A friend made a promise to me, then broke it. When we talked about it he tried to justify why he broke it. Somethings made sense but to keep the promise wouldn't have endangered anyone. I haven't spoken to him since. Am I being too harsh?
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NO, Your just expressing how you feel;)!!
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need more details, for all we know, he just promised to put whole milk in your latte, but he really threw in some non-fat.
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Well, you have to make your own choices about what you will tolerate from another. I would probably be more forgiving about it, from the brief description you've given. Knowing more details might make a difference though. When deciding what I can tolerate from others, I look at several things, including questions like "what do I want to accomplish with this person?", and "what needs to be protected?". Everyone has flaws, everyone makes mistakes, we all try to justify our missteps to some degree, etc. We're human. So there's a middle ground between "zero tolerance" of misdeeds by friends and "being a doormat" who allows others to walk all over you. Developing good judgment about that takes time, and probably the most important aspect is self-awareness: knowing WHY you're doing what you're doing, and seeing how those reasons connect up with your own values and development.
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sometimes promises are not kept. This doesn't mean that a person is not a good friend. The most important thing is that there is communication and you told your friend how you feel. True, we don't know what you were promised. As long as your friend knows how you feel about broken promises and depending on what the promise was, should think before committing themselves.We all have different tolerances in a friendship and that's ok.
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Id have punched him in the face
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if it made sence it sounds like you just want to be mad
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Real friendship is unconditional ,that is where its strength can be found.Although it does often hurt when we feel our friends have betrayed us
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I think you should still talk to him because he is your friend and you should work it out. But it really matters on how big the promise he broke was and what it was.
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