I'm not sure on the legal aspects but I'm pretty sure he's a creep yo...

I believe so, though you might hit a snag on that different state of affairs.

If you are supported soley by him, then yes. I think 10 years is the minimum, but with adultary the rules change

He is a pretty miserable guy to sneak around on you like this while you are sick. Don't do anything hasty because you may need his medical benefits to get a transplant. Are you having sex with him? If you are, I would put an end to that. If he has a girlfriend on the side, let him get the sex from her exclusivley. You don't need him to give you a disease on top of your kidney problems. I cannot advise you on legal matters or those dealing with the state of New Jersey, I don't even live there.

There are different types of alimony. * Permanent Alimony * Rehabilitative Alimony * Limited Duration Alimony * Reimbursement Alimony * Alimony Pendente Lite Permanent Alimony Permanent alimony is intended to compensate a spouse for an economic dependence created by the marriage. The purpose of permanent alimony is to allow the supported spouse, after the divorce, to continue to live in the lifestyle to which he or she had been accustomed during the marriage to the degree possible. Usually, when the marriage was of long duration, and economic need is also demonstrated, the courts will entertain an award of permanent alimony. The courts will not consider a permanent alimony request unless the marriage was at least ten years long. The trend is now for limited duration alimony. Rehabilitative Alimony The main difference between rehabilitative and permanent alimony is the temporary nature of rehabilitative alimony. Rehabilitation alimony is a short-term award. This type of alimony enables the former spouse to go back to school, or obtain some type of job training that will enable him or her to re-enter the work force. In many cases, rehabilitative alimony will consist of the husband-spouse paying for the college tuition or the job training expenses for their ex-wife. Limited Duration Alimony Limited duration alimony, sometimes called "term alimony" is an award of alimony of a limited duration. Limited duration alimony is often awarded when the marriage was a short one. Moreover, in a limited alimony case, a rehabilitative alimony award is inapplicable, but the circumstances of the case justify some award of financial support. Reimbursement Alimony A reimbursement alimony award recognizes the financial contributions a spouse has made to the professional training or career development of the other spouse. Therefore, one spouse has made financial and professional sacrifices and thereby enhancing that spouse's future earning capacity. These contributions may consist of household expenses and educational costs and the award is usually limited in nature. Alimony pendente lite While a divorce is pending, either party may ask the court for an award of temporary support or alimony. An award of temporary alimony will enable the parties to maintain the "status quo" between them, until a full analysis of their financial affairs may be completed. Pendente lite alimony awards are only temporary. These awards of alimony can be increased or decreased via a settlement, or at trial if necessary.

Look, Be pragmatic. You are sick and probaly not in the best shape physically. Let him have some on the side. It might just be a sex thing...stop stressing it, focus on yourself and get healthy. Look at yourself and ask yourself have I let myself go, am I still taking care of his physical needs and if you are not or unable to be a wife in that way...let the girlfriend be like the hired help who cleans up the house...used his ass for his health benefit and ride him like a donkey...let him continue to pay the bill...stop getting jealouse...he will either stay or leave...just sit tight and let him hang hiself.

I believe you can, make a motion to the courts