How do I get my boyfriend to stop tuning me out as soon as he sits down at his computer? It's like I cease to exist, and it's really starting to get on my nerves.
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You could try wrapping your arms around his neck behind him, and be coy when you read the computer screen, and try anything from whispering in his ear to playing with his hair or touching his face. In other words, try your best to turn him on when it really annoys you, for that is the best way to redirect that angst you have!
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One of my best friends has a similar problem. Turning him on and distracting him is a good idea since you can't play with him.
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One of my best friends has a similar problem. Turning him on and distracting him is a good idea since you can't play with him. If he tunes you out often for long periods of time, there is a need for a conversation for balancing quality time and computer game time.
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Hammer + Monitor = He'll stop tuninng you out. You may not get the attention you are seeking, though. :-P
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This is extremely common I believe. What you have to do is talk to him about something that interests him. Also, they hate it when we complain so try to avoid that.
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At the risk of sounding smartassy, find a new boyfriend. I'm serious! If you have discussed this over and over again and he isn't budging, it's time to move on to someone who WANTS to be with you.
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You're funny. How do you expect him to concentrate on you when he is at the computer obviously to concentrate on whatever he is doing on it.
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Tell him quietly and calmly that you appreciate that sometimes he needs a separate interest and 'me' time but can you agree as to when and for how long he will engage in this solitary activity since you have your needs for sharing and companionship and they should be respected too. Computer life can be addictive and its easy to get lost in cyber-space! (Look at us AB'ers!)but when you ahve a relationship you should have communication too and care for each other. If he's trying to 'escape' then maybe you should leave the cage door open...
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Get your own hobby (For yourself only such as reading books or something). Do this once he's not at his computer and ignore him completely same as he ignore you. I think he'll learn his lessons after a few sessions and then you can have him talk about organizing things you need.
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This is something that I am guilty of myself sometimes. Whenever you need his attention you will just have to go sit beside him and keep repeating what you have to say until he looks at you eye to eye. With me, it is just a bad habit. I don't do it to be hurtful, I just get really focused on what I am doing sometimes.
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