It all depends. I suppose you need to be completely honest with yourself. Are you holding on to an unintentional hurt that you should forgive them for, or is it something really bad that they did? If it was unintentional, then you need to try to let it go, and forget about it - don't let yourself dwell on it. If they meant to hurt, and they continually do things that mean to hurt, then you have to ask yourself if you're with the right person.

First of all, i know it will be hard to do this, but forgive them. Next talk to someone you can trust.Also you need to go to counseling for help. Tell yourself positive things whenever your spouse tells you negative things, ex..if your spouse tells you that your ugly, tell your self that you are beautiful1.

Try therapy and see if it helps.

Know that what comes around, goes around, and he'll get his! That makes me feel better!

We are all responsible for our own feelings - we decide how we react to everything that life throws at us and in this case you need to decide whether it is worth continually torturing yourself. Forgiving is not forgetting it is accepting that someone has done you wrong and allowing yourself the power to overcome the hurt; it is not a weak thing by any means and not easy either. Give yourself a day off from thinking about it - every time you feel it entering your mind just shut it out "Not today" practise this and, in time, you will be able to realise that you don't need to hold on to that hurt any more. Good luck!

You can handle it in several ways. For one thing, talk it out with your spouse. Don't play the blame game! JUst tell them how it made you feel, and nothing more. Secondly, take a look at what was said. Is there any truth to it? If there is, then work on it!! Very simple, really. Next, once the conversation about how you feel is complete, that makes the offending remark/behavior automatically in the past. Leave it there. Period. We don't forgive people based on whether they deserve it; we do it because they NEED it.

Counseling is a good place to start. Hateful words can be as deadly as arrows or guns. In the heat of the moment, we all say things we dont mean. Learning to forgive yourself and your spouse is something that we all need to learn to do better. I guess the best thing to do is start by communicating with your spouse as a friend would. COme from that angle and lay all your cards on the table. Start by saying "I want to talk to you as a friend and not a spouse....I want to tell you how I feel about a particular subject. if you would not mind could you please wait till Im finished to respond.....Summarize it by saying and reinforcing that what they said to you was very hurtful and that you are having a very difficult time letting go of what he said. Try approaching it like that. If it doesnt work and he is unresponsive or sontinues with the hurtful comments then it may be time to rethink your options. Perhaps see a good counselor who is adept in marriage related problems. Sometimes a psychiatrist can help redirect your thoughts. It helped me and Im not shy about admitting that I had a problem and got help with it. It's very admirable to want to get better and be a better person. Hope this helps...

What kind of hurt feelings? Was he unfaithful, or did he make a unthoughtful statement, was it major or minor? Did he do it once or all the time? Did he apologize, or does he even know he hurt your feelings? If it was a really minor thing, the longer you hang on, the bigger the wall you will build between you. Don't sweat the small stuff. If it was major, you two need to talk it out and re-establish your relationship. Staying together requires communication, compromise, forgiveness, understanding and trust. Do a weekend getaway if possible.

hurt feelings caused by my boyfriend...well i usually begin every argument. apparently i like being sad so ill do anything to make myself feel bad. when i actually do achieve that, i tend to go for the razor blade and pills. i think i want to die so bad that i am always in search for something that will trigger me

Put up or shut up

hit him a few times with a baseball bat. You wont feel like really forgiving him until you fell that he knows exactly how much he hurt you. A baseball bat helps.