How can I get my boyfriend to see that he needs to be more aggressive? People constantly take advantage of him and I get very angry. When I tell him that he should be more aggressive and learn to say "No", he gets upset with me.
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honestly, what i would do is start having people take adventage of him....or atleast make up stuff that might appear as if someone is taking adventage...and see what he says...maybe if he sees the situation without self involvement...he might have better perception as to what it really is. good luck! and good looking out for your bf! he is lucky to have you!!
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correction the above response..i meant to say...start hving people take adventage of YOU...(i'd edit my respnose but it won't let me).
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Do I understand you want your boyfriend to be different from the way he is? What attracted you to him in the first place? All his qualities, characteristics, talents, etc? Did these characteristics include what you now feel is "lack of aggressiveness"? If you want to change him, then he won't be the one you met and liked in the first place. Do you know what other things would also change if this aspect of him were to change? Reality time. You can't change another person. Never. All you can do is change the way you view the other person. So, either learn to like him the way he is or find another boyfriend. Don't try to change him because a) you really can't and b) even if you could, you have no idea what else might change, and, finally, c) he doesn't want to change.
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