Why is it that people who normally have no problem being a livewire at parties suddenly develop stage fright when speaking at a podium? What happens? See my answer.

I think maybe it's because lots of people are watching you all at the same time and at your parties you can take a guest one at a time and be a hit. Maybe?

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by Babycakes on July 20th, 2008

Yes, that's partly it. I just don't know why I feel so extremely nervous at the beginning. I literaly have that deer in the headlights look on my face. Why the panic? Why does it affect people that way? Why does public speaking trigger the fight or flight response for so many? There has to be an evolutionary explanation. It's the only thing I can figure. Intruiging.

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by Phillis - Zacks little sister on July 20th, 2008

Wow - that's curious. +6. What brings you to public speaking so frequently, dear? It's interesting that you are shy (for lack of a better word right now) at parties. Either way, you don't personally interract with others.

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by Phillis - Zacks little sister on July 21st, 2008

as part of my job i frequently give presentations to more than 100 peolpe at a time. Nobody who knows me would say that I am shy, i will happyly talk to anyone about anything, just some times i dont feel as confident as I know I should, i dont think this ever comes arcoss just sometimes I feel it inside, though as you know from my conversations on AB i think my relationship at present is impacting on my social confidence. i see both situations as completely seperate.

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by confused on July 21st, 2008

I used shy simply because I didn't want to go through the hassle of looking up a thesaurus :) Yes, relationships can most definitely affect your self-views. I am having a little trouble with that myself right now. It isn't terrible, but it isn't good, either.

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by Phillis - Zacks little sister on July 21st, 2008

i dont really get nervous anymore it has come with practise. I have learned to prepare well for public speaking. at the start just take a couple of deep breaths, set boundries for how you approach your speaking for example, intorduce yourslef say what you are there to discuss and request that any questions be kept to the end were you will be happy to answer to the best of your ability. If it helps write out what you plan to say. I find that after about 5mins or so of talking I automatically settle down and the rest comes easy. hope this helps

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by confused on July 21st, 2008

and also be witty and make people laugh use your skills this not only relaxes the people you are speaking to but it will also relax you and instill confidence in you

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by confused on July 21st, 2008

Yeah!!! The first few minutes are grueling!!!! After that it gets better and I find my sense of humor naturally surfaces :)))

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by Phillis - Zacks little sister on July 21st, 2008

exactly so you have nothing to be nervous or worried about!!!

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by confused on July 21st, 2008

Those first munites are pure panic and stress!!! Like I need a valium or something. Terrible!! THank you for helping me :). That was so sweet of you!

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by Phillis - Zacks little sister on July 21st, 2008

anytime youv helped me enromously with my pathectic relationship issues:)

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by confused on July 21st, 2008

I didn't know that! Thank you for telling me :))) I am glad to help you anytime!!

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by Phillis - Zacks little sister on July 21st, 2008

well you do now :)thank you!!

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by confused on July 21st, 2008

I hope to be able to carry on the tradition :) {{{hugs}}}!!

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by Phillis - Zacks little sister on July 21st, 2008

Good points, all. I have a close friend who has been a motivational speaker for the last 10 years, who says she still gets stage fright???

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by Phillis - Zacks little sister on August 13th, 2009