ANSWERS: 8
  • It is what it is: courts generally favor getting both parents involved with the kid's lives. Talk to your lawyer about the child support, see if his wages can be garnisheed. Do your best to make the best of the situation and stop trying to undermine the girls relationship with their father. Let them make their own choices about how to relate to him. There's a difference between protecting yourself and attacking him. Learn where that line is and don't cross it, if you want your girls to not be poisoned by your own resentments.
  • Child support is an issue between you and him. Don't involve your children in that. Why do your girls hate it there? You really should find that out. Maybe it is because he makes them responsible. Parenting is not a popularity contest. It could be they hate it because he doesn't treat them good, which is possible since he is a deadbeat. The best thing for you to do is this. Find out the issue as to why the kids hate it there and as hard as it is DO NOT CRITICIZE THE FATHER IN FRONT OF THEM. Speak kindly of him to them.
  • Brain washing your kids to hate the father? Nice parenting skills you got there. Talking all the smack about him? Good parent you are... He's behind 4200? So what? If you can't afford children, you shouldn't have had them. I say this over and over. And for you to marry/date such a man, shows what kind of person you are. So you are no better than he is.
  • It does not seem okay and I hate that the Courts made the decision that parents can not have visitation withheld for non-support/deadbeat-ism. But it is that way now, so you will have to make the best of it. Do not try to put his lack of support between him and his daughters. Once they are older, they will appreciate him for what he is. Your best option would be to go back to court. Does social services or family court collect the payments in your state? If so, they can take him back to court for non-payment. Until then, you will just have to make the best of a bad situation.
  • Does the court know he is $4200.00 behind in child support. If they do, I'm surprised he isn't cooling his heels in jail as a dead beat dad.
  • While your ire regarding his failure to keep up on his support payments is justified, unfortunately, it does not correlate with his visitation rights. The only way that you can legally keep him from his children, short of a court order, is to sever his parental rights. Doing so though will also alleviate him of his obligation of paying child support. It may not be fair, to the children or you, but it is what it is. I'm so sorry to hear of your struggles dear...deep breaths...in thru your nose, out thru your mouth... PS You may want to turn off your "Caps Lock" as most people around here do not like being yelled at...in the questions, answers and yes, the comments as well. Thanks.
  • Sorry about that. Can you go to the courts or something to let them know what's going on. Have your daughters told you why they hate it so much?
  • no its not ok! with him being behind on child support they shouldnt have to go and he should be in jail!

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