you love them and weren't just being mean but were concerned about their well being and future. You are too young for any of this, and I know you are probably so tired of hearing that, but that doesn't make it any less true. GOD . . . to be 14 again and know what I know now would be so fricking GREAT! Just try and slow down and stop looking so hard for the right guy, you will find him someday when you least expect it. You deserve to be treated with respect regardless of anything else. You must also learn to give respect and love yourself before anyone else can love and respect you. Take a good long look in the mirrow and ask yourself is this really how you want to live the rest of your life . . . in constant turmoil? I think you can turn things around right now for yourself, find someone to talk to about you and your feelings, someone you can trust and who won't pressure you, just listen to you, there are people put there that care enough to do this for you . . . There is nothing wrong with you other than just being 14 and confussed. Enjoy life because life is so very short and you are in control of your own happiness and you can change your life to be what you want and need it to be, even if it is the hardest thing you have ever done. . . you deserve better!!!!

You need to stay out of relationships until you are able to choose the right ones. You're hooking up with the wrong kind of guys. Try to figure out why you do this. Learn who you are before dating again - it may take years because you are very young to begin with. I've only had 9 relationships in my entire life and I'm old enough to be your mom!

I noticed by your question that you said, “what’s wrong with me”? Maybe there is nothing wrong with you. I agree with most of the other comments that you are too young to have serious relationships but a friendship relationship is fine. If you are choosing friends that are abusive to you and then you need to retreat from them for safety reasons or to avoid abuse, maybe it could be you. Questions you might ask yourself would be. Why are you choosing boys that are disrespectful to you? Do you like certain boys that are rough or rugged, Macho etc.? Or boys that are perceived as strong and powerful with others? What you said about something being wrong with you might be a sign that you don’t feel good about yourself or that you don’t feel worthy of a good friend. Do you choose girl friend that are quite or troubled? Do you feel superior to those chosen friends? Sorry for all those questions, it’s just that the answer to your question is not always a simple one it can be very involved.

it's that the boys your age don't know anything about proper love

grow up and start listening to the advice people are giving you 1) you are too young to understand what a relationship (with a boy) is 2) you are obviously lacking the maturity to be in a relationship and to take care of yourself... 3) Stop being neieve and throwing yourself at guys, get to know them, (for longer than a few weeks) 4) Treat yourself better and take a break from 'relationships', get to know people, go out and have fun.. 5) stop 'trying' to be loved.. and honey at this rate you are going to, or already have a label, if you do some nice guys wont even go near you with a 10 foot pole.. relationships may be addictive but just try to give it up for the time being.. BTW>>> Blackope was spot on with his answer, the way you are acting is like asking for permission, just slow down girl, give it a rest for a while

Are you sure you know what abusive really is? Also dating at 12 is a NO-NO !

listen to Jen and Blackope... and everyone else on here.. Slow down sweetie

At 14, really? At 14 you don't know what an abusive relationship is. Wait till you get older. THE REAL s.o.b.s are out there waiting for you. Are you drawn to the "bad boys" or something? Before you pursue any more relationships - you need to study yourself - and learn who you really are, and what it is that you want to become.

What is wrong with you... Is that you started dating too young and burned yourself out to the extreme of a 30 year old woman. Thats not cool. I'd give it up for a while, take a temporary vow of celebacy and learn a trade or get a hobby. Geeze girl. Hang up that beat up old hat for a while and do something else. Preferably play with Barbies like you should be!

First of all there's nothing wrong with you, it's them that is the problem. But you could learn the signs if a person that is abusive. You could also set some boundries for your relationships, as you get older this could get worse. Ask your Mom or Dad about a Domestic Violence shelter, they have groups there and it seems it would be helpful for you to learn about Domestic Violence.

well for starters, its partly ur thought it does sound a bit sluttish that uve been with 9 boys in 2 years, surely uve learnt something- TAKE A TIME OUT!!!!!!!!- otherwise ur gonna have grey hair by the time ur 20

You need more positive role models.

well the simple fact that you are only 14 and have had 9 relationships in the past 2 years kinda makes you seem like you are being way too promiscuous. Don't need to be having sex to be a slut. I would talk to your parents and get them to get you some counseling. Behavior of that sort can be a sign of past sexual abuse or insecurity based on your relationship with your father/father figure. So in direct answer to your question, "what is wrong with me?" I answer: " You are acting like a ho, and you are going to develop a reputation for being with too many guys, even if you are not having sex. remember guys that age will usually claim that they had sex with you to sound cool to their friends, even if they didn't. So word gets around, even if untrue.This will constantly lead to you being seen only as a sex object, which will result in the abusive type of guys being the ones who display any interest in you. Good guys simply don't want girls who have been around that much that fast."

Be glad I'm not your mother, you're way to young to be in a relationship. Where r u finding these guys from? prison?..

FIRST of all, you should elaborate on your definition of relationship, because it makes a huge difference what you have done in these relationships. SECOND of all, you should be commended for trying to find out why they aren't working, rather than using denial, and continuing on the path that you are. THIRD of all, sounds to me like you should take some time off from dating, and work on yourself. Work on being happy with WHO you are, and WHAT you deserve, as a person, in a relationship. I have been in a couple abusive relationships and they usually stemmed form being so unhappy with who I am, and not respecting myself enough to think I deserved better.

theres nothing rong w/ u. the guyz u r d8n hav a prob. stay away from ppl lyk tht & everything shood work out.

you are only 14 you are still young and obviously you know that. You have so much ahead of you and to be completely honest you shouldnt want to waste your time on any particular guy right now. you have your whole life for that but you will only be young once. take this time to do good in school and hang out with your friends. YOu dont deserve to get treated that way by anyone. and its not your fault. once you get into a relationship it mentally screws you up. they make you feel like you arent good enough for anything else. if you ever need anyone to talk to let me know. good luck and just take it easy. have fun for now

Don't date that young and you'll be a lot happier when you start to meet more mature guys in a few years

NEVER ASK YOURSELF THAT AGAIN!!! nothing is wrong with you. it is the a-holes you are dating. men can be pigs at times and a man that hits a woman is a monster in my opinion. i have seen too much abuse commited against my mother and myself to just sit back and say, "o, maybe its something wrong with the woman" NO!! its not. you are 14. you have your whole life ahead of you. you can go a while not dating and i would prefer you did not but its your body. take some time off relationships and think about who you are as a person and develop your own self. you are human, you are strong, you are beautiful and dont you ever forget it. if you let this continue to go on you are only pushing yourself closer and closer to the grave. Please be careful and think through things before you jump into a relationship. You are so young, and i do not want to open up the paper and see another life lost to a abusive boyfriend. That is a horrible thing to see.

Well, the big question is what kind of abuse are you talking about? However, at 14 you should not even worry about having "relationships", just enjoy hanging with your friends and having a good time. As you get (and wiser), you choices for a boyfriend should get better and you may be able to have a functional relationship with someone who values you for who you are.

cannot say there is something wrong with you but there certainly is a problem. 9 relationships in 2 yrs is simply too many and so is 9 relationships at 14. Heck! even if you're 20 it's still too many. you seriously need to slow down. life is not just about relationships. personally i'm 26 and have never been in a relationship. perhaps i'm commitment phobic but i don't think so. i may be afraid to get hurt but i also know i simply haven't found someone worth taking the risk for.

I think you are pushing too hard...Be slow in choosing a partner..9 relationships in 2 years seems too desperate to me and that too at just 14..You just need to sit back and see a sensible guy..It is not necessary that you have to be with a guy all the time..Just wait for the right one..

i have this odd feeling you have dependent personality disorder.

Because You are supposed to be studying hard at school, do your home work, so you can become a quality and respectful person. YOU ARE JUST KID WHO FORCE YOURSELF TO BE IN ADULT WORLD. That's not healthy.

Without knowing you, I would suggest that you are too young for a serious relationship. Perhaps you should focus on yourslef for awhile, and not be in a relationship.

you're too young to date

14 and you've had 9 relationships!??!

sounds like you are messing with the playground bullies too much to me. shouldnt you be reading animal farm and playing hop scotch?

find a nce guy like me. and the pentagram might have something to do with it. idk.

Sounds like you are given off the wrong signals to someone. I would get myeslf some help if I were you! seriously because this will effect you later on! TRUST ME!!

There is nothing wrong with you.

By the time you reach 15 you will have surpassed Liza Minelli.............slow down!

YOU ARE TAKING IT TOO FAST... abusivee relationshipss if i got in onee maybee i wont get into realtionshipss no more.. lolz... woww how r u feelin woman??? like shit .. nuttin is wrong wit u ,... somethin is wrong with the pwoplw u r havin relationshipss with damnnn awkward

Where are your parents? Perhaps that's the problem. Poor role models.

You can't be serious!! Really since you were twelve ...

Ha, you pick out the wrong guys. Thats all. Stop picking the bipolar emo kids. Honestly go out with someone thats sweet and strong. And make sure they don't snap too easily. But if they did, are you possibly bossy ?

don't worry...anyway u learned 9 lessons...take a break...relax...one s on da way to ur life...dont try for a relationship nw...he will come to ur life soon...wait

Sometimes we just draw the wrong person to us. Take time out and right a list of what you want in a man. What you desire him to be like. And let Kindness and tenderness be your first 2 on your want list. When I was your age I did not know how to chose good ones either. It take time and you have lots of life left. Have fun and whats great have guy friends too lots. They are like brothers and will be good to talk to in regards to guy questions and can help you choose rightly. You have to love you also I did not know how to do that way back then and until I did then I started having healthy relationships. Dont beat yourself up it may take a lil soul searching on your part and get to know someone a while before just getting serious that helps. Good luck!

because you are a little girl trying to grow up too fast and are stupid enough to fall for the jerks "because they are so (hot/popular/cool)" try not dating for a while until you get your head straightened out. trust me, there are nice guys out there but you are not capable of seeing them yet because you have not straightened out your priorities.

Nine, that's a big number for abusive relationships for a 14yr old. You are falling too fast I'm guessing since i really don't know what kind of guys you've dated. Watch for signs, ask about his past, watch his friends. And run when it's clear his abusive. Start from friends first with guys... and really at your age don't date too far past your age.

14 is too young to know how to navigate a relationship and stand up for yourself. Why don't you cool it a little and wait for some more maturity?

Love, I had abusive relationships at a young age too. I know now that men are harsh, now not all are, but you have to scout out your boys first and find out if you think dating them will make a good impact on your life. But first take a piece of paper and write down the names of all the ppl you dated and beside their name write traits about them and then write down why you broke up. Now if you had abusive relationships you'll see some similar traits. These trait you should try to avoid next time. And love, there is nothing wrog with YOU! You just need to know what kind of guys you ARENT compatable with. Now since you said that you think something is wrong with you i want you to do something for yourself.... I know it sound silly but get a different piece of paper and write down 20, yeah 20 things that you appreciate about yourself. Now take this piece of paper and put it somewhere will you will see it ALOT. And love plz be careful because you dont want to end up popping out kids all the time. I mean you havent even made it to the legal drinking age yet lol ^ ^ But yeah let me know how your dating life turns out and if i helped any..... ** Penginlover89

You're way too young to be in a relationship, but clearly are desperate for love - this is what happens to children who are neglected. I suggest you find a good therapist and find a way to parent yourself.

The first question that comes to mind is, "Were you molested as a child?" The second question is, "What are you running from?" Finally, the third question is, "What are you trying to prove to yourself?" If none of these fit, then I'm at a loss for now. Cari

Have some time to yourself. I'd say about 10 yrs and then try to find someone who actually cares for you. Those other guys, all they cared about was themselves. Self centered jerks don't care who they are with. They just want "Somebody" to be with.

go discuss these issues with a teacher, you need a bit of direction!

Nothing, stop thinking there is and raise yer standards yo...;)

Nothing wrong with you. I hope you didn` t have sex.

Relax, Grab a pack of blank paper and start writing this is called free style writing it allows you to think with out really thinking. It may give you some incite. If you can try to talk to an adult that will not be judgmental maybe a teacher or family member. It maybe something in your past that leads you to these types of people. Good Luck to you and many adults can not break the cycle its hard but you have to keep trying.

why do you feel you need to be in a relationship? Why not just hang out with friends until someone comes along that can appreciate you for who you are and treat you with respect. There seems to be a pattern here and I wouldn't want you to continue this for years to come. Figure out what you want in a person and don't accept less.

chances are, nothing is wrong with you. my dad has abused me all my life, but that doesn`t mean there is something wong with me. it may just be the kind of guys you choose. you should be more picky about the guys you date. as soon as he does something abusive to you, please, get out of that relationship, and tell some one. no one should have to go through abuse... ever! especially at your age. nothing is wrong with you... it`s him.

Which you are amply proving by being in your ninth abusive relationship in 2 years.

You have probably been "groomed" to seek out abusive types and to believe (at least initially) that abuse is love. It's good that you are so young because it will be easier for you to work on yourself and change your thought patterns. If you have been abused, as I strongly suspect, seek local assistance for abuse survivors. See if there is some counseling available to you. I'm sure there must be. Counseling will help you put your situation in perspective and begin to see your self in a different light. Blessings, Suzanne

What's wrong is that at age 14 you are even in any relationship. Too young, STOP IT!

try not having a relationship for a while

If I had my guess, I'd say you have been really busy reinforcing messages that you were given while growing up....some not very positive messages downplaying your TRUE worth. Plus, 9 relationships is a lot for ANY age. Once you can become content and peaceful being alone (I swear it is possible. It doesn't just sound good) that problem will greatly diminish :)

you're 14 you don't know the meaning of relationship. stop trying to be in a relationship and let it happen naturally.

you're only 14, that's what's wrong. don't be too hard on yourself. you probably just choose the same "type" over and over so it happens, well, over and over. how old are those abusers anyway?!

I bet there is nothing wrong with you! I have a great idea! School! Learn everything you can! Knowledge is power, and we all love power! At 14 I would not worry with relationships! I know everyone is doing it but if you can get ahead of the others you then have the upper hand! You will be OK Live life love life! It is a big world there is someone out there that is good and just for you! I have some thing for any "man/boy" that wants to be abusive! If they even show any signs of abuse LEAVE! Women/girls are to good to be subjected to such crap!

you need to realize that you are a beautiful person & you don't need a man to make you feel important & once you learn to respect & love yourself, then a man will come along to actually love you, not bring you down. and there's plenty of time for this in the future - live your childhood first to the fullest - if i could go back in time i would.

Having "relationships" at such a young age.

You dont have relationships at 14 you have friends that are girls that you think like you.

that means the first one happened when you were 12...I don't wanna sound mean, but you don't have a CLUE what you are getting yourself into and you should just give it a break

Are you sure you don't have Stockholm syndrome? Seriously, though, 14 is a bit too young to say you've already had 9 abusive relationships. With a history like that, it doesn't sound like you're ready for a relationship at all.

Maybe you need to start looking at the character of a potential partner before you get involved.

Age 14 sounds too young to me to have had 9 relationshops of any kind. But you need to get to know someone well enough from now on before you get into a relationship with them. Maybe you can take a break from relationships & just focus on school & family for awhile. You may see that you enjoy the break from the other. Then, as you are a bit older, you may be able to find someone else who does not abuse at all.

The thing thats wrong with you is you are a child and you need to start acting like one you are way to young for relationships.

14 is too young to have had that many relationships first of all I didn't have my first boyfriend until 16 but it sounds like you have a bad habit of picking losers

Dating too young perhaps????

GROW UP!!!! YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT LOVE IS!!!!!!

Age! You're gettin' too old now!

YOUR AGE ! You should not even be in a "Relationship" until you are at least 15 ... Shame on your mother or whoever your ADULT supervisor is for allowing it to begin with ! Don't be in such a hurry to get yourself a BOY ... Good things come to those who wait ; so WAIT a year or two and then you can get a Real MAN .

Trying to throw yourself at a man when what you need to do is enjoy the life beyond the boyfriends, the shattered promise of these men who obviously didn't respect you at all. I'm not saying forget them, but seriously get to know people before getting involved. The prettiest face can hide the ugliest of secrets, but sooner or later you smell their lies beginning to rot. Take a break. You owe it to yourself (and the man you deserve to have) to take a break. You deserve someone who sees you as beautiful, both in heart, soul, mind. You deserve someone you can talk to, and you deserve someone who you aren't afraid of. Someone who will think you are almost as beautiful in blue jeans and a t-shirt as you are walking down in your red-carpet gown. Seriously, hold off. The rebound is the worst time to go looking for a replacement guy anyway - that's the time the ones who aren't worthy enough to touch the dirt that recently came off your tennis shoes.