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  • Fourteen!!! I was 19 before I had my first girlfriend.
  • I think fourteen is a little early to have a girlfriend. Maybe you want to relax, do your studies and leave some of the joys and pains of having a girlfriend for a few years.
  • Fourteen - I don't know if I'd let my daughter who would supposedly be 12-14 date, much less date a 14 year old. Enjoy what life offers at this age, sports, school activities, friends, you've got years ahead of you for girlfriends, dates and all that jazz.
  • My son is 15 and girls are the last thing in his mind... his games and TV shows take priority... my daughter's BF had my daughter as his first GF at the age of 22. He was all that nerd.... when the time was right... he met one... you are fine... perfect...
  • this is perfectly normal,everyone starts dateing at a different time of there life wich is when it feels rite , if u feel ready get of your arse and get out there x
  • Absolutely! You don't need to be bought into the media hype telling you you need sex, and now.
  • Yes, I hope all of my kids wait until well past 14. Don't rush it. Start dating when your ready.
  • You are totally fine. I feel that dating and courtship should be a prelude to a serious relationship leading to marriage. You are hardly equipped to handle all of the responsibilty of that at age 14. Develop the qualities that will make you a decent, educated adult.
  • Yes! This is completely normal. It doesn't mean you're not attractive or interesting either, mid-teenage years are just very akward. People are still learning to be social and setting their priorities. My first boyfriend was at 17 (as well as first kiss). Let me add that I personally find boys with less of a history more attractive. If I know that they have a ton of girlfriends in their past (along with sexual experience) I don't take them as serious or get turned off. I've also been told that my innoncence is attractive to men as well. So the more you wait and only go for girls who mean something to you, the better in your favor it will be in the future.
  • Of course it is! Personally, I didn't have a girlfriend at all until 17 and no truly serious, mature relationships until 21. Don't rush it!
  • its ok but ur a little behind imho lol
  • It's fine. In my opinion, having a boyfriend/girlfriend at a young age is kind of pointless because the relationship will most likely not go anywhere anyway. Don't worry about silly things like that, you've got loads of time before you'd really want a girlfriend and settle down - there's no need to rush.
  • i think its more than fine im also fourteen and i never had a real b/f...im sure its preety embarassing not to have experience(well at least it is somatime to me) but dont worry you'll learn slowly...i think that by taking my time ill find someone ill truly love, not just someone that happen to be there!! TAKE UR TIME
  • Sure it is ok. It is also ok if you have had. I had my first boyfriend at 13. Contrary to some comments out here, we weren't having sex. You start learning how to have a romantic relationship with these early ones, but when you start having them is entirely up to you. There is no race to see who does it first. There is no deadline saying you have to do it by a certain age. Just relax and be yourself! :)
  • I am also 14 and have only just had my first boyfriend! I think that when you think your ready for the commitment then your old enough for a girlfriend. If its friends that are making ou feel uncomfortable about being single at your age (as they usually do) just say that you are dating a girl on the internet. :P
  • Im almost 16 in a week and never had a REAL boyfriend... i see all my other friends have them and i get jealous! but i learned its perfectly normal...your time will come! if your 40 and still asking the same question then id be worried ;)
  • you are sooooo young, a child if you may. Please just take your time and grow
  • Dating is for finding your life partner and or marriage mate your just fine. Have fun with your life before your heart locks you down to one person.
  • yes, why waste all your emotions on someone that will most likely NOT be your life's soul mate? some advice: dont get a girlfriend until you are ready to find one to marry! just keep it simple!
  • TOTALLY OK dude. When you are ready, you will meet the right girl and things will click, and you will begin your life getting to know women. :) Don't pay attention or worry about others and what they are doing. When it feels right to you is the time for this kind of thing.
  • I don't see anything wrong with it, (keep in mind I've never had a girlfriend myself.:) One thing to remember when you think yourself a socialy impaired loser, is that kids now-a-days are moving through life way to fast, it's a good thing to let yourself wait for a good relashionship before getting into it to much, that's how so many teens end up with kids to support at a young age. Above all though, don't feel bad about it, (Belive me when I say self pity will not help your chances with the ladys in the slightest.) You have to think ahead, think of hopw in another ten years or so, you'll be in a serious relashioship and having fun with someone your meant to be with, while the rest of you peers are busy taking care of their kids they had at fifteen with a woman who does'nt look fifteen anymore.
  • I turn fourteen in a week, and I've never had a GF. It's OK. You may feel a bit insecure about it because people tease you about being gay (even though you're not...welcome to my world), but that's just how teens are: obnoxious a-holes. Don't worry about it. 10 years from now, middle school and high school dating will most likely be dust in the wind.
  • Lord yes! I've had cousins who didn't date until they where in their 20's and married the first person they seriously dated. Relationships arn't about social status or just being in a relationship. Find a person you connect with and don't worry about it.
  • That is fine. I think it is better to wait until you are a little older. After you start dating everything tends to get complicated. You have your whole life to find the right person...dont waste your time on someone that will just hurt you.
  • This is a girl speaking, Yes it is ok! I know its a little different, but I didnt have a boyfriend untill I 16! He was the first one. And I'm glad I waited, You'd be supprised at how much a person can mature in just two years! (And just for the record we arent allowed to go out places together untill I'm 17)
  • you still have a lot of living left to do i never had my first boyfriend until i was a freshman in highschool ...your young go out and have fun with your friends while you can because once you have a relationship that's all you'll do and you will wish you were with your friends ....like i said just go out and live life to the fullest and eventually a girl will find you ...YOU DON"T HAVE TO HAVE A GIRL FRIEND!!
  • yeaah for sure its def okay. i wasn't really allowed to date til i was sixteen. soooo youre okay. plus i think fourteen is a little young to like be getting serious with peoplecause youre still really learning what you like and about yourself so the opp. sex is the same way.
  • i'm 14 and haven't either...lots of us haven't, but the bachelor life is good
  • hey, just the fact that your sharing that you care makes you so cute! and sensitive, girls like that.
  • You are totally ok in not having a girlfriend yet. And I agree that you must be very mature to even ask :) Fourteen is kind of young to be tied down with all the other responsibilities that go along with dating. And I don't even mean sex yet. Not only do you need rides everywhere you go, you also need money and I know my son at 14 had none lol. You and only you will know when you are ready to date and I think that varies from person to person. So have fun and hang out with your friends and do all the fun and stupid stuff, that will get you in trouble with girlfriends, while you still have the chance. The girls aren't going anywhere and I don't think you'll have any trouble with them when you're ready :) Good luck!!
  • Just take your time don't rush it because you have all the time in the world to ecpierence it. Like I said earlier I started dating a guy at 14 off and on until I was 16 I quite school, moved in with him, and got married. Now after 3 years of marriage it's over.
  • yes,wants your hurry
  • In recent years, there has been a push to get kids to enter romantic relationships at earlier and earlier ages. Personally, I think that this is unhealthy. So, take your time. Don't rush into anything. You have lots of time. ************** "derek hopper: nothing wrong with teen relationships-WEAR A FRKKIN CONDOM!" There is something wrong if a fourteen-year-old is feeling that there might be something wrong because he has not had a girlfriend yet. I am not saying that there is anything wrong with teenage relationships, but when a person that young is feeling pressure to get into a relationship for which he may not be prepared, then there is something wrong, not with the young man, but with the society that is trying to pressure him. Additionally, he should not be considering sex at that age. Condoms are not perfect. They don't always work as they are supposed to. So, there is always the possibility of creating a baby when you have sex. Even when they do, they don't protect against many sexually transmitted diseases. Therefore, unless you are prepared to deal with ALL of the possible consequences, you should not be having sex. ************** "noletters: CONDON+CAUTION=SMART+SAFE" Condoms don't mean safe. Condoms can and do fail. The only safe way to have sex is to wait until marriage. ************* cactusbin, how many "serious" relationships are you going to go through before you find your spouse? Most people go through several. Every time you have sex with another person you increase your chances of getting an STD. True some STDs can be transfered no sexual contact, but that is very rare. That is why they are called sexually transmitted diseases. They are transfered through sexual contact. If both you and your spouse have not had sex with anyone else, then the odds of you getting or sharing an STD are vanishingly small.
  • You've got plenty of time, good buddy. Remember, there are more females than there are males and you will always have options.
  • The "law" of being a teenager is that you never get a girlfriend until you are a junior or senior unless you are extremely popular. Most girls like older guys and older guys usually like younger girls. That is why all the girls your age probably have (older) boyfriends. My first girlfriend was halfway through my junior year,and of course, younger than myself.
  • My girlfriend's aunt is like 33 and she has never had a boyfriend...I think at 14 you're fine.
  • Oh my gosh, yes, it's okay! What's the hurry? I don't mean to sound like your mom or anything, but it's really OKAY to wait and find that special girl... I didn't have my first boyfriend until I was a sophomore in college. I just focused on studying and workng hard to go to a good school. You know, if you become that hot-shot that is confident, intelligent, and nice, girls will FLOCK to you, so don't worry your little head off on this one. Also, 14 is really young and sometimes having a girlfriend too early can hurt you more than help you. :)
  • the later the beter. trust me. give you more tosit back and learn the right things to do in a relationship. and less tiem to get hurt and not no what to do.
  • don't feel like you need to have a girlfriend! If you get peerpressured, then you might force yourself to be with someone you don't really like...that would suck more... and freedom is good
  • You are perfectly fine! This is the time to learn how to have FRIENDS PERIOD...male friends, and female friends...not worry about romance and all the responsibility a "relationship" carries with it! Learn how to get along with people, how to listen, how to share what you think and feel, how to care...in general about yourself and others. If you practice being kind, and friendly, I am pretty sure, you'll manage to speak to a nice girl that you are interested in...when the exact right time comes along...keep it simple and always remember...YOUR feelings matter exactly as much as hers...both people in a relationship need to be respected for what they are comfortable with and for what they have to say to each other. Respect goes both ways...and manipulation has no place in a happy, growing relationship of any type.
  • That is perfectly fine! I was 16 before I was even allowed to date. Thinking back on it I am glad that my parents did not let me date until then. I was not ready for it before that time. Also for a more recent scenario- My son is 14 and has never had a girlfriend and he always says he is better off for it. According to him -from what he has seen of his friends dating at that age- it costs too much to have a girlfriend. So Don't worry about it. Have fun with your friends for now and later on in life when you are ready to start dating you will find just the right girl.
  • Sounds pretty normal to me. I didnt have one til I was about 14. I had plenty of girls as friends, but not a real girlfriend until I was about 14. You're good to go, dude!
  • It is more than ok!! You need to be a kid while you can. I know you are thinking that you hear this all the time but trust me I know what you feel like. I was 16 when I had my first kiss. I was 17 when I really had a boyfriend. When I went to college I had more boyfriends than I needed. I have been married for 8 years now. When I look back I can see that I made a lot of stupid decision based on the fact of wanting to have a boyfriend. Don't let this bother you or cause you to question who you are. There is someone out there who is perfect for you and at 14 it is more than likely you haven't found that person yet. Please don't let this dampen your self esteem.
  • I do not think that it is at all uncommon. You are well within the normal range. Whether or not it is common isn't the most important consideration, at least in my opinion. What I believe is most important is whether or not this is right for you. My guess is that it is.
  • No that is not uncommon and good for you. Some girls grow up too quickly and miss alot of their teen years, so enjoy!
  • Its not uncommon at all. I also want to add that what is common or uncommon is not important with this sort of thing; relationships are personal and unique. Make your choice based on your feelings, not what other people around you have chosen. :)
  • Very common. My friends have never had boyfriends, I'm a bit of a weirdo really in that I have already.
  • No, I don't think that is uncommon. I am 19 and I will be 20 soon and I've never had a boyfriend either, so your not alone on that one! Its great not having one too! It's too much drama to have one, and right now your young, you have your whole life to be worried about a boyfriend or getting involved in a serious relationship, some girls grow up too fast and they become too grown for their ages and end up doing things that they should not be doing at the ages they are (like having sex, getting pregnant, etc.) think about it you don't have none of that drama on your hands, be worried about school and getting good grades and find out what makes you happy in life, have fun, give yourself time to be a teenager, you have plenty of time to be a relationship, do the things you love and take care of you first. That's why your single right now, is so that you can worry about you and be free to live your life and find out who you really are!! Just be patient and don't feel bad about it, it's not uncommon, and as a matter of fact it's better than being in a relationship, if you are single.
  • my first girlfriend didn't come along until i was 18.
  • definetly not uncommon! i was pretty much 16 when i had my first relationship. and in some religions... they forbid to date until that age. you are definetly normal
  • Don't worry about it. You're normal. It's not uncommon to get clear into your 20s before having a boyfriend. Just do your thing, and don't compare yourself to others.
  • You're a lucky guy. You're not missing too much. It's overrated.
  • it's not uncommon
  • it's really normal...i'm 12 and never had one, i believe only in love at sight, you'll find your love when the time comes...
  • yeah..its not a hury to get a girlfriend..and you are only fourteen..and iam thinking since you never had a girlfriend,then there is someone out there very special for you..just wait and see..its very normal,maybe when you become 15 ore 17 you will have someone very spessial..to me i would say u are lucky=)
  • Darling, I was 17 before I had my first boyfriend. :) No worries. Besides, it's not all wonders and roses. Relationships involve a lot of work.
  • I don't have a boyfriend, and I'm 20. I don't think there's anything wrong, especially considering my circumstances--living in a rural place surrounded by cousins, going to an all girls' school, being painfully shy. I do feel like I'm missing out until I take a good look at my peers. A lot of them are already married and have had kids since high school. That's not where I want to be. I want to wait for someone I really connect with, and I haven't met anyone who thought that was lame or that I'm not "okay." I wouldn't worry about it at fourteen. There are other things to focus on. You still need to grow and learn about yourself. That sounds cheesy, but your tastes, desires, and goals can change drastically from 14 to 18. To be honest, I don't even remember much of 14. Besides, Juliet dated before she was 14, and look at what happened to her! :P
  • It's beyond OK. Don't feel rushed, young one. You have your whole life to find love.
  • Not at all. And, If I was your father, You would never have a boyfriend. (LOL). Follow your instincts. It will happen.
  • It is perfectly ok to not have had a boyfriends. Remember it is ok to be picky.
  • be happy while you can. yes it's ok
  • Yea, man... your good to go...I was 17. Enjoy your freedom.
  • I didn't have a girlfriend until I was 17, then not again until 19. I don't think it is at all bad to not have a girlfriend at the age of 14. The girls and women we come to like very much are out there, but there is no set "schedule" for their arrival in our lives.
  • it is alright my friends sister is 30 and doesnt have a boyfriend and she hasnt even had one yet IN HER LIFE
  • Of course! Everyone approaches relationships different. By not having a girlfriend, you're only missing out on one thing: teen drama. And trust me- drama sucks. So concentrate on school and date if you find someone really interesting. if not, don't sweat it. There is someone for everyone, you just gotta find the lucky person.
  • there isent a thing wrong with not haveing a gf just yet you have lots of time for that kind of thing be young have fun girls will just get you in to truble i know l have had my shire at it and its not fun at all
  • not at all
  • Relax! We started having girlfriends at the age of 11, but it basically consisted of us being on one side of the schoolyard, the girl on the other, and some runner going back and forth between us delivering messages like: "Do you wanna go out with Carey?" "Yep!" ..five minutes later.. "Okay, she said "yes", so you're both going out!" "Wow!" ..3 days later... "She said she's dropped you!" "Oh?...okay." "So, do you wanna go out with Sue now?.." "Yep.." My advice: Wait until you're old enough to actually know what a real relationship entails, then- GO FOR IT!!!
  • its normal i never had a boyfriend before and i'm 23
  • Enjoy your freedom. I didn't have a boyfriend until I was 17. Don't let what you think is the social norm dictate the way you live your life; just enjoy it for what it is. :-)
  • In my personal opinion you have to stop looking to be able to find someone. The second you stop caring and worrying about it you will find someone. Don't rush. You'll find someone you are still young. I'm 17 and I don't even worry about it.
  • Yes, its fine. I am aware of people who have never gone out with girls till aged 21 and even 25. Relationships should be about quality and not quantity. Also, having been there myself, I think you should wait a little longer before bringing such drama and complications into your life. There's plenty of time for relationships for the rest of your life.
  • No, i know alot of people that have never had boifriends or girlfriends. I mean they've had the lil ones in like elementry school that don't mean anything. but they've never had a serious one. Don't sweat it, someone will be there for you one day.
  • Not at all i was 17 when i had my first boyfriend and i'm 20 now and i have guy friends and girl friends that still have never had a bf/gf at this age.
  • It is not uncommon at all. I was 19 before I had my first boyfriend. I went on several dates, but never really had a boyfriend. Concentrate on school, grades, and friends right now. They are more important, although it may not feel like it right now. My daughter is 13 and I have told her the same thing. You have enough to worry about without the pressures of a boyfriend and a relationship. You have plenty of time for that once you've graduated from college, should you choose to go. Enjoy your youth while you can!!
  • I'm 20, I have never had a girlfreind in my whole life, is THIS ok?
  • Hey its ok.You should not try and have a girlfriend just because all ur peers have...u should have one only when u think its right for u and u want her from the bottom of ur heart..its better not to be in a relationship..than be in a wrong one!!!...so i guess u can wait untill u get a right one.:-)
  • Absolutely O.K. The whole purpose of dating is to choose your life's mate. You do not even need to be considering that. There are pressures from all around you, for you to 'get involved' in many, many things. You would be very wise in waiting in virtually every instance. Relationships are much more about all of life than the messages received by teens. It is a big lie to assume that it is ultra-important now. Ask ANYONE who was your age and is now a responsible adult, and they will ALL tell you; the truth is that it is better to wait for most things at your age. Besides. Have fun! Enjoy what you can DO now! In too few years, you won't even be able to PLAY, much less have a great deal of fun. And work is work, and relationships take a great deal of it. Not much fun in that, eh?
  • Thats fine. 14 is still pretty young. You have plenty of time and a long life ahead of you,...be patient, you'll find someone
  • Why would you want one? They are generally a lot of trouble. Hang out with your friends and enjoy your life....and hopefully one of those friends will eventually become extra special to you. You can't make these things happen - special people come along when you least expect it. Enjoy your life, it is not a rehearsal, don't set yourself up for any more heartbreak than you can help! Plenty of time for that later.
  • If your in search of thee perfect girlfriend, it takes more then 14 years to find her.
  • Don't ask me. I've never really had one and I'm... Nope. Not gonna tell you, because it makes me feel old. Sorry.
  • Love takes time.
  • Since I got my first girlfriend at 15, then my first REAL girlfriend at 18, and got 35 girlfriends before getting married, I'm guessing being 14 and not having a girlfriend is ok. Don't let your friends push you into a relationship you don't want, or wouldn't know what to do with it. When you fall in love, THEN it is time to have a girlfriend.
  • This is good, sweetheart.
  • You're fine! I'm 17 and I haven't even fucking kissed a girl. I'm so sexually depraved that I enjoy say the word 'fucking', fuck it! Compared to me, and everybody else at this site I'm sure, you're a perfectly healthy kid. Things'll happen for you sooner than you know it.
  • Of course it is okay! Fourteen is still very young, and you have plenty of time for girlfriends for the rest of your life.
  • im 16 and not yet...got my eye on a couple...dont worry about your time will come.
  • My oldest son is 17 and is still single and he loves it...his school work and family life is all he needs for right now he saids...So trust me its normal to be single and at your age...14 is just to young for kids dating kids (that is how i look at it) School should be first, then being a kids should be next..enjoy being with friends and family for now....when the time is right youll know and youll feel better about it... Good Luck
  • I'm 15. Haven't had one, and I don't see it happening in the future. I only know 1 other girl who hasn't had a boyfriend. If you compare it to how many people our age who have had a bf/gf, yeah I guess it's uncommon. But, if you think about it, does it really matter? You aren't going to marry all of the boyfriends you could have had in grade school or highschool. You are only going to marry that one special person, and you just haven't met him yet. Cheesy, I know, but effective (I hope). ^_^ good luck!
  • Absolutely OK. Enjoy hanging out with friends in groups and learn about friendships and relationships that way. Something special may develop out of it when you're ready. I remember fearing I would be sweet 16 and never kissed. I wasn't, but came close!
  • relationship is not a game to play, it need lots of understanding and mature decisions.. once you are in it you accept a responsibilty to take care, understand and protect your partner. you are still young :) enjoy your freedom to do anything you want cause once you are into relationship with someone you already need to consider someone's feelings.. oh and yeah you are normal,not being in a relationship doesnt mean you are not normal like the others :)
  • My Dear you are young and have your whole life ahead of you. Focus on gaining an education and concentrate on your school work. You are missing out on nothing. Taking your time in this instance helps build character.
  • I'm 15 and I admit to never have had a b/f before. Why should ti matter? I'm a good student, I have freinds, and I'm in no hurry to grow up. You have your life ahead of you. Wanna hear another confession? Well I havent kissed anyone yet. When the time comes I'll be ready, but untill then I'm just gonna be me.
  • My goodness, At 14, you should be worried about hanging out with your friends and school work and having fun. There is no rush, to be an adult. You will be an adult way too fast. Enjoy being a kid. Don't tie yourself down, trying to make someone else happy.
  • My 2 cents is that all good things come in time. My first true girlfriend was at 16 years old. I look back on that relationship and am very glad I am not married to that women. Not for any hurt feelings but for the fact I had no idea how to have a relatioship with she. Sort of like "playing house", how can I understand your needs if I can not understand my own. Grow and get to know yourself before you try to know another and you will find it can be very rewarding.
  • That's perfectly ok! Don't worry, you are still very young, and have plenty of time for a girlfriend.
  • At that age a "boyfriend" was so far from my mind...be a kid...enjoy your growing up years...youll be an adult way too fast IMHO
  • I have had a ton of friends that are girls, but only one girl friend, and I am 20 years old. It's not that I am a loser, ugly or gay, it's just not that big of a deal to me. But right now, I don't have time for girls lol.
  • There's absolutely no rush for you to have a girlfriend. There's nothing wrong with it and no one has the right to tell you that. Also, don't let people tell you that fourteen is too young to have a girlfriend. There is also nothing wrong with developing relationships at that age. However, take your time, try not to get too serious, and just enjoy what you find. I can sympathize with you and also tell you that it all works out in the end.

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